So I meet this girl at the club a few weeks ago. She invites me out one night with her and her girl. So I go out there and her friend is talking to the bar-back because I guess they are F-Buddies and we all decide to go to another bar. While there I’m talking to her friend at the bar and this dude pulls her aside and starts telling my girl that he made a mistake sleeping with her friend and he wants to be with her and he kisses her (I had no clue this was going on). Then she comes back to me and tells me that he told her he made a mistake with the friend, but fails to mention anything else. Anyway her friend and him slept together that night and the next day he tries to pick up my girl again. So that’s the beginning of the drama with her. This is the first night we have hung out since we met.

Well also during that night she tells me that she answered an ad for a housekeeping job and when she got there the 60 year old man (shes 22) who placed the ad told her he wasn’t looking for a housekeeper but a wife. He is loaded and would give her 0,000, pay for her college, buy her cars, blah blah blah. She asked me if I would still be her boyfriend if she married him. I told her that I didn’t know, maybe if it was strictly a business relationship between the two of them.

Well the next day she fills in the huge details that she left out the night before. She tells me that the dude kissed her and she tells me that not only does the old guy want to get married but he wants her to have his kid too. What the hel?

So now shes pressing me on if I want to stay with her. I really don’t know if I should get involved if shes going to be in another relationship. It may be okay now, but what happens when we start seeing each other and I start to love her? I think I will just be setting myself up to get hurt if I do. I told her I need to even see if we are right for each other first so I would make up my mind after we dated a few weeks.

2 days later: She asks me last minute to go to a Halloween party with her since her friend cant go. I tell her I have plans, but she pleads for me to go. So I give in, I go to her place and shes like "Wheres your costume?" even though she didn’t tell me I needed one. Now its this huge deal that everyone HAS to have a costume. All the stores are closed so I agree to go in drag. So we go driving around to all her friends houses to find me clothes. So then I go and meet all her friends at this party dressed up like a chick. It’s embarrassing as hell but I did it as a favor to her. So during the night it came up that I was getting off probation for something minor shortly. Also she asked me something about sex and my ex’s and I told her that I ususally date girls who have a kinky side to them and she cops this attitude and is distant to me the whole night, then she just gets up and leaves me (even though I asked her at the beginning to do me one favor of not leaving me alone at the party). So we get back to her place and shes all distant to me still and says she doesn’t want to have sex with me because I’m a different person than she thought I was. I asked her how and shes like "You seemed like a nice guy when I met you then I find out you date kinky girls and your on probation, why don’t you just go date Rachel (her friend from the beginning of the story)"

What is up with this girl? Why cant I find a decent girl? Or maybe its just me. Did I do something wrong?

Are there any cute sane women in the Tampa area? If so, hit me up
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This is the deal…
I loved my bf truly and madly…and the fact of the matter is that even though its just been 2 months since we broke up i still love him!!! SO MUCH and want to be with him. we were together for about a year. But in the last month of our relationship his ex-gf whom he loved came back to him…and guess what he decided to stay with me…but when i found out that he ALMOST was with his ex… i was mad and left him..I have been devastated..he is my true love…im 25 years old..i’ve had other guys but he is the one i TRULY LOVE and wanted to marry. His ex, my ex-bf and i are real good buddies…but now i dont have the strength to talk to either of them. Except that i still want him ..i still cry at night wanting to talk to him, to have him hold me tight and tell me that he loves me…cuz i love him so dearly. I dont know what to do.. HELP..should i talk to him?? he called saying that he missed me ….but i want him..but my brain says i shouldnt talk.. WTF!I MISS HIM.HELP
well he decided to be with me only after his ex found out that he and i were going out and she decided to stop speaking to him….But to my dismay she called the very next day to make up with him…so see it wasnt that he really decided to be with me…he keeps telling me that he loves his ex…but he also loves me…and doesnt want to loose me…but how can i compete with his love…he is my true love and i dont want to spend the rest of my life "what if" but i dont want to be walked all over either…
but i still love him and always will…and want him to be with me…and i wish i could go over to him right now…but the problem is we live on diametrically opposite ends of the world at this point…and i dont know when this geographic location is going to change soon…
and let me add to this…that as soon as we broke up..he was with his ex ….im pretty sure they are still together..i do want him to be happy…
but why cant he be happy with me…he says he is..but he loves the ex…

hell…maybe i know the answer to this already…but..what do i do?? he called to tell me that he missed me and all i want to do is call him back and tell him how much i have missed him and how much i love him… i really do…
there is just absolutely no one else in this entire universe that could take his place…i am absolutely sure of it.. what do i do?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 years. For the first 3 and a half we were on and off and everywhere inbetween just because we were young, naive, and unsure of what we wanted. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, first love, first to take my virginity, first of literally everything. I have always felt a deep love and a gut feeling towards this man. During the times we weren’t together, just considered "sex buddies", it didn’t matter how great of another person I had found to date I dumped that person immediatley just to have a one night with my ex. I took every opportunity to be with him.

