the night before last i dreamt that i was having an affair with this guy that i new of in highschool who is now married to a friend from childhood that i rarely talk to. it was all lust, but never made it to sealing the deal (which is wierd b/c i never found this guy attractive) we were running around in my old middle school laughing and flirting and stuff. we went out to eat and i was trying to figure out what i wanted, and for some reason i was picking something healthy (salmon) but i didn’t want to spend too much because he didn’t have a lot of money. the thought popped into my head "damn, this sucks. when i’m w/ my husband i don’t have to pay attention to the prices" then i started thinking about my husband and how much i loved him and couldn’t live without him. then his wife (my friend from long ago) showed up calling me a bitch. i pulled her aside and explained that i was just realizing how stupid this was, and that i loved my husband too much to do this. she cried and said thank you and i left.

last night i dreamt that i went on vacation with this guy that i knew way back when (he dated my best friend at the time for a couple of years- again, i never found him attractive) it was a big group of people- a whole bunch of couples. oh by the way, in both dreams the guys were telling me that they loved me even though it had only been going on for a couple of days, i don’t know if that matters. this time it did make it sealing the deal(i think) but we were just doing normal vacation stuff… drinking on the deck, cooking out, swimming but we were very lovey dovey. then a couple days before we were going to leave i started feeling guilty again, and decided to break it off. i was missing my husband and realized how stupid the whole thing was because i could lose my husband forever if he found out. oh and in this dream, for some reason my four month old son kept popping in and out of the dream, but my 4 year old was not in it. (both kids are from my husband)

i have no desire to cheat on my husband in waking hours, we have a very good, honest relationship. we’re best friends. even though it’s just a dream i feel guilty all day long wondering why i’m dreaming about this stuff.

also, i’ve always had this reoccuring dream that i’m back in highschool and i get that anxiety i used to get that i needed to get outta there. then finally i realize i’ve already graduated and i don’t need to be there anymore.

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I dumped him about a week ago, a couple of days after i dumped him he got a new girlfriend.
I’m a year older than him and his girlfriend is the same year as him.
I really miss him and want him back!
Hes so hard to forget..
What would you do?!
Er, no need to be rude?
He broke my heart by going out with some like 2 days after.. and your calling me a sl*t?! x

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He thinks we’re too different, we talked about it and sorted it out but he still said "no, not right now."
He called 2 days later to see waht ive been doing, and I just said ive been really busy, havent been home at all, just been out clubbing n out with friends, meeting new ppl. Goin out for a drive with a friend right now. He said "oh ur goin with a boy are u?" He said he keeps expecting 2 c my car outside his house, and when I said I was up near his work that day he said "oh why didnt u come in and see me?" I jst said it would be too awkward.

Im going out for drinks in a couple of days with another guy. My ex said he’d call later in the week. Should I tell him about this? Would it make him want me back? If I keep acting busy and social will it make him want me back? Or does it sound like he already does? He hates people hating him so mayb hes just making sure I dont hate him? How do I make him want me back?

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i have been with my girlfriend for 2 year we lived together then we moved home till we found someware else she treats me like a dog but i cant live without her the last time we broke up i tried to kill myself she is the only person that i can tell i love since my dad died a couple of days before my 12 birthday i had a bad background and this was the first time i ever felt safe without her it all seems pointless, my friends all tell me i should have left her the first time she hit me but i want her back so much i wait for hours for her to tell me she will talk to me what can i do

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I am a seventh grader. I have liked this girl for a long time. We have been friends for a long time. Recently I got a haircut and she liked it a lot. I was told she liked me so I asked her out and we went out for a couple of days. She texted me this morning saying that we were too good of friends to be dating. She also said that she was afraid that us dating good ruin our friendship. How can I win her back?

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me and my gf broke up a couple of days ago and she said we can still be friends and hang out every once and a while but i asked her if in the future do you think we could try and go out again she said she doesnt know i told her i still had feelings for her and want to just have a normal friendship and she said we can have a normal friendship but she will not call me much its only been a couple of days after the break up so could that may be the reason she doesn’t have feelings for me at the moment? and the reason we broke up was because she gave me a bj in the car and she told her mom her mom didn’t make us break up it was her dicision and she said she just wants to move on will there be a chance in the future that she will love me again? and i think she might be confused because she said she doesn’t know anymore please somone give me some hope on this please and thank you!

