well it like this we have been married for 36 yrs,but now there no making love or anything,it seem like i am always the one to approach him ,i am the one who always trying to be romantic,he never show any feeling about it.when i try to talk to him about it,he say it turn him .off,but for the last 15 yrs nothing,he treat me like i am his house keeper or just someone to take care of him,,but there is 20 yr differencece in our ages,,i don’t know if that it or not,but he will tak to me about it,i have try to get us help ,,but he wants nothong ti do with it, and get’s very mad if i suggested it to him,he said i stupid,,to pay money for this kind of help and he don’t need any help.he, have try variety of things and pills but he still show no interest in it what so ever,i even try play dressing up, but ,,he tell me to get dress before some one come to our door,….my husband is 74 yrs old and i am 54 yrs old,i feel like he either don’t care or he do not have the desire any more.i have try to get him to get away for a nice week -end of romance,,but he say thats a waste of money, when he has his own house.so now i don’t know what to do.i know, i took vows with this man,and i know sex is not the most important thing in a reationhip..and i know i am his wife,but this has gone to far,he is very protected,and processive..and he watch me evey where i go and what i do even when i am just in my own yard.,if i go visited some one he times me,he will not go with me, but he time how long i stay at my friend home.he never want to go anywhere just stay home,and most time he sleep..as long as he knows i am inside of the house..,,so i hope you all understand ,i have so much feeling right now and i am human and in need of compassion and passion,and i desire the touch of ones love and to feel that love back when it is giving, but i feel like i am the one giving and recieving nothing back,,i have never mess up on this in all the yrs we have been married,,but some where there got to be a thin line drawn,,i hope you can understand how i feel and try to put yourself in my place,,what would you really do.and how would you really feel about this kind of relationship
please.i don’t wany any one to miss undersand ,i hav a very hight sex drive,,age has nothing to do with mine,and i am not saying we never had sex in 36 yrs,,what i am saying is for the last past 15 yrs,there has been no sex ..or anythingno kissing unless i do the kissing,..and as far as the abuse i have live with that for 36 yrs,..both mentally and physically.but he act like i am his slave not his wife..and i have try to get help..but what good is it if i am the one going and not him??as far as love,,yes i love him,but i am not in love with him any more,to me he more like a room mate not a husband ,we don’t even share the samebed room any more.
please.i don’t wany any one to miss undersand ,i hav a very hight sex drive,,age has nothing to do with mine,and i am not saying we never had sex in 36 yrs,,what i am saying is for the last past 15 yrs,there has been no sex ..or anythingno kissing unless i do the kissing,..and as far as the abuse i have live with that for 36 yrs,..both mentally and physically.but he act like i am his slave not his wife..and i have try to get help..but what good is it if i am the one going and not him??as far as love,,yes i love him,but i am not in love with him any more,to me he more like a room mate not a husband ,we don’t even share the samebed room any more.
my last relationship i lost any desire to have sex. and we broke up. the relationship i am in now has had a lot of problem since the begining almost a year and a half ago. he put me down alot and compared me to x girlfriends, and i was always made not good enough. to the point whether i have not recovered from these comments and just cannot enjoy having sex with me at all. i have no confidence what so ever. i never start anything. i am always thinking am i doing it right, some time i even have images of his x’s in my head whilst trying to do it. it is always in my head. he gave me a comment once saying i would need plastic surgery all over my face to be anything like as good as them. and how beautiful they all were, and they were models etc. all with attitude, and like clubbing and dancing. me being very shy. completly diferent to them. my confidence wasnt really high in the begining, but its now nothing. i walk around town and think everyone is better than me. im pregnant too. and he has tryed to make some of it better. but i dont believe him when he says your pretty, your beautiful i was an arse hole coz of my own insecurities. i didnt mean it. but even now he still says something that will go back to that time. i dont no how to fix myself. i just dont see unless i see his perception of women and beauty change how i can ever believe him, or feel relaxed and enjoy having sex with him, i always feel like im infront of judges.
