Can I get him back, or is it just pointless.

How can I get over him??

Please help me..?

Me and my ex went out for almost a year. and we broke up about a month and a half ago. we had a great relationship of course we had our fights but we would always make up and get along great. I was so in love with him. i had never loved anyone as much as i loved him, not even my parents.

About 2 weeks before our relationship completely ended he randomly said that he needed a break because he hated how he never saw me and that its “killing him” he said we would take a break for 3 days. but the next day he texted me and was liek i can’t wait any longer. im sorry, lets try to make this work one more time. and so we did. but 2 or 3 times within the 2 weeks he would pretty much break up with me but we would talk it out. he blew me off twice within 3 days. and then at the end of the 2 weeks he just ended it. all he said was that it wasn’t working. and that the magic was gone. and that he still wanted to be friends.

Its been a month and a half we talk occasionally. but early last week we were talking for a couple days. which is abnornmal because before that we would just text to see how eachother were then stop. and this time we were actually talking and having full conversations for about 2 or 3 days. and then we just stopped but a couple days later i was just tired of hearing all these things he was saying about me so i finally just asked him straight up. and we talked everything out. it turns out none of it was true. but i heard that he was going to go out with this one girl that i had mat a couple times before. and i asked him and he never gave me a straight answer and finally he just said that he liked someone else. but of course he wouldn’t tell me who it was.

Then i asked him if he was over me. and he said idk. i asked him what he meant. and he said well i miss you but i dont want to go back out. then i asked if he would ever want to go back out, and he said well honestly i dont think so. after that he stopped texting me and i stopped texting him. i deleted his numbers from my phone and i deleted him from my facebook. i was so angry and i didnt really have a reason to be. but i woke up this morning and i just burst out into tears and i’ve been crying all day.

I really really really really miss him. like its so hard to not be talking to him anymore. but i really want to be over him at the same time. but then again all i do is want him back.
is there anyway to get him back?? or is it just hopeless.. and if there pretty much is no way to get him back how can i get over him..

I’ve tried everything but it doesnt seem to be working.

If your a guy and you were in his position would you take me back

If your a girl share some experiences, any advice that would help.

Pleasee just help me in some way

Thank you so much*

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Me and My ex (of 2 years) have been split up for about 7 months. We have both been thorugh a bad relationship since we broke up. No we are both single! We talk a couple times a week and i have been to his house to hangout and talk. I wonder if he still cares about me and if he would take me back. We stopped dating because we were fighting alot and we wanted to spend more time with friends. Now, i have grown up and experienced alot of stuff. I have learned the hard way about some relationship things from a previous relationship. We both enjoy talking and listening to each other. How can i get him back???
Well, we were talking about the old days and we didnt say we missed them but laughed and joked about them!? Idk what that means?

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My husband and I have been married for 7 months and about 3 months ago he left, over some jealousy issues and his family was encouraging the leave. I was helping my sister with the youth group at our church and some of the kids started texting me. The one that the problem was over was a 17 year old male. He said ‘love you’ a couple times, but in my church we say that. I’m not justifying it because it was wrong, but nothing to leave over. We were together for 5 years, before we got married. My husband left that day (in August). Right after the leave, he told me he wanted to work things out and get counseling. Then about two weeks later, he filed for divorce. He changed his phone number so for about a month, I couldn’t call him only email, but he would never respond. I called a couple times to his parent’s house for him and his father said "stop calling here, WE got rid of you"! By the way, since 8th grade and dated, his parents never liked me, and didn’t approve of us dating. Didn’t even approve of us getting married.
In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don’t love you anymore. I don’t miss you. We’re going through a divorce.
In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he’s contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him “Do you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won’t come when I ask.
He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn’t service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.
In December, it’s gotten better. We’re talking more, he’s coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won’t answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he’s not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?
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Also, he made a facebook when he left and won’t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying "If you don’t want to talk to me anymore just tell me"!!

No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.

