She’s the mother of my daughter (who I love beyond belief), the only girl who has loved me after I gained a little weight, she finishes my sentences, she got some inheritance and paid off my credit cards with it, she is always telling me she loves me, but for some reason I always feel like something is missing. We get along great but it’s always in the back of my head….
We’re supposed to get married soon but I dunno if I’m really in love cuz I’m always checking out other girls and recently my ex has been talking to me and she told me she always thought we would end up getting married. She was my first love and talking to her brings up so many old feelings but I cant stop talking to her cuz it makes me feel good knowing that she might want me back.
I’ve never really known if I love my gf although I’ve always told her that I do, I just get along with her so great but I can never tell if its love or just a great relationship. I actually cried when I had a dream that she died, but at the same time why cant I stop looking at other girls??? And why is my ex trying to get back in my life???
I think she’s just a sociopath trying to see if she can still get me cuz she used to lie to me all the time and always got with other guys while saying I was her priority. We would always fight about her seeing other guys and I would tell her off and she would cry and say I hurt her so much and what not but I thought obviously she must not care THAT much since she would continue to do it but then again she was my first love and I cant seem to get over it… I dunno what to do should i stay with the girl who truly loves me or go for the one that might but would make me happy? Knowing that going for her would make me lose the one that loves me? Please help
Recently, I have found out that my ex-boyfriend of 5 years have cheated on me and obviously hid it from me for about 2 months before I checked his phone and found out. He was not a very good boyfriend even before that happened. He was lazy, unmotivated, and didn’t really want to work for anything..I paid for most of the things and activities we did like dinners and movies. He is broke and is in debt from when he was younger and blew out many credit cards. I stuck around through everything with him, while he became homeless and broke to trying to get back on his feet. He became more and more disrespectful though over the years. Fighting with him was also very hard because everytime we fought, he’d walk out and stay away for hours while I cried and begged for him to come back…which of course he didn’t until he felt like it which was hours and hours later.
So with that said, I have also found out that he has lied to me about things before the cheating. He wouldn’t tell me that he allowed a very flirtatious (girl)friend sleep there before she had to go to work. He claimed they didn’t do anything but after finding out that he cheated on me, I cannot believe many many things he say now. Our trust is out the window but I recently threw in his face that I slept with someone else too, after the fact, of course.
After 2 weeks after I busted him, he didn’t once call me or text me, and according to our mutual best friend, he didn’t even ask about me. But now he says he’s a changed man. He had seen things all wrong and that he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Of course, that sounds impossible right now because even looking at him makes me think about all the lies he told to get what he wanted. I have made him feel worst and worst though by telling him of my sexual experiences after I left him. I also told him that I wanted to be on my own for a while and do things that I wanted to do.
So I know this is long and I really appreciate anyone who can help. I have asked him to give me a couple of weeks to myself to just think everything through. I have to think about him whether or not I could ever trust him again. I have to put aside something that I truly believed in and that’s that cheating breaks everything, and once you do that, I’m gone. Right now, he says that he wants to work through everything and anything with me. He is willing to pay for what he did and he understands that asking for me back is a selfish thing to do, but that’s what he wants. He guarantees me, no more lies…
I can’t bear to even think about getting f*cked over twice. I’d rather start NEW with someone else and if I get hurt with that person too, then at least I know I tried. I have given my all to this guy for as long as I’m with him and many many times, I have felt miserable. Our relationship was not a good one but now he says that he is willing to change. He understand that this cannot happen overnight but he wants to love me forever. He says he will never speak to her again and tell me the truth about everything from now on. He is willing the endure the pain I will put him through in order to get through it and love me more than he loves himself and will do anything to prove it. What should I do? Should I even consider anything with him again? Of course I understand, whatever I decide, I should take the time out and see what kind of "changes" he is willing to implement because I really didn’t like the person he was. Besides the time I will take for myself to really think about everything…what should I do? Thanks
He keeps calling me and telling me that I’m sorry. But I can’t get over it all yet. But he’s really trying. He wants to take me out, do all these things for me, and it’s putting a toll on me. It’s so much pressure. Should I keep saying no? Plus I do want to explore my options. If I get hurt by some other guy, am I going to want to run back to the one who I know is there? What should I do? I want what’s best for me with the minimum damage to him.
I have 3-4 credit cards judgments against me, all purchased by an aggressive collection agency (legal firm). After divorce, I live paycheck to paycheck and have 6-7 checking accounts and keep less than 0 in each. They have the Sheriff collect on BofA about once per month. My question-is there somewhere I can save money for my two children in my current marriage so I can build college savings? I don’t care about money for me, I just need to get them through college (ages 3 and 7). I do not have money to speak to a professional, but maybe some help here and a pointer to the best book on how to protect assets against garnishments. I do not have a house, no longer own anything of value. I cannot pay off all the debt, interest, and fees required of the collector and cannot afford any payments. I must remain under their radar until I can save for college. Small cashier checks hidden at work will not grow until I can invest them. I hope someone can help. Thank you in advance.
He wanted me to stop using credit cards and start paying them off. I stopped using them and have paid off some of them already. He wanted me to get my caps replaced and we agreed that I could save the money since I didn’t have dental insurance and didn’t want another monthly bill. I have saved money and am almost there. I have a 21 year old bipolar son. He has never gotten along with him and they have gotten into fights. He wanted me to get him on his feet. I told him that I would need time to do this because I would have to get my finances in control to be able to help my son out. The counselor told him that with the way my son is he would need financial help from me. My husband agreed. The counselor asked him how long I could have and he said 1 year. The counselor asked him what if it takes 2 years and he said that is okay I love her that much. The counselor said what if it never happens and he said that is okay I love her that much. He wants my son to get a drivers license. I have started letting him drive my car and will be getting him driving lessons. I wanted him to express his feelings to me more often. He is the kind of man that is always there for everyone else but he shuts me out. He came to me a month ago and said that he can’t live with my son and it was either him or my son. (We have 2 small children together.) I got rattled and thought here we go again he is going to leave. So I filed for a divorce to start financial protection for myself and our children. He changed his tune and I haven’t gone ahead with the divorce. Last night he comes to me and says that we are not compatible, we don’t have a marriage, we don’t know how to communicate to each other and nothing has changed. I’ve worked on everything that he wanted done and I still come last to him. I’m so lost. It sounds like he is asking for a divorce but when I come straight out and ask him he says how can I just walk away? Any insight?
I should add that my son does pay rent, has a job, buys his own medicine, pays for his nurses and doctors appointments. And he has psychofrenia affective disorder but I didn’t know how to spell it so I just put bipolar.
