If you love something, set it free…..

"If you love something set it free; if it returns it is yours forever
If It Never Returns, It Was Never Yours To Begin With."

Until recently, I perceived this quote as romantic…. but unrealistic….
Until recently, until a past love re-entered my life, did I actually start pondering its proposal.
Can it be? If I chose to let him go because things were not right for us at that time and my lost love has returned now, is it mine forever, my true love? Did the universe decide this is the right time for us?

A little background on my "freed love". We were young, I was 16, and he was 18. We were crazy, about both life and each other. He had just graduated high school, I had just moved back to the states from Colombia. We wanted to just have fun. We both had that “let’s live life to the fullest” attitude. Everyday was an adventure with him. I remember one day laying on the couch with him and saying “I want to go camping”. He was all forth it, “let’s go! Tomorrow, Friday, ill go to Wal-Mart buy some grub and we will go camping!” And we did. We invited friends, made it a huge camp out and had the time of our lives. Many times we had the time of our lives, just being spontaneous. He was an amazing man, if he could bring the stars down from the sky one by one for me he would.

But with so much passion during the good times there was that same amount of passion during the bad times, rage. He had an anger problem. It did not help I was a depressed manic! I had lost my grandma, my world, and it brought me into the darkest depression anyone can endure. I almost did not make it out alive. I was hospitalized for three weeks under antidepressant medication. He was there for me in my hard times, but he could not understand my actions half the time. We would fight continuously, aggressively, screams and shouts, and often physical.

I graduated high school and decided to go to college locally, for both him and my mother. However, once there I needed freedom to live the college life, to be completely young and stupid, before I could be grown and mature in the real world. He wanted to give me enough space but he could feel me slipping away from him. He proposed that first year of college because he wanted me to be with him for the rest of his life. We thought we could make it Trough College. But we did not; I broke up with him at the end of my first year in college. I broke up with him because I needed to live life and see what was out there for me, before I could settle down.

The break up was horrible. It was physical. The cops got involved. We both threw objects and punches at each other. I broke his heart and he broke mine……and we went out separate ways.

I am now 23, five years have passed since our teenage romance, and he has entered my life once again. Facebook is the culprit (I swear even president Obama probably has a fb account lol.) I was surprised to hear from him, I felt I had broken his heart so gravely even if I were to see him again in my life; his words toward me would not be pretty ones.
I was speechless, excited, hopeful, frightened; every emotion was felt at least once. We spoke on the phone for about three hours, about where we are in life, our goals, our adventures, and of course our love.

He lives in North Carolina (after I broke his heart he had to move out of Florida!) I still live in Florida. I am still in school; he has finally started his own business. I am independent; he has taken proper steps to manage his anger issues. He is single, I am single. We decided to catch up because we each hold a special place in each others heart. But here I am today wondering, contemplating this quotes proposal. Is this man in my life for a second chance at our love? Is he my one true love?

I am due to go see him in North Carolina in about three weeks….but I do not know if it’s the right choice? To fly 800 miles to go see a man who I had such a dangerous relationship with, whose heart I broke into a thousand pieces. We say we have no expectations, but I know we both feel like maybe this is our second chance at great love and maybe this one time we will be together until we grow old. And what if I do fall in love with him yet again….have I experienced enough in my life to finally be with him. am I worthy enough of his love, Will we be abusive to each other again!?

I know I need not the what if’s, but This is a complicated decision for me. I try to talk to my best friends about it they are no help lol sam tells me go for it he is your lobster, but nat tells me I am making a mistake. I know I am suppose to follow my heart, but the heart knows no logic, and sometimes you need logic…..

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Down all the time, no will to even move
Lights always off, won’t get up to eat my food
Stuck in this void, soul completely destroyed
Lost in the darkness, fallen like the city of Troy
Broken into pieces, everything caught in flames
Stuck out in the rain, an everlasting pain
All hope gone, my mentality lost in reality
This has put a disturbance in my personality
In a rut, my head in the darkest region of space
Loosing this race, my responsibility a waste
Heading the wrong direction, at the Devil selection
A mind set of hatred has come to a resurrection
My body can’t function, slowly I’m frantic
Can’t control it, constantly in this panic
Someday I wish to leave this darkened fortress
And maybe one day I again experience happiness

Floating in purgatory
A hellish nightmare story
No escape, can’t fight back
Forever in pitch black

Loosing it all, thanks to this ugly depression
Maybe its because of this everlasting recession
Sad thoughts continue to find a way inside
Still in bed, forgotten how many times I cried
Choosing just stay within the walls of my home
When I’m crazy as hell, so best leave me alone
Try to keep the evil thoughts from entering
About homicide, little children gone missing
Someone on the 34 floor to give his final jump
More people finding a way back into this slump
Women grabbed by the streets, about to be raped
Tied to the seat, no way for her to escape
Monoxide filling a room containing kids
Mass slaughtering of people stuffed in a fridge
No way out, why won’t these thoughts leave me
Want it to be over with, someone set me free

Floating in purgatory
A hellish nightmare story
No escape, can’t fight back
Forever in pitch black

Sick of the sadness, can’t cope with all of it
Pleading to God, to get and keep me from it
Got to fight the devil, fight him and his evil ways
It been to damn long, its been too many days
The damage done, completely devoured
Can’t believe the rejuvenation of this shower
Shook it off, thinking clearly, once again
Knowing I can win, the pain I can mend
If you don’t get rid of the evil on your shoulders
Can weigh you down like your carrying boulders
The Devil tries to get inside your head
Hoping you drink that water full of lead

Floating in purgatory
A hellish nightmare story
No escape, can’t fight back
Forever in pitch black

The Midwest Arsonist

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Ok I’ve been dealing with my depression now for a while and I’ve tried everything I could think of to get out of my depression.

