I have been ttc for 8 months now. 12 dpo, 1 day away from expected af , and BFN this morning. I have no pregnancy symptoms or signs of AF showing but I know she is on her way. My DH and I are getting so discouraged and just feel like it’s never going to happen. Everytime I go on the pregnancy forum, I see questions about abortion and it just breaks my heart. I am already blessed with two boy’s, 9 and 10 years old from my previous marriage so I am thankful but I am soooo wanting number 3. I really wanted a girl but at this point, I don’t care what sex the baby would be, I just want another child so bad. Why is this so hard. My first child was unexpected, I was on bc…hence the first marriage and I went to get on bc again after my first child because the ex was cheating and guess what, I was pregnant. So even though I got a divorce while I was pregnant, I am so glad I conceived my two boys but I just don’t get it, why is it so hard this time around. My dh was checked and his sperm count is great and all of my test came back good, so I am at a loss. I’m sorry, I guess I am just extremely frustrated and looking for some words of encouragement. And god bless you ladies who have been trying for a year and more. My heart goes out to you, I don’t know how you deal with the disappointment of not conceiving month after month.
Congratulations emma’s mommy…twins, you must be so excited:)
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I just had a baby 6 weeks ago and have since had sex. dh says he’s not hitting my "back wall" like he used to. I had 2 other children (my last 5 years ago? and I dont remember my vagina being any different after (other than sore) but am I really…looser? or is my cervix moved? what happened and how do I get my "stuff" back to normal—besides kegals, i do them from time to time when I think about it. But I just want to know what happened or what is happening!!
For the record, I am not promiscuous, never have been….Sooooo, and also, my other 2 children are by my ex husband, different man, different situation, different..ya kno.
LOL, one more, thing baby number one was 8lbs 1oz, baby no.2 was 8lbs 8 oz. My last little ray of sunshine ;-p was only 7lbs 11oz, so it’s not like he was extra big or anything.
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My DH and I have tried to conceive for 7 months. We went through one miscarriage – and our relationship seemed to be stronger for what we have gone through.
I finally got my BFP on Wednesday. My DH was out of town, and I couldn’t reach him as he seemed to vanish except one text msg. I started cramping on Friday and went to the MD – they said no fetal heartbeat but a sac and to wait and see. When I finally reached my DH – he said nothing except "I am confused over my ex wife."
I went to the MD today and everything is beautiful with the baby. My hCG levels are not increasing quite as quick as they should be so that is very concerning but the baby is there – 8 weeks 3 days and has a heart rate of 171. It was amazing to hear and I burst into tears because I was there alone. I told my doctor and she is horrified as she knows we have been trying. Anyway…
Well I told him not to come home Sunday night – to go somewhere else and he did. I am with my family so I am not alone and today he tells me he is going back to his ex wife. When I told him we are having a baby and the baby is fine, he says he wants to know if I would allow he and his ex wife to have the baby live with them because she is sterile and they always wanted a baby. OMG – is he off his rocker? We aren’t children – he is 38 and I am 28. Not that it matters, but I am a clean cut, alcohol and drug free woman with a stable home, great job, etc and he leaves me when I am pregnant and thinks he is going to take MY BABY to play house with his ex wife?
To say I became hysterical, sobbing and irrate is a gross understatement. I told him over my dead body will that happen and he said he "didn’t want to miss all the firsts and time with the baby" but I am supposed to because he is a selfish SOB? I told him that is the price you pay when you leave your pregnant wife – you don’t get to have it all.
The crappy part is that I am crushed, devestated, irrate and heartbroken. I have this little miracle growing beneath my heart and I know that my DH is wrapped in the arms of his ex wife as we speak. He told me she said "She will love the baby as her own" so I shouldn’t worry about how she will feel towards the baby. I am devestated. I feel like my soul is being ripped out of my chest and my lungs cannot even breath my heart aches so much.
What do I do? I want to hate him, but I am so madly in love with him that my heart is in a million little pieces. My OB/GYN told me she cannot imagine what I am going through, but said this stress is not good for the baby. How do I do this?
I need advice…
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