My ex-girlfriend moved to Sweden with my daughter, and ex may also be married and she may have changed my daughter’s last name. I’ve been paying child support for the past 13 years. What rights as a non custodial father do I have. Can I force her to come back to the states? If not can child support be canceled I need help, I’m missing out on all the best years of my little girls life.
My baby was hospitalized for a period of time. At the hospital they supply you with toys etc for your baby. My baby fell in love with a toy that they have stopped making 
Not for any other reason than they don’t make it anymore. I have looked everywhere. I was going to get one off Craigslist but it was out of state and I was warned by many that was dangerous. Well, I happened to find one brand new, still in the box, never opened 20 minutes from my ex’s house. He lives in a different state. I called him up and asked if he would do this favor and then have him ship it to me and I would reimburse him… He is being an ***. He said tell them you will pay extra for them to ship it. Well no one wants to ship it to me and with good reason. There is no guarantee I am going to get the product and she her money, even though I would send it. He could make this so easy and he is being a d!ck. I found one, the same EXACT one on Amazon for 0. I cannot afford that. He told me I need to buy her that one. I told her if I got child support I might be able to afford it – he does not pay child support – which is not the issue, I just want his help. Am I being unreasonable. He is supposed to call me back tonight when he gets home. What should I say? How should I approach this to get him to do this for me? MY daughter loved this toy and he just laughed that I would go through so much to get it. I know some may not agree but it’s only plus what I will owe her dad in shipping and gas! Please advice. I just want his help! Thanks!
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I have looked everywhere Ebay everything… I also posted this question in marriage and divorce. I got horrible answers there.. you need to go read what these guys posted.
does any-one know what goes on when you take your ex back to court for contempt of child support? he has not paid in over seven years and this is the first time we have been able to serve him correctly by a constable and have proof. My court day is only 4 days away, and since he has been so good at dodgeing the system this long I dont know what he will come up with for his excuse of not paying his support obligations for so long. Ihave know idea of what to expect since this is the first time I will have him in frount of me and the courts for this issue, How does the judge handle fathers that put themselves in this position, and how does he handle the stories that these dads come up with to try to get out of there support obligations. It allmost frightens me to think of what his excuse can possibly be, after all is said and done I know this , his best intrest has not been with his daughter, she and I could of used his support, finacially and emotionaly all these years,
My baby was hospitalized for a period of time. At the hospital they supply you with toys etc for your baby. My baby fell in love with a toy that they have stopped making Not for any other reason than they don’t make it anymore. I have looked everywhere. I was going to get one off Craigslist but it was out of state and I was warned by many that was dangerous. Well, I happened to find one brand new, still in the box, never opened 20 minutes from my ex’s house. He lives in a different state. I called him up and asked if he would do this favor and then have him ship it to me and I would reimburse him… He is being an ass. He said tell them you will pay extra for them to ship it. Well no one wants to ship it to me and with good reason. There is no guarantee I am going to get the product and she her money, even though I would send it. He could make this so easy and he is being a d!ck. I found one, the same EXACT one on Amazon for 0. I cannot afford that. He told me I need to buy her that one. I told her if I got child support I might be able to afford it – he does not pay child support – which is not the issue, I just want his help. Am I being unreasonable. He is supposed to call me back tonight when he gets home. What should I say? How should I approach this to get him to do this for me? MY daughter loved this toy and he just laughed that I would go through so much to get it. I know some may not agree but it’s only plus what I will owe her dad in shipping and gas! Please advice. I just want his help! Thanks!
How come a divorce is automatically so much worse then just a break up?
Unmarried people can have children together, which means paying child support, unmarried people can buy things jointly and have ownership disputes.
So tell me, do an expensive ring and a magic piece of paper (marriage certificate) really make a relationship all that much more significant? So much so that people have baggage over a divorce for the rest of their lives? I mean people break up after living together for years and they cope just fine. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. Someone explain.