1.) I’m going to counseling and that doesn’t get rid of it.

2.) I’ve picked up smoking cigerates and that doesn’t help

3.) I’ve tryed changing my religion and that doesn’t help.

4.) Tried making friends but that always goes wrong with me.

5.) Tried drinking that doesn’t help.

6.) Tried writing down the way I feel in a note book but I always feel awful even if I do.

7.) Tried weed but I still felt like crap even when I was doing it so I don’t do that anymore.

8.) Tried making pretend friends for myself I wanted to buy some fake GI joes and they could be my friends and I even wanted to buy a blow up doll and make it my girlfriend so I could have someone to talk to but I’m still depressed.

9.) Tried magic spells and that doesn’t work.

The only thing I haven’t tried is anti-depressants. What should I do to get over depression?

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Would you give love a second chance?

Once bitten twice shy they say. With the supposed demise of romance, more people are shying away from love.

When someone dumps you for someone else – especially after having gone extra miles for them – it wont be easy to gamble with your heart and feelings again. Some people go into depression that makes them lose their friends or their jobs. Some end up loathing members of the opposite sex and taking their anger and frustrations out on them. Some take a break from love and focus on other things.

The fear of having to go through the same heartache, the fear of having your now-delicate heart broken again makes people build those emotional walls. However, not all people who suffer from heartbreak react this way. Some bounce back like nothing happened.

What makes people be afraid to love again? When someone you thought cared about you rejects you, most people go into self pity. They start doubting whether they are even good enough to be loved. But is this even healthy?

People break up for various reasons and I don’t think there is a reason like not good enough for love. Cry if you have to. Get a hobby to take your mind off things. Socialize but not specialize; you need that break to figure things out. Accept that change is inevitable. But NEVER EVER give up on love.

“You just have to gamble if you ever hope to hit the jackpot! There are no two ways about it,” says one chick, Peninah. Her story is; her boyfriend hurt her so much it took her 4 years to heal. And she decided to live by the motto: one man’s meat is another man’s poison. She found love and is now happily married to a man who adores her and their daughter.

When you decide to give love a second chance, it may not be easy coz most people usually have issues of trust. But when you realize that the person you want to be with now isn’t the person who broke your heart, and stop lumping people together, you will be off to a good start.

No matter how devastating a break up was, don’t let a great chance pass you by, by refusing to open yourself to love. Don’t settle for too little when you deserve too much. Get out there…love again! But remember, you must heal first in order to love again.

Are you willing to find love the second time, like it’s spoken about in the Second Chance Romance System?

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okay so here’s the story I dated this girl for about fifteen months and I loved her and she loved me we were only seventeen, we planned to get married after we graduated and before I shipped of to the Army. we had the perfect relationship nothing between us felt comfortable talking to each other about anything and everything I never lied to her and if I did I told her the next day and apologizes and asked for her forgiveness even after she said it was okay. any way last summer when we finished our sophomore year about half way threw the summer I promised her I would stop drinking so hard and quit smoking and cut back on chew. well I don’t know how it started but my friends needed a case of beer and some cigarettes so I bought it for them the next day I went to pick her up I saw her walking down the street and parked next to her I said "hey you ready to go?" she walked in her house and came out almost crying and said "I can’t be with you any more and put my dog tags on my passenger seat I just drove back to my uncle’s [were I was living at the time] I kind of fell into a depression and constantly drank and smoked heavily just sitting on the couch I later found out my friend who I bought the beer and cigarettes for blocked his number and text-ed her saying he saw me buy a case and was at a party at my uncles were I got really smashed and was getting rowdy trying to fight people. when I found this out I called him told him to come over it was just me, him and best friend the first thing I asked was did you text my girl and tell her that he immediately said "yea I had too you just seemed to p*ssy whipped" as soon as he said I jumped up kicked down the coffee table and began punching him and and he fought back and we spilled out on the street my best friend and gran pop broke us up and he said "bros before hos" then it started all over again by the end we were both pretty bloody and banged up I never talked to him after that. I just felt a void and began seeing a girl who I met threw my uncles crack head girl friend after about two days of knowing her we began dating I would always drop her off in bad neighborhoods and give her money and drive her to her house about 20 miles away. it wasn’t a serious relationship i just wanted to fell loved. finally the night came when she was high and kept yelling at me so we walked to my house and i was so angry I got my revolver tucked it my waist and took my mom’s car keys she was constantly yelling and I was driving around trying to find gas money finally I had enough and was going home to tell my parents what happened when I drove by the were out front and yelled for me to stop I just had enough and drove down the road and parked and said I’ll be back I had to get away I walked to the old school and sat out front for about five hours and watched the sun rise and calmed down. I came home the back way threw the woods and my mom was upset and said my dad and herself drove around the whole night looking for me the messed up part she called the cops and reported her car missing long story short I got 1 week in a youth detention center and all I could think about was my ex and how it all went wrong I just kept to myself the whole time and got my head on straight and realized what was right and broke up with that ***** that caused me to get in lock up. it’s been about a year and I always think about this girl when I see mutual friends the first thing I ask is how is she doing. they say she asks about me all the time and they can tell she still cares about me. about a month ago I sent her a long letter because I felt if I called her I would cry and ask her to take me back asking how are you, are you still in school, told her I was how I drooped out in october and caught her up with me. she sent a me a letter back saying she doing fine how she knows how I’ve been, and she kind of hinted around that wished we were still together. her friends told me she hasn’t been with anybody since we broke up. It would mean the world to em if she took me back. I understand that if we get back together things won’t be how they were right away i just wan’t to know do you think in it’s possible she would take me back?

