MY EX-BOYFRIEND CHEATED ON ME WITH ANOTHER GIRL AND WHEN HE GOT CAUGHT HE DEINED KNOWING ME. 9 MONTHS WENT BY UNTIL HE CALLED ME TO SAY SORRY ABOUT HIS ACTIONS. NOW HE WANTS TO COME BACK IN MY LIFE. I STILL LOVE HIM BUT I DONT KNOW IF I WILL EVER BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM AGAIN. WHAT SHOULD I DO???
Now My ex wants me back, I don’t know what to do?
Ok so a couple weeks ago I broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just “hey how are you’ but things like I love you, I miss you, one time she even told him that she was single.
And she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that.
I just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. She says its all because her first boyfriend messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys because he never gave her any.
But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex boyfriend, she continued to do it so I had to break it off.
When I first broke it off I knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that I hoped she would change and we could work it out. Of course I was down and missed her like crazy, but after a little while I felt better and like I was ready to just move on.
Now the last few days shes been callin alot and we hung out a couple time (no kissing or anything though,just talked and chilled) and she says how upset shes been and she doesnt wanna loose me and that she’ll change her ways.
I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. I’m really stuck, sometimes I think just go and move on she wont change, then I think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good.
Like I said we start communicating more again and even hung out. I went over her house the last two nights, but I left and went home. I normally slept there everynight. She gets upset because things are wierd and I wont even kiss her and stuff.
I want to so bad but I know that not a good idea.
She says she knows she has some issues and is scheduel to go see a pychiatrist (prob wrong spelling).
Since breakin it off was the last option, just don’t know if I should give it one last chance to see it worked to change her.
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My girlfriend and I broke up for the second time back in January. It was because she needed a break from me and it was to much for her. She had be avoiding me so I pushed to find out why and I guess she thought it was to much and didn’t like where we were. We have not spoken much since. We talked briefly two weeks ago about our weekend and that type of small talk and then she texted me on friday night. It was the usual back and forth talk and then we preceded to mention that she missed sex with me and how amazing it was. and it was. when we had sex it was so good. She we talked so more and agreed that we should do it that night. I was studying that night so i could not go out like she wanted me to so she was drunk when she sent it but had sobered up when we got together. So we had sex and it was great. It wasn’t awkward and we talked a bit after to catch up. It was not weird. I asked about us and if she wanted to get back together and said no. Didn’t really want to talk about it so she made it clear that she does not want to be with me.
So i left and the next day i talked to her and told her that last night was great and wondered if we could do it again and see where we are. She said we could another time if it worked out and such. But it wont be a regular thing that happens. I can control my emotions and i want to do it but I want to be with her.
She is a very stubborn person and when she makes up her mind on something she sticks with it. So no matter what i say about getting back together she didn’t want to talk about it. But it makes me wonder if she dose not want to get back together and dose not feel the same then she would not want to have sex. When we had sex we had it like when we were dating. It was very passionate.
Now I know a lot of you are going to say to move on and she is not worth it but I love her and I know that she feels the same way. She just does not want to get hurt or make the mistake of getting back together and it dosent work out. My view is we try and what’s the worst that can happen? Then it wasn’t meant to be. I have changed a lot since when we broke up. I have had a lot of time to reflect and realize what I did wrong and I want her to know that and take a chance on me again. I just dont know what to do and want this to work.
Thanks everyone for your help!



