My Girlfriend Left Me. Should I Contact Her?

Are you one of the many guys having the following question: My girlfriend left me, should I contact her? If this is the case, you need to read this very article from beginning to the end. If she left you and want to get her back again, there are certain factors that you must take into consideration- If you go about it the wrong way, you might ruin it all and lose her forever.

What’s worse than having your girlfriend suddenly tell you it’s over?

Not much. After a breakup, you feel awful. You have no idea how to calm your mind or regain any kind of control. You don’t know why she left, especially after things seemed to be going so well.

The reasons women leave guys are numerous: not feeling appreciated, meeting someone else, lack of sexual chemistry/attraction, etc.

The bottom line is: you can’t change the past. You can’t undo the breakup.

What you can do is calm your mind, form a plan, and get her back. And I’m going to tell you exactly how to do that.

Step 1: Get some distance.

The last thing you need to be doing right now, ironically, is thinking about your ex-girlfriend.

You need to forget her for a while. Go out and hang with your buddies. Play your favorite sports. Listen to music. Exercise. If you’re behind on work or school, get caught up.

The key is to forget her for a while and get FOCUSED on a positive activity. This way you will immediately start to regain control and focus of your life. (Hint: the kind of man she wants is one who is controlled and focused, so this is to your benefit.)

Step 2: Form a plan.

Once you’ve had a chance to distance yourself a bit, and clear your head, it’s time to act.

Your plan to get her back is threefold:

-Write her a letter, letting her know you’re okay with the breakup.
-Wait a bit – if she responds, you don’t write back immediately.
-Assuming she DOES write back, begin to arrange a time and place to meet.

Step 3: Get her back.

Once she’s agreed to meet with you again, and it’s important that you actually MEET face to face, you need to be relaxed, calm, and in control of the frame.

You have to see yourself as the one controlling the outcome of the relationship. You are the one who will lead it back into success.

You do this by creating chemistry and attraction – through flirting – and through talking gently to allow her to express her thoughts and feelings. This lets her open up to you again.

It’s very important to implement each of these steps in order. Remember: you absolutely do NOT want to text or call her when you are in the “post-breakup frenzy” where you are emotional and upset.

Get some distance, form a plan, and then start to get her back into your life.

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I dated my best friend and neighbor`s wife`s sister. She lives far away but we met at the wedding. We both had other people at the time and broke up with them to be together. She was very convincing with her "I love you and this was meant to be" garbage. She dumped me over the phone and has the balls to be coming to visit my buddy and his wife and stay for 2 weeks WITH her ex-boyfriend whom she is now back with. I know I`ll see them in the elevator or in the neighborhood for sure. I lost my job because of her as well but that story is way too long. I`m trying to move on but seeing them is gonna be rough since I`m the one who still isn`t working. I just don`t want to hide and I always thought that if I could find a job and get my life on track, maybe she`d come back to me. I`m an idiot right? Is it wrong for me to want some sort of revenge. its also a sore spot in my buddies marriage. no lectures, just advice please.
great advice. i guess "revenge" wasn`t the right word. I don`t want to hurt anyone. I just don`t need this right now and i know the correct solution is to forget about it and move on. but it sucks. no revenge. i just wanted it to be over but its hard when they`re gonna be right here.

also, to clarify, she convinced me to quit my job and move to where she was. when i got there, she said she changed her mind so i moved back here. that was the worst part.

great advice everyone. thanks.



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So the Marine did what any squared-away Marine would do. He went around to his buddies and collected all the unwanted photos of women that he could find. He then mailed about 45 pictures of women (with clothes and without) to his girlfriend with the following note:

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Is keeping in touch with an ex OK?

I’d love to know others’ opinions on this. I’ve never been one to break up, get back together, break up again, ad nauseum. It’s ok for some couples, I’m just not a fan. And, this may sound a little harsh, but I don’t even give exes a second chance. Some don’t agree, but the resoning behind it is:

- you broke up for a reason. Probably, that reason hasn’t changed yet, or ever will.

- you send a message that if there’s ever a ‘big’ problem, instead of being a stand-up guy and dealing with it, it’s ok to break up and run away from it, since you know you can just go back later.

- Probably, when the 2 of you broke up, you went through a lot of pain. I would imagine breaking up a second time (which is likely, since it didn’t work the first time around) would be just as painful, if not more, so why put yourself through it again?

-When it comes time that you have a new significant other, you are minus baggage (at least that baggage). If you think about it, it’s a nice ‘gift’ to the new person you get with so they don’t have to deal with the old trash that was never taken out.

A lot of my friends don’t agree with my decision. Also because, not only do I have these beliefs, but I usually break off all communication when I break up with someone. It’s not to be mean or malicious at all. As a matter of fact I would love nothing more than to be one of those girls that could just be great buddies with her ex. But I’m not one of those girls. It’s a little painful (yes, I can be overly-sensitive). If we have to talk for whatever reason, it’s always cordial, I’m usually polite and usually get the same in return, but if we don’t have to be in touch, I don’t want to be. I don’t want to hear when he starts dating, falls in love, etc., and vice versa, I’d be uncomfortable telling him things like that. Even the occasional phone call or email just to say hello are hard for me, because of course your feelings for that person don’t just turn off when you break up, and for me, hearing their voice is sad for me. I’ve always preferred a clean break and I think that helps to heal a broken heart much faster.

This is DEFINITELY not a hard-and-fast rule, believe it or not. Of course there would have to be special circumstances, and it’s hard for me to resist a persistent man (it shows bravery, quite attractive).

I’d love to hear any agreements/disagreement discussions from those who have an opinion.

Now, about a year ago, I met a man that I fell in love with almost immediately. He was absolutely perfect for me in just about every way (of course he had his flaws, and so did I). He was like a male version of me in ways like sense of humor, feelings and beliefs, trains of thought, etc. We could literally look at one another and know what the other was thinking, and communicate through facial expressions. Or, sometimes, one of us might have a completely random thought, share it with the other, only to find out that the other was thinking the same thing! I absolutely loved spending time with him, he made me laugh, we were compatible in just about every way (of course we had our arguments just like every other relationship). If I believed in soul mates, he was mine, but I was sure he was the love of my life, no doubt. We were engaged within months. I don’t think he had experienced love like I had for him, not only did he tell me horrible things about his leeches, I mean exes, but he didn’t get how I could treat him so well (probably from past girls), but I was happy to be the one there when he needed someone.

I found out early on he was in touch w/ his ex but had no feelings for her. Even if he didn’t, I let him know that it made me uncomfortable. As it turned out, this girl is a human stain, a total leech. I couldn’t even believe half the things he said about her until they were confirmed. Plus, she was awful to him. I wondered why they remained friends. Being forgiving or not, she remained "feeding" off of him for a while – not someone anyone would want to keep around as a friend. I left it up to him, he finally came to me and said that after thinking about all she did in their relationship, he realized what a horrible person she was, and he didn’t want anything to do with her again.

I recently had to break it off with him. Guess who was the happiest that he wasn’t being "kept from talking to her anymore"? I was so disappointed in him. Not only that, but I found out that a few months before I broke it off with him, he became Facebook friends with a girl he used to be in love with. I was so hurt.

Now, I feel stupid, as though I was in la-la-land. Yes, he was as happy as I was, he just didn’t have the same beliefs as I did as far as keeping in touch, etc. He definitely was not a cheater and was a good man in many ways.

I realize this is long but it’s actually quite therapeutic to get it all out, especially since I’ve never talked about it before.

I’d really like to know anyone else’s feelings o


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