I’ve been with him for 2 years, we haven’t broken up yet but he thinks it would be best for us if we did. He wants to go on a break or something to think about what he wants in a relationship. He used to want to be with me forever, and now he doesn’t think it’s what would make him(and me) happy.
If this really goes through, do you think he would want me back later on and we could live happily ever after? How do I make myself seem desirable?
His parents split a year ago and his mom keeps telling him that we’re not going to work, she always tells him about her past boyfriends before she married his dad and all her past boyfriends(and ex-husband) were terrible so he believes that’s whats supposed to happen? also she doesn’t like me so I think she is manipulating him.
Me on the other hand, all my cousins and aunts and uncles are happily married for years and years and no where near a divorce.
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My friend and i go into a fight.I tried everything to resolve things but nothing worked. 3 days later i could tell she had completeley moved on with her life by meeting other friends. It really hurt, we used to be really close she was even invited to my cousins wedding. I am over it now but why do people move on so quickly whether boyfriends or ex friends. She did once tell me she keeps all her emotions of pain inside was it a way of dealing with what happend?
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My cousin started going out with my ex-boyfriend behind my back and i had to find out from someone else.
I got really mad becasue she lied to me and betrayed me by going out with him, so i stoped talking to her.
But it makes me so sad that my cousin who i saw as a little sister would do this to me. I hate the fact that our friendship was broken all becasue of some stupid guy.
She has became obsessed with him and she believes him then me. some one sent her boyfriend and e-mail that was in my name to make her mad. But only one problem i did’nt sent him any e-mail on his cell phone. some one made up an e-mail in my name and sent a messge to my cousins boyfriends phone and made it look like i did it. well now everyone believes that it was me.
What can i do?
The worst thing about this problem is that it practictly seperated our family over a guy. our parents found out about this guy that went out with both of us.
My mother defended me and her mother defended her in this boy drama and now are family are talking to each other. I it makes me feel bad cause i kinda brought him into my families life.
She is all the only family members we have. And now it just my family witch is just me my mom and my brother.
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Please read all. I need your best advice.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and according to all my friends, he is perfect. He’s perfect to them because he will do anything for me but he’s mediocre to me.
First, I have my own place and he’s there with me most of the times. I don’t have to ask him for anything at all. If he notices that I’m missing something, he goes out and buys it. Now that would be fine with me if only he will let me do the same for him. But he’s so headstrong and won’t ask me for help if he needs it. He barely accepts if I offer. Sometimes I have money that I don’t have to pay anything with and if he’s broke and needs it, he won’t ask me. He will ask his friends, cousins etc… Anyone but me. I have to force him to take it anything from me. Even when he does take it, he says "I will pay you back". That always pisses me off. So in turn, I feel very uncomfortable taking things from him. I was taught that everything should be equal in a relationship. So it’s putting a string on our relationship.
Second, I’m the type of girl who’s big on affection and I am very romantic. I enjoy mostly the small things in life; things you don’t have to pay for. But my boyfriend on the other hand, is NOT romantic at all. He doesn’t show me affection. I have to constantly complain to him about the simplest things. He claims that it’s because he didn’t grow up that way. He said his mom never told him she loved him and vice versa. While I sympathize with that, I find it unbelievable that he didn’t pick up anything from me (a romantic person), for the last 4 years. I’m extremely romantic with him. When we’re together, I’m constantly giving him little massages, kisses on his neck, touching and hugging him. When we’re not together, I text him throughout the day and let him know how much I love him and text him freaky stuff cause he loves that. But even after all that, he still think the word "romance" means that you have to go out and spend money. The only times he’s romantic to me is before and after we make love.