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Did she ever really love me?

Hello everyone, I “dated” a girl for 7 months. After about a month and a half she told me she loved me. I already felt like I loved her, but did not say anything. Once she said it I did too. I thought she was the best thing that ever happened to me. We worked together and kept it a secret. That was what she wanted and I agreed. We both agreed to keep it exclusive. About 2 months in she tells me her ex is texting her and she wants to be friendly because they have mutual friends.

Things ended badly and friends were picking sides. Anyway, she starts to become more distant. At around 3 months she comes over 1night crying. She doesn’t tell me what’s going on but she puts on old love songs and cries her eyes out.

I figured something happened between her and the ex and that’s why she became distant and also why she is crying now. He probably screwed her over again. So we go away on a trip. She told me it was just going to be me & her, but somehow it was cheaper to bring more people so we have 2 of her friends come along. One of the friends works with us so we kind of keep our distance so her friend won’t find out. Once we get to our destination it turns out there is another friend ( a guy) that she knows there. We all go out drinking and I’m getting tired and want to leave. She keeps stepping outside to smoke with her guy friend. When they stepped out to have another cigarette I stepped out as well. I saw them hugging and his hand on her ass.

I was so pissed that I grabbed my luggage and left. A couple of days pass and we talk. She tells me she never intended for that to happen and she is sorry. I decide to forgive her. So one day when we’re 4 months into this she is in my house and goes to work and leaves her email open. I know I shouldn’t have put I looked. Turns out she wrote a goodbye letter to her ex during that second month she was being distant. In it she says she loves him and how could he screw her over even though they made love the night before. I felt crushed. There was also a pic she text’d to another guy of her in a bra showing her cleavage. I never told her I saw these things. We have been fighting for several months because I want her to spend more time with me. She never makes plans for us, and she only comes over on her days off after she goes partying. I told her people that people who love each other want to spend time together. Every time I broke it off (and there have been alot) she calls, or texts, me saying she misses me. The break-ups almost never last longer than 8 days not talking.

We went away together the end of August. Then in September she becomes distant again and I saw her only 2x that month. Then in October we spend several days together. I’m over at her house and she asks me to hand her her daily planner. I see that at the end of August she has a guys name written in as “he lands”. I ask her and she says it’s a friend she had to pick up from the airport. So now I wonder if he is the reason why she became distant in September. I have recently found out that on facebook she has been clling this “friend” hot. And that she asked him “when are we going to hang out?”

I have been asking her to hang out on a regular basis for months, but she never makes time. She only does it when I break things off. I believe she loved me cause she said so and whenever I wouldn’t speak to her she would call/text me. She has even cried on the phone with me. I again broke things off with her 3 weeks ago. She says she is used to me doing that so it doesn’t bother her. I have been crying alot recently. I really love her and would gladly forgive her if she were to see me more often and stop her nonsense.

Does anyone else think she may love me? She seems like it doesn’t matter to her that we are apart going on a month now. I tell her I still love her and that she needs to stop contacting me. She says she will then she calls/texts. She doesn’t do it to get back together of work things out. She does it to hear my voice or vent about something. I wouldn’t even mind that but when I need to hear her voice or talk she is never available. And because we were a secret we could never been seen together at work. Yet she goes out with guys from work all the time. She does it on a regular basis. She tells me it’s cause they are friends and we actually date. She makes me feel like shit all the time. I just can’t let go of her.

Please give me some advice.

Thanks.

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ok, so I’m going back to school in a couple of days and I want to get this pimple off of my face, since I want to have great first impressions. I tried putting ice on it, it didn’t work. I tried toothpaste, made it more worse! And it kinda reduced when I tried the salt and the warm water treatment. Please help me how to get rid of pimples and acne scars fast and naturally.

P.S. Don’t answer if you are just going to be mean.

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I got dumped a month ago, a couple of days of pleading now and then failed completely, and now we’re barely on speaking terms. I’m trying to recover but it’s taking a lot longer than I expected.