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okay so here’s the story I dated this girl for about fifteen months and I loved her and she loved me we were only seventeen, we planned to get married after we graduated and before I shipped of to the Army. we had the perfect relationship nothing between us felt comfortable talking to each other about anything and everything I never lied to her and if I did I told her the next day and apologizes and asked for her forgiveness even after she said it was okay. any way last summer when we finished our sophomore year about half way threw the summer I promised her I would stop drinking so hard and quit smoking and cut back on chew. well I don’t know how it started but my friends needed a case of beer and some cigarettes so I bought it for them the next day I went to pick her up I saw her walking down the street and parked next to her I said "hey you ready to go?" she walked in her house and came out almost crying and said "I can’t be with you any more and put my dog tags on my passenger seat I just drove back to my uncle’s [were I was living at the time] I kind of fell into a depression and constantly drank and smoked heavily just sitting on the couch I later found out my friend who I bought the beer and cigarettes for blocked his number and text-ed her saying he saw me buy a case and was at a party at my uncles were I got really smashed and was getting rowdy trying to fight people. when I found this out I called him told him to come over it was just me, him and best friend the first thing I asked was did you text my girl and tell her that he immediately said "yea I had too you just seemed to p*ssy whipped" as soon as he said I jumped up kicked down the coffee table and began punching him and and he fought back and we spilled out on the street my best friend and gran pop broke us up and he said "bros before hos" then it started all over again by the end we were both pretty bloody and banged up I never talked to him after that. I just felt a void and began seeing a girl who I met threw my uncles crack head girl friend after about two days of knowing her we began dating I would always drop her off in bad neighborhoods and give her money and drive her to her house about 20 miles away. it wasn’t a serious relationship i just wanted to fell loved. finally the night came when she was high and kept yelling at me so we walked to my house and i was so angry I got my revolver tucked it my waist and took my mom’s car keys she was constantly yelling and I was driving around trying to find gas money finally I had enough and was going home to tell my parents what happened when I drove by the were out front and yelled for me to stop I just had enough and drove down the road and parked and said I’ll be back I had to get away I walked to the old school and sat out front for about five hours and watched the sun rise and calmed down. I came home the back way threw the woods and my mom was upset and said my dad and herself drove around the whole night looking for me the messed up part she called the cops and reported her car missing long story short I got 1 week in a youth detention center and all I could think about was my ex and how it all went wrong I just kept to myself the whole time and got my head on straight and realized what was right and broke up with that ***** that caused me to get in lock up. it’s been about a year and I always think about this girl when I see mutual friends the first thing I ask is how is she doing. they say she asks about me all the time and they can tell she still cares about me. about a month ago I sent her a long letter because I felt if I called her I would cry and ask her to take me back asking how are you, are you still in school, told her I was how I drooped out in october and caught her up with me. she sent a me a letter back saying she doing fine how she knows how I’ve been, and she kind of hinted around that wished we were still together. her friends told me she hasn’t been with anybody since we broke up. It would mean the world to em if she took me back. I understand that if we get back together things won’t be how they were right away i just want to know do you think in it’s possible she would take me back?

