About three months ago my fiance broke up with me very suddenly. I was unaware that she was just not as happy as we once were. We had our fair share of fights but nothing every serious or unnecessary. In all honesty we had a really good relationship. But she felt to much pressure from living together and being engaged and she couldn’t handle it anymore. Then right after we broke up she treated me really badly. She tried her absolute hardest to push me away and it worked. I moved to a different town and began rebuilding my life. I had to go back there to our old apartment and meet her there to get some things i forgot. She is now with someone else but she is unsure of where its going and she told me she still loves me. We both agreed that we rushed into moving in and getting engaged and we were not ready. But we still love the core of each other. She said that we should continue to find ourselves but because of the love for one another still being there and the fact that we never really had a bad relationship that its possible if we haven’t moved on to a new serious relationship that we could be together again. One thing about her though is that she has a hard time keeping in contact with people that she doesn’t see everyday. So I have too try hard to keep her in my life as a friend. I have read that i should just play hard to get live my own life and not talk to her much but i feel like that won’t work in my situation because we will slowly lose touch. I don’t want to lose her, she made me so happy all the way up to the last day we were together. How do i keep her in my life without pushing her away?
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The girl I love is dating another guy. We started off dating, then stopped for a stupid reason — at least it was stupid to me — but we became really great friends (though we were always a little more than friends) and eventually I fell in love with her. I believe without a doubt that, if such a thing exists, she’s my soulmate, and she’s admitted as much to me. I never understood why she didn’t want to pursue a serious relationship with me if she felt that way, but she just felt that we wouldn’t work out. Anyway, when I found out she was dating this other guy I kind of lost it. I felt really hurt, a little jealous, and very confused. She wanted to remain friends with me, but I told her we couldn’t. I moved about 2 weeks after we had that conversation, but I decided to make up with her before I left. I asked her to get a drink with me, told her that maybe it would be easier to be friends since I was moving, and we kind of left it at that.
That was over 2 months ago and we haven’t spoken since. I think she’s waiting for me to make the first contact, since that would basically mean that I’m okay with being friends (hope that makes sense). Well I’m not okay with just being friends. I want more, and there’s no doubt in my mind that we could make things work. Admittedly, being in a different town does make it somewhat easier to be friends (since there’s not really a way for us to date right now), but it doesn’t change my feelings for her.
I’ve been going back and forth over what I’m going to do. I know what I want — us to be together — but that’s not really an option right now. BUT I don’t want her to think that I’m okay with being friends. I don’t think that’s fair to her, especially since we’ve already been through a ‘friendship breakup’ a few months ago.
I’ve been writing a letter that basically tells her exactly how I feel and that I want us to be together. It’s a pretty good letter if I may say so myself. The letter really leaves only two options: either she comes running to me or I never hear from her again. My other option is calling/texting her and being her friend and just hope that things could work out from there.
She’s told me that she wants me in her life for as long as we’re alive, so I know she’d love hearing from me. But I don’t want to hurt her by leaving her again if things don’t work out like I hope they would. I don’t mind having my heart broken again, so either option is okay with me. The thought of never hearing from her again scares me, but I want more than just being her friend.
Hope this made sense. Any advice will be appreciated.
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im n a relation ship but i dont really like the person im dating as more than just a friend. i have went out with the guy i love 2 times already. the first time we broke up is cuz he heard that i had cheated on him, but he didnt believe that i didnt till he was already goin out with sombody else. then the second time we broke up… i broke up with him cuz i was grounded for about a month and couldnt see him, and while i was grounded he spent all of his time with one of my best friends and when i would talk to her at school she would always tell me how much fun they were having. so i got the idea that he was cheating on me with her but he wasnt, it was just jelousy. he is bipolar and will start yelling at any moment, my parents dont like him cuz of bad first impressions and want even give him a chance now, and now he lives in a different town . but i love him to death and i would do ne thing for him and ne thing to be with him and now he wants me back.. should i get back with him or not
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