Things girls dont realize?
1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

4. Guys will to anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-he… how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.

8. Guys don’t care how gorgeous you are, if you’re a *****– Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he’s probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don’t say you aren’t. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don’t want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he’s definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually

35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

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ok i just Finale moved on from a 4yr Relationship & im 19 so i been dating her since i was 15 & its been on a off & on & we broke up in 2008…& a couple days ago my dudes girl friend Hooked me up with Her Friend….& so we met face to face & i made her laugh..& then after all the questions were done it just got plain & stale & quite & im looking around & you know how it is when your watching a Dating show on VH1 take For the Love of Ray J & you know how he trys to make conversation & the girls just sit there that’s How it was & they may say a Few Words.. that’s how it was after a while & my boy & his girl was like Why y’all so quite & i just looked at her…& it seems like there No Connection with me & this new chick now i kinda wanna make this Thing work

& last Night i dreamed about My Ex Girl Friend & im wondering do i still Have Feelings for her

& I Havent talked to my ex since The Day After Thanks Giving, & havent seen her since septemeber since her & her family moved & i havent Texted her Since last month on December 3rd

& on Sum days I’ll Play Chris Brown’s Graffiti Cd & listen to So Cold or I Need this or Crawl

I Need this is About him needing his Space its a Real gud Song

Damn,I want my baby back
It’s so cold without her
Cold without her
She’s gone
Now I’m alone, no one to hold on
Cause she was the only one
And I know I was dead wrong
But if you u u
If you u u
See her sooonn
Ask her will she forgive me

If you ever see her
If you ever meet her
If you ever get a chance to sit down and talk to her
Then tell her it’s so cold
It’s so cold, it’s so cold
Here without her
And tell her I miss her
Tell her I need her
Tell her I want her
I really want her to come back home, back to keep me warm
Tell her I’m sorry, I’m really sorry
Can you forgive me?
Please forgive me
And come back home, keep me safe and warm

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Can I get him back, or is it just pointless.

How can I get over him??

Please help me..?

Me and my ex went out for almost a year. and we broke up about a month and a half ago. we had a great relationship of course we had our fights but we would always make up and get along great. I was so in love with him. i had never loved anyone as much as i loved him, not even my parents.

About 2 weeks before our relationship completely ended he randomly said that he needed a break because he hated how he never saw me and that its “killing him” he said we would take a break for 3 days. but the next day he texted me and was liek i can’t wait any longer. im sorry, lets try to make this work one more time. and so we did. but 2 or 3 times within the 2 weeks he would pretty much break up with me but we would talk it out. he blew me off twice within 3 days. and then at the end of the 2 weeks he just ended it. all he said was that it wasn’t working. and that the magic was gone. and that he still wanted to be friends.

Its been a month and a half we talk occasionally. but early last week we were talking for a couple days. which is abnornmal because before that we would just text to see how eachother were then stop. and this time we were actually talking and having full conversations for about 2 or 3 days. and then we just stopped but a couple days later i was just tired of hearing all these things he was saying about me so i finally just asked him straight up. and we talked everything out. it turns out none of it was true. but i heard that he was going to go out with this one girl that i had mat a couple times before. and i asked him and he never gave me a straight answer and finally he just said that he liked someone else. but of course he wouldn’t tell me who it was.

Then i asked him if he was over me. and he said idk. i asked him what he meant. and he said well i miss you but i dont want to go back out. then i asked if he would ever want to go back out, and he said well honestly i dont think so. after that he stopped texting me and i stopped texting him. i deleted his numbers from my phone and i deleted him from my facebook. i was so angry and i didnt really have a reason to be. but i woke up this morning and i just burst out into tears and i’ve been crying all day.

I really really really really miss him. like its so hard to not be talking to him anymore. but i really want to be over him at the same time. but then again all i do is want him back.
is there anyway to get him back?? or is it just hopeless.. and if there pretty much is no way to get him back how can i get over him..

I’ve tried everything but it doesnt seem to be working.

If your a guy and you were in his position would you take me back

If your a girl share some experiences, any advice that would help.

