My ex-girlfriend has called me and said that she wants to be with her current boyfriend more than she wants to be with me. She knows I love her, but she wants to see how this relationship with her new boyfriend will turn out. I know that I need to move on with my life, but I can’t stop loving her and thinking of all the good (and bad) times we shared…Deep down, I want a second chance with her. i know there’s no way of telling the future, but is it possible that time can bring us back together? How do you give up someone you loved (and loved you) for so long? Will time destroy my desire for her or make it stronger?
Ive been broken up with my ex for years, to the point when the last time we were officially together we were just kids. I threw out everything that had to do with him, all the pictures, all the notes, all the songs. Now I just feel crazy. I thought all that was the steps you needed to take to make someone go away, to not think about them anymore. It’s like some weird drug, I get this desire to call him up, to go see where he is or what he’s doing. If I ever do get a hold of him, I have this strange happiness for weeks on end.
Alright, so that much I could see someone saying, so go for it. But I have, and it just hasn’t worked out. Sometimes he tells me he feels the same way, sometimes he tells me he’s completely over it and I’m thinking about things long gone. It just sucks. I don’t know anyone in this kinda situation.
We broke up because basically I moved out of town for college. He wasn’t getting a job or doing much with his life. I kinda needed to focus and keep going and was getting brought down. But I mean were older now and he’s got a job and tells me he’s changed a lot,
So anyways here the deal. I tried to get him back, but the fact that I lived so far away was still a problem. He would talk to me for a day, then I’d go out of town and we’d never really get anywhere because either it left off on he loves me or he loves me not. Also, there was an episode about a year or so after the break up where he was doing something similar to me, trying to get me to come back and even break up with a current boyfriend.
It’s really been a mess. I’ve ruined a lot of his relationships and he’s ruined a lot of mine. This has been going on a really long time, and this whole time I’ve been wishing it would just go away. How the hell do you make these feelings go away?
Now, it’s a really big problem for me. After trying to get him back the last time and getting frustrated that it was going nowhere, I finally tried to just accept that it looked like I was alone on this and I needed to move on.
I’m dating this perfect guy who is the best thing ever for me. I’m pretty much always happy, progressive, and feel like I can work really well with the guy. My friends love him, my family loves him, and I love him. But for some really dumb reason I can’t figure out because of the internal WAR going on in my head, I feel the urge to call my ex. It’s probably about once a month at least. Sometimes more or less. But umm…thats KINDA a problem! How can I really, REALLY forget about this guy if nothing works? I tried talking to him about it and accepting it, and still felt the same, throwing all the stuff out, still felt the same, living in a different state, and "time healing" all didn’t work. What the hell? I need someone to exorcise him from my life. Is THAT a possibility?
What this really comes down to for me is logic vs emotion. Logic tells me that I have a damn good thing going, and I’m going to really screw it up and loose someone important to me if I even THINK about my stupid ex. Emotions tell me that I talk to this guy one day and I am glowing for the next two weeks. I get angry when I hear his name, when I hear about love and all that. I get angry and then I call him because I can’t stand it. I seriously blush a little if his shoulder touches mine. But you can’t trust emotions, emotions change. Logic doesn’t change. Somone who is always there for you, always supports you no matter what and WILL tell you how they feel about you is way more important than an old flame who burns away all happiness.
If I weren’t with my boyfriend, I would still be trying to get him back for sure. If I never met him however, I would be the happiest person in the world for sure. I wrote a list of pros and cons to both and it was literally equal. Btw, he has a girlfriend, and what he HAS said to me is basically almost exactly the same as what I’m saying. He loves her and can see marrying her, but he can’t watch love movies with her without getting angry or thinking its stupid.
This is, surprisingly, the short version of this story.
I’m a nineteen year old very mature male and in a relationship. I’m homosexual; if that makes a difference. I’ve know my current boyfriend for 7yrs now. Throughout hs we always talked on and off and recently for the past almost 7months we’ve been dating. This i have to say is my first love. I feel like kyle is the one for me. He makes me very happy.