I split with my ex husband last July. We have a two year old together. My two year old tells me that her Nana hits her (she’s recently started picking up a hitting habit, like swinging)… soon after, she came home with a mark on her eye. I ask her where this mark came from and she says that her "Nana" hit her. I call her father, and ask her what the hell happened, and he says that our daughter fell… I don’t trust him as far as I can throw him… he stalked me, followed me, recorded my conversations, and took photographs of me and my friends after he and I split up. He’s crazy. He doesn’t work a legitimate job, he works under the table. Pays absolutely no child support…. I have done the "responsible" thing by not stopping him from seeing her. Tonight when dropping her off, I said "Do you allow your Mother to discipline our daughter" He stuttered and said "Yes, she puts her in time out…" I said "well she’s making accusations that her Nana is hitting her, so if she is hitting her and you know about it… you need to tell her if it happens again, I will guarantee that she will never lay eyes in our daughter again… and neither will you." He shoots back with "Well I’ve been meaning to ask you… does your boyfriend (my fiance) change our daughter’s diaper?", I said "When it’s necessary"… she said "Oh because she claims he’s touched her".. now I know for a fact this is absolutely bullshit. My daughter has been to the pediatrician on THREE separate occasions prior to my fiance and I getting together for yeast or bacteria infections, I had the Pediatrician check her out for sexual assault because one time she is ridiculously red, and complaining that her bottom hurt. The Ped said no trauma to the area, no sexual assault of any kind. My daughters father KNOWS I’ve taken her to get checked by the Pediatrician and it infuriated him. This is some sort of backlash from the drama he’s created and I’m trying to deal with. I’m upset by this bogus accusation. He only said that because I warned him about his mom. I acted as if it didn’t effect me, but it’s really bothering my fiance. My ex makes "random shots" at him for no apparent reason when my fiance has been nothing but cordial to him, and my fiance absolutely loves and adores my daughter…
What do I do to fix this problem? We already have a pending child support and custody hearing… I have no attorney and can’t afford one in this economy with him paying NO child support. He has an attorney, and works under the table. Please help!
Thanks for all of the information. We do have a separation agreement, and a custody agreement (I’m in the process of getting it adjusted through court). This is the ONLY reason I’ve allowed my daughter to go- I don’t want to be held in contempt.
For those of you bashing my character, not that I need to explain myself to you but I’m an adult. I work for the Federal Government and I was asking your opinion on how to fix this. I am WELL aware that he said/she said does not play out in court. My question was simply how do I get my daughter’s father to stop playing the cat/mouse game, how to be a good father, support his daughter and rather than leaving her with his parents to go out and party- SPEND TIME WITH HER. Do not bash my character, you don’t know me. I work my ass off to make sure she is being brought up in a positive home. I don’t need your negativity. For those experienced, I need your advice. For those not experiences, get a damn life and go be bored somewhere else..
Me and my ex husband have been divorce since june 09. We got joint custody. I was never at the divorce hearing because i was never notify of the court date so what he put down he got. My ex has a new child before we was divorce. Even though we live in different states and he is in the army a phone isn’t that hard to do.He never calls to check up on my son he calls like once a month he gives me child support because he has he said he wouldn’t give it to me but since he has to he does. Now I want to take him back to court because I was sole custody of my 2 year old son. My son has been in my custody since day 1. My ex never sent him a birthday card no christmas gifts his mom gets my son gifts and puts my exs name on it. He makes it seem like he is father of the year. everyone knows he has a daughter but they dont know he has a son. So I want to go back to court to get full custody more child support and to make him pay for daycare since I cant get a job in the daytime since both my parents work and dont get home til like 5 or 6. He refuses to pay for daycare or even help me. I start school next month and have to go at night because I have no one to watch my son in days and that’s why its impossible for me to get a job because no one wants to hire me because of my hours of 6-close most jobs night hours are 5-11.
Im not trying to be some bitter women but you just have to put yourself in my shoes. I just think my son deserves better and I dont want to share my son with someone who doesn’t care about him just because he didn’t want a boy but now has a daughter doesn’t mean anything. Any advice how I can get this court case started??? By the way Im 21 I live in VA and my ex i dont know where he stays he lies about his locations with me
The amount of child support is already spelled out in the divorce decree, but can it be raised? Lowered?
OK, here are more details:
I’m in AZ.
The decree was issued 1.5 years ago.
My raise was about 5%.
My wife has just left me for her ex. They were together for 7 years and have 2 children. Me and her JUST got married. We been together for about one and a half years. She had her kids calling me daddy. He has been a dead beat father to them. He’s hit them, neglected them on his weekends, and not payed any child support. I am in the Marines. He has nothing to offer her. Yeah me and her had problems but nothing to big to work a marriage. She has done this before and left me but came back to me. But last time she left me for another Marine and he just wanted her for one thing. I’m hurting now. She has always said how she will never go back to him. He is a dead beat and has absolutely nothing to offer her. He even still lives with Mommy at 26. What should I do? She even went as far as serving me for divorce. I posted this question earlier and got alot of "just leave hers" yes I know! But I want to know if she’ll come back to me. What do I do to get her back to me? I know she loves me and I know she’s confused. WHAT DO I DO? Any marriage can be saved!!!
he worked all year, but we received AFDC, i started working in November 2009. since we split i have not received any child support from my ex.