Pleasee just help me in some way

Thank you so much*

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So this is kinda a long story. Go to the bottom for a synopsis/shorter version if you don’t have the time. I met this girl a couple months ago, from one of my good friends who had just met her as well. We really hit it off because we had so much in common and she lives just down the hall in my apartment. And over the span of a month, we were constantly with each other along with msging/text/calls/etc. At that point, I asked her out on a real date and she said yeah. I ended up taking her to the aquarium which was awesome, and that night held her hand watching a movie. A couple dates later, and one night we got kinda intimate, nothing crazy but still…I asked her if she was looking for a relationship and she said, umm not right at this moment, but maybe sometime soon. Anyways, since that night, for the next couple weeks, things felt a little different, definitely changed from the first month, maybe because things went from harmless to questionable. Still I cared about this girl, and we had already expressed mutual feelings so I went ahead and basically cheesed out a "do you want to be together/be my girlfriend" line. I haven’t had a relationship in college yet, so I’m kinda new at this but she said yes. A couple days later, at dinner, she basically reneged on it, saying she just wasn’t ready and didn’t want to commit 98% to something that should be 100%. And I took it, said it was ok, and I could wait, so we were "dating". Well I could tell something was still off, because she stopped contacting me much over the thanksgiving break, and she seemed to always be busy when I wanted to hang out. So I had another talk with her, and she kinda changed her views again, saying shes not ready, family issues and she doesnt want to be exclusive in that she would only hang out with one person. She had an awful first relationship that ended a few months ago, and for now, she just needs a friend because she’s not sure when she’s ready to get into that again. She also wants to stop the intimate stuff, like holding hands and kissing, because that should be reserved for a relationship (This is a conservative girl). Things moved too fast, and maybe we should take a step backward, get to know each other better. And she added that we could definitely go somewhere, assured me there was no one else (she has a lot of guy friends), and she didn’t want to confirm anything now because it might lead me on and be unfair that I’d have to do most of the work now.
I don’t think this is one of those, "I just want to be friends" kind of thing because she initiated several things that happened. I really do think its a timing problem, maybe I’m wrong. We’re still going on dates and stuff.
I’ve screwed up a lot in this whole thing lol, from being too much of that nice guy who offers to do a lotta stuff to moving too fast and getting too emotionally attached for someone who’s not that type but I do feel like things could still work out.
She said like 5 times she wasn’t "playing the field", so I honestly don’t think it’s someone else, even if she hangs out with a lotta dudes. I hate part of it though, cause you care about someone and you don’t know how they feel back (shes a gamer chick too lol, works at Gamestop) and you try to read what’s going on but that only results in more uncertainty, doubt, and denial…and I’m mostly a confident guy, just at times during this whole thing, I’ve felt kinda insecure, she doesn’t like revealing too much – definitely guarded. She’s told me that her last relationship, she had to do all the work, basically ditch her friends to meet the demands of the guy. And she doesn’t want that right now, even if I tell her I’m not like that. She just wants some time to herself and to do what she wants and if she made that commitment, it might turn out unfair given that I’d prob have to do most of the work at least early on. Well in the past week or so, I’ve made a big effort to try and help with rides/anything she needs/asking to hang out, but she’s mostly come up with excuses, legit or not. And I know I’ve been pushing (me doing all the initiating), it’s just hard not to think about, and I’m overwhelmed with regrets about stupid things I’ve done and said in this whole thing.

Sorry that’s like a damn novel lol.
Basically, I’ve been way too overbearing the last couple of weeks with this girl that I’ve been going on dates with. And the reason why is because we basically became "official" or whatever for a couple days before she said she wasn’t quite ready to be exclusive (only hanging with one person). I’ve made an effort to work on it, and just be there for her but I know I’ve been calling/asking too much. Should I just give up? At this point, I’ve messed up a lot and maybe some things are irreversible. Or is there still a chance this could work out, and if so, what steps should I take? Idk, I’ve either pushed too much and she feels pressured or if we got to a certain place on the brink of a relationship, then certai
*certainly we can get there again

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I have an ex, we’ve been broken up for over two months now. The first month she changed her number and wouldn’t have any contact with me. The second month we slept together a few times and were pretty clingy again, and then she withdrew and now we are back to "friends" status it seems. I talk to her everyday and see her everytime she has a day off or I do.

She says there’s too much hurt in our relationship and that i’m too good for her and that I dont really want her, i just want the idea of a relationship

Actually, I’m so in love with her in hurts to not be with her and I find myself missing her every second I’m not talking to her.

