i have a 3 almost 4 year old nephew who i feel is sexual towards me. i know this sounds crazy, but he will purposly pretend to fall or grab something just to touch my breast. he will touch the lower part of my back (forever, if it were up to him) (if i let him, but i dont b/c it freaks me out). when i say he touches my back, i mean, he will come over when im sitting or standing and start put his hand on my back and if i tell him to stop he gets mad and i have to force him to stop. he tried to pull down my pants when i was getting up once and looked at my butt. it really freaks me out and makes me uncomfortable. i try to make him stop and tell him not to do it (and he knows it’s bad), but he wont stop. he used to do a humping motion when he touched my back, but he seems to have stopped. how do i handle this? his mom doesnt think it’s sexual and i do, especially with the breasts. when he starts touching he always wants a kiss or hug. i feel weird giving him either. what do you think??
i think he saw his dad having sex (my sister is divorced to his father) because his dad is a pervert when it comes to women. trust me, im not imagining this! even my husband has noticed and he only does this to me! every single day he does this. it’s been going on since he was around 2.
oh yeah, also, when he touches my back he tries to touch my stomach and eventually he will go towards the breasts and he tries to pull my shirt up. i have to struggle with him to get him to stop.
I was a jealous boyfriend. Now, I am a jealous husband. My wife had breast cancer, with both breasts removed. This happened several years ago and after the mastectomies, she refused for years to have breast implants. There is a new man working in her department that is divorced. His ex-wife had breast implants done by this cosmetic surgeon. Now my wife has made an appointment with this same doctor. She says she wants to make herself more attractive for me, but my jealous suspicions seem to be that she wants to impress her coworker. They started eating lunch together as part of a group from the office. With summer vacations and people out of the office, I have found out through my wife that these two are having lunch exclusively every day, either in the office cafe or other lunch places outside the office.
A college buddy of mine, who’s wife did leave him for another man, told me that once his wife started going to lunch outside the office with guys, guys would take her to other places in their cars besides restaurants during lunchtime. I was told it was a bad sign and to watch out.
In the past, I have broken up with girlfriends that I suspected were interested in other men and I felt they were cheating on me although I had no concrete proof. Other women have broken up with me saying that I was too controlling.
My wife only has a half hour for her lunch and her co worker has an hour. She has told me that other people were fired because they were repeatedly late coming back from lunch. I told her I don’t think it’s a good idea for her to go off with this guy for lunch because if she’s late too often she could get fired.
At the place where my wife works they have a strict policy on alcohol use and being under the influence of alcohol in the work place. Two co workers at her office were fired when a manager noticed they were acting strangely after lunch, had two police man called to the work place, administered a breathalyzer and they were both fired. Last week, my wife does not drink, and when we were at a restaurant for dinner, she noticed a wine on the list and said that she tried some of that at lunch earlier that day. Her friend was having a glass of wine and recommended that she try it because it tasted like fruity grape juice.
"So, you had a glass of wine during your lunch break from work?"
Yeah, it was just one glass.
"Do you remember what happened to Susie and Jim when the drank at lunchtime?"
Sure. But they were really being stupid about it. I only had one glass. Can’t get drunk from just one old little glass of wine.
"Do you really want to take that chance? You shouldn’t be drinking during the day. I thought you didn’t drink."
"I don’t. But that wine Kenny had me try didn’t taste like wine at all."
It wouldn’t surprise me if Kenny didn’t slip a roofie in my wife’s drink from the way she was acting that night.
To make things more complex, I was laid off from my employer two years ago and I am working my own business in addition to working a second job in sales, so I am covered under my wife’s health insurance policy.
When I question my wife about this co worker, my wife gets angry and threatens to leave me saying "good luck paying for your own health insurance. Individual plans cost a fortune."
I have been uneasy with any man that my wife enjoys his company. When I was a kid, most wives stayed at home with children and the men worked. Today, many wives are working, and with the recession on, many husbands are not working or are working their own businesses because most companies are simply not hiring anymore.
