Like many others, I see myself as a victim of the world economic downturn. 6 months ago, I left my baby, my wife, my mother and my sister (we have a small family) behind in the UK to go abroad and help us out financially. We have achieved financial stability (for the short term) as a result. I am fortunate that I stay with relatives who although I don’t get on with but do enough to get by every day. This has meant that I do not have to worry about rent etc. My only cost is a lease car which I pay for every month.
I work in one of the Gulf States and was accepted a job on whim out here which meant that I was able to double my salary. I now send 90% of what I earn back to the UK to help cover the mortgage and bills back home. I also left the UK with debts of around 6000 pounds because I was earning less than what I was paying out every month. I would always end up being overdrawn every month. I save very little here although I am making progress in repaying my debts. Before I left the UK, I was stuck in a dead end job which I worked really hard at but was stitched up by the management who treated me very badly when I decided to apply for numerous internal job openings. I worked for this company for two years and got nothing out of it.
I do not like living here. It is a complete culture shock. 6 months in, I am feeling angry, frustrated, lonely, home sick and I feel quite ill on a mental level. I am due to fly out to visit my family in June but do not know how I will be able to cope when I return back to the Gulf. I feel very insecure about myself and my family feels the same way.
Add to that, our fixed term mortgage is going to end in October so we need to find a new affordable mortgage. I am worried that it may be more expensive than what we are paying at the moment. Our main challenge in the UK was that we (wife and I) earned less than what we were spending. We did not even have a lavish lifestyle and only went out once a month but our bills were through the roof.
Now as I wait to fly out in two weeks, I am both happy that I will be seeing my baby for the first time since she was born 6 months ago and my small family who are the world to me, but sad because we may have to endure more emotional pain. I don’t honesty know how I will be able to cope if the worse happens and we were to live separately for longer. The worse fear is that our marriage may be put under strain which I dread because me and my wife have a beautiful relationship. I am sorry if I have rambled on for a long time but I am sitting here in the office in front of the computer totally lost and drained under the stresses of my mind.
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hi i am 36 and single going to be 37 on june 17 th ( having bit of birthday blues ) …..i never married because i never found the right woman and now i am bit set in my ways to contemplate marriage … i am in a reasonably dead end job ….. in the accepted meaning of the term i am a failure . … but i have kicked alcoholism 8 years back after a 6 year affair with the bottle .. i have overcome dire poverty to have an existence and have changed from being a wimp to having a rather pleasant personality ….. am i being too harsh on myself just because i do not have a wife and mandatory two and half kids and a dog … and have not yet been able to accumulate assets like house , or started saving for retirement …….
does anyone know a good motivation , self help website ?
i believe like Rocky … " it is not how hard you get hit and stand up which matters .. but how hard you can get hit and keep moving ….. " is that a good mantra to have ?
Oops that was wrong quote here is the right one …." It ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. "
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So I left my old boyfriend because I felt that he didn’t have ambition anymore. He’s a high school drop out with a dead end job and no dreams of doing anything better. So, I went out and I got me a new man, but he has his own flaws. For one he’s in the middle of getting divorced and two he has a son on the way, and three he has no job. I know that at one time I loved my old boyfriend and I still want him back sometimes and I still care about him, but this new guy is sweet and has the ambition I’ve been needing. They both have their ups and downs and I’m not sure what to do. Please help me!!!
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Hi .. I am 36 and single going to be 37 on june 17 th ( having bit of birthday blues ) …..i never married because i never found the right woman and now i am bit set in my ways to contemplate marriage … i am in a reasonably dead end job ….. in the accepted meaning of the term i am a failure . … but i have kicked alcoholism 8 years back after a 6 year affair with the bottle .. i have overcome dire poverty to have an existence and have changed from being a wimp to having a rather pleasant personality ….. am i being too harsh on myself just because i do not have a wife and mandatory two and half kids and a dog … and have not yet been able to accumulate assets like house , or started saving for retirement …….
does anyone know a good motivation , self help website ?
i believe like Rocky … " it is not how hard you get hit and stand up which matters .. but how hard you can get hit and keep moving ….. " is that a good mantra to have ?
uh forgot to mention that i am from india … but i am very cosmopolitan so your answers are welcome where ever you are in the world ..
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hi i am 36 and single going to be 37 on june 17 th ( having bit of birthday blues ) …..i never married because i never found the right woman and now i am bit set in my ways to contemplate marriage … i am in a reasonably dead end job ….. in the accepted meaning of the term i am a failure . … but i have kicked alcoholism 8 years back after a 6 year affair with the bottle .. i have overcome dire poverty to have an existence and have changed from being a wimp to having a rather pleasant personality ….. am i being too harsh on myself just because i do not have a wife and mandatory two and half kids and a dog … and have not yet been able to accumulate assets like house , or started saving for retirement …….
does anyone know a good motivation , self help website ?
i believe like Rocky … " it is not how hard you get hit and stand up which matters .. but how hard you can get hit and keep moving ….. " is that a good mantra to have ?
uh i work as a teacher and i forgot to add that i am from India …… but i am very cosmopolitan so your answers are welcome where ever you are ?
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