She’s not the romantic type and she’s fairly anti social as she’s dealing with her own issues at the moment.

I just want suggestions/ideas on how to get her to fall back in love with me…or ideas on how I can at least try…in the past I’ve always given up on my exes but my heart just won’t let me this time.

I’ve worked on all the issues she had with me. I’m now medicated and in therapy for my anxiety, I use to hate her dog and now i bring him treats and he sleeps with me and i walk him, I use to be jealous of her male friends and now even though she intentionally tries to rile me up, i let it slide off my back and tell her to have a good time….everything she had an issue with, I fixed…now I know it takes time to prove it and I’m working on the time issue….I just want other ideas on how to get her to fall back for me again.

Until both of our issues became problems (her self esteem/eating disorder and my anxiety) we were perfect

*sigh*
If it matters I’m m/27 and she’s f/24. She knows I love her..but she doesnt think i really do..she thinks its not her I love but the idea of her and the idea of being in a relationship…..I don’t think her self esteem lets her think that someone could actually want HER and love HER.
I have told her how much I love her…it seems every couple days I post something in my blog (which only she can read) about how much I want to try again and how much I truely love her with all my heart.

she says "why didnt you see this before"

but the old cliche stands true that you dont know what you have until its gone and I thought that working on all my issues and spending hours in therapy and continuing to go every week would help at least some….but when we started sleeping together she was always telling me she missed me then after we hung out more she went back to friend mode.

Needless to say, I’m seriously confused by this girl

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the night before last i dreamt that i was having an affair with this guy that i new of in highschool who is now married to a friend from childhood that i rarely talk to. it was all lust, but never made it to sealing the deal (which is wierd b/c i never found this guy attractive) we were running around in my old middle school laughing and flirting and stuff. we went out to eat and i was trying to figure out what i wanted, and for some reason i was picking something healthy (salmon) but i didn’t want to spend too much because he didn’t have a lot of money. the thought popped into my head "damn, this sucks. when i’m w/ my husband i don’t have to pay attention to the prices" then i started thinking about my husband and how much i loved him and couldn’t live without him. then his wife (my friend from long ago) showed up calling me a bitch. i pulled her aside and explained that i was just realizing how stupid this was, and that i loved my husband too much to do this. she cried and said thank you and i left.

last night i dreamt that i went on vacation with this guy that i knew way back when (he dated my best friend at the time for a couple of years- again, i never found him attractive) it was a big group of people- a whole bunch of couples. oh by the way, in both dreams the guys were telling me that they loved me even though it had only been going on for a couple of days, i don’t know if that matters. this time it did make it sealing the deal(i think) but we were just doing normal vacation stuff… drinking on the deck, cooking out, swimming but we were very lovey dovey. then a couple days before we were going to leave i started feeling guilty again, and decided to break it off. i was missing my husband and realized how stupid the whole thing was because i could lose my husband forever if he found out. oh and in this dream, for some reason my four month old son kept popping in and out of the dream, but my 4 year old was not in it. (both kids are from my husband)

i have no desire to cheat on my husband in waking hours, we have a very good, honest relationship. we’re best friends. even though it’s just a dream i feel guilty all day long wondering why i’m dreaming about this stuff.

also, i’ve always had this reoccuring dream that i’m back in highschool and i get that anxiety i used to get that i needed to get outta there. then finally i realize i’ve already graduated and i don’t need to be there anymore.

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Ok, we broke up like 2 weeks ago. I texted him a couple days ago and asked if he was mad at me and he said that he wasn’t. I want to go back out but, I don’t know how to approach him? How should I? What should I do? What should I say? Should I tell him my true feelings?

Just please give me suggestions on what I should do and if you have the time say it step-by-step! Thanks! Hope to get some answers, mainly from guys!

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I was going to call him in a couple days. But I’m scared to because what if he’s already talking to someone else? And what if I get my heart broken all over again? But I know I still care so much about him. The reason we broke up is because we always bumped heads, and I had trouble actually showing him how I felt. We broke up before but then jumped right back in the relationship without ever fixing what went wrong. So what can I say to him now?