There are all these articles and ebooks and programs online from ‘dating coaches’ that claim to give you advice or even training on how to get your ex back, are any of them for real?
http://www.google.com.sa/search?hl=en&q=get+your+ex-girlfriend+back&aq=f&oq=&safe=active

Did any guy here have this experience, only with a good ending?
Sam1979: Get bloody assraped.

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hello people,

i had a major fall out with my bf a month ago… we split and he hated me for things i did to him… and not only this he as a retort went back to his ex girl..

However i realized i love him way too much to let go of him. So i apologized apologised and apologized… He took his own time to forgive me, but he has finally forgiven me.. He speaks to me nicely, meets me every couple of days… we are very comfortable with each other… just that.. over past 1 month he seems to have outgrown the romantic equation with me.. he seems to have more girls in his life, one of them being his ex gf whom he is also very close to..

Ignoring all of this i just concentrated in making things better in between both of us over past few weeks which seemed to have worked..

Howver, he still dsnt wanan get back with me, and wants to be only fFriendsi ppresume.

Ummm.. i think today i’ll ask him to try and make things work in between us, or at least stay ppositivewhere we both are concerned..

How do u think i sshouldgo about telling this to a stubborn, hard hearted and insensitive guy? i dnt wanna loose him…

please suggest… thanks guys

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I dumped my girlfriend of 1 month a couple of days ago because i just wasnt feeling the emotional connection. I had to be honest to her that i misread my feelings when we started going out and i couldnt drag it on, she says shes ok but idk for sure cause i told her we cant be friends cause i screwed it up too bad and i constantly feel guilty talking to her cause i can just tell how much i hurt her. I know it sounds stupid… but i feel like after causing my ex so much hurt i could never love anyone else because i might hurt them 2. Even though i never felt anything for my ex, which i sadly just realized now (dont know how i didnt c it in the beginning…) i feel like if i ever messed up again with someone that loved me deeply, and possibly i loved deeply as well, i wouldnt be able to forgive myself for breaking their heart like i did to my ex. Can anyone else relate to this? If so please post, i need to hear someones opinion on this.

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So I have come to a point where I just don’t know what else to do. I really want my marriage to work, but I think that my wife has finally given up. I know that I can’t change her, but I don’t want to just sit here and wait for the inevitable. So a little history.

I was in the military and just reenlisted when I met my wife. My wife was a virgin when we got married, I was not. My wife says that she thinks about all of the other women that I was with before her and I really am ashamed of the things that I did before I met her. It doesn’t matter how much I tell her that I love her, how beautiful she is, she still just thinks of these other women. Her parents are still married, my parents are divorced. We are not in debt and we have money in savings. I am not working and neither is she, but she just finished school and with the economy it has been hard for her to find a job, especially in her field. I am going to school right now using the GI bill and it is our only source of income. She just went on a 3 week trip because she said she felt trapped. I didn’t fight her going on the trip because I am tired of fighting with her. She just came back and things were ok for a couple of days and then they just went down hill again. She still says she loves me, but when I questioned her more she said she doesn’t love me like I am her husband, but a family member. This is why I don’t know what to do. I am not abusive, I do get angry quick but it is because I am tired of hearing the same thing come out of her mouth. She used to have so much hope and life, but she doesn’t anymore. We have lived near her family for about 4 years. I recently asked her to give our marriage one more chance and move with me near my family. Our families live in two different states.

It seems like when we get together all we talk about is divorce. I am so tired of talking about it, but it seems like that is all she wants to talk about. She has told me before that she wants to work things out, but lately it seems like she has given up all hope. I know that she is depressed I know that we should get some counseling, but she doesn’t want to do anything. I don’t know what to do. We are both Christians, and we understand that what is going on is not right, that we should be depending on Christ. We need help.

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A couple of days ago, i broke up with my girlfriend because we were fighting, and i said that i missed my other girlfriend, which i only missed her cause we never faught. And i tried to get my ex-girlfriend to go back out with me, but she said that she likes another guy and wants to be friends, how can i prove to her that i really love her and only her?