My ex has a new baby on the way and has stated that he will use the money to support that child.
I am a good father. I have a 7 year old girl and 5 year old boy. I have a 5 bedroom home. They have their own rooms. I get them every Thursday. I take them to school every Friday morning. On my weedends, I pick them back up Friday and take them to school Monday. I had to beg for this time. I told my ex that if she would give me that time I would agree to my Child Support to go up. My child support tripled and I took on twice the total time with my kids.
The point is that I love spending time with my kids and I would give anything to spend more time with them. I have never missed a weekend and provide med insurance for them, I provide them with their own rooms, their own clothes, toys, movies, music, take them to church. I do all of these things and yet I still get grief from their step dad, he tells me I’m not a man when I came to pick my kids up today. He told me that my child support of ,300 + 0 for med insurance isn’t enough and she isn’t happy and the important thing is to keep her happy. And that I will screw everything up and if I want everyone to get along I need to give her a check tonight. (She spent her money assuming the new C.S. check was coming and it’s not due till my next check. And she says I should have told her. I told her, I don’t write the check and she new it wasn’t due yet, but for some reason… I owe her. Not according to the attorney general but according to her. But yet instead of talking to me she gets her husband to go talk to me when I pick my kids up.
The last time he did this, I arranged for my kids (with my ex) to pick my kids up on her sunday because they were the ring barrer and flower girl in my brother’s wedding. When I showed up, HE decided he didn’t like that idea, wouldn’t let me have them when I showed up, pulled a gun on me, told me to leave and slammed the door. I punched the window on his door and ended up getting 10 months probation, 80 hours community service and paid back ,500 to him for the window and court fees.
So how do I get this to stop. She won’t stop it, she is the one provoking it. He is very very cocky and irrogant. The most irregant person I have every known. He has a way of pushing your buttons because he knows I can do nothing about it. When I was married to my ex, she knew him and mentioned he was an irregant prick that treats his wife like crap… So I just don’t know what to do. It takes every pride swallowing inch of my buddy to not beat the crap out of him. I don’t fight, but this guy wouldn’t be a problem. He was always the guy making more money, and providing more than I could for my kids. This last past year I got a huge pay raise, new house, new truck. My ex wife is very materialistic and I have all the things the begged me to have when we were together. He can’t get them for her and now I have them with my current wife. I don’t know if this has anything to do with it. Like he has to belittle me because of his self esteem issues…
My father has never been denied access to his grandchildren. He’s been invited to all birthdays, holidays, etc, he has babysat, they have visited etc. But he rarely sees them or asks about them except for holidays. This isn’t shocking as he left when I was nine years old and was gone for 10 years. Came back when child support wasn’t expected of him anymore. We’ve never had a problems respecing my kids until now.
Now he has contacted my ex behind my back, set up meetings between my ex and him and the kids and even called my ex instead of me to say he had a present for my son for his bday but never called me who the kids live with. And didn’t even contact me to tll me anything, I find out from my son and my ex!
He has always been manipulative, blaming my mother for HIS abandoning his children, never taking any responsibility. I bit my tongue so my kids at least knew him but now he is up to his drama and games again. There is also a court procedure going on with my ex and myself, but we do get along very well considering (me and my ex).
I confronted him and told him it was manipulative and disloyal and wrong to be doing this behind my back and gave a sob story abut how I keep the kids from him, blantantly bullshitting me to my face. He had the kids overnight one week before contacting my ex! So this is a lie he is using as an excuse for his actions. I have told him, considering all he has done, this is the last straw and I want nothing to do with him.
Am I right to be upset?
My father likes playing games with people..he played me and my sister against each other for years. Now that we get along, this is his new target.
His excuse to me was that I never let him see the kids then admitted the week before he had them overnight! So this is a huge game to him. He expects everything to be handed to him and never make an effort. He pops round for glory visits on holidays and then the kids never hear from him
My father likes playing games with people..he played me and my sister against each other for years. Now that we get along, this is his new target.
His excuse to me was that I never let him see the kids then admitted the week before he had them overnight! So this is a huge game to him. He expects everything to be handed to him and never make an effort. He pops round for glory visits on holidays and then the kids never hear from him
A friend of mine has an ex-wife who is lying about her income to obtain more child support from my friend. He needs to obtain her W-2s for this year and the past 5 years, but doesn’t know how to do it. After much web searching and asking, I was hoping someone here would have the answer. Can you petition a court to make her employer hand over these papers? Can you request them from the IRS directly? Any help would be appreciated. Thank you!
