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So this is kinda a long story. Go to the bottom for a synopsis/shorter version if you don’t have the time. I met this girl a couple months ago, from one of my good friends who had just met her as well. We really hit it off because we had so much in common and she lives just down the hall in my apartment. And over the span of a month, we were constantly with each other along with msging/text/calls/etc. At that point, I asked her out on a real date and she said yeah. I ended up taking her to the aquarium which was awesome, and that night held her hand watching a movie. A couple dates later, and one night we got kinda intimate, nothing crazy but still…I asked her if she was looking for a relationship and she said, umm not right at this moment, but maybe sometime soon. Anyways, since that night, for the next couple weeks, things felt a little different, definitely changed from the first month, maybe because things went from harmless to questionable. Still I cared about this girl, and we had already expressed mutual feelings so I went ahead and basically cheesed out a "do you want to be together/be my girlfriend" line. I haven’t had a relationship in college yet, so I’m kinda new at this but she said yes. A couple days later, at dinner, she basically reneged on it, saying she just wasn’t ready and didn’t want to commit 98% to something that should be 100%. And I took it, said it was ok, and I could wait, so we were "dating". Well I could tell something was still off, because she stopped contacting me much over the thanksgiving break, and she seemed to always be busy when I wanted to hang out. So I had another talk with her, and she kinda changed her views again, saying shes not ready, family issues and she doesnt want to be exclusive in that she would only hang out with one person. She had an awful first relationship that ended a few months ago, and for now, she just needs a friend because she’s not sure when she’s ready to get into that again. She also wants to stop the intimate stuff, like holding hands and kissing, because that should be reserved for a relationship (This is a conservative girl). Things moved too fast, and maybe we should take a step backward, get to know each other better. And she added that we could definitely go somewhere, assured me there was no one else (she has a lot of guy friends), and she didn’t want to confirm anything now because it might lead me on and be unfair that I’d have to do most of the work now.
I don’t think this is one of those, "I just want to be friends" kind of thing because she initiated several things that happened. I really do think its a timing problem, maybe I’m wrong. We’re still going on dates and stuff.
I’ve screwed up a lot in this whole thing lol, from being too much of that nice guy who offers to do a lotta stuff to moving too fast and getting too emotionally attached for someone who’s not that type but I do feel like things could still work out.
She said like 5 times she wasn’t "playing the field", so I honestly don’t think it’s someone else, even if she hangs out with a lotta dudes. I hate part of it though, cause you care about someone and you don’t know how they feel back (shes a gamer chick too lol, works at Gamestop) and you try to read what’s going on but that only results in more uncertainty, doubt, and denial…and I’m mostly a confident guy, just at times during this whole thing, I’ve felt kinda insecure, she doesn’t like revealing too much – definitely guarded. She’s told me that her last relationship, she had to do all the work, basically ditch her friends to meet the demands of the guy. And she doesn’t want that right now, even if I tell her I’m not like that. She just wants some time to herself and to do what she wants and if she made that commitment, it might turn out unfair given that I’d prob have to do most of the work at least early on. Well in the past week or so, I’ve made a big effort to try and help with rides/anything she needs/asking to hang out, but she’s mostly come up with excuses, legit or not. And I know I’ve been pushing (me doing all the initiating), it’s just hard not to think about, and I’m overwhelmed with regrets about stupid things I’ve done and said in this whole thing.

Sorry that’s like a damn novel lol.
Basically, I’ve been way too overbearing the last couple of weeks with this girl that I’ve been going on dates with. And the reason why is because we basically became "official" or whatever for a couple days before she said she wasn’t quite ready to be exclusive (only hanging with one person). I’ve made an effort to work on it, and just be there for her but I know I’ve been calling/asking too much. Should I just give up? At this point, I’ve messed up a lot and maybe some things are irreversible. Or is there still a chance this could work out, and if so, what steps should I take? Idk, I’ve either pushed too much and she feels pressured or if we got to a certain place on the brink of a relationship, then certai
*certainly we can get there again

