Extremely Depressed After Fiance Broke Up. Please,Please Read?

My fiance who I was with for 4 years broke up with me in early June, stating that she needed to find herself. I was completely blown away when she told me. We had( at least I thought) that we had an unbelievable relationship, we never fought and had so much in common. I lived her family and friends, and they loved me. The same went for my family, they absolutely adored her. She told me she wants to find her individuality and that there is no other guy in the picture. We have hung out a bunch of times since then, but she is sometimes loving and sometimes cold. I hate that this happened and she had never acted like this in the 4 years we dated. I have tried dating and hate it , but the whole thing can’t escape my mind. I love her and can’t seem to get past this. She still calls me every single day and all I think about is her. We were supposed to get married in December of this year. I need advice, I am so depressed.Please Help!!!



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Extremely Depressed after Fiance broke up with me. Please Read!!!?

My fiance who I was with for 4 years broke up with me in early June, stating that she needed to find herself. I was completely blown away when she told me. We had( at least I thought) that we had an unbelievable relationship, we never fought and had so much in common. I lived her family and friends, and they loved me. The same went for my family, they absolutely adored her. She told me she wants to find her individuality and that there is no other guy in the picture. We have hung out a bunch of times since then, but she is sometimes loving and sometimes cold. I hate that this happened and she had never acted like this in the 4 years we dated. I have tried dating, but the whole thing can’t escape my mind. I love her and can’t seem to get past this. She still calls me every single day and all I think about is her. We were supposed to get married in December of this year. I need advice, I am so depressed.Please Help!!!



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An except from an interesting op-ed:

My friend M. — you’ll understand in a moment why she’s terrified of my using her name — had to make a searing decision a year ago. She was married to a sweet, gentle man whom she loved, but who had become increasingly absent-minded. Finally, he was diagnosed with early-onset dementia.

The disease is degenerative, and he will become steadily less able to care for himself. At some point, as his medical needs multiply, he will probably need to be institutionalized.

The hospital arranged a conference call with a social worker, who outlined how the dementia and its financial toll on the family would progress, and then added, out of the blue: “Maybe you should divorce.”

“I was blown away,” M. told me. But, she said, the hospital staff members explained that they had seen it all before, many times. If M.’s husband required long-term care, the costs would be catastrophic even for a middle-class family with savings.

Eventually, after the expenses whittled away their combined assets, her husband could go on Medicaid — but by then their children’s nest egg would be gone, along with her 401(k) plan. She would face a bleak retirement with neither her husband nor her savings.

(Yes, I recognize that it is NYTimes and some people take exception).

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/30/opinion/30kristof.html?_r=1


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So I met this girl january of last year, and was immediately blown away by her. We hung out a few weekends and decided that we wanted to date. We dated for two weeks short of a year when she broke up with me. Its been about 8 months since we have been apart, yet she still talks to me and wants to know how my family is doing and such. I am not even close to being over her, though im not sure if she knows or not, and I’m afraid to tell her because i have told her a few times several months back in april then again in june and she just tells me "we can’t be together". So i havent’told her since then. She still keeps contact with me and we visit each other every few months and just usually get dinner/lunch and spend three or four hours together. The longest we spent together was in july we went to a tigers game together and then i spent the night at her house….sleeping on the couch(which is fine, not trying to sound like a was expecting anything) But after spending all day with her and her saying i could stay…i guess i was hopefull. Anyways, my mom recently asked me to invite her to my nephew(who she was "close" with when we were together)’s 3 year birthday party, so i did and my ex said that she would love to come if she could find the time. Turns out she had previous plans that weekend that she couldn’t get out of. So she called me that day while i was at the party and we talked for a bit and she said she was really sorry that she couldn’t make it because she had really wanted to come, and asked me if it would be ok if her and I took my nephew out some day and spent the day with him. So my first question is..why would a girl who doesnt’ want to be with me want to keep such close contact wiht my family and I(she live an hour and a half away)? And also, how do i let her know i can’t become just friends with her, without losing contact with her or straight up telling her i still love her so i can’t be? I don’t want her to know that i can’t seem to get over her, i want her to feel like im ok without her,she doesn’t like neediness(not that i feel I need her but she does tend to think that) how should i act around her since i want to see if we can have another chance? i prob should mention she says part of the reason she broke up with me is because we were starting to argue more than she liked, and it was "scaring her", and i was her first serious serious relationship. Any advice on how to do things that might help get her back would be much appreciated also, Thank you
what if we do hug, we always hug when i get there and when i leave and its more than a friendly hug it seems, i have girls who are friends that i hug, and the hugs she gives me are much more than that, but we havent’ held hands, or even come close to kissing


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April 2nd 2006…i arrived home…and i see a missed call from someone with the same last name as him..my heart starts racing and i get nervous…I call the number back and ask for him. the stranger that answered the phone introduced himself as his uncle..he asked my name and told me to hold on…I immediately hung up..taken over by nerves…was this really my lover boy trying to contact me all this time and i missed the calls..all of them?…my cell phone rings..a 910 number…its him…we talk….rekindle the flame…..by august 2006 we loose contact again….from Sept 06 to Nov 06 he would send me messages here and there via AIM….at this point i am frustrated with this off and on mess but still loving him…

In Feb. 2007 he called me and we were on the phone for hours..I was telling him about my new place, new car, new job..he told me he was proud of me and that he wanted me to help him get a job in NYC….he were vibing….and then the phone went dead…no call back..no more contact….a few days later i deleted the number that he called me from out of frustration and anger because he had not called me back…..and that was the last time i spoke to him….and i still really truely..deeply..love him.


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