I have been a serious relationship for 2 years , that has lead my boyfriend to ask me to be his wife, but all after 2 years he says that its better to breakup our engagement actually the relationship. Its very crazy because after talking things out we agree to be boyfriend and girlfriend, he also mention he wanted space, and time apart I feel him sort of distances but I don’t know if his giving me signs of breakup- He tells me he loves me with all his heart and that I am the only girl for him. I am so confuse, everything seem good. I cut some friends I had in my past just to start fresh) meaning not clubbing and etc….) I love this guy and I know his the one for me. I have been there for him, as his been there for me. Should I give him time to think, who knows what? Or should I breakup before he brings it up. Keep in mind he saw me in a lot of pain when he broke up the engagement.
I am 23 and his 24.
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A friend of mine…he’s a new friend and I hung out when he had a girlfriend…He was going to break up with her after she got back from vacation that week, so I didn’t see anything wrong with just watching a movie. Now she asked me about it and I told her we did. I also told her why he broke up with her..because he wanted a real good long realtionship and it wasn’t working with her…I don’t want to date him, he’s just a friend but she’s been telling him stuff I told her, and now I’m in the middle of a big fight…what do I do?
well I’m trying to move on but they keep emailing me and calling me asking me about what I said…and stuff so I don’t know what to tell them.
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I’m having a bit of a crisis here.
My ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for about a year. We used to HATE each other because we broke up in a very nasty way. We went out for 6 solid months and we were each-other’s first real boyfriend and girlfriend.
*the break up*
My mom did not like him and forced me to break up with him and I was upset and sad for months. To get me back, he decides to go out with girls he knew I hated. It hurt me so badly to see him be affectionate to the girls I hated. He didn’t even like them, he just wanted me back. Instead of drawing me closer to him it pushed me away. I didn’t want anything to do with him.
*In between the year*
We talked rarely to each other and if we saw each other at school we would turn the other way. One day he goes out with this innocent, clueless little freshman. (He and I are both Juniors) and She doesn’t know how mean he can be. I warn her and say "I just want the best for you! I think you deserve better because he can be very mean sometimes and you are a sweet girl." Sweet girl my foot. She told him and he cursed me out and sent me nasty text messages for a week.
After they broke up a week later, he calls to apologize and leaves a very long message saying how sorry he was and how he was just hurt because he really cares for me. (Forgot to mention above, he goes to a different school now and we don’t really see each other that often.)
6 months later, he calls me again out of the blue. Says he thinks of me all the time and how things used to be when we went out. We talked for hours and we were back to the way things used to be. A few weeks later we are talking for hours and hours and he wants to get back together with me. I say yes because I really do care for him and he was my first love and I still have feelings for him. A few weeks later after seeing each other numerous times, he pops the question. "Kim, will you marry me?" I am speechless. I really don’t know what to say. I haven’t told him my answer yet and I just have no clue what to do.
My friends are against the idea of him and I completely. They hate him and they want him as far away as possible. My parents…they don’t know about "us" yet. They hate him too. Anyone who hurts me is evil to my friends and family.
I want and desperately need an opinion of what you think I should do. Thank you very much!
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He and I met at school last November. We hung out at his place. In the very beginning, he seemed so perfect. He had a very nice attitude, treated me right and I fell in love. He told me he loved me first though. Our relationship grew although we were never boyfriend and girlfriend. He would refer to me as his "future girlfriend." I never asked why because i didn’t want to seem clingy or like I was trying to tie him down. Sometimes when I was with him, he would get texts from other girls. One night I got pissed and walked out and he managed to turn the whole thing around on me. Shortly after, we ended it. I moved on with my life and even got back with my ex boyfriend of 4 years. We stopped talking for a bit until he texted me one night, stupidly I drove over there at 11 pm and he and I had sex. Then he told me that he was seeing a new girl. I went home feeling worse than ever so I told him that I wanted to stop talking if she was in the picture because I couldn’t share him and he ignored me. I cried for weeks about it. I was so heartbroken, but I got over it and moved to a new city.
The one day at school, he came up to me and begged for me back. He told me that he wanted to treat me how I deserved and that he thought about me every day and night. I believed him and let him back in my life. He said that he lost my phone number and that he would search for my car at school when he knew i had class so he could put a note on my car. He searched for me for weeks. A week later, he showed up with flowers and chocolate and he seemed to have really changed. Keep in mind, that there were problems, he would tell me to shut up when I was talking or simply telling him something. He would ignore me and force me to have sex with him. I would say no and he would force it. I didn’t see this as a serious problem but it bothered me deep down. We have a really great connection and have a lot of fun together so we kept seeing eachother. He said he wanted me to be his girlfriend and that he would ask me when the timing was right. I told him I wanted to go on a real date and he promised that he would take me that Friday. Then on Friday, he canceled saying that he just payed his bills and cant afford to take me out. I was upset but I just said, well can we at least hang out this weekend and he didnt reply. So I thought long and hard about this over that weekend and decided that he takes me for granted and that I’m done. I mean he promised he would change and it only lasted 2 weeks. So I began ignoring his texts all week and then at the end of the week i ended it and said that I thought about how he treated me and I didnt like it. Since then, he backed off for a couple weeks until one night when he called and texted a bunch of time begging me to come to his place, offering dinner and told me how sorry he was. I declined. Since then, he’s been texting every couple days, saying things like "Goodmorning Beautiful. How are you?" I haven’t replied but then today, he sent a text that said "goodmorning beautiful. I know you hate me but I miss you and care about you a lot. I hope you are doing well." I didn’t reply, although i feel like I should say something. He has put me through so much. We had a lot of good times but there was so much pain that went a long with him. It seems like he doesn’t appreciate me until I’m nearly gone.
Now I’ve managed to save face and my dignity by ending it myself and turning him down. But I am tempted to see him again. What should I do? Should I text him back? What should I say? Should I hang out with him?
I do miss him. But he hurt me worse than I’ve ever been hurt in my life.
I should say that since then he’s apologized and we talked on the phone once. he told me that he needed to "put everything on the table" and explain to me things that are going on his personal life that effect him and I. I said ok, then tell me and he said that he wasn’t able to say it over the phone and that it would be better to talk in person. I said, no this is your chance and he said he had to go.
i can definitely live without him. I used to love him but that was not the real him. I really just want him to get out of my life for good. but he won’t and every time, he contacts me, I feel compromised and conflicted. But I feel like I always make the right decision by not saying anything at all. I hate that he has so much of an effect on me still.
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I KNOW they get married but during their 7th year at hogwarts(book 7, deathly hollows) do they get back together as Boyfriend and Girlfriend??? Like as teenagers and before the epilogue at the end of the book……
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