My wife of 4 years, 1 child together, both about 30, has been having an affair…At least twice per month, my wife has says she is going to happy hour with co-workers. However, today, I found on her Face book account that she isn’t going with co-workers, but just ONE male co-worker. Sometimes she will come home at 4AM, other times she calls and says she’s staying with her female co-worker since they’ve all been drinking too much.
If I divorce my wife, my wife will most likely get most of the custody of our child- adultery is not grounds for divorce.
To be honest, I’d rather forgive and act like I don’t even know about it in order to save my marriage. Basically, in her email box, they sneak around. He’s married with 2 children and has made it clear that he isn’t leaving his wife. My wife sent one email back, very flirtatiously written, saying she doesn’t want him, just his sex, and he KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING (typed something like that in caps.
I looked up the divorce laws in my state in the midwest and adultery is not grounds for CHILD CUSTODY- it is for divorce, however.
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I had a sex with a guy two years ago who was one of my close friends. He did not tell me he was getting married with his long-distance girlfriend in Africa in a few months. Next year when I visited he told me he was currently dating someone in the USA and he tried to make a move on me again. We kissed and started making out because I had strong feelings toward him (he initiated). I denied him sex and left his appartment very soon because I felt it was wrong what we were doing. I respect myself too much to be taken advantage of. He still tried to contact me for a few times although I live far away. Yesterday he told me his wife is coming over to live with him and that he wants to be friends. It bothers me he is still trying to talk to me and that he kept cheating on his wife for years. When I confronted him about it he said guys cannot go without sex for more than a year and that he still loves his wife and that there is nothing wrong with him cheating. The questions is how do I recognize players like him and how do I avoid being used like this? Do you think I should stop all of the contact with him? I feel angry, hurt, shameful and right now I don’t know how to trust any guy. For more info please look at my old post- Regretful first sex and moving on emotionally?
For more info please look at my old post ”Regretful first sex and moving on emotionally?”
Blocked this guy on facebook;-)
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i am a 25 year old with a 4 year old son and a baby on the way. my wife found out i was cheating on her when she looked through my text message history. i confessed to having an affair. i was never a great husband in the first place , could never seem to make wife happy and when things seemed to be starting to be going better she found out i was texting hundreds of messages a day for the past few months. my wife is pregnant with our second child that we were both looking forward to. i want to do what ever i possibly can to salvage our marriage but i dint know what to do to make it work because she is heart broken and will not forgive me for what i’ve done. she doesn’t believe that i love her. how can i prove to her that love her and make her take me back.
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I found out my wife had an affair several years ago. I then started my own affair with someone I met on Craigslist , not as retaliation but because I felt like such an impotent loser with my wife and I wanted to feel like a stud again. Unfortunately, I’ve found that women who have affairs off of Craigslist can be crazy. She is also married and wants to leave her husband for me. I don’t even like her that much, she was just convenient. I will NOT leave my wife because of my son and she knows that. I no longer have sex with her, but she is obsessed with me. She is a gun carrying detective and my gut tells me it’s within the realm of possibility that could harm my wife or child in the delusional belief that removing one or both of them would make me rush to her. I would love to break it off with her but fear doing so because she seems so unstable and I fear the consequences. How do I break it off without breaking up my family?
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