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okay so here’s the story I dated this girl for about fifteen months and I loved her and she loved me we were only seventeen, we planned to get married after we graduated and before I shipped of to the Army. we had the perfect relationship nothing between us felt comfortable talking to each other about anything and everything I never lied to her and if I did I told her the next day and apologizes and asked for her forgiveness even after she said it was okay. any way last summer when we finished our sophomore year about half way threw the summer I promised her I would stop drinking so hard and quit smoking and cut back on chew. well I don’t know how it started but my friends needed a case of beer and some cigarettes so I bought it for them the next day I went to pick her up I saw her walking down the street and parked next to her I said "hey you ready to go?" she walked in her house and came out almost crying and said "I can’t be with you any more and put my dog tags on my passenger seat I just drove back to my uncle’s [were I was living at the time] I kind of fell into a depression and constantly drank and smoked heavily just sitting on the couch I later found out my friend who I bought the beer and cigarettes for blocked his number and text-ed her saying he saw me buy a case and was at a party at my uncles were I got really smashed and was getting rowdy trying to fight people. when I found this out I called him told him to come over it was just me, him and best friend the first thing I asked was did you text my girl and tell her that he immediately said "yea I had too you just seemed to p*ssy whipped" as soon as he said I jumped up kicked down the coffee table and began punching him and and he fought back and we spilled out on the street my best friend and gran pop broke us up and he said "bros before hos" then it started all over again by the end we were both pretty bloody and banged up I never talked to him after that. I just felt a void and began seeing a girl who I met threw my uncles crack head girl friend after about two days of knowing her we began dating I would always drop her off in bad neighborhoods and give her money and drive her to her house about 20 miles away. it wasn’t a serious relationship i just wanted to fell loved. finally the night came when she was high and kept yelling at me so we walked to my house and i was so angry I got my revolver tucked it my waist and took my mom’s car keys she was constantly yelling and I was driving around trying to find gas money finally I had enough and was going home to tell my parents what happened when I drove by the were out front and yelled for me to stop I just had enough and drove down the road and parked and said I’ll be back I had to get away I walked to the old school and sat out front for about five hours and watched the sun rise and calmed down. I came home the back way threw the woods and my mom was upset and said my dad and herself drove around the whole night looking for me the messed up part she called the cops and reported her car missing long story short I got 1 week in a youth detention center and all I could think about was my ex and how it all went wrong I just kept to myself the whole time and got my head on straight and realized what was right and broke up with that bitch that caused me to get in lock up. it’s been about a year and I always think about this girl when I see mutual friends the first thing I ask is how is she doing. they say she asks about me all the time and they can tell she still cares about me. about a month ago I sent her a long letter because I felt if I called her I would cry and ask her to take me back asking how are you, are you still in school, told her I was how I drooped out in october and caught her up with me. she sent a me a letter back saying she doing fine how she knows how I’ve been, and she kind of hinted around that wished we were still together. her friends told me she hasn’t been with anybody since we broke up. It would mean the world to em if she took me back. I understand that if we get back together things won’t be how they were right away i just wan’t to know do you think in it’s possible she would take me back?
I don’t drink anymore, I work odd and end jobs and give it all to my dad for bills, I have 8 months left untill the army and I’m getting a HS diploma threw the state.

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some statistics say 80% of people get back together , even when all hope is lost, my wife called it quits ,said she needed space and time, we have a newborn of 4 month old,no cheating or drugs,alcohol were involved, Just too much time spent together and lot of little arguments here and there. i Know deep down inside she loves me, but she is a very very stubborn girl she is 25 yrs.old im 30 and she has been diagnosed with postpartum depression, she doesnt call or text or email me at all. What do you think the odds are of us getting back together are? ive read books and they all say people are likely to get back together than move on. What do you think? i really have tried it all alread calling ,texting,emailing but she doent respond she is taking Prozac for her PPD. Even though i know she wants to call and work it out, i know she is very stubborn that she prefers to keep it to herself, Please Tell me what i should do or you would do?

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Her ex used to be my friend. but that went south. He has been trying to break us up throughout our relationship. She has tried to stop talking him before and he starts this spiral of depression and wants to die. It makes my girlfriend think it’s her fault and she doesn’t want that on her mind. He has tried to kiss her, lie about me to cause drama. She doesn’t know how to end it and break away from this dude.

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I’m just wondering what other people since those are usually the types of video games I tend to play. I’m just curious what other people think. As for me, I don’t think it’s ever affected my faith. I mean, I’ve been playing video games since I was like 5 or 6 and they’ve never effect my faith, Actually I even started playing games like before I was A Christian. But I’m still growing as a Christian pretty fast, not as fast I’d like it too, but I’m still growing.

Actually the main thing that started this is that I started to find that my friends have started to change from what they used to be like since they were growing as Christians really a lot faster than I am. And there interests started to change. So that was bugging me, since I’m in between anxiety meds right now. Getting off one and starting anther(The new is also supposed to help my depression, and maybe even my social skills too.). But because of that my mind started to run wild since I my old med is only on half strength at the time, and the I haven’t been taking the new long enough to have a real effect on me. Anyway, my mind made me thing that God would eventually make me get rid of all my games. After battling that fear for a while. and now that I’m the new med is taking more of an effect. My mind is getting more reasonable so now I’m just worried about this now. Long story short, it wasn’t the holy spirit it was my ocd.

Anyway I get this weird feeling when something has a chance of effecting my faith. I’d guess it’s some sorta form of discernment since it only goes off when a few times. Like when I found a girl I knew was a wiccan. When I was this documentary thing about the Crystal Skulls and they were showing some sorta satanic or pagan ritual. You know stuff like that. But it’s never gone off when I’ve been playing video games like this. Probably because when I play video games like I don’t usually focus on the magic since to me it’s just either sprites, 3D models, or a particle system that makes up the magic on the TV screen I don’t focus on it. The demons usually are bad guys in the games. The other gods are usually the enemies or sometimes they help you. But once again I don’t’ really focus in it.

BTW, I can honestly say that I wouldn’t that afraid if Jesus walked on me if I was playing those kind of games.

