I am in a similar situation as well. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. He is currently looking to buy a house that he has asked me to move into, but to be honest I am really not ready. When we started dating his ex was 7 months pregnant I think. In the beginning things were very ugly but I stuck it through. I never really felt like I was appreciated for that, Im sure I was, but after dealing with that for so long and trying to be there for him through all of it I just felt like I deserved some sort of verbal salutation. But that was 3 years ago. She is now finally doing every other weekend and this is absolutely not easy for me. Im 23 sitting having to do things alone because his daughter is over. He is a wonderful father, Im not saying that at all, I just am not sure that I am at a point in my life to always be the back burner, as one of your posts stated. There are so many things that bother me but everyone thinks it is so cute and funny. She constantly whines but still gets what she wants. She is 3 years old and still does not sleep in her own bed. It is ridiculous. This should have never ever been allowed and I said that before but no one wanted to listen, instead I looked like I was just being the bad guy. Well now he has to pay for it and frankly so do I. I have to sleep in her bed! Just leave her in the room, she will get over it. The more you buy into her and let her sleep with you the harder it is going to be. He will try to put her in her own bed but she wont go to sleep, so he takes her to his bed. Well of course if I knew that if I didnt want to do something and all I had to do was wait long enough I will get daddys bed. It happens every weekend! I have tried to explain that multiple times but it always just turns into a disagreement. I feel like they just want to do the easy way out so they dont have to deal with the repercussions. So what she cries for an hour, thats the way it is. It is only going to get worse. I have never loved someone so much as I love him. I just have a really hard time with this situation as it seems I am not the only one. I am glad I found this forum I think you all will be very helpful at least just being there for me to talk to, I dont have any friends in this similar situation. My boyfriend and I have an open line of communication but I feel like when we talk I either dont explain what I am feeling or he just doesnt get it. This is so hard for me and I feel like it is only going to get worse. I dont want to move in with him if a few days a week I have to sleep not in my bed and not because she is sick but because she is 3 and still sleeps with her parents! No this is not where I pictured my self at 23 and I am a very independent person. I have my own life. I dont rely on him for anything, meaning I could survive on my own. So maybe this is not for me, or maybe it is and there is a way to deal with this and you all can help me. This situation is nothing about not being in love, this truly has nothing to do with us not getting along, him and I have a great relationship, we are just the same age but in different places. I couldnt imagine being with anyone else, I just often wonder if it is just not our time. I am so confused and I have no one to talk to about any of this. Any suggestions?!