His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn’t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.
Yes, but I’m trying to get some more input

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Ok, so I have a friend (a man) who was engaged to a woman for several years. He literally gave up everything for her and she didn’t treat him well but every time he talked about breaking up with her she made all these promises manipulation to keep him. She even talked about wanting to start a family and suggested a time when she thought they should have a kid. He always wanted to be a father and all her false promises, etc caused him to eventually fall head over heals completely in love with her. He planned his entire life around getting ready to start a family with her and supported her 100% even though he got little or nothing in return because she promised things would change once she finished school. Anyway once she was done with the hard part of school she bailed on him, dumping him with literally nothing, no explanation, etc and wouldn’t even talk to him. She did talk to him a couple times just to let him know she was with other men. He also heard some rumors that she had been cheating on him and knowingly using him the whole time. Anyway he’s devastated, it’s been months and he’s just not the same person. I don’t know if he ever will be again because she hurt him so badly. He can’t even dance, laugh or smile anymore. I think to him it feels like he lost a whole family he had already been preparing for the child they were going to have. He was really convinced they were going to have a child soon. Does anyone have any ideas on what he should do? I’m going to tell him to read this later so he’ll see your advice.

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What should i do about this?

Ex boyfriend and I want him back?

My ex and i have been trying to work things out and a week ago he told me he went out on a date with this girl. well come to find out she has been staying at his house a couple times a week for the last two weeks. he has been telling me he wants me to move home with our little boy, and then later that day he will say he’s so happy with this girl. this has been going back and forth for a week now.

He told me he honestly doesnt know what he wants and will tell me on SATURDAY if we can work things out or if he wants to be with this other girl.

What should I do? move on or wait and give him the benefit of the doubt? i trully love him and want a family with him and my little boy but i dont know if he’s just holding onto me until he finds out if its going to work out between him and this girl or he trully doesnt know what he wants. please help

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My ex and I were going out for about a month and I started having second thoughts. I told him of this and he was very convinced he was going to make things work out and he wanted to get through this with me. Unfortunately, I jumped the gun and told him it’s over. He was very hurt and wanted me back, but waited a day to talk to me about it so I could calm down. When we talked again I told him I’m sure now, and we hung out to try things out. But, I could tell it wasn’t the same by how he acted. A couple days later he was telling his friends we were going back out, which was fine with me. Then two days later I had him over to watch The Notebook and he laid next to me on the couch and kissed a couple times. I know he’s not a good kisser, he was so upset about "messing up" our first kiss the first week we went out. But anyway, these kisses weren’t much better. Later that night on AIM he broke up with me. He told his best friend it was because I broke his heart and he has a strong bond with me as a friend. Could it be that I’m not making him sure of himself? I’d really like him back… my best friend knows him very well and she says I really have to act hard to get. I’m confused, any pointers?

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He tells me he misses me but does not say he wants me back. He tells me how he is doing so well now with everything. I tried to work it out a couple times with him after we separated and divorced. I just don’t love him the way I use to. Did I just give up? Am I doing wrong to get married again? He was mean to me and this guy is a dream.

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Here it is. We have went out a couple times for long periods of time. But theres this other girl, his ex, i seriously thought she was going to kill me so i broke up with him. I realize i made a huge mistake and i want him back. i asked him back out and he said he really likes me but he doesnt want a relationship. i think about him 24/7 what should i do!!!:(

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Ex-grilfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs. Weve been through alot but always managed to maintain our relationship. The first 2 yrs. I had the upperhand broke her heart a couple times but came back to what was important to me. Aug. 06, she changed, was bored, unhappy and unaffectionate, not always but sometimes. We broke up in Feb. 07 but maintained friends, it was rough and filled w/ jealousy, she stayed alone, I messed w/ 2 girls, I told her she forgave me. In June we got back together a she was just like the old her for 2 wks. then she became cold. 2 wks. ago she told me she didnt see our relationship going anywhere so we had to end it. 3 days ago she went out on a date w/ a guy she was introduced to 2 mos. ago but was not interested in. So for the past 3 days she has been talking to him and seeing him constantly, she still me daily and says she cant take me just falling out of her life but she is unwilling to stop talking to him because they are "romantic friends" who are
are neither interested in arelationship. She hasnt seen anyone but me for 4 yrs. but still I was insecure and jealous, Im willing to give that up but I cry to her and she still wont take me back, She claims she will come see me tommorow, and make love to me one more time, she wants to be friends but I want to be back how we were can I do something to make her come back or is it too early to even be grieving like this?