"Abstain from all appearance of evil." 1 Thessalonians 5:22

Do you think it’s talking about something like video games?

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My boyfriend and I dated for a year and a half. For the first 6 months, we were very in love. But then, my depression appeared. I yelled, slapped some, called him names some, kept him late a lot, and threatened to kill myself a few times. I always loved him after the episodes were over, and told him I never meant what I did and said. He said he understood. So we toughed it through with our love for the next year until I got better, but now he says it’s too painful and just broke up with me. He says he’s over me but that he still feels something. I know I can get it back if he’ll let me back in. But he isn’t wanting to, but he might go out with me on Sunday. He really is anxious to move on but I know I can show him we can move on together. It was just so painful. And he freezes

How can I mend his broken heart?

How can I gain a second chance?

He means the world to me. He doesn’t believe it can be repaired but I know personally that it can. It just needs time that he needs to give.
I hope someone will answer soon…..this is SO important to me.
No, I won’t go into depression again. The situation is fixed.

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I’m just wondering what other people since those are usually the types of video games I tend to play. I’m just curious what other people think. As for me, I don’t think it’s ever affected my faith. I mean, I’ve been playing video games since I was like 5 or 6 and they’ve never effect my faith, Actually I even started playing games like before I was A Christian. But I’m still growing as a Christian pretty fast, not as fast I’d like it too, but I’m still growing.

Actually the main thing that started this is that I started to find that my friends have started to change from what they used to be like since they were growing as Christians really a lot faster than I am. And there interests started to change. So that was bugging me, since I’m in between anxiety meds right now. Getting off one and starting anther(The new is also supposed to help my depression, and maybe even my social skills too.). But because of that my mind started to run wild since I my old med is only on half strength at the time, and the I haven’t been taking the new long enough to have a real effect on me. Anyway, my mind made me thing that God would eventually make me get rid of all my games. After battling that fear for a while. and now that I’m the new med is taking more of an effect. My mind is getting more reasonable so now I’m just worried about this now. Long story short, it wasn’t the holy spirit it was my ocd.

Anyway I get this weird feeling when something has a chance of effecting my faith. I’d guess it’s some sorta form of discernment since it only goes off when a few times. Like when I found a girl I knew was a wiccan. When I was this documentary thing about the Crystal Skulls and they were showing some sorta satanic or pagan ritual. You know stuff like that. But it’s never gone off when I’ve been playing video games like this. Probably because when I play video games like I don’t usually focus on the magic since to me it’s just either sprites, 3D models, or a particle system that makes up the magic on the TV screen I don’t focus on it. The demons usually are bad guys in the games. The other gods are usually the enemies or sometimes they help you. But once again I don’t’ really focus in it.

BTW, I can honestly say that I wouldn’t that afraid if Jesus walked on me if I was playing those kind of games.

"Abstain from all appearance of evil." 1 Thessalonians 5:22

Do you think it’s talking about something like video games?

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okay so almost a month and a half ago is when my boyfriend broke up with me. i was having problems with depression and had just lost a family member. he didn’t understand why i was so sad all the time and just gave up on trying to make me happy. he said that once i get it together we can be together. in this time, i’ve realized my problems and what i need to do to sort them out. but i cannot be fully happy again unless i’m with him. and he doesn’t want to be with me anymore :/ he says "i really want to, i mean i still like you, but we’re not good for eachother". what kinda bs is that? :/ how do i get him back! i already feel the depression coming back and ive been crying over this for days..

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I’m just wondering what other people since those are usually the types of video games I tend to play. I’m just curious what other people think. As for me, I don’t think it’s ever affected my faith. I mean, I’ve been playing video games since I was like 5 or 6 and they’ve never effect my faith, Actually I even started playing games like before I was A Christian. But I’m still growing as a Christian pretty fast, not as fast I’d like it too, but I’m still growing.

Actually the main thing that started this is that I started to find that my friends have started to change from what they used to be like since they were growing as Christians really a lot faster than I am. And there interests started to change. So that was bugging me, since I’m in between anxiety meds right now. Getting off one and starting anther(The new is also supposed to help my depression, and maybe even my social skills too.). But because of that my mind started to run wild since I my old med is only on half strength at the time, and the I haven’t been taking the new long enough to have a real effect on me. Anyway, my mind made me thing that God would eventually make me get rid of all my games. After battling that fear for a while. and now that I’m the new med is taking more of an effect. My mind is getting more reasonable so now I’m just worried about this now. Long story short, it wasn’t the holy spirit it was my ocd.

Anyway I get this weird feeling when something has a chance of effecting my faith. I’d guess it’s some sorta form of discernment since it only goes off when a few times. Like when I found a girl I knew was a wiccan. When I was this documentary thing about the Crystal Skulls and they were showing some sorta satanic or pagan ritual. You know stuff like that. But it’s never gone off when I’ve been playing video games like this. Probably because when I play video games like I don’t usually focus on the magic since to me it’s just either sprites, 3D models, or a particle system that makes up the magic on the TV screen I don’t focus on it. The demons usually are bad guys in the games. The other gods are usually the enemies or sometimes they help you. But once again I don’t’ really focus in it.

