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Avoid Divorce If You Know What’s Good For You

Let me guess, your relationship is on it’s way down the drain, and you are looking for a surefire way to avoid divorce? Are you having a hard time dealing with the fact that you are about to lose the love of your life once and forever. This articles focuses on some of the most important aspects when it comes to saving a relationship in trouble.

Your marriage is falling apart and you know that unless you figure out how to avoid divorce, you will end up just another statistic among the thousands of marriages that end in divorce.  To be exact, half of all marriages result in divorce today.

You can certainly see how you and your spouse are heading that way.  You hardly talk, you don’t have anything in common anymore, you find almost everything that he or she does irritating, and there’s a high chance one or both of you are seeing someone else secretly.

So how does a couple that’s this far gone avoid divorce.  The marriage experts will tell you that there are three critical steps to undertake when you are trying to avoid divorce –

1.  Recommit to the marriage

Marriage is fundamentally about the commitment you made to each other “to have and to hold, in sickness and health, til death do you part” so unless the commitment is still there, there can’t be any marriage.

2.  Putting aside differences, looking for common ground

As in any partnership, the bond is weakened by differences but strengthened by common ground, goals, interests or direction.

3.  Putting in sustained, continuous effort to save the marriage

Don’t think for a second that marriage is easy to save.  It will require commitment, sustained effort and a lot of sacrifice.  If you have to, get professional help.  Most, if not all marriages, that experience a turnaround from almost inevitable divorce benefited from professional counseling.  If you find these too expensive, you may want to go on the Internet and get marriage help in the form of ebooks and e-courses put out by marriage experts.  They are usually more affordable.

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About three months ago I lied to my fiance about texting one of my friend’s friend. I wanted to find out where people were going out etc. she was a girl. I didn’t tell her because I was scared she would get mad. Now, she told me that i had to quit drinking, go to therapy, and take medication. I love this woman with all my heart. we been together for 1 1/2 years. I would do anything for her. I have gone to therapy, taken medication for adhd, quit drinking, quit going out. I don’t talk to the "friends" i had when I was going out anymore. We have had some money troubles so i went out and got a second job. She has no job. I take care of everything. She now says, after all this hard work that I have done that she doesn’t want to be with me. She wants to be friends, but she can not promise anything as to working it out. What sucks is I was making so much progress. She also said she doesn’t want to have kids with me because i have 2 from previous and that it wont b special. What do I do?
all I want to say is..Sunji H,,,you are so wrong to even be on yahoo answers…no are no help to anyone.

I also want to say that she says she can’t trust me. Which I accept and I am doing everything i can to rebuild that. She has all my passwords, access to every call on my cell (we are on a family plan), I know she loves me and that I have been good to her. and I also have hurt her..that is why i have done all this work. I just wish she would love me for who I have become…not my past…is there any way to fix it? I am in counseling, maybe if she came with, it would help.


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I know this is ultimately my decision but I would like to see what others think or what they would do in this situation. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years, together for 6 years (both of us are 26y/o) Throughout our relationship there have been a number of unexplained instances where he’s been online chatting to other women or texting his ex.

He was always hiding his phone & had it on vibe. We even changed his number a couple of times. About 3 years into our relationship we decided to buy a house together to quit wasting money on rent in an apartment. Barely one month after moving into the house i find he had been talking to his ex and even texted some pics of himself (if you know what i mean) to her. I was scared to leave because we had just got this house together so we went to counseling to try and figure things out.

I had started to trust him again and we got married a year later. (yah i know, stupid on my part) We started having issues again, plain old fashioned marriage issues, so we went to another counselor. While there I had brought up what he’d done in the past so everything was out in the open. I thought things were going well, even though there was still some tension between us.

Well in October of last year he had left his email open (an email that i didn’t know he had) and there was an email from one girl saying that she missed him and such blah blah blah. it was dated while we were seeing our second counselor.

The other email was from a different girl that had sent half naked pictures of herself dated July of last year. In June of last year we had started the “family talk”. I just don’t know how any of this makes sense. A little under 2 months before i found those emails, we had really started to distance from each other. It seemed no matter how hard i tried he didn’t want to come to bed, do things around the house, nothing. So when he said he was changing his days off at work so we no longer had one day off together, i just gave up.

I started talking to his best friend. It really was just pure innocent chatting, someone to talk to. After that and the finding of the emails, we separated. We’ve been separated for almost 6 months now and divorce papers filed and a courts appointment the end of April.

This past week I have been thinking a lot about it all and have started missing him. I have been fine without him around for 6 months now but when i think of that court date and us divorcing it brings me to tears. i just don’t want to see this happening in another couple of years. How long do you put up with something before its just to much? I look at all we have together and want it to be ok, but will it ever be ok? Anyone who’s been thru this or going thru this please give me your input or how you dealt. I just don’t trust my own judgment anymore. Thank you for reading all of this, i tried to shorten it a bit.

The first 3 months of separation he tried a lot to “get me back”. said i could quit my job and not have to work, he would do anything to make it work, obsessively called my mom and our friends to talk about us. The night i told him i wanted out he flipped out screaming and crying & my mom ended up calling the sheriffs dept just in case.

He’s left me alone since February minus a few calls to figure divorce stuff out. He actually had me served because i was taking to long to do it but its “what you want” he said.

 


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I’d rather not hear any til death do you part stuff…I already know that.
Here is the kicker – He doesn’t hit me, or cheat, drink too much or anything like that. I am just very unhappy and he is a total workaholic and I don’t feel like I am getting "my money’s worth" so to speak. I love him, but we have a daughter that needs him too and he just is NOT available. Work takes priority over everything, then hobbies, then his personal time. We come last.
This has been going on for 3 years….we have little sex and it is always on his terms, i.e. very quick and unfulfilling and he gets up right away and runs back to his computer. NO romance, no real dialogue and he is always angry…not at me, just in general and he takes it out on me and our daughter. I’m at my wits end and have come to realise I am wasting my time, I can do better and he seems to need to be single so he isn’t pressured to spend time with any family. I guess I wonder if I moved out for a while, if he would even notice
Yes, we’ve talked repeatedly, yes, we’ve gone to counseling, I have tried everything.
I also work full time and am the sole caretaker for home and our child.
I also might add that he does not have a drivers license due to stupid things before I met him…so I have to drive evryone to/from where they need to go.
And the last time I talked to him about seperating he had no clue why, and asked me if I was interested in someone else!?! Completely clueless!
I don’t want to leave and this is upsetting, but i’m kindof freaking out. I can live like this, sure. But who would want to?



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I love my wife; she is younger than me, beautiful and has a great sense of humor. But when she gets mad she starts insulting, beating me and saying terrible things. This is my 8th time that she slaps me in the face or hit me hard with a bat when she gets upset. Every time we receive help from friends, physiologist, she always talks the most awful things about me instead of being at my side. We have been into 4 counseling sessions and the 4 therapist’s advice is to get away from her since she is violent and doesn’t respect… I am trying to avoid divorce and she doesn’t want to get help even though she admit the aggression problem. Now she threat me of comiting suicide.. im going crazy… it seems that the only thing that worries her is being back at her mom’s house or having to work since I provided her with everything. I don’t want to sound as a dork but I am just trying to save this marriage. I just dont know how to handle this and need advice from serious users please.
Everytime I decide for separation she acts like an angel from heaven until the next comfrontation … she just transformed into evil … what should I do.??


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