When we see each other its usually fun and cuddly and sweet like yeasterday and we never get into arguments that arent fixed two hours later, but shes having so much fun with this guy and shes never had anyone there but me, does she deserve this free time and me waiting or do i deserve this grief?

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My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

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What bothers me is he doesn’t tell me he loves me. He never was a mushy man, he is very very masculine and always has a shield up. But he would say it maybe a couple times a week.
Now a day I will tell him "I love you" and he either nods or says "outstanding". He does not hold hands, he does not touch or play. We do not have sex very much. I come on to him almost everyday but he says "to wait till later", but when he is ready it is 1am -5am, and I like to sleep from 11pm -6:30am. Most nights if I go to bed before him he won’t join me. He would rather sleep on the couch. he says our bed hurts his back. But he blames me that we "never" have sex. (never meaning 4-5 times a week).

But sometimes he does the sweetest things. He will cook these huge gormet meals for me when I get home from my jobs/school. He does this 4-5 times a week. When he gets drunk he tells me he loves me, and sometimes he would grab me into his arms and dance and sing Sinatra.

But for the most part he doesn’t even look at me.
He is in the Navy and when he comes home from a couple weeks out to sea he won’t even kiss me he will just say " What do you want for dinner"?
I don’t know if he loves me anymore and I don’t know how to make him love me again.
He told me to get a second job even though I am a full time student, so I did. He wants his house spotless, so I clean constantly. I don’t know what else to do to make him happy. When he is happy I am happy, and I have not been happy for a long time.

What do I do? Oh, and he doesn’t believe in going to a marriage therapist. He thinks psychology is mumbo-jumbo. Even when that is the field I am studying.
PLEASE HELP!

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So I really care about my ex-boyfriend. I can honestly say ive never felt this way about any guy I ever dated. Heres my story of what happened…

We are in college, He lives directly across the hall from me. He was in my room one night and texted me "wanna go get something to eat?" so i was like of course! He took me to this pizza place and put his arm around me and I new he was trying to kiss me but instead I said, wanna go back to the dorm? We did and that night he was talking to my suitemates and told them that he really liked me. We started hooking up that two weeks later he asked me out. three weeks later we broke up but continued hooking up until November 9.

Now, we were hooking up EVERY DAY from September to november. He made me feel like I was the only girl he was seeing because he told me he was crazy about me and he asked me…are you hooking up with other people? I told him of course not and then i asked him and he told me no. He took me out in public a couple times and we would always kiss and hold hands and kiss WHENEVER WE LEFT EACHOTHER

Now, i return to school one sunday and see hickeys all over his neck..i confront him and he laughs it off. I see photos on facebook of him making out with this girl from a club he met that night. I later find out that he had sex with her on that friday along with another girl the previous night. I then found out he hooked up with a couple people during the time we were hooking up.

I screamed at him…ive been devasted for almost one month and i cant stop thinking about him and it hurts because i feel like he doesnt give a shit about me anymore.

He told my friend that he genuinly liked me but now he just cant anymore.
I want him back…i never realized how depressed i would be that were not together.
Im transferring next semester and only have a few days left here and i want to tell him that i want to be with him.

