My Girlfriend Left Me. Should I Contact Her?

Are you one of the many guys having the following question: My girlfriend left me, should I contact her? If this is the case, you need to read this very article from beginning to the end. If she left you and want to get her back again, there are certain factors that you must take into consideration- If you go about it the wrong way, you might ruin it all and lose her forever.

What’s worse than having your girlfriend suddenly tell you it’s over?

Not much. After a breakup, you feel awful. You have no idea how to calm your mind or regain any kind of control. You don’t know why she left, especially after things seemed to be going so well.

The reasons women leave guys are numerous: not feeling appreciated, meeting someone else, lack of sexual chemistry/attraction, etc.

The bottom line is: you can’t change the past. You can’t undo the breakup.

What you can do is calm your mind, form a plan, and get her back. And I’m going to tell you exactly how to do that.

Step 1: Get some distance.

The last thing you need to be doing right now, ironically, is thinking about your ex-girlfriend.

You need to forget her for a while. Go out and hang with your buddies. Play your favorite sports. Listen to music. Exercise. If you’re behind on work or school, get caught up.

The key is to forget her for a while and get FOCUSED on a positive activity. This way you will immediately start to regain control and focus of your life. (Hint: the kind of man she wants is one who is controlled and focused, so this is to your benefit.)

Step 2: Form a plan.

Once you’ve had a chance to distance yourself a bit, and clear your head, it’s time to act.

Your plan to get her back is threefold:

-Write her a letter, letting her know you’re okay with the breakup.
-Wait a bit – if she responds, you don’t write back immediately.
-Assuming she DOES write back, begin to arrange a time and place to meet.

Step 3: Get her back.

Once she’s agreed to meet with you again, and it’s important that you actually MEET face to face, you need to be relaxed, calm, and in control of the frame.

You have to see yourself as the one controlling the outcome of the relationship. You are the one who will lead it back into success.

You do this by creating chemistry and attraction – through flirting – and through talking gently to allow her to express her thoughts and feelings. This lets her open up to you again.

It’s very important to implement each of these steps in order. Remember: you absolutely do NOT want to text or call her when you are in the “post-breakup frenzy” where you are emotional and upset.

Get some distance, form a plan, and then start to get her back into your life.

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he called off wedding should i give ring back?

we picked it out together along with my wedding band. I let him have the wedding band since techinically it wasnt mine.

he all of a sudden called off the wedding and i had to move out…which is expensive in itself..plus i lost 00 in photographer (she only would give back 0) and i lost 0 in invitations, about 0 in our cake stuff (champagne glasses, engravings, napkins, cutters and plate)
my dress was 0 but i can still wear it if i ever get maried cause i only went to 2 fittings and didnt go to the last so it can still be altered.

anywas bottom line is MY FAMILY SPENT SOOO MUCH MONEY on this wedding, his family was able to cancel the honeymoon so they lost like the deposit…..

shouldnt i get to keep the engagement ring to help pay wedding debt? he gets to keep my wedding band………i should keep engagement ring.


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How can I get her back?

We’ve been apart for over a month. We had a fight because I called her Mom a retard, but only as a joke. She took it personally and asked me not to do that again which annoyed me because she should know by now after being together 9 months that I mean no harm.

Last week she texted me to see if I was ok. I felt bad about the whole thing, but then she confronted me that she found out I lied about my age (I’m really 43 I was 41) and that I lied about having a facebook page. She said she thinks it’s real sketchy that I would tell her that I not on facebook when I really am.

I couldn’t really see the big deal in why she would be so concerned about that stuff. I apologized the next day anyway. Then two days later I texted her this, "I really do miss you…muah!" This was her response:

-I’m insulted that you kept me out of that part of your life. If you think that makes you so cool like you’re some kind of player, you need to get over yourself. Everyone else has his girlfriend on his facebook. I’m not the only one who thinks that’s sketchy. On the surface you acted like i was your girl but behind my back you were not devoted. How dare you not be devoted to me. Who do you think you are.

I can have any man I want. There are so many men who are just dying to worship the ground I walk on and serve me the world on a silver platter. I go out to the clubs and everyone worships me. I am honored and held in the highest regard where ever I step foot. I also know dam well that I am the best thing that will ever happen to you and I feel that the way you showed your appreciation was by sporting me to prove that you can have someone as hot as me.

I’m disgusted to think that I trusted you only to learn again that you cannot be trusted just like the last time you lied about not acting like a wanna be player on pof meanwhile, I’m the one that gave you all the confidence to even think that you were such an eligible bachelor.

Bottom line is that I deserve the best and I deserve a man who will commit his life to me will never want to risk the chance of losing me…and you say you miss me?

As much as I think its real sad that you think you need to act this way, I’m disgusted and right now I feel that our whole relationship was built on bullshit. I want someone who lives in the real world. I don’t know who can possibly think that what you’ve done is no big deal. It seems as if you don’t know the difference between right and wrong in some significant things and that is scary for you and for anyone who chooses to be with you.
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I now feel so dejected and I feel like a loser. How can I overcome this feeling?