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ok i was with my ex for 4 years and we have been broken up for 3 months now. I know he still cares but the thing is he just started to date this younger girl (shes 18 hes 20) a couple weeks ago. Anyway she just went off to college about 3 hours away from where he lives. We talked the other day and I think hes starting to relize that hey..shes 18 in college and its not going to work…but also he seems really into her but yet still confussed about me…i want to be with him..if anything being apart has made me relize how much i really do love him..how do I get him back…I really do love him and dont want to throw away 4 years. Please help me..thanks

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I really need more advice on my ex girlfriend. I met her In November of 2008. She was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. We both fell in love, and I did a lot for her in the relationship. Cooked, bought her dinner, did all of the things that mattered. She ended up meeting a new guy 5 months into our relationship and fought and argued that entire month. He was clearly trying to steal her away from me. He offered to pay hundreds of dollars worth of bills for her after a week of knowing her! There was nothing I could do. She ended up cheating on me and left me for him. She still wanted me in her life, but I rejected. I was devastated. I was a psychological mess for months. Her relationship with that low life last maybe a couple weeks. We didn’t talk for months. A few months ago I decided I need to get over her. I deleted her off of my facebook and my phone to begin the process. A couple weeks ago she sent me a message on facebook and asked why I deleted her. I didn’t respond..I thought.."Why should I?" A few days later she sent me another message and was upset over the fact that I didn’t respond. She told me she was sorry for what she did to me. Her "new" boyfriend at the time was cheating on her. She told me she still wanted to be friends and wanted to be a part of my life. I responded back and told her how I felt about what she did to me. I told her I would think about her offer. She told me she was fine with that. She said she always worried about me, and thought it would be nice if we went out for lunch sometime. I thought about things for a few days. I realized that deep down I still loved her and missed being with her. I told her I would give things a chance. She was fine with it and told me she just wanted to be friends. She had just left her boyfriend because he cheated and wasn’t ready for anything. I told her that I wasn’t ready for anything either. I decided to be a nice guy and offered my condolences and informed her to call me if she needed someone to talk to. She sent me a text that night and thanked me for the thought, but told me she had to get over it herself. Again, she offered to go out to lunch sometime. I was fine with it, and told her to let me know when she wanted to. She wanted to start a conversation but I had to get to bed. I told her I would talk later. We didn’t speak for a few days. I ended up landing a couple hockey tickets yesterday. No one else wanted to go so I thought I would ask her. I sent her a text and asked what her plans were for Tuesday night. She never responded. Today I sent her a text and asked her if she wanted to go. She accepted and told me that it sounded like a great idea. I asked her if she received my text from yesterday, and she never responded. It’s been almost 8 hours.

It’s been 10 months since our breakup. WHY IS SHE DOING THIS? I was thinking I would give her a second chance if she proves that she’s changed..but I’m beginning to think she hasn’t. Is she taking the hard to get game to the next level? Is she confused? I really thought I had women figured out. Advice would be appreciated!

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I know this is yucky, but I have back acne..and I hate it! It makes me feel so gross :[ Anyway, I’m going to my boyfriend’s formal with him in a couple weeks, and I have this really pretty blue, open back dress to wear, and I really need to clear this up by then! Does anyone have any homemade, normal remedies? Items that I may actually have lol. I don’t have any money :[
Thanks in advance guys! <3

-Kelly.

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My ex boyfriend and I were on good terms and I was in his life. He doesn’t want to see anyone else, but he doesn’t want a relationship either. I stopped talking to him a couple weeks ago, thinking he’ll miss me and want a relationship. Am I doing the right thing by not talking to him and giving him zero attention? I need advice on what to do to get him back. What will make him want to pursue a relationship again with me? What makes guys want someone?

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i buy a foundation its good for a couple weeks but then i get all oily and shiney. i like a matt look . iv tired mary k, mac, makeup forever, dream matt. nothing working to well. would primer and a mattifier work? which brand should i use?