How can i do this without sounding stupid. please help me =/

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Ex-grilfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs. Weve been through alot but always managed to maintain our relationship. The first 2 yrs. I had the upperhand broke her heart a couple times but came back to what was important to me. Aug. 06, she changed, was bored, unhappy and unaffectionate, not always but sometimes. We broke up in Feb. 07 but maintained friends, it was rough and filled w/ jealousy, she stayed alone, I messed w/ 2 girls, I told her she forgave me. In June we got back together a she was just like the old her for 2 wks. then she became cold. 2 wks. ago she told me she didnt see our relationship going anywhere so we had to end it. 3 days ago she went out on a date w/ a guy she was introduced to 2 mos. ago but was not interested in. So for the past 3 days she has been talking to him and seeing him constantly, she still me daily and says she cant take me just falling out of her life but she is unwilling to stop talking to him because they are "romantic friends" who are
are neither interested in arelationship. She hasnt seen anyone but me for 4 yrs. but still I was insecure and jealous, Im willing to give that up but I cry to her and she still wont take me back, She claims she will come see me tommorow, and make love to me one more time, she wants to be friends but I want to be back how we were can I do something to make her come back or is it too early to even be grieving like this?

When we see each other its usually fun and cuddly and sweet like yeasterday and we never get into arguments that arent fixed two hours later, but shes having so much fun with this guy and shes never had anyone there but me, does she deserve this free time and me waiting or do i deserve this grief?

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I am 18 and so is my girlfriend. I’ll be a freshman this year at a college in town and she is a senior in high school. We have been dating for almost 3 years and towards the end of the summer our intense fights were starting to get the best of us so she decides maybe we should take a break. I didn’t see the good in this choice but there wasn’t anything I could really do about it. The reason for her needing space is because our relationship has been stressful lately and she is always working or doing things with school and just didn’t need our stress. I know people think there is another guy or something but I can assure you there isn’t. She says she loves me very much and knows we will get back together and it will be ok. We have been apart for a little over a month now and within the past couple weeks we have started talking a lot again. We have even hung out a couple times just as friends, and its been great because I feel like we have been getting to know each other all over again. Well, a couple days ago we hung out and I was about ready to leave and she hugs me and then she kisses me. Of course I don’t really stop it because its not what I truly want. I end up staying for another hour in her room. We kiss heavily and all those kinds of things, and she starts crying and tells me how much she misses me and needs me and loves me. It felt as though we were dating and everything was just perfect. But she still says..we cant get back together yet, I love you so much but we cant..Im sorry for making things even harder. You know I understand her reasons for being alone and I can accept that, but how things have gone lately I feel as though she is just being selfish now. Its not fair to me to be on a roller coaster with my feelings and just having to wait around. Im not really implying the she is out having the time of her life and im crying at home, its not like that at all. I just dint get how we love each other but cant date yet? I truly believe her and everything, but I have been in this situation before and I fear the same thing will happen to me again. Based off what I have said what do you feel is going on?

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I caught my husband a couple times cheating and he always pressure me not to leave him, but I do not have any trust anymore. We do not have any children. Now my ex that i was with for 5 years is still in love with me, he has been contacting me for 10 years as he never got over me leaving. I left because i was young and did not know if he was the one, but now I think he is. Don’t you? or should I try to save my marriage?

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he broke up with me i broke up with him a couple times a long time ago though and he broke up with me cause he thought i was freaking out on him i was just mad cause he kinda told some personal stuff to one of my friends she kept asking him and he told her cause she was getting annoying and a long time ago he told another of my friend something personal that i told him not to and i think he promised to that one. and when we broke up for a week my not friend anymore said that he was flirting with her and stuff and she was flirting with him but he told me thats a lie and he never did (they have never met either all through text messages) and so anyways he still thinks that i freaked on him and i dont trust him when i do and i have told him and he said he wants space and i asked him if we can be freinds and he said ya and so i texted him sometimes and then i kinda asked a couple days if he has made his decision yet if he will give me another chance. and he seems to get annoyed real easily and started ignoring my texts. and all this fighting and stuff was over text messaging and in real life when im with him i have never gotten mad at him or yelled at him i just cant do it i wouldnt be able to on the phone either. what should i do to try and get him to give me another chance? he told my friend he likes being single to and he still thinks that i freaked on him i didnt freak i was just upset and kinda mad how do i get him to not think that? we were dating for almost 2 years to. he was my first bf and i was his first gf he actually had a gf before my for 1 week i guess .. HELP!

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