An ex-girlfriend of mine who cheated on me and cleaned me out a few years back has started employment at my job the past 6 months (She’s in her mid 20′s…I’m 2 years younger than her and thought I was in love). She has taken it upon herself to gloat to others about stealing over 0 dollars cash from me, taken all my cd’s (some 200 CD’s), laptop, and one of the very first mp3 players that came out. Basically over 4 grand in items.

When she started work, she was rubbing it in my face (she is very snobby in person, and has many preppy friends who drive brand new SUV’s and high-end cars. She also has many "tough guy athletic jock" guy friends who like to push other people around). I was willing to let bygones be bygones and move on. She hit the wrong buttons with me. This is at an medium sized lending institution. The job I have is my dream job. She also wants a career in this field.
She can’t afford to leave this job (base salary is 41,500 a year with raises for good performance). No other places in town offer this pay, and her only alternative is McDonalds. She has stated to a female co-worker that only death will keep her from working here…she "enjoys" messing with me and needs the good pay to help her ailing mother.

In addition to making me the laughing stock of my workplace, she is VERY RUDE to me. I’ve done a few retaliatory things to make her life a living hell. The boss and I are personal friends. Our agreement is I pay him 0 a week (money talks and so does being friends with the boss) to make her life at work a living hell. He’s written her up, made her do all the hard work, and even allowed others to stay clocked in for lunch while she clocks out. This is effective since she doesn’t plan on quitting for nothing, so revenge can be exacted in a daily fashion and I won’t have to worry about her leaving one day. I get my money’s worth.
At our monthly meeting, he gave certificates for outstanding performance. I got two certificates, and she got a janitor of the day certificate (handed to her in front of everyone else). The boss told the Janitor that he was HER boss for the day…and he got to sit at her desk the whole day! Most of the employees (excluding her female co-worker friends) were laughing. It’s escalated to a 2 side battle. Mostly glares from her friends to my friends and vice versa.

She was instructed to clean everything, including the restrooms. One of my buddies accidentally dropped feces covered toilet paper on the floor and smeared some feces on the wall and toilet seat. We all urinated on the floor and she had to mop it up. I dropped snot tissues and other trash next to my cubicle and she had to pick them up! She ended up crying that day because the boss yelled at her about refusing to wipe the feces off the wall.
My car was keyed BADLY after her janitor of the day job. Word got around that she knew I helped to arrange that. Me and my buddies went to her house one night after my car was keyed, and jacked her car (A 2006 Acura which was fully paid for and only liability insured) up on jack stands. We drained the oil out of the oil pan, and placed a pornographic picture of an 80 year old granny with her head pasted on the picture with a "this is war" notation on her windshield.

She was late to work the next day by 3 hours. After the boss and I talked, I told him NOT to fire her but to let my buddies and I leave 3 hours early, and she had to stay until 8 PM to make up for her tardiness. We got off at 2 PM but got paid for the remaining 3 hours…she was also aware of this fact. I was informed that she had a breakdown at work and threatened severe violence upon me. The boss wrote her up and I made a police report with his full support.
If she screws up again, she’s fired. She came up to me a week later in tears after she had a performance deficiency meeting with the boss. She said she didn’t understand why I was doing all this to her. She said the following things: she was out a car and has to buy a clunker, she’s lost weight and can’t keep food down due to the stress at work, people around town call her slut and disrespect her, if she lost this job her mom would loose her house and her mom refuses to leave town, she refuses to work at McDonald’s because to her McDonalds workers are peons. Basically she was giving me the sob story. She then stated that she will get me some way some how for all this. After I told her the stuff she did to me, she stated "I’m a girl, your supposed to keep your mouth shut and take all this like a man…if you don’t then you are a womanizer and an abuser." I told her an eye for an eye. She scoffed and walked away, saying I had no morals.
I’ve so far made redemption for all the things I got stolen from me. Her life is very unenjoyable right now. Someone also took it upon themselves to gain access to her personal information. They’ve opened up 3 credit cards in her name and plan on giving those cards to people for a small sum of cash so they can get gas at the pump or make online purchases, used her bank account to open up several online payday loans, and also used her bank account to purchase a layaway agreement with Blue Hippo (online computer layaway program for people with bad credit…her purchase was a 0 dollar downpayment on an overpriced rent to own desktop). She has blamed me for a considerable sum of money missing from her bank account. I had nothing to do with it.
The background on this entire situation is my willingness to turn the other cheek. She has constantly attacked me and I have finally fought back. When she used bullets, I used .50 ML tank rounds. When she used cruise missles, I used nukes. Everything she did, I did back tenfold.