BTW, I can honestly say that I wouldn’t that afraid if Jesus walked on me if I was playing those kind of games.

"Abstain from all appearance of evil." 1 Thessalonians 5:22

Do you think it’s talking about something like video games?

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My husband wants a divorce, is depressed and doesn’t love me…hmmm?

Basically my husband came to me about 3months ago saying he didn’t know how to feel about me. About 1 to 2 weeks later he began showing major signs of depression. He went to the doctor and is now on anit-depressants. In those weeks he became very distant and then said that he did not love me.

He wanted to try couseling as a last resort. We went and each time he was very confused, got the counselor and I very confused too. The 4th time we went he finally told me he wanted a divorce b/c his feelings haven’t changed and that he didn’t think they ever could. Fast forward, we decided to see couselors individually and last night his couselor told him that “he didn’t know what love is” and that before he can ever love me again he has to be able to forgive and trust me again. In the last year I will completely admit that I have been selfish and not loving enough to him. As a result of it I have become more close with God then I ever have been before. I have also been reading about love and what it is and how it truly can’t just be a feeling.

Anyway I have made personal discoveries about myself and how I need to change. I want to work as hard as I can to help my marriage suceed and I am fully commited. My husband however is so depressed and confused about our marriage and himself that he says he wants to give up and doesn’t even want to live anymore. He says that his mind is telling him to stay but his heart is not in it and he doesn’t want to try. I need to know how I can help him and if anyone out there thinks it is possible to fall in love with the same person again.

These answers are great so far. I am definetly dedicated to saving my marriage! He is still atracted to me and I still turn him on but he says he feels bad when he touches me etc… Should I still try and be intimate with him or back off a little. I don’t want to be clingy… he doesn’t even want kisses from me right now.

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I want a family so bad because I was raised in a great household by all star parents and so I want that experience again. But yet my wife recently stated that she does not want any after 7 years of marriage and with trying. turns out, she was diagnosed with Ms 2 years into our marriage and got freaked out by the idea of giving birth. She does well with her Ms and leads a very normal life with a great career. Even though we have consulted with every doctor who have said she would be fine with labor, she still does not want any. I am 33 and want kids while I still have lots of energy.. She does not want even to adopt and I have a problem with that. I am in a marriage where if I do not have kids soon, then I may start looking for someone who does, what should I do? i love my wife, but the thought of going through the rest of my life without my own family drives me into depression at times and into anger. We did testing and my sperm count was so high. What would you do?

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My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I am completely crushed and heartbroken. We had a really wonderful relationship, we spent time together, we had great communication, I was extremely physically attracted to him, and I was just so happy with him. But now he tells me that he "just doesn’t feel the same way anymore." He says there’s no explanation, no idea why, and he still cares for me and loves me, just not in the same way. He said if there were any way to change things, he would.

Also, I’ve been really depressed for about the past month, crying all the time and just not acting like myself. I wonder if that might be why his feelings have changed- because I’ve changed. I tried suggesting this to him but he refuses to believe there is any explanation for why his feelings changed.

I know he’s not lying to me about any of this, anything he said to me he truly believes.
Is there any chance he will come back to me? I love him so much.
The depression is a result of the birth control medication I’ve been on. I’m switching brands and I hope that will fix that problem.

He still cares for me, so the question I am asking is if it is possible for the love to come back. What I want to know if it’s possible to lose that feeling and then gain it back someday.

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Ok so I got together with my boyfriend 3 months ago. We only dated twice before getting officially together. My reasons for going out with him might seem wrong to some (I was going through a depression state in my life and desperately wanted a companion). But regardless of this, I learned to like him and care for him deeply (still questioning if I love him though..might be too early to tell). This guy saved me at the deepest point of my life and he made me happy. He accepted all my faults and made me feel better all the time. Everything is going right with him. So here comes the ex girlfriend..
They have been together for almost 3 years. After two year together, she broke up with him and got together with another man. When the guy dumped her, she came running back to her and he took her back. However, things are not the way it used to. He tried to love her again but his feeling changed for her. And so he broke it off with her because according to him "its not fair for her that she love his and he cant love her the same way." Two weeks after they broke up, we started dating and got together with him quickly after.
Some may say that he used me to get over his ex or that I was just a rebound. My other friend said that he might just want a fling before he leaves for the navy in 3 months. Regardless, I believe and trust him though.
So his ex girlfriend still keep bugging him and calling and texting him. He tried to ignore it but she uses other numbers that he know so he cant really ignore it. On her friend’s birthday, he got invited and dared by the birthday girl to kiss his ex and he did. He told me this right after and it made me upset. But i forgave and appreciated his honesty.
So Im not really sure if I really like him or I jsut want his friendship or company. HAving his ex wanting him so much makes me not want to ever let him go. I do know that I care for him very much though. We broke up 3 days before he left for his navy bootcamp but talked it over the next day. We decided to have a cooling off period and decide on things again when he comes back.
His ex girlfriend, of course, rejoiced that we broke up and got her hope up again. She visited him before he left and told him that she’ll wait when he comes back to see what he decide on…if he still wants them to be together..he gave her a quick kiss and said their goodbyes…
This made me upset of course. But I know that I was the last person he called before landing the plane and before it took off..and the first person he called when the plane landed and tha last person he talked to before he got his phone taken away. and last person he texted to say I love you..

