Break Up advice please help?

Myself and partner broke up about 3 weeks ago. He moved out of my house. I was pretty upset the first week. We had been doing a fair bit of argueing during the lead up to the break up.
This is his 3rd week being gone and I haven’t seen him around. I was a bit upset at the weekend and the mornings seemed to be pretty hard but now it seems to be getting easier. Is this a normal feeling or is there worse to come. I cry every so often but I have been keeping a diary of my feelings and the devastation seems to be passing. We were together for 4 years.
My question is, is this normal or am I avoiding this whole thing. I feel strange!!!

Some advice would be great


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I need like post-break up advice. When you break up with someone, your not supposed to text them after right?

It’s not even for me, I’m just so out of my element that I don’t even know how to respond to this.

So, my friend just broke up with her boyfriend (of 4 months) last night for a number of good, legitimate reasons (he took advantage of her, made plans on his own time, didn’t take her into consideration, didn’t love her like she loved him, didn’t take things seriously, wasn’t able to communicate like a grown up, et…) It wasn’t just a rash decision, she seriously thought about everything (the above) and came to the conclusion that it’s just not going to work out.

So she called him last night (yeah I know thats kinda crappy, but they live 3 hours apart and she had tried at least 4 times for them to meet up, but he was never able to make it happen). So when she called to break up, she thought it was going to be the same, him acting like a child and such but he was actually really understanding about it, telling her shes such a good person and deserves better and such. Then after they hung up, later he texted her saying something along the same lines.

So, needless to say she called me after crying about how much she loves him. And yes, I get it of course she loves him and I know like he loved her (though he did a crap job showing it) I just don’t know what to tell her because really, breaking up with him was the right move.

She’s my best friend and I love her, I’d really like to be there for her but I live like 3 hours away too. So all I can do is repeat ‘It’s ok’ over he phone as she cries. I just don’t know what to say, I’m not really good at these things as I don’t like crying in front of people, showing that kind of emotion. But I’m fine if my friends want to come to me, I’m just a better listener than advice giver, but I do care.

What do I do?

Oh, almost missed the whole point I came on here. Yes, so she called and woke me up this morning crying still cause he texted her again telling her what an amazing soul she has and how no one will be good enough for her and she deserves so much better and that his heart is breaking, so on.

I mean, they JUST broke up. Why would you text them back???

Advice, please!


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Hey guys, I really need your advice on this. My boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday. I’m 25, he’s 27. We discussed things last week, and he said he doesn’t know if he loves me or not anymore. He said he already gets annoyed and he needs space and time. So it got me into thinking of finally breaking up with him since I think it’s unfair for me if we still have this relationship, and he’s unsure of his feelings. He said he needs time to figure it out if he still loves me. He has feelings for me, he said, but is just confused right now if wants to have the relationship. He wants to have space right now to think about it. He asked me if I can wait for his decision (it may be good or bad and he doesn’t know how long it’ll be) or just break up. At first he did not want to break up, but when I told him I’d rather break up rather than waiting and expecting for something uncertain, he agreed. He finally said he does not want me to be left expecting with nothing at all in the end.. I might just waste my time waiting for nothing. So there it was a mutual break-up. We ended it in good terms, he said we could be friends.

But I’m just so heartbroken right now. We’ve been together for 10 months. Part of me wants him back. He said he will still think if he will still love me while he has his space right now. Do you think he’ll do that? Will he still think about me? Or do I just need to move on and forget about him? Part of me is still expecting that while he’s having his space now, he’ll want me back. I don’t know. May be not. I’m just so depressed right now.

We have a long distance relationship. He’s in New Jersey, while I’m in Austin. We see each other once in 2 months. We’ve known each other’s family and friends. We were serious. But then, he said he got annoyed recently because I keep calling him and he needs his personal space. He just started work for about a month and may be it’s an added factor that he wants to have his time alone. Yeah he said he needs to be alone. Well, I admit that I was a clingy girlfriend, but I learned my lesson. And if he had told me, I could have changed. He just got tired of me. I love him so much and it just really hurts. Two weeks ago, we were together, so happy there in New Jersey. And then suddenly last week, he told me he grew tired of the relationship.
Should I just move on? or should I still wait? He told me that we should stop communicating for a while in order for me to move on. He said if he would realize he still loves me but then I already moved on, then it’s his loss because I was really a good girlfriend. It’s just that according to him, not all couples just get along well. He’s so honest and I appreciate that. It’s just I’m heartbroken right now and constantly thinking about him. And I’m sure there’s no 3rd party involved. It’s all about him having his personal space for now and the confusion if he still loves me or not.
Thanks for listening to me. I’d appreciate advice from you guys. I guess this communication here would somehow lift my spirit up. I just moved here in Austin and I don’t have friends yet. That’s why this is harder for me…


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