I have an ex, we’ve been broken up for over two months now. The first month she changed her number and wouldn’t have any contact with me. The second month we slept together a few times and were pretty clingy again, and then she withdrew and now we are back to "friends" status it seems. I talk to her everyday and see her everytime she has a day off or I do.
She says there’s too much hurt in our relationship and that i’m too good for her and that I dont really want her, i just want the idea of a relationship
Actually, I’m so in love with her in hurts to not be with her and I find myself missing her every second I’m not talking to her.
She’s not the romantic type and she’s fairly anti social as she’s dealing with her own issues at the moment.
I just want suggestions/ideas on how to get her to fall back in love with me…or ideas on how I can at least try…in the past I’ve always given up on my exes but my heart just won’t let me this time.
I’ve worked on all the issues she had with me. I’m now medicated and in therapy for my anxiety, I use to hate her dog and now i bring him treats and he sleeps with me and i walk him, I use to be jealous of her male friends and now even though she intentionally tries to rile me up, i let it slide off my back and tell her to have a good time….everything she had an issue with, I fixed…now I know it takes time to prove it and I’m working on the time issue….I just want other ideas on how to get her to fall back for me again.
Until both of our issues became problems (her self esteem/eating disorder and my anxiety) we were perfect
*sigh*
If it matters I’m m/27 and she’s f/24. She knows I love her..but she doesnt think i really do..she thinks its not her I love but the idea of her and the idea of being in a relationship…..I don’t think her self esteem lets her think that someone could actually want HER and love HER.
I have told her how much I love her…it seems every couple days I post something in my blog (which only she can read) about how much I want to try again and how much I truely love her with all my heart.
she says "why didnt you see this before"
but the old cliche stands true that you dont know what you have until its gone and I thought that working on all my issues and spending hours in therapy and continuing to go every week would help at least some….but when we started sleeping together she was always telling me she missed me then after we hung out more she went back to friend mode.
Needless to say, I’m seriously confused by this girl
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