Here it is: I was with someone on and off for nearly 2 years. It was always me that broke it off, only to go back a few weeks later. I could always tell something wasn’t quite right, undoubtedly within myself. But now, here I am nearly a year after the real breakup, and I seem to be struggling with it just as much as ever. It’s almost embarrassing to admit it. I haven’t really even had the desire to date anyone else, for fear it would only be a rebound. Shit, maybe that’s just what I need…I really don’t know anymore. Seeing how quickly she moved on has only made it more difficult. My confidence isn’t what it used to be, to say the least. I fear I’ll never let anyone compare to her, but then again, I don’t give anyone much of a chance. I’m looking forward to any suggestions you may have. Please help!
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Three years ago, I went out with a certain boy for about a year. After we finally broke up, we haven’t spoken since. However, I’ve been feeling a desire to talk to him again lately. I found his myspace, sent a friend request, and he added me. Then he sent me a message asking how I’ve been and what’s been going on in my life, if I am single, etc. He also asked for my screen name for AIM so I gave it to him. He i/med me not too shortly after and he was telling me about how he was looking at my pictures and how hott/beautiful I am and how he remembers that I’ve always been that way, and that he would really like to take me out on a date again. However, he also told me that he and his girlfriend of two years just recently broke up about a week ago. But then he also tells me he doesn’t know what he was thinking when he let me go, and that he never did forget about me, and he told me about all of the memories he had with me that he misses so much. There’s only one problem. He also says > "I’ve been trying so very hard to get my recent ex back into my life, but I’m just about over it, and about to just give up completely". I don’t know about that, but ever since I started talking to him again, I’ve been feeling like I really want him back. My question is > How do I get his mind off of his ex, and back onto me after all these years? How do I win him back? HELP!!! (Please be as detailed and descriptive as you possibly can to help)
I guess I need more detail. He said he’s almost over his ex but it’s going to take a while longer because he’s still so hurt from it all. So our whole "date" isn’t going to happen till he can get himself together again. He says we can hang out as friends for now, but he’s going to try not to "touch me" or show any affection or anything, like kissing or cuddling. My problem is, I WANT THAT. Now, how do I get it? How can I speed up the rate of him forgetting about his ex to be a little quicker, so we can pick up where we left off three years ago?
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Im sure this will sound lame, but i cant get over it. I was dating this girl for a while, and i truly loved her, it really wasnt working out,and she left, and i wasnt really looking for love when it began. However, now I feel like she was THE ONE, i felt that way during the relationship, its been over a year now, and i dont even look at girls, i really dont want anyone else, i highly doubt she’ll ever be with me again. She does call me a lot and always says little things like, you should be here with me, i miss you, etc, (i moved 800 miles away) She is the only person, the only thing Ive ever loved, i was really depressed when i was 14-18, but I got over it for quite a while, (met her when i was 19.) Now i have no desire to do anything, Ive given up on ever being happy and im getting really depressed again. Whats wrong with me? I know im young and i sould get over it, but that just makes it worse. I really need help.
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I have a tendency of wanting to explain everything so I guess my other question included too much reading.
Here’s the deal:
*we dated, but never turned into an actual boyfriend/GF relationship
*I decided to *end* it because I’m new to this and thought he wasn’t serious about me
*I’m in love with him…we spent a year separated
*He’s back into my life and is showing me interest…except we’re still not officially together (which is what I want)
Okay…So we were open about wanting to spend intimate time together, I agreed because all this time away from him I’ve desired to kiss him and do things like before. He’s alone, I know he’s not seeing anyone else. I want to enjoy this moment we have planned, but I’m trying to come up with things I can do when that day comes in order to interest him even more.
I’m not planning on having sex, never had sex with him before, he respects that…But now, ladies I need some help I really want to achieve having him want me more, I know there’s attraction and desire from his side, I’m in love with him and I’m glad he opened up about wanting to be alone with me…I want to use this as a way of increasing what he feels and maybe have him back as something more serious.
How much is too much, what can I do yet not go overboard by giving too much when we’re alone, kiss, touch heat things up and that’s it? Or do something more (oral sex etc.) ?
I hope this time I wrote less and can get some advice, I’m not too experience but I’m willing to try, we’ve spoken about oral sex/masturbation as some of the "possibilities"…at first he was okay with just spending intimate time but our conversations have grown even more so we’ve spoken about those things…
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