I have in my possession, several bottles of: vomit fluid (induces vomiting and causes "violent projectile vomit" like a kid vomits when he is sick), and the evacuator (causes bowels to loosen and suddenly purge with no control over the muscle). I tested the green gas bottle on myself and it does work (it causes uncontrollable farting). http://www.spymall.com/catalog/revenge.htm
Go to that link if you also want revenge at a somewhat hefty sum of cash. My question is, could this be the nuke that causes her to finally admit defeat and leave town. I plan on the vomit fluid one day, and the evacuator fluid the next. I’ve informed my boss of the plan, and he will distract her from her cubicle with the lure of a good performance report meeting. After this, I will concede from this battle and still be on heightened alert incase she plans another attack.

To anyone who feels it prudent to use someone, then cheat on them, then steal from them, and think that’s acceptable; you have another thing coming. She had some nerve to say I’m being a jerk and unreasonable. She also has some nerve thinking she didn’t do anything wrong, and I should’ve let her do all this just because she is a girl?! Overall, I feel very satisfied.
Due to the stress at work and everything happening, her and her fiancee broke up (she blames me) because of her crazy enemies and him not wanting to deal with the drama. She most likely has ruined credit when the bills for those 3 cards go unpaid within a few months. She may owe hundreds or thousands of dollars. She is also out 0 to Blue Hippo Funding.

Remember, you can either take it and let someone run your life. Or you can take charge of your own life and make them run away defeated. Did I do a good job or what?
Thanks very much for the candid responses. My intentions are not to harm her physically (that would land me in hot water), but harming her emotionally is my goal. The liquid vials I plan on using WONT have long term effects. For 10 to 12 bucks a dose, they do work good.

Fight fire with fire is what I do best.

What my boss and I did isn’t illegal or against company policy in the sense that no sexual harassment took place. Everything was within company policy because she has performance deficiencies. She is reprimanded or punished as such. The best part is my boss is allowing me to be open and candid about her work performance. I even have say in what happens.

I have my finger pressed on the big red button. If I press the button, she’s fired. I can tell him to fire her, and he will find one little reason to fire her, and poof she’s gone.

It costs me 100 dollars a week, and he needs the money. I need the firepower that he commands. So we have a good agreement, with great results!