Towards the end of those 3 and a half years, both of us were going down a horrible path. Him with his drinking and drugs, and me dating several men at once and doing adult modeling. We realized at the end of those 3 and a half years where we were headed was a dead end and we needed to get our stuff together and we did. We jumped back into a serious relationship and helped each other turn our lives around. Over the last 2 and a half years we’ve hit a couple small bumps in the road but we’ve easily overcome them and it’s made us nothing but stronger. We love each other very much, we’re each other’s best friends, we both know our world would come crashing down without each other. We’ve been planning our future, saving up money to buy a house together outside the state, planning on marriage someday (when the time is right), and growing old together.

About 3 weeks ago, he did the unthinkable. He cheated on me. I shocked me, it shocked him, anyone who hears the story and knows my boyfriend well would be in complete shock. He payed a prostitute to meet him in the middle of the night for oral sex. Thankfully he used a condom the entire time. And thankfully it wasn’t someone he knew where something like this could turn into a love triangle. He told me a week later what he did, how incredibly sorry he was, how sick he was that he did it, he couldn’t explain his actions, he couldn’t believe he went against his morals, religion, everything he’s about. He couldn’t believe he could do something so horrible to the woman he loves the most.

Some would tell me to leave him. Some would tell me to seperate for awhile. I decided to tell him I’d work it out with him. We’ve come so far and gone through so much. I told him the bare thought of being without him hurt 100x worse than accepting that went behind my back to shove his dick in another woman’s mouth.

He keeps telling me I deserve better but I refuse to believe it. During those 3 and a half years when we weren’t together I found another boyfriend. Before that man asked me out I thought "what if my ex comes back? I guess I can dump this guy and go running back to my ex cuz he’s what I really want". 3 months into that relationship, my ex did come back. Breaking up with this dude was no easy task. He was very controlling, very minipulative and I felt I was being guilt tripped and forced to stay. So I cheated on him with my ex…. 11 times in those last 5 months with that man. I almost feel I deserved this like karma is kicking me square in the butt. It was very wrong for me to cheat and even though the guy treated me like crap, didn’t justify my actions.

Do I trust my lover? Absolutely not. That part is shattered. I spent a whole week asking questions. I wanted to know the whole story. I wanted to know all possible reasons that could have lead to him to cheat. He also has a problem with instant gratification, he wants it now and we’re also working on that. I told him trust takes nothing but reassurance and time. Forgiveness will not happen in a day or a week or even a year. Takes time. He has to learn patience. I hate to pull the leash so tight and lock him in the dog house but it’s not my fault he got there. Even if it’s something I had done or didn’t do, it’s his fault for not communicating that to me before this happened. So, I made him get tested. Condom or not, there are possibilities of disease. His porn is trashed, deleted, and banned for a long while. His jerking off every day, every night has to come to a stop. A possibility of him cheating could have been a sex addition, a porn addiction, boredom (he’s unemployed right now) and I will do everything in my power to make sure we cure those possibilities. I email him throughout the day everyday, I want to know what he’s up to. We don’t live together which is hard for me to monitor his every move but I do see him almost every night for a few hours after my work, and all day through every weekend. I do question him a lot and exect answers. I tell him he MUST tell me everything no matter if he thinks it’ll hurt me. It’s best out than kept in. If he’s not satisfied in the relationship for some reason or another he MUST tell me so we can fix it so he can be satisfied again. Communication is vital in our relationship if he wants this relationship to last. I’ve been asking A LOT of questions and he’s been good with answers. I told him if he is unfaithful one more time, I DO NOT tolerate a man who constantly cheats. I deserve a man better than that. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I spoil my man rotton and have. I cook from scratch for him often, sew up his torn and broken jeans, I take him out to amusement parks and other fun activities and shower him with gifts for his bday, our anniversary, xmas, and valentines. He spoils me too, just differently (he pays for all of our weekly fun like all dinners and movies and stuff). I give him massages and backscratches. I help him go fishing, I help him re-load his guns when he goes to practice his shooting (like a shooting range). I do everything in my power to be the most perfect girlfriend for him. I read up on sex, sexual techniques, and pay attention to his likes and dislikes so he can be sexually satisfied always. I listen to him. I understand him.

He’s been good so far and is definately changing for the better. We’ve been talking more, he’s coming up to my work to take me to lunch once a week, he’s being more active instead of sitting on his butt being bored. He’s been telling me how much he truely loves me, how truely sorry he is for screwing up. He’s been doing a lot more to please me. He even put a promise ring on my finger, promising to never leave me, to never cheat on me ever ever ever again, and to be the best man he can for me. I like it and all and I think it’s very sweet of him… i just hate knowing how it got there, what hurdle we had to jump over for the ring to appear on my left ring finger.

I guess what I’m looking for in response is am I doing the right thing? Is working through this, both him and I praying over the situation and bettering ourselves, and me keeping him on a tight leash in the dog house is the right thing? What would you have done if the man you’ve been loving for 6 years stuck his dick in a prostitute’s mouth?

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