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So how come my ex-gf left me? and do you think I still have a chance?
To make a long story short…
When im smart, attractive, funny, easy going, charming, caring, nice and tell the truth (all the good qualities in a bf)
I went out of my way to please her, made her happy, listened to her.
We talked about anything and everything.
We rarely had our arguements and when we did it was hardly anything to do with us.
She told me that I was the only person that could make her happy, laugh and calm her down when she would get into her angry (kill mood).
She told her family that I made her happy and she told her grandma that she wanted my babys. Years ago she told her grandma that she didnt want babys.
She quit smoking weed and cigs at the same time to be good for me… even though I didnt say anything about wanting her to quit but she did it for me because thats the only thing I didnt like (This was her decision)

A few times in our relationship she told me… to stay where I am at, im too good for her drama and didnt want me apart of this … whenever someone would bring her drama from friends or family. She wanted to move state a while back and still wants too. I told her that I could
handle it and would deal with all the wankers in her life.

The last 2 weeks of our relationship went like this. She tells me that we need to go back to the way we use to be as in friends until I get down there, that we should be together, is hopeful for the future, is working out how were gonna live and told me that once I get setteled
in that we would move somewhere by state or internationally where our family lives. The last compliment she gave me… she was telling me how perfect I am. Couple days later hardcore drama comes into play and than a week later she tells me she dosent want this and breaks it off. She told me that I was too good for this, told me that I ment the world to her and thats why she said she had to do it. I asked her a couple days later about why she left me and she told me that I got annoying the last week to 10 days or so. I admit I had changed and acted differently the last week of our relationship because I found out that I may have cancer, I never told her this because at the time she was dealing with something and I thought it was best to wait until it was the right time to tell her. So I try and win her back for a few days, she puts me on ignore/block and than a week later she starts talking to me asking me how I am. I bought a book on how to get your ex back… magic of making up.. I really do think we should be together and im willing to try the rest of the year until her birthday comes around and probably buy her flowers.

I found out that shes not doing too good financially, she has lost power to her house and is unable to find a job. I think the real reason why she dosent want me is because once im down there she dosent know what to do with me because she thinks she cant take care of me.

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Here we go… the basics about me: I’m 22, My parents were divorced when I was 10 (my moms fault, my dad wasn’t enough for her, she wanted more excitement in her life) and my mom married a white trash, violent abusive drug addict. I lived with them for 4 years where I watched him physically abuse my mom, verbally and emotionally abuse her and listened to him rape her. (IE, listen to her screaming no and crying and him telling her that she had no choice.) I was afraid to leave her and my new little brothers (they sometimes disappeared for a couple days at a time and I was worried about my family.) I’ve been diagnosed bipolar (unmedicated now because the meds just made it worse), anxiety issues, have had suicidal issues and extremely low self esteem.

Let me say up front that I KNOW that none of that excuses what I have done and the pain that I’m about to cause others. I just wanted to give some background… I’m not looking to excuse myself, I just want the full picture here. So, please if you feel the need get it out of the way to tell me what you think of me, I’m completely positive you couldn’t think worse of me than I think of myself.

I liked a guy at work and when I found out he was married I was disappointed, as I thought he was attractive and funny. He is older, he is 41. I started hanging out with him and a few of his friends (we work night shift and we would go out of a few beers in the morning) and eventually it led to him and I getting together. That was 8 months ago and since then we have spent some of nearly every day together and I love him. And he loves me. I never meant to end up in a situation like this, and I admit I didn’t truly understand the extent of what I was doing.

He says he never thought he would feel like this again, and that even if he wanted to he doesn’t think it would be possible for him to stop seeing me. He has 2 grown kids, 20 and 18. I have no idea how he spends so much time with me and to be honest I never wanted to know.

He is starting to talk now about how somebody is going to get hurt no matter what, that either I will get hurt or (he trails off here, he has never once mentioned his wife) and that no matter what he is going to end up hurt. I started to realize, however, the true extent of what would happen. If he leaves her… He already has kids and doesn’t want more, someday I will. Even if he truly left her I’m not ready to commit forever and I’d feel like I had to because he gave up everything for me.

This is going to sound stupid but he is very controlling and possessive, which I don’t mind when we are together but I don’t want to spend my entire life being told what I can and can’t do, and I want to travel and do what I feel like doing. … I’m not ready to settle down. This should make it seem like the easiest situation possible to work out but I love him. I feel sick at the thought of never seeing him again, when he holds me I feel like I’ve never felt before.

