I’ve been dating a guy for the past 4 years.
I was going through some difficult personal times, and it was affecting our relationship. I was not being fair to him, so I told him we needed a break.
We’ve been apart for over a month now. We still email each other frequently but that’s the only contact we had. He would say how much he missed me and that he loved me. I realized I missed him very much, made a huge mistake, and wanted him back, so I asked him to meet the other day. We met for dinner, and I was getting the hint he needed more time. He said he would know sometime in the next two years!! I was thinking it would be six months tops!!
I thought it was hopeless, until after dinner we had sex! I was hoping this meant he still had feelings for me and we would get back together, but he said he hoped we could have casual sex until we get back together, and that he needed to go, and I started to cry! I told him it would be too hard for me to just have casual sex with him (I know crying is a horrible idea, but I was really upset) He asked if our meeting was because I wanted to get back together. At first I said no due to pride, but lying made me cry even more, so I finally told him yes. He said he felt bad, but he needs more time. He said he thought we were on the same page (with the sex) He told me he wishes he met me five years later, because that’s when he wants to settle down. He said our relationship was to serious for right now. He needs to find himself, but he said he will ask me back someday. I should’ve left it alone but instead I told him I’m not going to ask him back again, because the rejection hurts too much… (even though I really do want him back….)
So that was three days ago, and now he isn’t messaging me anymore like he did before we met up. Did I blow it? Should I message him saying sorry I was so immature and i respect his decision? We have plans to meet again around thanksgiving… I really want him back and I don’t know what to do!
Help! I’m so heartbroken, I’ve never wanted something this much before. </3
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me a few years back bc I got clingy with him and he couldn’t take it anymore. We started being "friends with benefits" but I couldn’t take doing that anymore, and then I met another guy. After that, I was out of my ex’s life for 2 years bc I eventually married the new guy. After two and a half years of marriage, I divorced my husband and contacted my ex. We met up again, chatted, became friends, and then ended up having sex, and have been "friends with benefits" for 5 months now.
I’m falling in love with him all over again and so I asked him if he still loved me. He told me that he loves me, cares about me a lot, and doesn’t want me out of his life… but that he is not IN love with me. And he added in that he gets very weak when he’s around me bc he’s very attracted to me, and that out of all the other girls he ever dated, he had the most fun with me, and thinks about all of our good times we had while we were dating. He even told me that he was upset that I moved on with my husband after he broke up with me bc (and I quote) "we would be married right now with two kids if I never left out his life and got married". But how was I supposed to know that he would’ve eventually gotten back together with me???
When I’m with him, I feel like he is IN love with me (and wants to be my boyfriend again) from the way he touches me (very softly and gently), and he lets me spend the night at his place (in the past when we were having casual sex, right after breaking up, he would make me go home after sex). Plus, sometimes, we spend hours on the phone talking and we enjoy each others conversations.
Do you think that later on down the road, through sex alone, that this guy’s mind may change and want to get back together with me? Does he still want me and doesn’t want to let on?
PS. When we were dating, he use to tell me that I was "the one". And he likes the fact that I’ve changed, bc I’m not clingy anymore. I grew up a lot. But he still told me he’s not ready for a relationship right now.
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I have a friend who is nonreligious (but considers herself spiritual, she just does not like organized religion) and is saving herself for marriage.
She says it is because she doesn’t believe in casual sex and wants to make sure she is in a committed relationship before she has sex.
A lot of her friends think she is really religious when she says she is waiting for marriage and then she has to explain herself, which tends to annoy her after a while. What is your opinion on the subject?
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I am a 20 year old college student and have had sex with 11 females. I have never been in a relationship and its not that I don’t want one, Its just the one time I tried to get in one (in college), the girl turned out to be really slutty. Sad, because I really think I loved her. It seems that more and more girls these days are treating casual sex exactly as its name implies, very casually. So, I mean, I really would love to be in a relationship and be with someone who genuinely likes me, but I just don’t trust anyone. It seems like since girls are sleeping around these days, I guess I should just get with the program. "Saving it for marriage" seems to be a dead ideology these days and almost a joke. So, I am pretty much saying fuck it…look at the world today…lets just fuck whoever I want to when I want…smoke, drink and fuck…..A crazy psychologically neglected gunman could kill me tomorrow…why not have fun in life.
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