the night before last i dreamt that i was having an affair with this guy that i new of in highschool who is now married to a friend from childhood that i rarely talk to. it was all lust, but never made it to sealing the deal (which is wierd b/c i never found this guy attractive) we were running around in my old middle school laughing and flirting and stuff. we went out to eat and i was trying to figure out what i wanted, and for some reason i was picking something healthy (salmon) but i didn’t want to spend too much because he didn’t have a lot of money. the thought popped into my head "damn, this sucks. when i’m w/ my husband i don’t have to pay attention to the prices" then i started thinking about my husband and how much i loved him and couldn’t live without him. then his wife (my friend from long ago) showed up calling me a bitch. i pulled her aside and explained that i was just realizing how stupid this was, and that i loved my husband too much to do this. she cried and said thank you and i left.
last night i dreamt that i went on vacation with this guy that i knew way back when (he dated my best friend at the time for a couple of years- again, i never found him attractive) it was a big group of people- a whole bunch of couples. oh by the way, in both dreams the guys were telling me that they loved me even though it had only been going on for a couple of days, i don’t know if that matters. this time it did make it sealing the deal(i think) but we were just doing normal vacation stuff… drinking on the deck, cooking out, swimming but we were very lovey dovey. then a couple days before we were going to leave i started feeling guilty again, and decided to break it off. i was missing my husband and realized how stupid the whole thing was because i could lose my husband forever if he found out. oh and in this dream, for some reason my four month old son kept popping in and out of the dream, but my 4 year old was not in it. (both kids are from my husband)
i have no desire to cheat on my husband in waking hours, we have a very good, honest relationship. we’re best friends. even though it’s just a dream i feel guilty all day long wondering why i’m dreaming about this stuff.
also, i’ve always had this reoccuring dream that i’m back in highschool and i get that anxiety i used to get that i needed to get outta there. then finally i realize i’ve already graduated and i don’t need to be there anymore.
I and husband married 15 years, we always love each other, and desire each other, more often he desires me more, and he never rejected me even when he is tired. Two month ago I found out he had an affair, sexually with his female staff, he is the boss. Then I calmly let him know about this and want him stop. I can feel he always loves me even when he had a affair and desire me. We had a cold period after that, but things passed, we talk again, we make love again, but the love changed. He started not desire me during the week, when I desire him, he sometimes reject me, he doesn’t have the passion as I do. I made everything I can to provoke him, make myself sexy, new hair, new sexy outfit, new sex toys, go out alone. Even he rejected the idea we went out alone for a weekend. What is wrong? Am I pushing to hard? Is it possible after I let him know that I know his affair he still want to punish me? Though he hold me and hug me, but push away my hand from his Private part which before he enjoys it. I need a man’s opinion for my problem.
I have been assembling a deck for a while now and I have won matches with it but it lacks any theme or focus. I feel it is too much a jack of all trades and just not a master of any. I could use some suggestions on cards. Here is what I have.
Lands:
9x Mountain
6x Island
1x Izzet Boilworks
Creatures:
1x Covert Operative
1x Gelectrode
1x Izzet Chronarch
1x Platinum Angel
2x Akroma, Angel of Fury
1x Aven Fateshaper
2x Tidewater Minion
1x Llawan, Cephalid Empress
Instants:
1x Pyromatics
1x Frazzle
1x Convolute
1x Peel From Reality
4x Lightning Blast
Sorceries:
2x Mind Spring
1x Banefire
4x Illuminate
3x Ghitu Fire
1x Wash Out
1x Vacuumelt
Enchantments:
2x Freed From The Real
1x Aboshan’s Desire
1x Confiscate
1x Insolence
As you can see I have alot of cards and not many repeats. I can never make up my mind of what to drop and what to buy more of. I only have a few real combos built in to the deck as well. I just took out 8 cards from my deck earlier so I have 8 additional slots to fill as well as organizing my deck better. Can you help?
I want my ex boyfriend back.
We dated back and forth for 4 yrs. He finally broke up with me when I was 6 months pregnant of his child. He contact me every now and then to see how I was doing, My baby is 2 months now and still calling me. But he doesn’t touch the getting back together part or anything that says that he still have feelings for me.
I feel stupid after talking to him because I act nice to him and giving clues to ask me to see each other.
People have told me to ignore him and not being friends with him but we have a child together and he wants to be involved in her life; besides I think I’m still into him, so it’s impossible to do that. or it isn’t. What would you do in my place.
