note- for those of you who dont care to read the DETAILS or want to get to the point the question is at the bottom, seperated…
Well obviously there are so many different relationship and so many details but,
from anyone reading this’ experiences and knowledge, I have a question…
My girlfriend left me about a month ago… no infidelity, no abuse… It’s just that for over a year
I never got a job, never shaped up, and let myself go a bit. You know, drama, not wanting her to drink even though she’s a good girl even when she drinks, being a jerk sometimes, not fully appreciating her or treating her the best I could. Now we were really in love, we lived together, my mom also came to live with us and passed away unexpectedly a few weeks later… My girl was by my side this whole time and only knew my mom for a few months but they were close and my mom really wanted me to marry my girl… Well things got worse not better I became worse she lost her house we stayed here and there and then her mom ran into an old friend and it came to be my girl would stay with a family and babysit here and there… well, we were kind of having an off period, but were still loyal to eachother and slept together, but i became more and more needy… more crazed,
more pissed about never seeing her and not being able to date her, blah blah blah- because I need a job, I need to pull it together… she’s gave up on me before for worse, and ive won her back… but this time its more serious, and she has a better place than me to live, her quality of life has improved, she’s probably more pampered than she has been in years… but due to my sometimes crazy nature, i never got the phone number or even knew where the house was.. thats how weird i got… I NEVER was violent though just emotional i guess… so anyway naturally she got tired of waiting around for me to get a job and broke it off entirely… ive seen her once since then… we were kind of friends but i blew that with my crying and constant need to not break up… it could have just been space… now she wants nothing to do with me and on the phone called me a creep and a loser and that she hates me but she was really drunk and i guess i havent really respected her wants…
she says she still loves me of course, but it will never work. however I have reached a point where im ready to get sober get full time job and show her i can change… so far ive managed to leave her alone completely for four days… and its been very hard…
so ! my question is…
Is there a real chance that if I leave her alone, act like I’m over it, be pleasant if I do talk to her,
and get a JOB, get some dignity back, that maybe she will rethink things?
Obviously, I’ve led her to believe I’ll never change… she would tell me if other men were involved its nothing like that… so if i did change she would have to look at it all a bit differently eh?
Have any women reading this taking back men they never thought would change that turned out great? Any guys here won the girl back against all odds??? What should I do here?
Besides move on? I really really love her… I need all the help and advice I can get…
What’s the best way to be sexy, appealing, boyfriend material to her again?
Thank you all for your time…
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like he broke up with me a couple of months ago
but recently my feelings for him
are comming back.
like on friday, i was with him and he was was trying to annoy me >.<
by spitting at me , i told him not to cause i wasn’t in the mood and some one in my family had passed away :’(.
so he gave me a really close hug , and his face was like near mine , like he wanted to kiss me or something :S
and then he started to be all touchy.
But then my two best friends were talking , saying i should get back with him , blah blah blah!
and one of my best mates said " if she is getting into him again im going to F**ken slap her ".
yeash i did get into my ex more than once.
i miss seeing him
help me !
Charlotte xxx
oh !
sorry this is long
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Several months ago I broke up with my ex-girl friend. Although we know that relationship was so harmful for both of us, after 6 months I’ve still problems seeing her in public and I long to see her again. That’s clear to me she was cheating on me. I don’t get it! I don’t know if that’s been so fun living with a bitc4 that I still want to have her in my mind?!! Why my life stopped moving?
I can’t get rid of those thoughs which comes all the time into my mind, questions about our life, the way that we behaved eachother, how stupid I was, what I should have said in which sitution instead of what and blah blah blah. Therse is no way we can go back into that hell again.
Help me if you understnad what I am saying. Thanks!
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Long story but totally worth it!
My boyfriends ex girlfriend wants to get back together with him AGAIN!!!! They also have a child together but have been on again off again since he was born. They have recently been broken up for a year and a half and this time it was because she cheated on him. She has taken him to court several times for custody and a few other times for some non-sense that was throw out.
We have been together for almost a year now and she’s known that we’ve been seeing each other but just until recently (past couple months) he and I have made it become more serious and we both love each other (awww, isn’t love grand! hehe) and low and behold, a few weeks ago she called him and told him that she still loved him and wants him back and that she wants him to think about it. He told me that she called him and i value that he was honest and that makes me trust him.
I havn’t brought it up since he told me because I am secure in our relationship but she keeps texting him and what have you and I’m starting to get ******* irritated as hell!!!! Example: They talk on the phone about their child etc..etc.. and he talks to her in front of me and its no problem, but he’ll drop their son off to her and moments later he gets a text from her about how she loves him and how she knows he still loves her blah blah blah. Or she’ll call him at like 3am or text him! He is not in love with her nor does he have any type of love for her besides being the mother of his child. and they both know that every time they’ve "tried to work it out" it never worked….so whats the freakin deal here? Why can’t she move on like an adult its been how many attempts and how many years? She also called and asked all these personal questions about me and him, like if I get him off and if we have good sex etc…hello grow up??? I can’t even amagine asking questions like that to my ex ( i have a child too and I have moved on, and I did it with grace thank you very much) Geezzzz!
Should I stop ignoring it and tell him how I feel? And whats her deal? Is she just testing him or does she only love him and want him back when he’s in a great, loving, healthy, relationship and its not with her….I just want her to back off….but I understand they have a kid together etc…but uhhh errrr I just need some advise PAH-LEASE! Thanks! BTW I am 27 he is 28….and she’s 33.
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