So should I wait for him until he comes back in two months or should use this time to try to get over him.

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My fiance and I got into an arguement and he kicked me out. Does anyone have anytips on how to make him come back. I’m losing my mind..
Well we got into a fight about him going out to drink with his boss and i had dinner ready so that when he got home we could eat. So i got pissy and told him do whatever he wants. So he comes home all pissed off and kicks me out. He’s bipolar too and he says he loves me but he is in a depression and i dont know what to do

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How Do I Win My Ex Girlfriend Back?

THIS IS A MAD LONG STORY – SORRY BROS
who ever reads and answers this though, I <3 you

My ex girlfriend and i broke up a few months ago. we were going out for over a year. And i really do care about her, and i still love her even though i have tryed everything. During the seperation, i tryed ignoring/blocking all communications withher.

It surprisingly worked, until 3 weeks ago. For some reason, I just started missing her all over again. Everytime I see her, I feel sick. I just want her and I miss that feeling of being happy with her. Not to sound gay, but she was my complete everything. I did everything for her, just to see her smile. Anywho, because I don’t have her I started smoking.

And, the only reason why I do it because it copes with my depression. I am just not me anymore. When I was with her, I never thought for a single second of trying it. Now without her, I am just a different person. I don’t care at all about life anymore, without her. I know I sound desperate or pathetic, but its just whats going on right now. She was the only thing that made me happy. I am also barely passing school, my grades are mad low because of this shit. Again, its because I do not care at all what so ever. When ever I walk around in the halls, shes always looking at me for some reason.

Also, when I am with my friends, she usually steps in and starts talking about her new boyfriend with her friends. Like on the spot, if I come in to talk to my homies, she’ll immediately start talking about Jimmy(Her New Boyfriend). And I am sick of it! I cant stand it, I hate that kid so much and I just want to bash his face in. He claims hes going to fight me, which he wont. He doesn’t even look at me when I stare at him and he wont fight me because my ex keeps telling him not to.

I don’t get it at all! I want to completely ANNIHILATE him, but I’d just be happy if I stole my ex from him. Also, if I am walking in the halls and if she sees him, she’ll be completely all over him like in a second. Its crazy, at my dance I was slow dancing with this one chick. And I saw her with her boyfriend, and she looked at me. Then immediately started making out with him. Like WTF.

just love her so much, and I do miss her. I want her back, but I don’t know what steps to do. I tried standing at the end of her street where her house is [I was high] waiting for her to come and talk to me. I want to tell her how I feel, but I don’t know if I should. Instead, she started crying and said she’ll call the cops. I want to fight Jimmy, Jimmy doesn’t but he says he does. And she doesn’t want us to fight. A week ago, I walked over to him and her and started talking to Jimmy.

I apologized for our fighting [ as a joke ] and reached my hand out. Instead he tried acting all tough telling me to apologise to my ex for going to her house. I immediately said no I will not, and he started yelling telling me that I will. So I said no I fucking wont and I walked off. And as the big man he is, he screamed at the end of the hall that Im walking away as usual and said F you to me. So I said it back and called him a pu$$y.

This sucks, I want to fight him but I want her back. He’s 2 years older than me and my ex by the way. She always looks at me and tries to talk to me. But I don’t know what to do. She kept asking me today what was it I wanted to tell her. But I just replied with a “oh nothing.” My friends say that she is probably just trying to make me jealous and will ask me out soon, but I just don’t know and I waited for too long. I want her back now, so I can be happy and so I can change completely for her.

The reason why we broke up was because we were both insanely jealous from each other talking to different sexes. I just didn’t want to lose her, and I guess she didn’t either. She kept thinking I would cheat on her, yet I would never do that.

Can anyone tell me how to get her back, and end this whole stress nightmare once and for all.

THANKS <3

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Okay. He asked me out and i agreed. so i just acted like myself, hung out with my friends and him at the same time! But one of my friends was going through an emo period of depression so i told him that i might not be able to spend as much time with him! So about a month later, he emails me and says,"I am going to miss you this weekend" because he was going out of town. about five minuets later he emails me and says"sorry but i am breaking up with you. I am really sorry". I had no idea why he was breaking up with me so that monday, I was talking to one of my friends and she starts to apoligize to me for no reason! I asked her what was wrong and she tells me that my ex had asked her out and she said yes!! I just ignored her for the rest of the day and now my ex acts as if he still likes me! Help me please!! I have sone really good revenge ideas but am not sure if i should use them or not. HELP ME PLEASE!!!! I NEED SOME MAJOR HELP!!!

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-Frenchie: thats the plan…
My man Javier left me on Wednesday, because a while back, he did something [he didn't cheat] that hurt me really bad..and since then I’ve been really insacure about our relationship.. and he got fed-up and told me, he wasn’t going to start the new year with all of that… but I love him.. he was my first everything.. and I dont want to loose him forever…how do I get him back?
-John: everyone tells me that.. and I know that I reallllly can do better, but last time we broke up, I went through this CRAZY depression, and I don’t want to go through all that again.. he’s been alot better than what he used to be..

