Five Ways To Avoid Divorce

ways to avoid divorce

Here are five ways to avoid divorce or a break up. Learn the real secrets to making up.

Any relationship is difficult to hold and there are no easy ways to make the relationship last. A lasting marriage requires a lot of work, and although divorce is a common thing now, there are some things you can do to prevent divorce happens and save you from heartache.

Keep communication channels open. If you know you can always talk to your spouse and be honest with your feelings, your relationship will always work and will last for many years. Every one needs someone to talk to and if you are the kind of spouse who keeps the lines of communication open, you can prevent divorce happens. Your spouse does not need to look for other people outside the marriage to speak with because he or she knows that communication in marriage is always open.

Be open with your feelings, especially when things go bad. Sometimes, relationships fall apart because the couple is not open and honest with their feelings. When there are things in marriage that concern you or bothers you, it is best to open up with your spouse and talk about the problem than to keep it to yourself. People who are afraid to open up their true feelings for her spouse is vulnerable to extramarital affairs.

Do things together. Find a common interest or hobby and do it together. Doing things together that you both like is a good way to bond with each other. Bonding activities are important if you want to prevent divorce happens. You can take photography classes together, watch concerts, dance or sing along, participate in charity work together and so on. It does not matter what it is as long as you both enjoy doing it together, and it can make the relationship stronger.

Do your own thing separately. Using too much time with each other can be so tiring and overwhelming. To avoid boredom and prevent divorce happens, take some time to yourself and do your own thing. At the same time, give your spouse his or her own time to do the things they want to do. For him, it can be to play basketball with his friends and for her it might be shopping or going to a salon with her friends.

Make time for romance and intimacy. You must have time to be intimate with each other. Cuddling, kissing and sex is very important to keep love and romance in your marriage. There are many things that you both can do to make marriage more exciting and prevent divorce happens.

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I want to lose weight – what's your success story?

I just had a conversation with my husband, and he confided that he would like me to lose some weight. And no, he’s not an awful shallow person – we were talking about areas in our lives we could each improve on, and we asked eachother to be honest.

And I’m not suprised at all. When we got together, I weighed about 200lb, and right now I weigh 255. We’ve been married about 8 months, and that weight gain was all within the last year. I’m 5’5. I honestly know I need to lose weight, and I have tried several times. My husband tells me all the time that I am beautiful, and sexy, and that I turn him on. He is very affectionate, and I never feel like he judges me for my body – he loves me for me, I have no doubts.

A few weeks ago, I weighed 260, and I was able to lose 5lb by eating healthier and going on hikes. But somehow my will power just disappeared. I still walk and play with my dog in the park, but the eating has gotten out of control again. Food has always ruled my life, and I have always been heavy. I use food for comfort, boredom, fustration, and hunger.

Please don’t tell me it’s just a matter of will power – I already know this. My problem is.. it’s easier said than done.

I love my husband, and we want to make our life together long, happy, and healthy. Please don’t put him down for being honest with me – I told him theres some things he needs to work on also. I am willing to do anything I can to make him happy, and to make myself happy. Just like a mom would steal food for her starving kids… a fat wife should be willing to lose a few for her handsome, sexy hubby.

He’s 5’11 and weighs about 195. Very muscley and …Rawr! :D

Our sex life isn’t hurting any, believe me – this isn’t about looks. He said he wants me to lose weight so I would be happier with myself. I do have issues with how I look, and I pull the "Im so fat!" card more than I should. So he has a point.

Anyhow… what are your success stories? Has any BBW in my situation found a method that worked for her?


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How To Save My Marriage From Falling Apart

If you’re wondering, “How to save my marriage?” then you only have to look around you to remember the things you did together when you were first married or first dating. Are you still doing those things today? If you focus all your energy on trying to figure out how to save your relationship then chances are you’re not.

Marriages get into trouble for a variety of different reasons. There are affairs, lies, boredom, changes people go through that make them more or less appealing to each other, moves, children, jobs . . . . All these things factor into a marriage and help determine whether it’s healthy or whether you’ll end up asking yourself how you are going to save your marriage from falling apart.