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Me and my husband are getting divorced.I have had contact with for a couple weeks.What do you think about going back to him

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My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

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What bothers me is he doesn’t tell me he loves me. He never was a mushy man, he is very very masculine and always has a shield up. But he would say it maybe a couple times a week.
Now a day I will tell him "I love you" and he either nods or says "outstanding". He does not hold hands, he does not touch or play. We do not have sex very much. I come on to him almost everyday but he says "to wait till later", but when he is ready it is 1am -5am, and I like to sleep from 11pm -6:30am. Most nights if I go to bed before him he won’t join me. He would rather sleep on the couch. he says our bed hurts his back. But he blames me that we "never" have sex. (never meaning 4-5 times a week).

But sometimes he does the sweetest things. He will cook these huge gormet meals for me when I get home from my jobs/school. He does this 4-5 times a week. When he gets drunk he tells me he loves me, and sometimes he would grab me into his arms and dance and sing Sinatra.

But for the most part he doesn’t even look at me.
He is in the Navy and when he comes home from a couple weeks out to sea he won’t even kiss me he will just say " What do you want for dinner"?
I don’t know if he loves me anymore and I don’t know how to make him love me again.
He told me to get a second job even though I am a full time student, so I did. He wants his house spotless, so I clean constantly. I don’t know what else to do to make him happy. When he is happy I am happy, and I have not been happy for a long time.

What do I do? Oh, and he doesn’t believe in going to a marriage therapist. He thinks psychology is mumbo-jumbo. Even when that is the field I am studying.
PLEASE HELP!

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We had been going out for a little over a month and everything had been going great and then about a week ago she says she needs to talk to me and she breaks up with me. She said she thought I was trying to be in too serious of a relationship and I was "too committed to her." I didn’t know that was possible but apparently it is. She also said she doesn’t want a boyfriend or to be in a relationship right now. I still have feelings for her and I would like to get back together with her but I’m not sure how I should go about doing it. I’d thought about waiting until Christmas day to ask her out again which is a couple weeks away but I don’t know if that’s too soon or if that will even work at all. Please help! I really really care about this girl and I’d like to be more than friends with her again but I’m not sure how to go about it.

P.S. I’m not sure if this helps but we ended on good terms neither of us were mad at each other.

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my ex boyfriend of five years broke up with me recently because he thought i didnt care about him and ect. its been a month and a couple weeks now since we broke up.

should i not give up on him and get him back or move on with this other guy who wants to start seeing me?

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Around Christmas, I bought a purebred dog from a breeder. After a few weeks, I realized I didn’t have the time to properly care for him. I worked long hours and he had to be left in the crate 10-12 hours a day. He was just 5 months old and wasn’t completely housebroken. He was a very sweet dog but playful with a lot of energy. I wanted to find him a home with someone that had more time for him. Last month, a couple bought him. They paid cash and I gave them the dog with the papers. A couple weeks later, I emailed them to see how the puppy was adjusting. (They had another dog of the same breed.) All was fine . The dog was great . Today I got an email saying the dog was tearing up the linoleum on the floor causing monetary damage. They want to return him. I emailed- asked them to put an ad in the paper like I did. I gave them several phone numbers of interested parties who had contacted me. I recommended they crate the puppy while they were away from home. Not in position to take back.
The breeder is 900 miles away in another state. I bought him when I traveled to see my family over Christmas. The most logical thing seemed to try and find him a good home myself.