-Leo: I already have.. I’ve appologized a billion times.. even when I complained, i told myself, this is going to be our downfall…because I can’t get over the past..
-Adri: PINCHE COCHINO!
-Kait: I already have.. but he does’nt want to hear it. He does’nt want me to call/he ignors my calls, but he texts me! which is ironic, because he JUST texted me
-Billy Jean: ok, so here we go. THIS IS THE WHOLE STORY!

me and javi met through a friend of mine, while i was talking to another guy, who WAS NOT MY MAN [but wanted to act like he was]. I had never really noticed that javi was trying to get with me in the beginning, but then as i slowly started to get it, i started drifting fromt he other guy {who was a total looser.. and to top it off, thought he was the ish, and was ugly as SIN!}..so javi and i got together, and he treated me really good in the beginning u know.. then things got bad..LONG LONG LONGGG story short, he had me thinking he was in NC for navy training bootcamp, and he had’nt even left detroit! then he tried to lie to get ME to leave him and said that he wanted to be with my twin sister.. I left him after that…but when I finaly got over him, he came back and messed it all up..we got back together..nd he’s been really good to me.. but I was afriad it would all happen agahin..

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okay so a few months ago, i met this guy and had a relationship with him. i loved him very much well i still do.
in november i broke up with him because i thought he was tired of me and i was in a depression so thought that breaking up with him wouldn’t stop me from suicidal. after he said bye that night i broke down crying. i cried so much that i could’ve turned the sahara desert into sahara ocean. but then the next morning i realized that i made a mistake and told him i was sorry and that i didnt know what i was thinking (obviously i didnt) and we got back together. we had a few problems since but always worked them out. we were the world happiest couple.
until a few weeks ago my friends started having problems with him. he lived a bit far from where i am so we dont really see each other. and so my friends wanted me to break up with him really bad. they said that he wont always be there to hold me and kiss me. and they were practically forcing me to break up with him. they told the parents of one of my friend about it and they disapproved of the long distant. i was soo embarrassed and so from that night on they tried to force another guy on me to get rid of my boyfriend.
yesterday new years eve, i finally had enough of being pressured. i broke up with my bf.
i told him that he should find someone he sees everyday and someone who he could hug and kiss.
he was hurt.. really bad. he told me not to talk to him when i told him happy new year.
and this morning he texted me telling me stop crying. things will be okay. and then he said watever i’m busy, bie.
i talked to my other friends about the situation and they all said that i shouldn’t let anyone tell me what to do. if i love him i should stay with him no matter wat.
and now i really want him back. without him my life seems so empty and hurt. i cried so much today even tho its new year and i should be happy. i really need him back.
but idk how. i hurt him twice and he just seem to hate me. i want him to understand that i didn’t do it willingly and it hurts me as much as it hurts him. i want him back really badd.
can someone help?

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I was married for 10 years. I lived in Newton, Mass. I was the primary caregiver for my kids – for one year I was the stay at home parent and for the rest, my career was sacrificed so I could be home on time to cook, clean, bathe the kids, have them do their homework, get them to bed, do their laundry, pack their lunches, etc….. while the wife worked late at a big law firm, from which she was later fired. She started her own firm also in Newton and when business was starting to take off, she became very hostile and insulting, and constantly threatened divorce. I began to suffer from depression and sought treatment. Several months later she again threatened divorce – I’d come home from work and grocery shopping and her dishes from breakfast were still on the table – I held the baby in one arm while filling the fridge and then cleaning the table off with the other. She said I should use plastic bags for that instead of paper and so we should get a divorce – I said "OK fine let’s get a divorce."

The divorce was awful and she said and did everything she could to keep me from seeing the kids. Then we reached a settlement that delayed when she had to buy me out of the house, got a boyfriend and as long as he was around she wanted me to take the kids off her hands nearly every weekend. Since the divorce I’ve remained active with the kids, coaching their soccer teams (33-6-6 was our combined record), cooking, cleaning, doing their homework with them – everything I did before but also writing a check. She has dated an ex-con and then a night security guard. I’ve dated only sporadically and focused on the kids. We’ve had a great time, especially at my apartment in Winthrop, which has given them a regular beach vacation despite my low salary.

A while back I reconnected with an old friend. She has her MBA from a prestigious school and is 8 years younger than my ex. I’m moving in with her this weekend. She lives in NYC. She loves my kids and they love her. She is warm and kind and makes me happy and I make her happy. My youngest has met, and likes, her kids, and they like her.

My ex has never been happy, has spent the four years shacking up with quite a cast of characters, is now green with jealousy, and seeing red. She has gone to the police and lied about me to get me arrested and get a restraining order to keep me from any contact with the kids until a week after my start date in the new job – she knew when my start date was and this was deliberate. I’ve heard that the kids are upset that they haven’t seen me and that they will miss me but I cannot even talk to them to let them know it’ll be Ok.

I know I need a lawyer – I have one. What else can I do? My kids are 13, 10 and 5. What should I do? When will they be old enough to hear WHY this has gone down the way it has gone down?

Thank you.

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