They have two children together and now she is remarried with two more children. Neither her or her husband work and they are perfectly capable. They live off the system and child support from my husband. Recently she has been arrested for deception to obtain dangerous drugs, ovi, child endg. We have talked to a lawyer to get custody but were told that we probabaly wouldn’t get it (wonderful ohio laws) however now she is trying to raise child support. Why is it that my husband is expected to and is happy to provide for his children but she doesn’t have to? If a non-custodial parent chooses not to provide there are laws against that but the custodial parent doesn’t have to contribute anything except filling out some paperwork to receive more $ either in support or from the system. We are infuriated that we are supporting the whole household (ex-wife, new husband, and all four kids) when only two kids are my husbands. She gets 0 a month and now wants more. My husband is a hardworker and has had his job for 13 years. This just does not seem right. Does anyone have any ideas on what we can do to change this
my husband and I got married and I was wondering if his ex wife can now go after my income to increase her child support. Would it be better if my husband and I kept our money separate?
http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/1961294/
Raleigh — A man who was pardoned after spending 18 years behind bars for a rape he didn’t commit has been sued for child support for the years he was in prison.
Should he be responsible for child support he could have been paying while he was in prison, even though he was wrongfully convicted?
If not who should pay it? Should any back child support be paid?
Husband filed for divorce but has not taken the steps to try and finish it. I’m still in love…help!?
We’ve been separated for a while…we have 2 young children together. He filed for divorce 7 mos ago but has not taken the steps to finish it. It seems like he wants me to finish it for him since I have a lawyer and he doesn’t, but that shouldn’t stop him from moving on with the papers himself. We have nothing to divide or settle, really. I’ve filed for child support and was granted sole custody last week (filed these things way before he filed for a divorce).
I have been moving on with all areas of my life except in the love dept. I’ve gone back to school to work on a 2nd degree in the medical field and to also work on my MBA part-time. He on the other hand has not improved as much…deep inside I feel he is a great guy who has made some real bad mistakes (in our marriage) and I feel like we can, if we both put in the effort, to be a family again.
I don’t like feeling like I still love him but sometimes can’t help it because we were once together and we have kids together.
A good friend told me to make sure I have peace about any decisions I make regarding the divorce. My Pastor told me to let the divorce go on (the process) and to not get in the way of it. Well, my feeling like it’s all on him, it’s his decision because he is the one who filed it.
He’ll call once in a while and while I’d rather keep our convos strictly about the kids, he will go off topic discussing his life and asking questions about mine…but doing it in a way that makes it not obvious.
Sometimes, when my kids are talking to him, he’ll ask them where I am or what I’m doing. He may also tell them to give the phone to me, but most of the time I refuse to speak because it still hurts and I feel I would be well on my way to the road towards healing if I cut him off. I mean he can call the kids when ever he’d like, but I don’t think I can be friends with him and not feel anything for him at the same time.
What do you guys think about this? He said he wants someone who wants to do something good with their life and someone who is moving towards a positive direction..including someone who puts God first. And I’m thinking to myself (you HAD her…me…) I’ve even abstained from sex for almost 3 years because it is my belief that I only share my body with my husband.
Sometimes I feel like yelling at him and telling him "you’re looking for something that you already know!!!!!!!" But like others have told me…it’s just best to let it go, he will come back (and straighten up) if it’s meant to be…
what do you think?
it hurts to think I should personally cut him off…but then again it may help me to heal even better…
We haven’t seen each other in almost 3 years.
I’m planning to take a trip where he lives (with our kids) this summer. to also get a sense of closure…
He told me about 2 weeks ago that he does not have any animosity towards me (he was the one unfaithful in the marriage) and that HE is tired and wants to be free. Well, ok, well I feel like HE is the who filed, HE is the one who’s been living a single life. Why should I be the one to finish it? I know it is not good to stay in limbo for a long time. If this continues, I eventually will have to decide to finish it for him, but I don’t feel comfortable doing it now…
In addition, should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just leave things alone and let the chips fall where they may…
He passed away and his ex wife (my half sisters mother) is trying to get her money through his life insurance policy. Remind you he left this money for his KIDS. It has been 11 years since any legal action has been taken. Please help!
my man of 3yrs borrows money from his ex-wife. Ok…his ex-wife takes him to court for back child support that he does NOT owe the court system in the US does not favor fathers and he is an excellent father, however the ex still..in my opinion has control over him. The balance is let’s say 500.00. She agrees to meet him and give him the money to pay it. Should I con’t a relationship with him. She’s always doing something for attn.She keeps up drama and bulls—- all the time. What Can I or Should I do?