Please I need help.
They were married twice. She cheated all the time. He took her back all the time. He finally left for good about 4 years ago, but still took care of her emotionally and financially until about 3 months before we met, which was October 2004. We are engaged to be married 10/14/06. They have 3 kids. She calls asking for favors all the time, i.e. can I borrow your truck to move some stuff, got some materials I need for my biology class, etc. I see red when she calls. My fiance says I am insecure and he has no desire to have any type of rel’ship other than co-parent. Yet he also says it is the right thing to do, ie. be nice to all people even those who have done you wrong. I am so jealous of their past. This (me?) is ruining my happiness with the best man I’ve ever known and I need to know how to get over this. Thanks for any advice. Oh, I believe I am jealous of her looks. She’s thinner than me, longer hair. I am very successful, grounded, faithful, kind. She puts self 1st.
I had my heart broken when I was 19 years old so I stopped dating for 7 years.
Finally in October of 2008, I got my confidence back and I began dating again.I was 26 years old.
I have had no luck in the love department.
I’m going to be 28 years old in February and I still have no husband or children and it really hurts.
I really want to get married and have children someday.I love children and I want children of my own someday.I also want to be happily married like my parents.
I tried these free online dating sites and I have had no luck.I am enrolled on eHarmony.com.Eharmony is a little expensive but its worth it because at least the members are screened first.But these free online dating sites are no good.I have had no luck.
Some of my relatives have no respect for me because I’m not married and I have no kids.Some of my relatives think I’m a total failure because I’m in my late 20s and I’m still not married and I still have no children.
I’m working on my Bachelors in Arts in early childhood education, I work full time,and I have my own place, but still no men seem to want me.I thought men liked women who were educated and self supporting, but I guess thats a lie.I have my own place,I work,and I’m in school but still no men are tugging on my line.
I’m thinking about giving up on love just like I did before.I didn’t date for 7 years.I’m thinking about giving up again.Or maybe I should wait until I move to the south to try love again.I live in Chicago and the men up here are very different from the men in the south.I’m moving to the south when I obtain my Bachelors in Arts.I have a friend who had better luck in the love department when she moved to the south.
How can I cope with being single and childless? I’m going to get 2 cats soon, but the cats can’t replace my desire to have children.
How can I face my family? Some of my relatives still see me as a little girl because I’m single and childless.Some have even dared to question my sexuality.How can I cope with the mean way my relatives view me?
Should I give up on love?
If by the age of 32 no man has come along,I’m going to adopt children and go to the sperm bank and have children artificially.
My biggest fear is that I will get to be an elderly woman who never married or had kids.I don’t want to be the lonely old lady who never married or had children.
I feel pressured to get into a relationship before I turn 30 because my relatives think of me as a failure because I have no man or kids.
And my ex boyfriend said I’m too ugly to procreate.He said I will always be the second best to all men and that I will always be a man’s doormat.He said God doesn’t want me to procreate because Im too ugly.
I’m beginning to believe that my ex boyfriend is right.I’m going to be 28 soon and I still have no kids or husband.And once again some of my relatives will whisper what a failure I am and they will think of me as a child and have no respect for me.
How can I cope?
Should I give up?
If I’m so pretty then why am I still single?
I just feel like he was a toxic part of my life and I didn’t even want to talk. We left on semi-good terms a few months ago, but haven’t spoken. I have no desire to put anything else into him or a friendship. Am I being petty avoiding him? He probably saw me for a moment, but I felt like I couldn’t tolerate an encounter…
Wisdom 14
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1. Again, one preparing himself to sail, and about to pass through the raging waves, calleth upon a piece of wood more rotten than the vessel that carrieth him.
2. For verily desire of gain devised that, and the workman built it by his skill.
3. But thy providence, O Father, governeth it: for thou hast made a way in the sea, and a safe path in the waves;
4. Shewing that thou canst save from all danger: yea, though a man went to sea without art.
5. Nevertheless thou wouldest not that the works of thy wisdom should be idle, and therefore do men commit their lives to a small piece of wood, and passing the rough sea in a weak vessel are saved.