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I am 18 and so is my girlfriend. I’ll be a freshman this year at a college in town and she is a senior in high school. We have been dating for almost 3 years and towards the end of the summer our intense fights were starting to get the best of us so she decides maybe we should take a break. I didn’t see the good in this choice but there wasn’t anything I could really do about it. The reason for her needing space is because our relationship has been stressful lately and she is always working or doing things with school and just didn’t need our stress. I know people think there is another guy or something but I can assure you there isn’t. She says she loves me very much and knows we will get back together and it will be ok. We have been apart for a little over a month now and within the past couple weeks we have started talking a lot again. We have even hung out a couple times just as friends, and its been great because I feel like we have been getting to know each other all over again. Well, a couple days ago we hung out and I was about ready to leave and she hugs me and then she kisses me. Of course I don’t really stop it because its not what I truly want. I end up staying for another hour in her room. We kiss heavily and all those kinds of things, and she starts crying and tells me how much she misses me and needs me and loves me. It felt as though we were dating and everything was just perfect. But she still says..we cant get back together yet, I love you so much but we cant..Im sorry for making things even harder. You know I understand her reasons for being alone and I can accept that, but how things have gone lately I feel as though she is just being selfish now. Its not fair to me to be on a roller coaster with my feelings and just having to wait around. Im not really implying the she is out having the time of her life and im crying at home, its not like that at all. I just dint get how we love each other but cant date yet? I truly believe her and everything, but I have been in this situation before and I fear the same thing will happen to me again. Based off what I have said what do you feel is going on?

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I’ve been dealing with a breakup from a girl I’ve been with for the past three years. We met at the end of senior year in high school. I went to school 10 hours away freshman year and we stuck through it. I felt stronger and stronger about her each day. I decided to come back home and go to school with her for sophomore year. Again, it was a fantastic year and I loved every minute I spent with her. We were best friends, inseparable and we connected on a very deep level. I knew I loved this girl but I felt like I needed to go back to my first school to get a significantly better degree. At the end of sophomore year I told her I wanted to go back. She began to pull away until I told her I was doing it for us and to better my future. That made her feel better but she still pulled back. I kind of changed too as a result. I felt weird about her actions and I knew she took my leaving as a slap in the face. I began to be more short with her and our relationship took a turn for the worst. I thought everything was fine until one day a couple weeks before I left that she came in my bedroom as I woke up and said she wanted to be single the next year. She said the way I had been acting, the distance, and everything made her want this. I went through many stages of falling apart, anger, upset, numb, happy, just every emotion. A few weeks ago I got to school and my feelings stabilized. I realized that this is a girl worth fighting for. I took a look at myself and the way I had acted to push her away. I think God forced me to make the decision to leave to better myself and now I feel like I can be the most amazing boyfriend to her. I’m now going back home because I don’t feel this is the place for me right now. This decision was not because of her, but it doesn’t hurt that the love of my life is there. She’s been kind of seeing somebody now. She says she likes him but still loves me. She asks me why I’d deserve a second chance after hurting her. She says maybe in a few years we can try again. I know I’ve changed and I know that our relationship is right. I know I can be everything this girl could ever want. I know her better than anyone in the world. We are still best friends. I’m afraid she’s already written me off because she is unsure and doesn’t want to be hurt again, even though she hasn’t told me this. I’m going back in a few days and I’ve gotten her to go to dinner with me this upcoming weekend. She says its strictly as friends. I want to show her I can be a great boyfriend but how can I do this as just a friend? How can I show her I’ve changed and will always make her happy? What about this other guy, I’ve been supportive but how do I approach it? If you’ve read this far then I really appreciate it and I look forward to hearing back. Thanks.
No need to be a dick Linah. Thanks to everyone else who’s taking me seriously
@ LM: correction, shes not with another guy just seeing him. she says she doesn’t want to be his girlfriend even though hes asked…makes me think even more shes confused as to what to do

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My girlfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago. We didn’t have a huge fight, neither of us cheated or anything bad. She said she has been worn down by certain circumstances that aren’t necessarily about us, but outside things.

At first I was crushed and tried to talk her into reconsidering. Then after a day I decided it was best to accept it and give her time/space. The last 2 weeks we have remained friendly. I’ve been trying to keep busy and work on myself, so we’ve only talked a few times online, but kept it for the most part friendly chit chat.

Anyways, I never wanted to break up. I want to get her back, because she is very special to me still. She seems to be doing a lot better dealing with what happened now and has a more clear mind. I think it’s time to talk about it and hopefully reconcile. What is the best way to bring it up and talk about it? I don’t want to sound desperate, but I want to make it clear I still love and care about her enough to get past this and continue on.