I know people will say he is a daddy figure – but I’m not actually lacking that because I have a very good relationship with my father (who I moved in with when my house with my mom got to much). I have never been able to spend more than a day or two with someone without getting irritated with him and I have spent a weekend with him and I wanted more. I don’t want to be selfish but I can’t stop because I want him, I want to spend my life with him…

Without him… I have moved on so much in my life since he has been helping me, I’ve been terrified to enter the world because I was so afraid that people everywhere would hurt me. He helped me get my place, helps me stand up for myself. He has helped me to get the promotion at work that I was scared to do. I think of life without him and I start to have suicidal thoughts.

I hate myself for what I’m doing, for the people I’m hurting and for not being able to end it. I hate to think of my life without him. I realize the mess I’ve made of everything, and I can’t stop thinking the only thing to do is end it with him so he can salvage his family and kill myself to stop everything from hurting.

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My girlfriend recently broke up with me and to put it simply, it was crushing. However, it wasn’t a violent break up, she just said that she needed some time to get things together so she could be a better girlfriend to me and she told me that she loved me and wanted so much to be together, but needed to get her grades back on track. I was kind of angry at first but accepted it, but later on, she found out that before I had lied about a couple things. My dad hits me sometimes (please don’t go into this) and it is considered abuse. However, my family also isn’t very wealthy. My girlfriend’s family is. I played basketball for my school team and my girlfriend bought me a pair of shoes for around 120$, my parents never even considered buying those for. Alas, however, being a 13 year old boy, I lost these shoes and was desperate to find them. I lost sleep over looking for them not because I wanted shoes, but because I was afraid my girlfriend would crucify me. This was when everything was better. I was so desperate to find the shoes that I lied to myself and told myself I had found them, when actually they were someone else’s. They didn’t even look alike, but my mind was so twisted over the fact that I lost such a great gift that I allowed myself to lie to myself and everyone else.

Anyways, I had the shoes for about a month (trust me, I got in so much trouble you won’t believe it. I feel so guilty it’s incredible, so please don’t make fun of me/call me bad), and it came back to haunt me. Ultimately, the day after my girlfriend broke up with me just for that little break, the principal found out they were not mine and suspended me.

So, a couple days later, I used the computer and mailed my ex about what had happened (we were basically still together, just not officially. She just needed a little less pressure and still loved me but needed a tiny break). She BLEW UP! She accused me of being a liar and that she hated me. She said she hoped I was expelled and she never wanted to see me again.

At 13, I love a girl. Incredible, huh? I cried and cried, begged and pleaded with her and myself, but to no avail. Eventually, her parents wouldn’t let her talk to me and I’m coming back to school Tuesday. She accused me of three things, one of them being valid, but the other two being things that actually happened.

1. I took the shoes and lied to everyone, saying they were mine (true, I did steal and lie).
2. My dad never, ever abused me (false, my dad has been hitting me for as long as I can remember).
3. A lot of other things as a result of these things.

I am not a liar. I messed up big time, really, I openly admit it. But all these other things, I never lied about. However, my girlfriend is convinced that I did and said she doesn’t love me. She told me before that she’d stay by my side through anything. My girlfriend (her name is Morgan) never treated me so well. She lied to me sometimes, not too much, and would flirt with other guys occasionally. The lies I could handle but the flirting, I hated. I put these aside, however, and saw the beautiful things that made me love her. Therefore, I stayed with her. Everyone kept saying how good of a boyfriend I was and how bad of a girlfriend she was. But for some reason, I couldn’t help loving her! I loved her and still love her so much and will do anything to prove to her at the very least that I am not a liar.

I love her a lot and this is serious… I really want her back. She changed my whole life… I was extremely sad before I met her, and she turned me around and guided me to the right place. I was so focused eventually on the bad things she did that I forgot all the great things she did. Now, she says she doesn’t love me and thinks I am a liar. I’m very truthful actually, I just messed up big time.

Help?
I am not a liar! Please read it. I lied once and it was a big lie, but it was out of desperation and fear. There is no excuse, but please understand that I am not a liar and I lie once in a blue moon.