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My husband is 41 years old, works as an EMT and just recently started back to school to become a Paramedic and refers to this single 20 yr. old girl as his "school buddy". I have never met her but have seen her profile on FB and she is a very attractive girl. My hubby is very outgoing, friendly and yes at times flirty and loves to meet new people and make new friends. I suggested that he introduce her to our 18 year old son and he refused basically saying our son, he has had some problems, needed to grow up first and more or less wasn’t good enough for any of his female friends and he didn’t want it to come back and bite him in the ass if it didn’t work out. He says that their texting and calls are harmless. I had looked at his texts once before a few months ago and saw what I considered to be a suspicious text to a single female co-worker, also in her 20′s, that I do not know. It was a message that read, "Hope you get well soon" with a heart and XOXOXOXO. When I confronted him about it he flipped out and told me it was a joke towards her ’cause she is always whining about no one caring and I was reading something into it that wasn’t there and he thought it was a sweet and considerate gesture on his part and that I had no business going through HIS phone and told me if I didn’t change my attitude it was only going to lead to divorce because he is sick of me being suspicious. When this new girl started texting and I questioned it he told me I might misread something into the messages if I didn’t know what the message was all about and I told him it wouldn’t be hard to find out what they were about if the outgoing and incoming texts were checked, I know stupid on my part. A couple of days ago he told me he had no problem with me going through his phone but when I did he has been deleting all sent and received messages by these other women. We have been together for 14 years, married for 2 1/2, and as far as I know he has never cheated on me. He tells me how much he loves me and I am the only one for him but then when I bring up how much the texting other women, especially young single ones that I do not know, upsets and offends me he tells me I am being ridiculous and I’m just going to have to get over it or I’ll drive myself crazy. He has been my best friend for so long and I am always afraid of someone else taking that away from me. I hate feeling this way and don’t know how to get past it.
He tried to point out that he has just as many male friends that he texts as females. I told him it wasn’t the males I was concerened about and that he spends enough time with these "friends" at work and school and I wouldn’t have a problem with the texting if it was just school or work related but he does not agree. He says he has nothing to hide but the fact that I would even need to check his phone, etc…. proves to him that I don’t trust him. To him it is an invasion of trust and privacy. Just to clarify, I do not have a cell phone, even if I did I would not sit around and text men other than my husband, brother or sons.
Okay, so we got into a heated discussion about this situation last night and I was told that he isn’t screwing around with any of these women so he sees nothing wrong with the texting and calls. I tried to explain to him that I never said he shouldn’t have female friends, he always has and I know that and I can’t control the texting when he is away from home but I hardly get to see him as it is and he is around these other women all of the time whether it be at school or work and I would just appreciate it if the texting would stop when he is at home spending time with me. He says he can’t stop them texting when he’s at home. I told him yes you can, ignore it when they do. Told him that I wasn’t accussing him of screwing around but I know that an emotional relationship between a man & woman can turn into more. He is unwilling to do this. I have basically been told I have turned a molehill into a mountain and my insecurity issues are the problem and I need to learn how to deal with them


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My ex boyfriend cheated on me, 2 times I took him back because i really did love him. We we’re in the process of getting married, and I found out that he was seeing a co-worker. To be honest I was happy to find out, so I could release the stress of worrying and wondering. I kicked him out. It’s been 6 months, and I’ve moved on. After 3 months of being with the other woman, she kicked him out and now he’s begging for me back. I dont want anything to do with him. He calls me everyday… I never pick up, so when I dont pick up, he texts me, asking why Im not picking up, and that he loves me ,and needs me.
Now he realizes that Im the best thing that ever happend to him, and that he has made a huge mistake. What can I do or say to let him understand that I dont want him anymore?


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What The Hell Is Going On!!

WHY IS HE ACTING LIKE THIS? WHO SHOULD EAT CROW AND MAKE THE FIRST CALL?

I’m in a sticky situation…I started dating this guy at work after almost 2 years of knowing him. He is a very sweet guy…perfect in every way.

He stated that he had always admired me from afar but was too shy to make a move. When we first started dating which was about 3 months ago, we were inceperable, things were just moving way to fast, we were talking marriage, moving in together and babies…crazy fast. Due to the fact I work to jobs and have a 17 year old and a 15 year old, felt like I wasnt putting my all into the relationship and calling him and trying to see him started to turn into a chore and I became frustrated.

I felt that since we couldn’t spend quality time together and I deserved and he deserved all that a relationship has to offer that I should pull back and take a couple steps back. He wasn’t to happy with my decsion even started crying on the phone and told me how much he loved me through the tears…I finally got him to accept that I just need time to reevaluate, but he was still being a little to clingy by coming into my office and asking me stupid questions just to hold a conversation with me. So then I just started focusing on my work and putting my all into my job.

He says that I was being cold towards him which maybe I was…I just needed some space and time to think which he wasnt giving me like he said he would. But here is my problem the other day he forwarded to me a text message joke from an ex girlfriend of his at 1:00 in the morning! I specifically told him when we were in a relationship to never forward ANYTHING to me from your ex girlfriend. I said it is rude and disrespectfull.

Also the other day he went to lunch with a female co-worker who is married. I came around the corner and here I see him and her getting out of his car! He is the type to hang with the girls at work, take cigarette breaks with them etc…and when we were toether he stopped hanging with the girls out of respect for me. I just couldn’t believe that for a guy that was so distraught about me pulling back and I was doing it for OUR benefit that he would just dismiss what we had and go back to his old ways.