Does your wife have lunch and socialize with other men at work? Does your wife have other male friends? How do you deal with this as a husband? (The same questions also apply to boyfriends with girlfriends).
My wife says that she and her co worker friend are just "Platonic" and there is nothing sexual or romantic in their friendship. Personally, I think the whole notion of a Platonic relationship between a man and a woman is a load of bull.
Women can answer also although I am primarily looking for men’s opinions on this matter.
Does He Really Love Me ?
“Does my husband still love me?” is a frequently asked question by many women. Fact is, most men are typically not good at explaining what they really feel inside. But if the man in your life repeatedly does one ore more of the six things in the list below, chances are he is trying to tell you “I love you”.
1. You notice that he stares at your eyes
The eyes are far more than just windows to a man’s soul, they are also a rear view mirror for what is actually going on inside his heart. Men always throw an excited look at what they desire, that is why you can always catch them at staring at your breasts. Just think of the following: Since there are so many beautiful things in this world that he can rest his eyes on, chances are his feelings for you go deep since it is you he is staring at.
Basically, there are two types of “I-love-you-look”. One is the secret look. He stares at you when you are not aware of it. This look is not an easy one to detect, but if you secretly try a couple of times, you’ll notice it. The second look of love is when he simply stares at you. Men are careful when it comes to showing emotions, but if he tirelessly looks at you in this way, he is actually lowering his shield and gives you an invitation to enter his world.
2. He buys things that you like when he’s at the grocery store
You suddenly discover that he has filled up the fridge with lemon cream biscuits, baby carrots and other types of feminine food, which he would eat under compulsion only 
This is a definite sign that you are constantly in his thoughts, even in non romantic places like a grocery store. When it becomes a natural part of his shopping to buy things he knows that you like, it might be a way for him to tell you that he loves you. Moreover, this is a way for him to show the outside world that he appreciates you. Men like to be free as long as possible, but now he is leaving obvious evidence that there is a woman present in his life, so you can be pretty sure that you are the right one for him.
3. He includes you when he talks about future plans
If one day he tells you that he wants to move away from where he lives today to a new place, and at the same time asks if you would like to live in such a place, then this is a way for him to tell you that he wants you to be a part of his life in the future also.
4. He often wears the sweater you gave him
Giving you the ability to take control of his wardrobe is something a man would never do if he is not serious about his feelings for you. Men simply like to do things themselves, and they do not like it when anyone threatens their male ego and male identity since this can be considered a weakness by other men. So when he’s wearing the clothes that you gave him, he does it for you sake, giving you a clear signal that he lets you take control.
5. He stands right next to you when you are out together
Where and how he is standing when you are out together says a lot about where you are in his life. Keep in mind that most men are biologically “programmed” to be interested in the opposite sex. For this reason, a “programmed” man will always want to walk either a few steps ahead of you or a few steps behind you. But when he is in love with you he automatically suppresses his male instincts, and he will walk and stand right next to you where you can have control of his eyes. He will keep you close to him and show to the world that he is taken. But remember, it may be that he’s too shy to hold you hand, so do not judge him too early.
6. He does not mind when you answer his cell phone
Men never know what potential “destructive” force that can hide on the other side of the handset, everything from an ex girlfriend who wants to tell him her last “goodbye” to an over concerned mother who refuses to accept that he’s a grown man. So, if he lets you take control of this “ringing bomb”, he’s clearly showing you that he has nothing to hide. When a man gives you access to his cell phone, he is actually handing you the key to his world.
PS. If you are not yet a couple, and you’re wondering if he is about to fall for you, look for the following signs:
- He always arrives early when you are going out on a date
- He remembers the name of your friends, and not just the pretty ones
- He spends time with you instead of watching his favourite sport on TV
- He asks you about your family
- He tells you secrets he has never told anyone else
- He does things for you that he would otherwise never do
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