6. For in the old time also, when the proud giants perished, the hope of the world governed by thy hand escaped in a weak vessel, and left to all ages a seed of generation.
7. For blessed is the wood whereby righteousness cometh.
8. But that which is made with hands is cursed, as well it, as he that made it: he, because he made it; and it, because, being corruptible, it was called god.
9. For the ungodly and his ungodliness are both alike hateful unto God.
10. For that which is made shall be punished together with him that made it.
11. Therefore even upon the idols of the Gentiles shall there be a visitation: because in the creature of God they are become an abomination, and stumblingblocks to the souls of men, and a snare to the feet of the unwise.
12. For the devising of idols was the beginning of spiritual fornication, and the invention of them the corruption of life.
13. For neither were they from the beginning, neither shall they be for ever.
14. For by the vain glory of men they entered into the world, and therefore shall they come shortly to an end.
15. For a father afflicted with untimely mourning, when he hath made an image of his child soon taken away, now honoured him as a god, which was then a dead man, and delivered to those that were under him ceremonies and sacrifices.
16. Thus in process of time an ungodly custom grown strong was kept as a law, and graven images were worshipped by the commandments of kings.
17. Whom men could not honour in presence, because they dwelt far off, they took the counterfeit of his visage from far, and made an express image of a king whom they honoured, to the end that by this their forwardness they might flatter him that was absent, as if he were present.
18. Also the singular diligence of the artificer did help to set forward the ignorant to more superstition.
19. For he, peradventure willing to please one in authority, forced all his skill to make the resemblance of the best fashion.
20. And so the multitude, allured by the grace of the work, took him now for a god, which a little before was but honoured.
21. And this was an occasion to deceive the world: for men, serving either calamity or tyranny, did ascribe unto stones and stocks the incommunicable name.
22. Moreover this was not enough for them, that they erred in the knowledge of God; but whereas they lived in the great war of ignorance, those so great plagues called they peace.
23. For whilst they slew their children in sacrifices, or used secret ceremonies, or made revellings of strange rites;
24. They kept neither lives nor marriages any longer undefiled: but either one slew another traiterously, or grieved him by adultery.
25. So that there reigned in all men without exception blood, manslaughter, theft, and dissimulation, corruption, unfaithfulness, tumults, perjury,
26. Disquieting of good men, forgetfulness of good turns, defiling of souls, changing of kind, disorder in marriages, adultery, and shameless uncleanness.
27. For the worshipping of idols not to be named is the beginning, the cause, and the end, of all evil.
28. For either they are mad when they be merry, or prophesy lies, or live unjustly, or else lightly forswear themselves.
29. For insomuch as their trust is in idols, which have no life; though they swear falsely, yet they look not to be hurt.
30. Howbeit for both causes shall they be justly punished: both because they thought not well of God, giving heed unto idols, and also unjustly swore in deceit, despising holiness.
31. For it is not the power of them by whom they swear: but it is the just vengeance of sinners, that punisheth always the offence of the ungodly.
The smell of her perfume? The special little touch on your neck or elsewhere? The way she smiles? The way she knows what you’re thinking? Certain music? A special place that you used to go together? I’m kind of wondering how powerful recreated situations involving your senses are. Do those senses make the desire greater? Which one really does it for you?
What can I do to turn on Scorpio man beyond his dreams & wildest imagination… I want to seduce him beyond description in and out of the bedroom. *But mostly in the bedroom*. I want to be the object of his desire morning, noon, and night… Hell even in his dreams! I have accomplished this but I want to work him over 1000 times more.
Any advice from Scorpio Men woud be greatly appreciated.
been married ten years three kids. we both work opposite shifts me nights her early mornings. i have weekends off she does not. very little time is spent together. she thinks that i don’t love her. i have messed up in the past, lied, not asking her or taking her dancing. she also thinks that i don’t desire her, i have always told her that she has a beautiful body and that she is a beautiful woman. maybe not as much as i should but i have done it. i have told her that i just got to comfortable in the marriage and that none of this would happen again, although like i said i have lied in the past. it breaks my heart to know that i have broken hers and i cannot stand seeing her hurt so much. please help.