I would think that to prove to me that he wanted me and only me and that we could get through this as a couple that he wouldn’t be hanging with the girls and going to lunch. I am more mad then hurt…and I did text him the other day about him going to lunch with the co-worker…and he said…at least I know you still care about me because I can tell you were upset when you saw us!!!

I told him I wasnt upset (I am not the jealous type) I was more hurt and mad!! I just dont know what to do…we don’t talk anymore at the office he walks by all the time and I can see him looking in on me. Who is supposed to break this silence first him or me?

Ok…grant it I did want space…but is it right for him to try to make me jealous…why is he doing this? Can someone help me and read into this situation and this mans mind. I am 36 and he is 27. Please don’t judge me…no one in the office knows that we were dating…we were very private…but the tension you can cutt with a knife!! HELP
I meant to say he is 29 I am 36…sorry.

Please guys I need solid advice…the damage has already been done…Ive dated him…can’t change that…please don’t be critical…I really need advice.

THANKS!

No Sailor…I do not work for a Bank…why? Did my question hit close to home? if so sorry…thank you for your response…feel free to elaborate…thank you.


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I accept ALL people of ALL faiths and religions in this world unconditionally. Although I differ with some aspects of some of these religions, I understand where all of them come from and I completely accept all of them.

As for me, I consider myself a student of all things spiritual.

Now, I have a co-worker who’s a born-again Christian. She is a lovely, wonderful woman. But she continually misunderstands me and my beliefs. Often she tries to explain the Bible to me. I just listen intently, without offering my true feelings about the book. I choose to keep whatever my feelings are to myself, as to respect her faith and beliefs.

I do not think she is ready to know and to grasp what I learned throughout my spiritual studies. Actually, I think she is SCARED to death of knowing what I know. She completely denies the little I’ve told her as being false. That is completely okay with me. I am not here to save her or anyone else. And I’m definitely not here to impose my beliefs on anyone else either.

Anyway, yesterday I sent some of my co-workers a BEAUTIFUL poem by Lebanese poet Khalil Gibran, from his book entitled THE PROPHET.

Now, the poem talks about a true marriage and how two people can achieve happiness in marriage.

In any case, it was a POEM! It had nothing to do with religion or anything like that. And, might I add, it was a gorgeous, wonderful piece of literature too.

She wrote me back only: "A prophet? What kind of prophet?"

Now… tell me if I’m wrong in assuming that she didn’t even READ the poem! It looks to me like she got stuck on the word "prophet" and completely missed the whole point of the poem (how to have a happy and healthy marriage).

Thanks for reading this, folks. It’s just that… I’m having a little hard time deciding whether or not to share anything else with this woman. I do like her but… her mind seems to be closed shut at this time…

What do you all think?

Thanks.

Love and blessings to all.
Priรciℓℓα ☼… yeah! That’s a great idea!
Deep Thought, I’m seriously considering that. If she doesn’t even read what I send her and completely pre-judges everything… what’s the point of trying to share anything with her…
crystal, I’ve been thinking the same thing. However, she cannot help herself and trying to "Christianize" every one of us. She gives me things to read too. I read them. It doesn’t bother me. I think Jesus Christ was one of the brightest lights to ever be born on this planet. And I love his teachings!
Sara, what you wrote is just GORGEOUS! And so true. Thank you so much for that!!!!
Ginchi, I disagree with you about Gibran. And… I don’t think of myself as better or worse than her. I just think all I know is so completely foreign to her that it would probably take her sometime to assimilate everything. How do I know this? Because it took me years to get to where I am. And I LOOKED and SEARCHED. *smiles*

Thanks for your answer, though. A little crabby, but I’ll take it anyway. :)
You also make a good point, "Follow Jesus." Maybe I should have explained the whole thing to her…

But I thought it best to just let the whole thing alone for a while, while I thought about the best way to deal with it. I don’t want to hurt her feelings in any way, shape of form.
Thanks for a lovely and inspiring reply, Sherry. :)


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