I’m talking hundreds of text messages starting from morning and going til night, for the past three months. He’s been acting distant for the past few months and we’ve been fighting more, and he blamed the fighting on leaving. But I think the reason I was fighting with him all the time is because he was acting distant and like he didn’t really want to be around.
On Christmas night he said he was ending the relationship and then for three weeks after stayed with his sister and said he had to "think about things" because he didn’t want to make a decision he regretted. Then he broke up with me last Sunday. He said he hoped we could be friends for our son and offered to continue to support me while I’m in school for nursing.
Then I get this bill. HUNDREDS of text messages back and forth between him and this 20 yr old coworker. He denies anything has happened and says it’s "work related". I’m both devastated and livid. Don’t know how I should handle this. Advice? What would you do?
We’ve been together for 10 years and have a 23 month old son together. I am so angry I want to humiliate him and make him regret ever leaving. But then I don’t want to make myself out to look like a fool and the bad one. What would be the best thing to do to get closure on this and leave him wishing he never left?
Shoul I contact one of his coworkers to let them know what they’ve been doing so that they’re both humiliated when they go to work or is that just being petty??
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Not quite a year ago, I lied to my mate. It was what I thought was a meaningless lie. I had hoped he had gotten me pregnant, we had discussed this before. I bought a test and the first one was negative. I saved the second in my car to take later. He later asked me if I thought I was pregnant. I told him I wasn’t sure. He asked if I had testeed, and for some reason I said no. He later found the second test, and his impression was that I thought I was pregnant and was hiding it from him. His conclusion was if I was hiding this and lying then it must be because I was sleeping around.
In all honesty, it was a nonsensical lie, and I have never thought of cheating on him.
Time has passed, and I thought we had gotten over it, but he was using my phone and saw a number he did not recognize. I explained that it was an old coworker of mine, who did not have a phone and that number was her fiance’s number.
All the past came back and he is paranoid that I am sleeping around on him. For true feedback- I am not cheating. I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. I offered to call the number or give him the info, and he said I guess we jst have trust issues. I asked how I can help fix things and he said to just give it time.
Is this really the only solution? And does time really help mend this sort of thing? If there is something I can do to ease his worries, I would do them…
We have a four year old and am terrified that the lack of trust will ultimately be our undoing… I want to save my family.
Any advise?
To clarify, he asked me if I had taken any test and I lied and said no, when in fact I had. I guess in my delusional thinking, I had some thought that if I waited, I might be pregnant and then could surprise him with the exciting news, but my secret really hurt him. And it wasn’t him being over suspicious. It was my shady behavior. I don’t know why it came out of my mouth.
There was also an incident when we first were dating, he asked me if I had been checking on my ex (online) I told him no because I didn’t want him to think I was still "hanging on" but he was over one night and saw on my computer that I was in fact reading my ex’s myspace and he was upset that I didn’t tell him the truth. I think I have always had abandonment issues, and tried to tell him what I thought he wanted to hear. I have been focusing on my reactions and responses and have not lied to him again. I have tried to be very open. The number has been on my phone for years, he just happened to see it and is upset.
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My highschool sweetheart of 16 years left me for a coworker. She told me that she was bored and was gone without giving me a chance or a real explanation of why? She is so happy now and is living a real fantasy. I feel like a total failure and have no self worth. She rubs it in my face how he treats her…..ballets,concerts,dinner parties, Hawaii ect. We never had much money because of kids and bills and this guy comes along and sweeps her off her feet. Will I ever love again. My friends and family tell me that I’m attractive but I feel like a t*rd! I’m in my early 30′s. Is love finished with me????I want to love and be loved
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We where highschool sweetys and dated for 5 years .Then we married and 1o years later and two young boys she started an affair at her work. She wanted to be with him so I had no chioce but to divorce. I told her that I would have done anything in the world and that nobody will ever love her as much as I do. But it didn’t help. She told me that she had fallen out of love with me last year and that really hurt. I was a good husband and father and everybody was shocked. Do you think in time that she might realize what she lost? And regain feelings? Its been 3 months since we seperated and she is still with her coworker. I’m moving on and call me a glutten for punishment but I still love her sooo much.
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We were together for several years and have 2 kids. He proposed to me and everything. We did fight and had a lot of problems. he recently left me for a coworker who is younger. I may be stubborn but I do anything for anyone, I gave him everything and did everything to make him better himself. He says he still loves me and always will, I am his best friend. He has already moved in with her. His family refuses to meet her or allow her at their home. I think he is just "smitten" with her and will eventually come crawling back, but then again I am afraid he is having too much fun because she has no kids and no responsibility. I desperately want to try it again and I really hope we can work it out before Christmas, what can I do? No rude answers please, I know I shouldn’t take him back, but I don’t care.
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