Lately I have been annoyed by my husband and its because I hate the way he looks right now. He has gotten fat and sloppy. His face and scalp is always crusty and sometimes he stinks so bad I can’t tolerate him.Sex is sweaty and sticky so now I don’t have a desire to do it.I fantasize ALLL day about other men and pretend he is someone I like when talking to him or kissing him. I tried to tell him to workout with me but he dont want to. I think he is ugly and an embarrasment to me. I don’t like being seen with him. I am married and we have a one yr old. How can we save it?
When I first got married, my husband was into porn and it really had a bad effect on our sex life. He didn’t want it as often as me, and he was disconnected.
Now that he has stopped, he is so into me and really loves sex with me, and wants it more consistently. The problem is, I’m not as excited anymore, because of the rejection I think during the 1st three years. This is year four. How can I get my excitement back?
Does He Really Love Me ?
“Does my husband still love me?” is a frequently asked question by many women. Fact is, most men are typically not good at explaining what they really feel inside. But if the man in your life repeatedly does one ore more of the six things in the list below, chances are he is trying to tell you “I love you”.
1. You notice that he stares at your eyes
The eyes are far more than just windows to a man’s soul, they are also a rear view mirror for what is actually going on inside his heart. Men always throw an excited look at what they desire, that is why you can always catch them at staring at your breasts. Just think of the following: Since there are so many beautiful things in this world that he can rest his eyes on, chances are his feelings for you go deep since it is you he is staring at.
Basically, there are two types of “I-love-you-look”. One is the secret look. He stares at you when you are not aware of it. This look is not an easy one to detect, but if you secretly try a couple of times, you’ll notice it. The second look of love is when he simply stares at you. Men are careful when it comes to showing emotions, but if he tirelessly looks at you in this way, he is actually lowering his shield and gives you an invitation to enter his world.
2. He buys things that you like when he’s at the grocery store
You suddenly discover that he has filled up the fridge with lemon cream biscuits, baby carrots and other types of feminine food, which he would eat under compulsion only 
This is a definite sign that you are constantly in his thoughts, even in non romantic places like a grocery store. When it becomes a natural part of his shopping to buy things he knows that you like, it might be a way for him to tell you that he loves you. Moreover, this is a way for him to show the outside world that he appreciates you. Men like to be free as long as possible, but now he is leaving obvious evidence that there is a woman present in his life, so you can be pretty sure that you are the right one for him.
3. He includes you when he talks about future plans
If one day he tells you that he wants to move away from where he lives today to a new place, and at the same time asks if you would like to live in such a place, then this is a way for him to tell you that he wants you to be a part of his life in the future also.
4. He often wears the sweater you gave him
Giving you the ability to take control of his wardrobe is something a man would never do if he is not serious about his feelings for you. Men simply like to do things themselves, and they do not like it when anyone threatens their male ego and male identity since this can be considered a weakness by other men. So when he’s wearing the clothes that you gave him, he does it for you sake, giving you a clear signal that he lets you take control.
5. He stands right next to you when you are out together
Where and how he is standing when you are out together says a lot about where you are in his life. Keep in mind that most men are biologically “programmed” to be interested in the opposite sex. For this reason, a “programmed” man will always want to walk either a few steps ahead of you or a few steps behind you. But when he is in love with you he automatically suppresses his male instincts, and he will walk and stand right next to you where you can have control of his eyes. He will keep you close to him and show to the world that he is taken. But remember, it may be that he’s too shy to hold you hand, so do not judge him too early.
6. He does not mind when you answer his cell phone
Men never know what potential “destructive” force that can hide on the other side of the handset, everything from an ex girlfriend who wants to tell him her last “goodbye” to an over concerned mother who refuses to accept that he’s a grown man. So, if he lets you take control of this “ringing bomb”, he’s clearly showing you that he has nothing to hide. When a man gives you access to his cell phone, he is actually handing you the key to his world.
PS. If you are not yet a couple, and you’re wondering if he is about to fall for you, look for the following signs:
- He always arrives early when you are going out on a date
- He remembers the name of your friends, and not just the pretty ones
- He spends time with you instead of watching his favourite sport on TV
- He asks you about your family
- He tells you secrets he has never told anyone else
- He does things for you that he would otherwise never do
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