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I hate that I’m still in love with him. And that he only wants to be friends. He says he’s in love with me but he doesn’t want to be committed right now. He’s working two jobs, 75 hours a week. (One I helped him get and happen to work in the same building different department). He says he can’t give me the attention I need as his girlfriend. So be his friend or nothing at all. Ok, so I still want him in my life so I agree to being friends…Then he’ll say something else like "if you’re a good girl for the next month you’ll really love your birthday gift, but u know you like to go out to parties and clubs so we’ll see" (my b-day is late sept). This behavior from him is like he doesn’t want me, but he gets jealous when I try to get over him. Sooo I complained in the past about us not talking on the phone anymore, him not texting me as much and us not seeing one another. He called more the first couple days, he’s been texting me everyday, but he still hasn’t made any initiative to spend time together. When we’re together it always laughs, jokes, hugs, kisses…etc. I told him we’re not having sex anymore because its not worth it. Making a mockery of what we had. His claim is he doesn’t want to do anything with anyone else, so if he’s going to have sex he wants it to be with me. Yea, right. I want a relationship. And he’s not ready right now. I’m trying to move on…but nothing is happening. I haven’t met anyone that can even measure to him. I find myself still thinking about him all the time. He cares enough to text me each day. But I feel like purposely not trying to love me again. He wont allow it to happen. He doesn’t want to talk about us- what we had or what may be. He’s just like show me you’re there for me without it being about you and take one day at a time….I’m trying to look past him. Because I get the sense he loves me but he’s confused about being with me or wanting someone else. So how can I meet someone else when he keeps pulling me back in?
I just want to be happy. When we were together he made me happy. He says he doesn’t like to talk to me on the phone as much because I bring up old negative things. He says why can’t I say things like I know you’re working hard? When I try to contact him and he doesn’t respond back it makes me feel like he’s giving attention to someone else. The same attention he used to give to me. So when he does contact me, I get upset that its taken so long. My school year is about to start next week. I just want to start fresh and new. But I’m still in love with him….I want to meet someone new!

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So i got reconnected with my ex a couple days ago and we have been talking since then. I need lyrics to tell him how i feel. I still do love him and he still loves me. But there is one little twist…he has a wife and kids. And his wife is my cousin. I just need something to tell him that i missed him and now that he’s back my feelings for him are back as well. Please help. The more songs, the better. Thank you!

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ok now this is problerly ever ones question how to get back with the ex and i no its possible but in my situation is it?

ok i meet my girl in january and every week after that once a week we go out on a date and then i asked her out on valentines day for dinner she said yes .
that nite was supposed to be the last nite cause she was to leave for uni
but i had the same day off as she did and she was really happy that i would still see her ( b4 that she cried as she drove off that nite from dinner) but when i told her i could come a couple days later she was happy

ok then she would take me around the city walk t the beach u no swet stuff and about two months later i asked her out and she said yes

im her first relationship and same with me
i live an hour away i always go by train
but we spent the most together
she is a shy girl and scarefull off getting hurt due to her freinds after a bad break up but read on and i get into that
all her freinds tell me how happy they are how i treat her and respect her and she lovesme and it was a big thing for her to say it because she never feels that way for any one like that before this was around the 5 month mark.
i understand being in uni and living on campus wat can be like with the fun and immaturity and all but i trusted her.
she never really explained how she felt directly but threw art
for example at 6 months she sketched a potrait of us together close to be thats has to mean sum thing
and two months later she sketched another picture of us two at our favorite spot us us alone in detail of the area ( one month before we broke up)
i see her once a week because i dont mind seeing her in the week end but caz im a chef i finish really late around 11.30 u mite say thats early but by the time i get home 12.00 shower and all 12.20 then drive there 1.20am do u no any one who is willing tio wait to see there bf or gf at that time and wait for that person while all ur freinds are out and having fun…………?
but any way i was with her and she looked up set i said wat up
i just want to be freinds i dont feel for u the way u feel for me ( this was 10 months period
im think is oit stressed from uni
influnce from the freinds ike come on he isnt here have fun there plenty guys here and so on

