He and I met at school last November. We hung out at his place. In the very beginning, he seemed so perfect. He had a very nice attitude, treated me right and I fell in love. He told me he loved me first though. Our relationship grew although we were never boyfriend and girlfriend. He would refer to me as his "future girlfriend." I never asked why because i didn’t want to seem clingy or like I was trying to tie him down. Sometimes when I was with him, he would get texts from other girls. One night I got pissed and walked out and he managed to turn the whole thing around on me. Shortly after, we ended it. I moved on with my life and even got back with my ex boyfriend of 4 years. We stopped talking for a bit until he texted me one night, stupidly I drove over there at 11 pm and he and I had sex. Then he told me that he was seeing a new girl. I went home feeling worse than ever so I told him that I wanted to stop talking if she was in the picture because I couldn’t share him and he ignored me. I cried for weeks about it. I was so heartbroken, but I got over it and moved to a new city.
The one day at school, he came up to me and begged for me back. He told me that he wanted to treat me how I deserved and that he thought about me every day and night. I believed him and let him back in my life. He said that he lost my phone number and that he would search for my car at school when he knew i had class so he could put a note on my car. He searched for me for weeks. A week later, he showed up with flowers and chocolate and he seemed to have really changed. Keep in mind, that there were problems, he would tell me to shut up when I was talking or simply telling him something. He would ignore me and force me to have sex with him. I would say no and he would force it. I didn’t see this as a serious problem but it bothered me deep down. We have a really great connection and have a lot of fun together so we kept seeing eachother. He said he wanted me to be his girlfriend and that he would ask me when the timing was right. I told him I wanted to go on a real date and he promised that he would take me that Friday. Then on Friday, he canceled saying that he just payed his bills and cant afford to take me out. I was upset but I just said, well can we at least hang out this weekend and he didnt reply. So I thought long and hard about this over that weekend and decided that he takes me for granted and that I’m done. I mean he promised he would change and it only lasted 2 weeks. So I began ignoring his texts all week and then at the end of the week i ended it and said that I thought about how he treated me and I didnt like it. Since then, he backed off for a couple weeks until one night when he called and texted a bunch of time begging me to come to his place, offering dinner and told me how sorry he was. I declined. Since then, he’s been texting every couple days, saying things like "Goodmorning Beautiful. How are you?" I haven’t replied but then today, he sent a text that said "goodmorning beautiful. I know you hate me but I miss you and care about you a lot. I hope you are doing well." I didn’t reply, although i feel like I should say something. He has put me through so much. We had a lot of good times but there was so much pain that went a long with him. It seems like he doesn’t appreciate me until I’m nearly gone.
Now I’ve managed to save face and my dignity by ending it myself and turning him down. But I am tempted to see him again. What should I do? Should I text him back? What should I say? Should I hang out with him?
I do miss him. But he hurt me worse than I’ve ever been hurt in my life.
I should say that since then he’s apologized and we talked on the phone once. he told me that he needed to "put everything on the table" and explain to me things that are going on his personal life that effect him and I. I said ok, then tell me and he said that he wasn’t able to say it over the phone and that it would be better to talk in person. I said, no this is your chance and he said he had to go.
i can definitely live without him. I used to love him but that was not the real him. I really just want him to get out of my life for good. but he won’t and every time, he contacts me, I feel compromised and conflicted. But I feel like I always make the right decision by not saying anything at all. I hate that he has so much of an effect on me still.
I just wish thaty this weekend can help them love each other more. 