If there are have been affairs or serious betrayals and lies, then probably the best thing you can do if you want to save the marriage it to go to counseling. This isn’t one of the secret techniques, but it’s probably the only one that can really help once things like that have gone on.

Through marriage counseling, you may be able to get at the heart of why there was cheating, and find ways to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Counseling may also lead you to the painful decision that you don’t want to remain in such a marriage where you may not be able to trust your spouse again (or yourself, if you’re the one who cheated).

Sometimes marriage counseling is very painful while you’re going, but once the painful things come out it’s like a wound that’s been cleaned out –now it can start to heal.

The secret techniques aren’t really secret either, but they might as well be because few people every try them and instead do the exact opposite.

The first thing you can do is to simply leave your spouse alone. Enjoy some me time without your partner. It doesn’t have to be for very long. It can be just a few days. Just make sure your partner knows that it isn’t practice for splitting up, you’re just giving him or her a little breathing room.

Sometimes marriages suffer because spouses spend too much time together. If that’s the case in your marriage, some time apart can be a very good thing.

If the problem with the marriage is that you spend too much time apart already, then you can make a difference in your marriage by taking some initiative. Vow right now to make some changes, and go and schedule a weekend getaway for you both. If that’s too expensive, plan an outing for the day. Or plan three hours of dinner and a movie where it’s just the two of you, on a private and surprise date.

You’d be surprised how these two secret techniques, when used at the appropriate times, can feel so good they’ll make you wonder why you hadn’t been doing these things for several years.


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How to fall in love with hubby all over again?

Here’s my dilemma: Married to hubby for 3 years, together for 13 years. We met with I was 17 and he was 18, during our freshman year at college. We both had minuscule relationship experience. We are now 31 and 32 years old, with an almost 3 year old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant with baby #2.

My question is: How do I fall in love with my husband all over again? Because I am BORED out of my mind! First, I have to take responsibility for my own actions: not putting enough time and attention into the relationship. It takes 2 to make a marriage work. But I am BORED. Since we became Mommy and Daddy, it became all about our son (which my hubby complained about; he felt left out). And over the years since we’ve become parents, we now live more like roommates.

I find myself easily annoyed with things he does, with the way he doesn’t take care of his body, with the fact that he has no hobbies or interests or friends, with a lot of things. I have even gone so far as to become interested in other men. Wrong, I know.

I want to get on the right track again in my marriage, so how to learn to get rid of some of this boredom and learn to love my hubby again? How do I learn to find him desirable again? How do I learn to WANT to be with him?

We will soon have 2 children, and I don’t want to rip up our family. But I also don’t want to be 50 years old, wondering why I spent so much time with a man that may not have been the right match for me, or feel that I missed out on more compatible, more exciting men.

Any advice?

P.S. Please, no name-calling, or bashing. I just want helpful advice here…..Thanks!
Edited to Add:

Thanks for the helpful suggestions. I agree that we need to move TOWARDS each other instead of AWAY from each other. It’s been too easy to move away from each other, as if the other is some permanent fixture in the room. I am going to do the following: For 2 weeks, I am going to show him undivided attention….love…companionship….NO NAGGING (hard to do!)…..plentiful kissing… a couple dates….and see where it goes.

Yes, we probably should have dated around at 17…hell….even at 25! But we didn’t. And the person that said 31 and with kids is too old to be wondering about that now–you’re absolutely right.

Instead of thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence……I’m going to take down the fence :) Or, at least, try to!
Note to Guy bein’ a Guy: Wow, thanks for the kick in the ass I needed. You’re right, I have forgottetn how to be a wife and a lover. I went from LOVER to MOTHER, without wondering that would make my hubby feel. I have shut him out, and as a result, he’s only reacting to ME. I agree that I can’t complain if I am not doing all that I can do to make the relationship better, more exciting. It takes 2 to make it work. Instead of complaining, I’m going to be the instigator of good healthy relationship habits, and see just how far it takes me.

THANKS!!! :)

P.S. Yes, I am a pain in the butt at times ;-)


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