two weeks later when i went up there 9 finially droved )
when we were talking i didnt mean to say i wont give u a second chance
i said if we go into a deep freind shi[p there may not be a second chance
she was teary and saying " i could understand why u wouldnt give me a second chance
that indicated some sort of stress or a choice she made based on freinds
but the nite was stranged her moods and feelings were changing like
so i asked u going to tell ur parents
again teary n saying when i fell like it
she did meantion to me once that she was scared and i re insureed her that i never hurt her

is it possible to fall in love get scared then change into freindship love or if ur parnter is scared then breaks it off how would u go about it to get her back if u really love her
im trying not to think the worse that she cheated on me acciently and broke it off in case i found out ?
because every time i go up to her room shhe didnt mind who saw me
but the day we broke up she said hurry up i dont wanyt people to see u come in ? why would u say that after 10 months
any ways has any one got back with the ex and how did u went about it would it work for me ?
also would it be possible that she may have acciently cheated due to peer pressure and she broke it off b4 i found out

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We broke up a couple days to go and he says he wants to be my best friend and we will probably have a future.. but how do I get him back quicker? We broke up because we were fighting a lot and i was getting mad over the stupid things. But i havent done that since then.. help.

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My ex and I were going out for about a month and I started having second thoughts. I told him of this and he was very convinced he was going to make things work out and he wanted to get through this with me. Unfortunately, I jumped the gun and told him it’s over. He was very hurt and wanted me back, but waited a day to talk to me about it so I could calm down. When we talked again I told him I’m sure now, and we hung out to try things out. But, I could tell it wasn’t the same by how he acted. A couple days later he was telling his friends we were going back out, which was fine with me. Then two days later I had him over to watch The Notebook and he laid next to me on the couch and kissed a couple times. I know he’s not a good kisser, he was so upset about "messing up" our first kiss the first week we went out. But anyway, these kisses weren’t much better. Later that night on AIM he broke up with me. He told his best friend it was because I broke his heart and he has a strong bond with me as a friend. Could it be that I’m not making him sure of himself? I’d really like him back… my best friend knows him very well and she says I really have to act hard to get. I’m confused, any pointers?

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I broke up with my girlfriend a couple days ago and whenever i look at her I get a really weird chill in my stomach its really scary what do i do???

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So, me and this guy went out back in January, then we flirted a lot in February, and then we had a fall out in April. I didn’t talk to him until the end of May and now we’re friends. He stares at me a lot, and we talk a little bit here and there. We text every couple days, but it’s nothing major. I have a lot of feelings for this guy, and I really want us to go back to what we were. How can I do this? Please answer! Thank you thank you thank you!

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Me and my ex broke up a couple days ago, she said it would be best if we just cut it off right now..i didnt agree, im in love with her. She says she just wants to have fun and be free and she doesnt want to constantly watch her back with a boyfriend. So she broke up with me..i love her i treat her amazing and i didnt want to break up. We have been going out for 2 years…so anyone, let me know how i can get her back or if i even should try and get her back, thanks.

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Earlier this year my bf found out that I had texted my ex and was talking to him and he got mad but didnt break up with me and then a couple days ago he found out my ex e-mailed me and I e-mailed back and in the e-mail my ex said he loved me n i said me too but i dont love him i dont know why I wrote that and now my bf ( i guess not my bf anymore) broke up with me
and i might be pregnant n he knows it but he doesnt want to be with me i want him back i do love him n i know he loves me I dont know what to do what can I do to get him back?
nobody can help ??
thank you.
thank you.

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My gf now Ex have been together for almost 3 years, we broke up 2.5 weeks ago while we were on vacation in NY after a fight..we broke up before but always got back together…We kept in contact and saw each other as usual since then, up until a couple days ago I stopped all contact with her and she still calls me every night to talk for hours and calls me during the day also..We had a serious but fun relationship, we were always there for each other, she lived with me, we traveled at least 3-4 times a year together and went to parties etc…our relationship was fun…

But recently she said she became unhappy because she feels like she doent contribute to our relationship..I’m in a more financially stable situation and have no trouble taking care of the two of us..she says she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now and she wants to get her act together and we need time apart..(she always said this when we broke up before) and neither one of us ever cheated on each other even when we took time apart..We both love each other and are best friends..She recently started saying she has been thinking about kids and marriage in the future..I was going to propose but we both arent ready for that…She’s a good girl and I treat her like a princess…

Now are these signs she is coming around??
back when we broke up before it took some work on my part for us to get back in good terms, but this time I’m choosing not to do anything because she plays these games too much and after a while I realize I can live without her, but I actually want to be with her..I told her before that we are meant for each other and she said she knows…I can’t even muster up the will power to go find another girl,sleep with her etc.. because I don’t want to and I can’t…I guess I’m still in love with her.

