I’ve been married for ten years. The last five have been difficult and my husband asked me to date others- after faking a relationship for a year I finally met someone- and our romance grew. After 9 months I thought it was time to leave my marriage but I find that I am holding back from committing with my boyfriend. Now after 3 months of seperation, during which my estranged husband was wonderful and understanding- everything he wasnt when we were together- he has asked for a second chance after he has determined that I have second thoughts about the BF. This is my question. Husband for ten years- knows me the best- wonderful father- excellent provider- who basically gave me away. Boyfriend- excellent lover-positive &socially active as I like to be-with clinginess and maybe not as intelligently inclined as I would like. I care for them both very much. But im thinking of my children and my future. Husband is stable we have a home- boyfriend is a renter and needs to quit smoking.help
I know its weird! Trust me I didnt think he was serious- at first it was a fantasy that later got stronger for the real thing- which is why I faked it for a year that I was with someone else. He now says it was the worst mistake to ever share me. I agree its weird- im not asking you to chose- maybe im asking whats the best way to chose and what I should consider. and you are probably right- maybe I should be alone first and figure out what I need to do for myself before involving other lives.
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I like this ALOT. I’ve liked him for a while, but…he has a girlfriend. They’ve only been dating like 2 months but still. The things is, I never really like guys thatmuch but I really like him. And he would flirt with me and stuff and talk about me all the time in gym ( my bff has his period gym) and he never even mentions his girlfriend when all the guys talk about theirs….but he’ll talk about me. He says and seems to think I don’t really have much interest in him, PLUS he was talking to my ex in gym who hates me. He was sticking upo for me and stuff when my ex said I was ugly but then he said "She will like a guy for the longest time and as soon as she gets with him, she stops liking them and dumps them" and the guy I like was like "….she does that?" and he had said to my bff without really admitting "say a guy…breaks up with is gf to go out with her…and he gets attacthed…then she dumps him…he’d be crushed" well since then, we’ve ttalked on myspace and such and now I’m in bball class with him. And he like always wants to hang out with me and keeps asking me about it, but we’re both kind of grounded. And he always IMs me whenever he can get on myspace…like he just IMs me first and it seems like he really wants to be friends with me.
But it confuses me because….could he possibly like me and really wants to get to know me and go out with me and his gf…he’s only dating her for status….just to have a gf? I mean I don’t know her personally at all, but people have told me she’s super clingy and annoying…but idk…I mean he has so somewhat like her to be dating her right? But then why would he be pursuing me so much?
&& my biggest question (to get to the point) is: From what I’ve gathered I THINK he might be really into me but he’s nervous because of what my ex said and that fact that he’s so use to clinginess and girls admitting they like him but with me…he kind of knows I like him but I’m not very aggressive at all about it like I don’t try to talk to him…it’s always HIM talking to me….but the last two days we’ve been having a long conversation the enture period while we sat out on gym. And we always hug each other goodbye. And when we were passing each other through the doors in the monring I thought maybe his gf would be there so I just waved and passed by but he pulled me back and said "Uh uh I get a HUG" and I laughed and hugged him. So like we’re getting to know each other now….but he still has the gf…so even if something happens…is he going to break up with her for me?
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