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I have a little law firm near the water, and my wife of fourteen years unexpectedly came up to my office last month, only to catch me going down on my (female) secratary. She threw-up in the office and wouldn’t come home for a few days.
When she got back home, she asked me why I did it. I told her that our marriage just didn’t grant me the lustful side of life I need.I just let her vent her frustrations then left to go get a BJ from my secratary.

My wife told me about her proposal, when I got back home. I was to join PETA (the national foundation for animal rights) or she would divorce me. She is an animal fanatic and has wanted me to put my financial weight behind the organization for a while. She knew she had me in a corner. Divorce or pay her off by funneling money into PETA’s coffers.

But then two crazy things happened after that.

About a week after I had made my first contribution to PETA, I was on the phone with the secratary, since I didn’t believe my wife was home. She was home, in fact. And she overheard me telling the secratary that I was surprised over how she (my wife) had never caught me in any of my past affairs. That was the moment my wife realized that I had cheated on her with other women. And her attitude changed from there.

But what really confuses me is what happened next. A couple weeks after that infamous phone call, I was driving home and I just happened to be going over the speed limit. And, simultaneously, a dog walked out in front of my car as a sheriff deputy hit his sirens and lights. Normally the law enforcement use their lights for traffic violations. But the deputy’s sirens made me kneejerk my steering wheel and run the dog over. I got out and tried to revive the dog, but he was dead.

Everything was taped. The deputy taped me killing the dog. My wife was told about the incident, and somehow the tape made its way to PETA. At my last PETA event I was formally removed from the organization. I was called "dog killer" until I quit arguing my case and just left.

Now my wife is divorcing me, since I can no longer be a member of PETA (the only reason she was hanging onto our marriage)

Our local Sheriff is young and single and handsome, and, since we live in a small town, everyone knows him. I saw him and my wife having lunch the other day. Did my wife sleep with the sheriff to get the tape, then remove the scene where it shows he trying to save the dog, and give it to PETA?

Did her finding out about the other women push her over the edge?

And, finally, is there a way to save my marriage?

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I have a little law firm near the water, and my wife of fourteen years unexpectedly came up to my office last month, only to catch me going down on my (female) secretary. She threw-up in the office and wouldn’t come home for a few days.
When she got back home, she asked me why I did it. I told her that our marriage just didn’t grant me the lustful side of life I need.I just let her vent her frustrations then left to go get a BJ from my secretary.

My wife told me about her proposal, when I got back home. I was to join PETA (the national foundation for animal rights) or she would divorce me. She is an animal fanatic and has wanted me to put my financial weight behind the organization for a while. She knew she had me in a corner. Divorce or pay her off by funneling money into PETA’s coffers.

But then two crazy things happened after that.

About a week after I had made my first contribution to PETA, I was on the phone with the secretary, since I didn’t believe my wife was home. She was home, in fact. And she overheard me telling the secratary how I was surprised over how she (my wife) had never caught me in any of my past affairs. That was the moment my wife realized that I had cheated on her with other women. And her attitude changed from there.

But what really confuses me is what happened next. A couple weeks after that infamous phone call, I was driving home and I just happened to be going over the speed limit. And, simultaneously, a dog walked out in front of my car as a sheriff deputy hit his sirens and lights. Normally the law enforcement use their lights for traffic violations. But the deputy’s sirens made me kneejerk my steering wheel and run the dog over. I got out and tried to revive the dog, but he was dead.

Everything was taped. The deputy taped me killing the dog. My wife was told about the incident, and somehow the tape made its way to PETA. At my last PETA event I was formally removed from the organization. I was called "dog killer" until I quit arguing my case and just left.

Now my wife is divorcing me, since I can no longer be a member of PETA (the only reason she was hanging onto our marriage)

Our local Sheriff is young and single and handsome, and, since we live in a small town, everyone knows him. I saw him and my wife having lunch the other day. Did my wife sleep with the sheriff to get the tape, then remove the scene where it shows he trying to save the dog, and give it to PETA?

Did her finding out about the other women push her over the edge?

And, finally, is there a way to save my marriage?

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