What do you think?
we are both in our mid twenties

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I am 18 and so is my girlfriend. I’ll be a freshman this year at a college in town and she is a senior in high school. We have been dating for almost 3 years and towards the end of the summer our intense fights were starting to get the best of us so she decides maybe we should take a break. I didn’t see the good in this choice but there wasn’t anything I could really do about it. The reason for her needing space is because our relationship has been stressful lately and she is always working or doing things with school and just didn’t need our stress. I know people think there is another guy or something but I can assure you there isn’t. She says she loves me very much and knows we will get back together and it will be ok. We have been apart for a little over a month now and within the past couple weeks we have started talking a lot again. We have even hung out a couple times just as friends, and its been great because I feel like we have been getting to know each other all over again. Well, a couple days ago we hung out and I was about ready to leave and she hugs me and then she kisses me. Of course I don’t really stop it because its not what I truly want. I end up staying for another hour in her room. We kiss heavily and all those kinds of things, and she starts crying and tells me how much she misses me and needs me and loves me. It felt as though we were dating and everything was just perfect. But she still says..we cant get back together yet, I love you so much but we cant..Im sorry for making things even harder. You know I understand her reasons for being alone and I can accept that, but how things have gone lately I feel as though she is just being selfish now. Its not fair to me to be on a roller coaster with my feelings and just having to wait around. Im not really implying the she is out having the time of her life and im crying at home, its not like that at all. I just dint get how we love each other but cant date yet? I truly believe her and everything, but I have been in this situation before and I fear the same thing will happen to me again. Based off what I have said what do you feel is going on?

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Im 15 and my ex and i only went together for a month untill we decided that we wasnt communicating enough, he had family visitng so he was busy,before when his family wasnt there everything was good.he asked if he could get another chance later when his family leaves . well they left a couple days ago how can i get him back without looking desperrate,he wanted to prove to he was a good boyfriend this convo would be over facebook since he hardly answers the phone

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My ex boyfriend left me approximately a month ago for another lady. As he was ending our relationship I asked him why and he said he thought it would be better if we were "just friends." Well a few days later I found out he was dating somebody else. I’ve been pretty bummed out about this. I still love him and have strong feelings for him.
Well the a couple days ago I’ve become aware that he and his new girlfriend may have broken up…I believe she broke up with him because on Facebook I saw some sad/depressed statuses he posted and she went from "being in a relationship" to "single", though he hasn’t changed anything yet. So I think they have.
Keep in mind..
I haven’t contacted him since we broke up. He sent me a message about a week ago explaining how to fix something I put on Facebook that got messed up, but I didn’t reply to it. I thought it was weird he contacted me.
So any tips? I’m willing to do just about ANYTHING to win him back.
(We went out for about half a year before he left me)

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he broke up with me i broke up with him a couple times a long time ago though and he broke up with me cause he thought i was freaking out on him i was just mad cause he kinda told some personal stuff to one of my friends she kept asking him and he told her cause she was getting annoying and a long time ago he told another of my friend something personal that i told him not to and i think he promised to that one. and when we broke up for a week my not friend anymore said that he was flirting with her and stuff and she was flirting with him but he told me thats a lie and he never did (they have never met either all through text messages) and so anyways he still thinks that i freaked on him and i dont trust him when i do and i have told him and he said he wants space and i asked him if we can be freinds and he said ya and so i texted him sometimes and then i kinda asked a couple days if he has made his decision yet if he will give me another chance. and he seems to get annoyed real easily and started ignoring my texts. and all this fighting and stuff was over text messaging and in real life when im with him i have never gotten mad at him or yelled at him i just cant do it i wouldnt be able to on the phone either. what should i do to try and get him to give me another chance? he told my friend he likes being single to and he still thinks that i freaked on him i didnt freak i was just upset and kinda mad how do i get him to not think that? we were dating for almost 2 years to. he was my first bf and i was his first gf he actually had a gf before my for 1 week i guess .. HELP!

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