Would you, let your spouse fulfill "past regrets" in life to save your marriage?
Pasted regrets is what you spouse wanted to do or wanted to have done before marriage, but was unable or never had the opportunity to do it at the time; but your spouse is trying to see past the regrets by talking openly about them, telling about all the desires wanted to do in life, but also feels a little cheated in life because your spouse believe’s that they got married a little to soon. Now there is no regrets about the marriage, just regrets that your spouse never had a chance to do the things or wanted to do the things in life before it’s late & will get to old & die. With that thought in mind, (even though trying to move past it) it is starting to affect the marriage.
Would you, let your spouse fulfill their past regrets,(too personal to list here) or even help your spouse fulfill those regrets it to save your marriage.
Even though it is something you would never allow, or even considered?
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I and husband married 15 years, we always love each other, and desire each other, more often he desires me more, and he never rejected me even when he is tired. Two month ago I found out he had an affair, sexually with his female staff, he is the boss. Then I calmly let him know about this and want him stop. I can feel he always loves me even when he had a affair and desire me. We had a cold period after that, but things passed, we talk again, we make love again, but the love changed. He started not desire me during the week, when I desire him, he sometimes reject me, he doesn’t have the passion as I do. I made everything I can to provoke him, make myself sexy, new hair, new sexy outfit, new sex toys, go out alone. Even he rejected the idea we went out alone for a weekend. What is wrong? Am I pushing to hard? Is it possible after I let him know that I know his affair he still want to punish me? Though he hold me and hug me, but push away my hand from his Private part which before he enjoys it. I need a man’s opinion for my problem.
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I’m a 19-year-old college girl, and for personal and religious reasons (I’m Christian), I’ve committed to remaining a virgin until my wedding night. I still want to date now, because naturally my body is encouraging me to have sex, and I want very much to fall in love and move toward that wedding night. The only trouble is that it seems most guys are accustomed to getting sex much earlier in a relationship than I’m willing to provide it, and I’m worried they’ll all get snatched up by girls who put out sooner.
Also, I hear so much talk about wanting to ensure "sexual compatibility" before marriage. This doesn’t really make sense to me because I’m thinking that if we have compatible sex drives, as well as similar morals and desires when it comes to sex (all of which we can find out just by talking), and we both have all functioning parts, there can’t be any real sexual incompatibility. Of course, I’m a virgin, so if I’m wrong on this, do tell. My point being that many people consider premarital sex common, and even practical.
So here’s the thing: I want a man who will respect my desire to save sex for marriage, who will be willing to marry without a "test run," and who will be patient enough to work with me on the honeymoon until I’m able to please him sexually. Are they still out there? If so, where can I find them? Are there any men on Y!A who are also waiting?
greatprincemichael, that was completely unhelpful. I’m already aware that most people in our society engage in premarital sex. If you read the question, I’m looking for someone to help me live up to my personal standards, not to scoff at them. A conservative church has not forced these values on me; I have chosen them myself based on my own personal interpretation of the Bible, and based on what I do and don’t want to experience in my life.
Thanks to everyone else for the wonderful answers! I really appreciate the suggestions, the encouragement, the personal experience, and the humour!
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when I get my wife and we walk before the Lord in heaven, and I PRIDE MYSELF BEFORE EVER ONE that has given me such torture that God does not allow marriage in heaven and he just breeds us. From everyone making me out to be evil to hold my wife forever, as they have marriages that never stick together and almost everyone I know have had more then one lover. AND PRIDE THEMSELFS TO BE LIKE THE ANGELS….I am going to have LOVE VENGEANCE ON EVERYONE. And hopefully the love my wife and I share that is created by God is a jealously of everyone that desires the world.
they make me doubt my self and taunt my virginity. Bring me OTHER BIBLES, when i say God shows me In KJV, if God can not show me in this bible back off. I do not need you going thew your bibles to teach me your ways. They act as if they have something, but in reality they are just dying. Clapping their hands saying they are saved by grace, saying I am not dying, "never" listing to me and what I talk about. My family in christ have made me so angry. You better hope this is all demon possession christians and all dead faith, as God is SILENT TO ME for yrs on this topic. Well not with the KJV and my heart and with my faith it says WAIT.
how are you something if you have nothing Christan’s? if heaven is not in your ways?You are given NEW LIFE’S in heaven and this one is dead.
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