I just can’t deal with it. The things that are important to me are not what’s important to him. I can take care of myself. I’ve been doing that all my teenage and adult life. I need someone who can show me love and affection and I don’t think he’s going to learn that. He asked me to marry him earlier this year. I said yes but I don’t wear the ring. I can’t picture myself spending the rest of my life with someone like him. I would feel miserable. I know he loves me but for 4 years he only showed it a few times. On the other hand, I don’t want to let him go because he means the world to me and I feel like if we break up for good and he gets with another girl, she will probably take advantage of his generosity. That’s why sometimes I feel like we’re perfect for each other. His past girlfriends took advantage of him but I don’t do that. I look for the chance to be equal with him. For the last 4 years, I’ve made sure that we celebrate every holiday because those are the only times I get to spend on him the way I want to and the way he does me throughout the whole year. I go all out for his birthday and the holidays. But it’s not enough for me. He does more for me than I will ever do for him.
So pleeeeaaaaseeee, tell me what what you would do or what I should do. And please don’t say, it’s not a big problem. Think of your worst pet peeves or something you absolutely can’t live without. In my case I strive to be equal with my partner and I want to feel loved everyday. Please help. Thank you
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I met my boyfriend back in august through a mutual friend. The mutual happens to be my cousins wife, and my best friend who only wants the best for me. She has known my boyfriend for 20 plus years. They grew up together in a very very small town. Theyre families are very close. My best friend had NOTHING but great things to say about him and how much she thought we would click. AND WE DID!. We remained friends and talked as friends through the phone, text email occasionally.. He had a gf when I met him. But like I said, we were just friends. He texted me around thanksgiving and wanted to say Hi, and see how I was. He told me he had ended his relationship, he found pictures of her with another guy on her computer. And she had also stole money from him. WE started talking daily on the phone, for hours a day. We quickly realized how much we had in common. He then asked (after about two weeks) if he could take me out. I agreed. He sent me a text on his way over saying "I just left, Im on my way, I cant wait. I feel like a little kid waiting for santa to come. I cant wait to spend time with you" This is one of the most amazing men I have ever in my life met. He makes me laugh uncontrolably, he makes me smile just by saying the cutest things, I am for the first time in my 15 years of dating / relationships that I have truly been HAPPY. It is the best feeling ever. BUT. I have been cheated on by every guy I have had a relationship with. So for the last four years I have basicly been just random dating. Hang out a few times, have dinner or drinks, and then I really don’t talk to the guy again. I very quickly lose interest in a man, at max it takes a month or so. I have NEVER once felt like I am losing interest with this guy. He gives me my space, and I give him his. I got to a point where I realized how much I liked him and loved being with him and loved just being happy with someone. I knew it was time to run, or jump. I discussed this with him. He said " I wont let you run, Just jump." He then two days later surprised me with a trip away for the weekend. Full of laughs, shopping, great dining to a fabulous place. He said he needed us to get back on the same page. Things were GREAT. Then following weekend he planned a big ice fishing trip.. Which he knew for me was a BIG STEP. Im not the out doors type. IM always dressed very professional. In heals and dress clothes. I braved it, and like a trooper loved every minute of the 7 hours ice fishing trip he put so m uch into. And I never once complained. It was doing something he enjoyed that made me love it. A few days later out of no where he said "I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship, I feel like I jumped into this so quick. I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship. I care about you so much, but I just got out of a relationship and was hurt. I don’t think im ready for it again" we ended up talking on the phone later, I told him he needed to make sure that was what he wanted. I asked him why he has to build up this wall with me. He said he didn’t know. Basicly over time, we continued to talk on the phone daily.. As if he NEVER said that to me. We did NOT discuss "us" or our relationship for the whole week. Any time I brought it up he said "do we have to talk about this right now, everything is fine" He asked me to dinner that weekend. So I drove over to his apartment (40 miles away) I had dinner with him. We got back to his apartment and I said I was leaving.. Dinner went great, aside from the fact that he could see I was distant due to my mind going a million miles a minute on the way there. He begged me not to leave, he couldn’t believe I drove out there just for dinner and wasn’t going to stay. We finally discussed us and our relationship… He said he is happy, and he just wanted to take it one day at a time.. so we had been. for another month and a half.. NOW AGAIN.. here we are.. He doesn’t know if he wants to be in a relationship.. WHAT IS HE DOING? WHAT SHOULD I DO
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