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How do i know if my ex boyfriend wants to get back with me cause of our baby?
I know him for more than 4 years now. After 2 years of knowing each other, we started going out. We broke up in Feb of 2007 cause his ex girlfriend call him, wanting to get back to him (she left him for another guy when they were going out. They got married and had kids). I guess she found out he was dating and wanted to come back. He told me that he still had some feels for her. I told ok i would wait for him. I got tried of waiting and call him, told him to be happy with her and to be carefully cause if she cheat on him once it would happen again. And said Goodbye. I felt like i was going crazy. After a couple of days, he started to call me to see how i was doing and etc.., we started going out like friend. Months later i ask he how he felt about me, but he would never answer me. So i decided to leave to mexico for a couple of weeks. i gave him the number where i was going to be at. I got a cell phone and sent him a text message. "To make thing short" He ask me to marry him in Dec, of 2007. I came back in Jan. to texas and started to talk about getting married by law and church. 4 weeks later i found out i was pregnant. When i told him he was so happy. Hes voice change(he was talk to me sweeter than before) He would talk to the baby. We also talked with my parents about moving in together and getting marry later on. I had a miscarrage in Feb of 2008. We still moved in together and in oct of 2008 i found out i was pregnant again. He reaction was "go to the room, go to the room" I felt so bad and started to cry. Like an hour in half past when he went to the room and told me him was scared to get excited. We had plan to go to mexico in Dec to see his family but i started to get having problems with the pregnant so my mom decided to put in bed rest so i didnt go with him. When my grandfather died in Jan of 2009, that scared me so much that it made me in danger of having a another miscarrage. So more bedrest. When he got back for mexico in Feb, to me he was wierd and distance. The same day he got here, he left with him brother after taking a shower and didnt come home until 1 in the morning. He made me cry all day. In Apr. my doctor put me in the hospital. 3 weeks later, i had my baby. She was early. I was only 6 1/2 months. She weight 1 pound 14 oz and 13 1/3 inches. After a week in a half, My ex and me got into a big fight. So we broke up, he left the house. I got into a big depression that i lost a lot of weight and started having problems to produce milk for the baby. It all got to me, he felt, i had a c-section, the doctors tell me that the baby when not make it, and it was too much for me. Well after all that (my baby is very healthly, she going on 7 months and she weight close to 15 pounds). Hes told me that he is sorry so many times. He said that he was just in so much stress cause of every thing that was happening and he was trying to stop smoking too. He want to get back together. I love him and i know that he is sorry, but im having trouble with my parents. They dont want me to talk to him at all cause to them he took the short cut out. They tell me that he is trying to get back with me cause of the baby. He has been in touch with me. The first 2 months after the birth of my baby i didnt talk to him. He would call me almost every day to see how i was doing and wanted to know about the baby. He’s is renting a house close by my parents house. But i dont know what to do. How can i tell if he is get back with me cause of the baby. One more thing i was happy that whole year i lived with him. And i know he can makes us happy my heart is screaming it… What do you think? Do you have any advice for me? What can i do for my parents to understand me? That Im thinking about my baby and me? Thank you for help. God bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I live in Japan. My wife and I have always had communication problems. We fight a lot. From my perspective she is either in passive aggressive mode or simply aggressive mode most of the time. The odd thing is while she is hostile and uncompromising to me she has completely different things to say about me and her hopes when she talks about me to her mother.

We both thought we needed a break so we agreed she would take my child and visit her mother for a month. I tried to just not communicate and let things cool off and succeeded for a couple of weeks but when I called and tried to talk to her or my son she kept brushing me off even in the shortest conversations. This blew up into yet another fight over the phone after which she told me she would return to start divorce proceedings. After she came back I tried to let her cool off and made serious efforts to deal with my temper which in her view was the problem. I also tried to engage her in some actual dialog but the only thing she would talk about is divorce.

The thing is I also was in conversation with her mother who insisted that my wife was interested in repairing the marriage and that I could not take what she said at face value. No matter what I tried my wife simply would not engage in any kind of constructive conversation, and would only talk about divorce or separation.

