Fiance broke up . . . no reason?

I met the love of my life over a year ago. We dated for about 6 months and were engaged for 3. He called me one day and broke up with me. He has not given me any real reason. He said that he was uncomfortable with the way we handeled certain decisions. We were trying to do a lot of things at one time, buy a house, plan a wedding, fix a house.

From what he told me, it’s been things that my mother had done and nothing that he came out and told me I did wrong. I am still very willing to be with him, but I have not heard from him. I wanted to give him time and space to think about things, but I’m afraid that he is going to forget all about me. A week before he broke up with me, he told me that he has had the best 9 months of his life and would not trade them for anything.

Is there still a chance for us, and how do I get this heartache to finally go away?

My head tells me that it is over and I need to move on, but my heart tells me that he is the one.
I have tried to talk to him a few times. He has never been one to talk about things or show much emotion. Everytime that I have talked to him, he has called me by the pet name he always did. To me, that meant he still cared and had feelings.

It’s been a few months since the break up, but my heart don’t let me move on. I’ve tried everything to forget him and listen to my head, but he made my life make sense.

I just don’t know what to do.


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