Recently this week we’ve been having severe communication probs. we’re both in college 200mi away we both work, our schedules conflict. So i’ve talked to him about how i feel he doesnt care and he’s been short with me. And last night i would say i overreacted. He was with his friends and i was at work on break i called him he was short THATS EXPECTED HE WAS WITH HIS FRIENDS. but i had texted him a question that required a one word answer. sent is twice NO RESPONCE. I’m not this lame i wasnt upset with that fact of the text it was that we’ve been talkin about comm and he completely thru it out the window and nowWEmightBreakUp
Ok so my ex and i only dated for about 5 months, but during those 5 months we grew VERY close and fell head over heals for each other. He moved in with me and everything was going well. At times, he was hard to trust. One day he ran off to vegas with his friends.. and cheated on me. I broke up with him. I got with my new boyfriend soon after (possibly a rebound?) My ex still comes by my house looking for me ( i hve never been there when he comes by) He tells my mom he loves me and he wants to marry me. I have been with my new boyfriend for two years and he has been with his girlfriend for a year and a half. He still comes by my house looking for me and tells my mom how much he wants me back. I havent seen him since we broke up! TWO YEARS!!! and he STILL hasnt let me go.. what do i do? i still think about him a lot and often dream about him. i would hate myself if i left my current boyfriend to go back with him and he did the same thing and hurt me again. i dont want to make the wrong decision! ugh! helppp meee pleassseee. and no stupid answers. i really need help on what to think of this
Two years ago, I dated a guy that I fell head over heels for. The problem was that he didn’t know what he wanted, and he was heavy into drugs. I’m a very serious person by nature, and once I realized that he was flighty – I had to cut him off. But I was heartbroken; he had treated me badly throughout the relationship.
I went to school and met a great guy – smart, ambitious, funny – but I kept comparing him to my ex (because as great as this current guy is, I still love the ex more). I finally managed to put that aside for the boyfriend’s sake, because he is very good to me.
Well, last night I got a phone call, and sure enough it was my ex (we talk pretty often, although I have always made it clear we were just friends). He told me he wanted to get back together and that he still loves me; he said he was working on quitting drugs, and has already stopped the drinking, and is actively going to a therapist. A few other people confirm this story.
He wants me to go on a romantic getaway with him, and to date him again. But I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend because he treats me well, and loves me very much and I can imagine a future with him. At the same time, I can imagine a future with my ex (one involving a lot of love).
Should I go on the trip, or tell him I can’t and cut him off? And who do you think is the best choice – dating someone I love more than anything, or dating someone safe who I have learned to love?
i divorced my husband 10 mos ago, had a boyfriend while married, just moved out of husbands house, currently renting a home with boyfriend not too far from ex’s place…i miss my ex and want my broken family mended (my ex and I have a child together). my current boyfriend i feel is not what i really wanted. regret NOT going to counseling to repair my marriage.
I just broke up with my ex to go out with this kid , now I really want my ex back . Words can even explain how much I want him back. But I don’t want to break my current boyfriend’s heart because hes in love with me . How can I get him to leave me ?
I have been seeing my current boyfriend for going on a year and I heva a sick feeling that he is going to keep running back to his ex.
I have found emails where he is telling her how much he loves her. I also found a text message from her saying how " I feel asleep waiting for you last night". I want to believe him but I must say the proof is in the pudding. Should I leave him?? Will he always have a connection with her and keep running back?
So i am currently with my boyfriend ov 5 months. I love him a lot. Unfortunately i have fallen for him so quickly. Recently an ex boyfriend, my first love, my whole world ov almost 2 years has come back into my life. He just went away too college for 2 years. He says that he wants me to come visit him so that we can get back together n when he gets back we will be mature enough to get married. Then h wrote me on myspace today said he missed me n wants to see me n said "I LOVE YOU". iT was a really big shock to me cuz i haven’t heard it from him in so long. I keep thinking like what if he is playing with my head n break up with my current boyfriend, knowing that it it will crush him, then i will have lost both ov them. I don’t know what i should do. Any advice would help. Thanks.
I broke up with my ex boyfriend several months ago. I have a new boyfriend and I do care about him alot, but I seem to find myself thinking of my ex more than my current boyfriend. I do still love my ex, but I want to forget about him so I can give my love to the person who wants it right now.
ok well a few weeks ago there were a buch of rumors about me having sex with my ex boyfriend (Dane)while i was still going out with my current boyfriend(Ryan) and Ryan heard all of this crap and he belived
it so now im doing everything in my power to win him back and prove to him that iam/was faithful.What are some good ways to do this?
When I was drunk I kissed me ex in front of my current boyfriend. Neil (my bf) was so jealous and now he is threatening to call off the wedding. It’s all booked we are moving to Massachusetts in 2 weeks. I think that he won’t let it go easily. Please help, he is my rock.
I’m 18 years old and 6 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child by my ex boyfriend.We already have a 1 year old son.My ex boyfriend and I ended up having sex when my current boyfriend and I were on break and I’m pregnant.I’m having doubts about staying with my current boyfriend because he is too controlling.I haven’t told the boyfriend I’m with now about the baby yet.I was thinking about getting back together with my ex boyfriend.My ex boyfriend wants to make it work for our unborn child.Is it wrong to get back together with him just because we’re expecting a child?