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How can I get her back?

We’ve been apart for over a month. We had a fight because I called her Mom a retard, but only as a joke. She took it personally and asked me not to do that again which annoyed me because she should know by now after being together 9 months that I mean no harm.

Last week she texted me to see if I was ok. I felt bad about the whole thing, but then she confronted me that she found out I lied about my age (I’m really 43 I was 41) and that I lied about having a facebook page. She said she thinks it’s real sketchy that I would tell her that I not on facebook when I really am.

I couldn’t really see the big deal in why she would be so concerned about that stuff. I apologized the next day anyway. Then two days later I texted her this, "I really do miss you…muah!" This was her response:

-I’m insulted that you kept me out of that part of your life. If you think that makes you so cool like you’re some kind of player, you need to get over yourself. Everyone else has his girlfriend on his facebook. I’m not the only one who thinks that’s sketchy. On the surface you acted like i was your girl but behind my back you were not devoted. How dare you not be devoted to me. Who do you think you are.

I can have any man I want. There are so many men who are just dying to worship the ground I walk on and serve me the world on a silver platter. I go out to the clubs and everyone worships me. I am honored and held in the highest regard where ever I step foot. I also know dam well that I am the best thing that will ever happen to you and I feel that the way you showed your appreciation was by sporting me to prove that you can have someone as hot as me.

I’m disgusted to think that I trusted you only to learn again that you cannot be trusted just like the last time you lied about not acting like a wanna be player on pof meanwhile, I’m the one that gave you all the confidence to even think that you were such an eligible bachelor.

Bottom line is that I deserve the best and I deserve a man who will commit his life to me will never want to risk the chance of losing me…and you say you miss me?

As much as I think its real sad that you think you need to act this way, I’m disgusted and right now I feel that our whole relationship was built on bullshit. I want someone who lives in the real world. I don’t know who can possibly think that what you’ve done is no big deal. It seems as if you don’t know the difference between right and wrong in some significant things and that is scary for you and for anyone who chooses to be with you.
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I now feel so dejected and I feel like a loser. How can I overcome this feeling?


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Why won't he marry me?

Ok, BACKGROUND: My boyfriend & I are going on 3 years this June .. he’s 30 and I’m 24. We’ve lived together for 2 years.

I’m always get baffled when I hear my friends or people in our age group announce engagements after being together only 9 months- 2 yrs (That seems to be the most popular times). I expressed this to a few of my friends, I’m a little hurt that it’s going on 3 years and my boyfriend has not popped the question. I know, I know – it’s different for all couples. But we’ve been living together for so long, that I finally told him how I feel last night.

That did not go over so well, he got very upset. We don’t see eye to eye. I don’t know what he is waiting for, we already live like a married couple for 2 yrs. He said he’s not sure if I’m "the one" yet. That hurt. So I wanted to know why he is still with me then, if I’m not the one then we shouldn’t be together. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I just feel like hey, I’m 24. I really don’t want to waste anymore of my prime years being attached to a man that still has doubt about me. I work 50 hrs a week, I make more money than him (and yet I am 6 yrs younger), I recently purchased a brand new car. Meanwhile, he struggles with money. He said he can’t afford a ring yet. However, I don’t see him put ANY effort into saving money. I guess the perfect question is: Why am I with him? This is what my parents ask me. I’ve been in awful relationships (an alcoholic for 2 years, a manic depressive), and as bad as this guy is with his money, he is honestly an amazing guy. He is like an angel compared to some of my ex’s.

I guess the bottom line is this: I’m 24 and I’ve been with this man for 3 years soon, most of my friends would agree that at my age I’m pretty successful (I did it all on my own). I’m very attractive (as conceited as it sounds, but I do have strangers on the street tell me I’m "beautiful" and I model on the side so I guess that’s gotta tell you something), I turn guys down all the time because I respect my relationship. He said he does NOT want to get married soon (meaning, probably more than 3 years from now) and marriage/engagement is completely out of the question for another 2 years or so. Do I trust him? Or should I leave him and stop wasting my time? My dad once told me something that stuck with me…he said I was wasting my time with a 30-yr old guy who has no savings & dead end job since he is probably using me as a "sex object" – I detest. We live together and he’s a sweetheart……but I definitely question that sometimes, especially now. I fell for my boyfriend because he’s adoring, always there for me, extremely attractive, and has a six-pack to die for (kidding, but yes- he does. That’s beside the point though).

But WHY won’t he propose to me? Why is he so against it? If he truly loved me, wouldn’t he want to do what makes me happy? If he doesn’t want to marry me for whatever reason, why does he even want to be with me?

Please help & thanks for taking the time to read & reply!
For those that say, I messed up by moving in with him already – how do I get out of this? Should I move out, break up with him? What should I do at this point? Please help…I’m really confused….I guess I made that mistake, But how do I change this?


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