Desperate to do anything to get her to cool off I agreed that she and my boy should go back and spend some more time with her mother. She liked that but said she wanted to go the next day. I did not know how long it would be until I could see my son again so I asked her to give me a couple of days with him so I could say good by and take him to disney land. I thought it was a reasonable request but she said "no". Impasse. The following day, she disappeared with him. After a week and a day she contacted her mother and we now know she has been in a shelter for abused women. I was not abusing her. We were not even raising our voices at each other. It seems she just wanted to deny me, the guy who is buying her plane tickets to be with her mother, a couple of days with our son.

In all our conversations she acknowledges that I am a great dad and I am, I get him up in the morning dress him feed him and take him to the bus stop, I also put him to bed most nights. In action I have been as much a mother to him, especially over the last two or three years than she has. So she keeps saying she wants us to raise our boy together, but her idea of "together" is she takes him to live in another town 500 miles away and I can see him when I can both take time off work and raise the plane fare. Plane fare is not cheap in japan and I am not a rich man, so that is simply a totally dishonest idea or an insane misrepresentation of what is practical.

I am willing to do whatever it takes to save my marriage because I love my boy more than anything in the world and I want him to have a mamma and a papa. I also want to repair the relationship with my wife but simply cannot get her to engage.

I have never felt so hopelessly depressed in my life.

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my wife went to florida earlier this year for her friends marriage. I as at home working and taking care of our son. While there she met a guy and became close to him. I found out about thier emotional affair a couple of days after she came back.. she swears up and down that nothing sexual happened between them and none of the im’s or emails suggest anything else. She talked to this guy for about 3 weeks on the phone and on the internet. I asked her to cut it off with him and she did. Since the beginning of July I have seen no phone calls, text messages or anything on the internet bewteen them.. but i just don’t feel comfortable trusting her. She says she has no contact with him and does not want to talk to him anymore.. she says she knows she was wrong and loves me and our son to much to do anything stupid like that again.. how do i trust the wife i love again

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I got dumped a month ago, a couple of days of pleading now and then failed completely, and now we’re barely on speaking terms. I’m trying to recover but it’s taking a lot longer than I expected.

There are all these articles and ebooks and programs online from ‘dating coaches’ that claim to give you advice or even training on how to get your ex back, are any of them for real?
http://www.google.com.sa/search?hl=en&q=get+your+ex-girlfriend+back&aq=f&oq=&safe=active

Did any guy here have this experience, only with a good ending?

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My current girlfriend has hurt me in the past when she slept with my ex friend a few months ago when she broke up with me for a few months but we ended up getting back together with her promising that she would never leave me again. We are both in college right now and I’m a senior and she’s about to be a junior.

The other day, she was on vacation and two guys approached her and invited her to teach her how to surf. She basically got to know the guys and she told me about it that night.

Well I basically called her insensitive and naive because she is really attractive and she just assumes all guys want to be her friends which I know isn’t really true. Well after we got into a fight about this, she left me again. Despite me telling her that I overreacted, she says that I was right and that she isn’t ready for a relationship right now with anyone. I told her I was sorry and that I should I have had told her more gently that she was acting like this. I told her I was just jealous and that I overreacted. However, she still left me saying that still trusted me and that she loved me but she still wasn’t ready for a relationship. She told me it wouldn’t be fair to ask me to stay with her and that if I had to leave then she would miss me and that she loves me. She made me promise not to forget about her and to call her. She told me this felt wrong with breaking up with me. It’s been a couple of days now and we haven’t talked to each other. Should I just let it go now and wait for her to call? Or should I call her to talk to her?

Update: OK, I just called her after a week of no contact. I told her the truth how I honestly wanted her back and that I was heads over heels in love with her but now she says she’s still not ready for a relationship with me because she told me it doesn’t feel right without me or with me. She acknowleged that my love for her was really pure and strong and she wanted to fall back in love with me again. I told her we were in a relationship a long time before that and that at least she should be committed enough to be in a relationship first but she disagreed. She asked if I would come back later. What does she mean by all this? I’m really in love with her so how can I get her back? What are your thoughts on this whole thing? Will she come back if I don’t contact her? Please be as long as you want! I’m really heartbroken right now!

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