Last year, I requested that the state review my ex’s income to see if my son was eligible for an increase in child support. I had not asked for a review in 9 years. He had a huge increase in income in those 9 yrs. so the state increased his child support. He was furious and since then, has been doing whatever possible to get back at me. He only sees my son about every 3-5 months, and on both visitations he has exercised since then, he has refused to bring my son back home, refused to meet me halfway, refused to allow me to pick him up early, and even refused to take him to the airport (15-20 mintutes away from his house). This meant that I had to drive over 6 hours to pick my son up at 6:00 pm, and he didn’t get back home until 1:00 am both times, and had to get up at 6:00 am to go to school. My ex isn’t concerned with doing this to my son at all. It is all about getting back at me. I spoke to a lawyer, who suggested that I write my ex a certified letter, before taking it to court.
This lawyer actually said that if he were me, he would refuse to allow my ex to pick my son up, unless he agreed to do what was right for my son and either bring him home at a decent hour, or agree to meet me halfway. He wants me to at least try to write a letter first, informing him of exactly what he is doing to our son, and then if my ex refuses to listen to reason, then I could take it to court.
What should I say in this letter, to make it to the point, and not about what I want or what my ex wants, but more about what is in my sons best interest?
Just to point out: My ex has visitation rights every other weekend, every spring break, every summer, every other thanksgiving, and a week at christmas. HE chooses not to exercise those. I have tried to encourage him to exercise more visitations. He makes excuses why he can’t. I have suggested that he call my son more often than 3-4 times a year. He still won’t. I have asked him to stop leaving our son with family members for most of his visitations that he does exercise. He gives me nothing but excuses. I am not the cause of my ex not seeing my son more often. He does that all on his own.
The reason I am trying to resolve this, is because I have had to watch my son, who by the way is 11, cry when I have gotten him up for school, when he has only gotten 5 hours of sleep. That is what is not fair. His "revenge" against me over the child support, is hurting my son. I am more than willing to meet him halfway, but he is refusing out of nothing more than spite. My son has complained numerous times about how my ex treats him, but there isn’t anything that I would be able to call CPS about.
i have a 2year old son with my ex boyfriend. we recently broke up after seven years. he lives in WA and im in MI. am i able to apply for child support if we were never married? hes the father, we established paternity, hes on the birth certificate. but without child support, hes made it clear that our son is "my problem" so im not expecting any help unless its all done legally. any info?
My ex has only ben paying 0 a month in child support for the last 9 1/2 yrs. In my state, I could have requested a review of his child support every 3 yrs, which would have been in 2001, again in 2004 and now in 2007. I just now requested one and based on my ex’s current bring home income of roughly ,000, and my son being his only child, his child support was set at a little over 0.00 a month. He was furious and called me every name in the book, including money hungry. I also had someone tell me that we should both be paying for 50% of my sons care, and unless his monthly care was 00, then 0 was too much. Here is how I looked at it: Based on his current income, I "guessed" at what he would have been bringing home in 2001 and 2004 and what his child support might have been set each time, minus the 0 he was paying. If my "guesstimate" was close to accurate, he actually got out of paying me close to ,000 over the last 6 1/2 yrs because I didn’t ask for a review.
When my son was not yet in school, I payed between 0 and for daycare. Even if you average that out at lets say , that would have been a little more than 0 a month that I payed in daycare. My ex’s 0.00 a month didn’t even cover 50% of that, much less leave any left over for food, clothes, etc. I had to have a job to provide my 50%, but I actually ended up providing more than my 50%. However my ex doesn’t look at it that way. He thinks that I take his child support and spend it on myself or on my youngest child. I did tell my son that we would take alot of this child support, if I actually end up getting it, and put it in a savings account for him to use to buy a truck when he turns 16. I don’t see how that makes me money hungry.
My son is 11.
I know that this is very much possible and it does and has happened, but on what grounds does this really become an option for her?
By the way, we try and take care of his kids all the time, but she wants CASH (not clothing or things for the kids) in order to get name brand things for herself and plastic surgery.
he’s on SSI so he does not work but they can’t take his SSI.
ok to make this more clear… He already won his case cause he has SSI so they cant take that from him. my question is…. Can she re open this case and come after me?
If i were to get married could my ex-wife go after my new wives assets for back child support i owe?
I was out of work for some time and fell behind on my obligation. Its been over 10 yrs since my divorce and i am ready to make that commitment again. However i am concerned about my future wives assets and don’t want to put her in harms way. Can anyone help with my question?
