I broke up with my one and only boyfriend 5 months ago and now I want him back. I think I realized that I broke up with him for stupid reasons and since he’s the only guy I ever dated, I couldn’t compare him to anyone else…now that I dated a few other guys and they are idiots, I want him back more and more….but it’s been five months! I hurt his feelings when I broke up with him but I don’t know what to do now. I met him on a dating website and I see him on there everyday so I know he’s single. I wanted to e-mail him but I don’t want to sound desperate. I don’t know if I should just ask him how things have been going and see how he responds….

I feel so stupid for breaking up with him now. Sure he had problems but they were so minor that now I really wouldn’t care about that stuff. How do you start communicating with someone after 5 months of not talking???
I’m 21 btw
I dated him for 4 months and got my first kiss from him so I don’t know if it’s because I don’t have experiance with relationships but I still miss him

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I feel confused. I’m 21 years old and the only boyfriend I’ve ever had I dumped back in October after dating him for 4 months. It’s been 5 months since we broke up and the longer I stay single, the more I want him back. He did have his problems (there was a reason I broke up with him) but the more jerks I meet, the more I realize that he wasn’t too bad of a guy and now I want him back but I’m SOOO scared to call him up.

He was pretty upset when I broke up with him but became arrogant and said "give me a few hours and i’ll get over it"…What do I do? I know he had his weaknesses but also lots of good things. I think about him more and more and I’m not sure if part of the reason is because he was my first boyfriend and first kiss (I didn’t get it until I turned 21).

He met my parents before so now I think it would be weird if he just shows up again after 5 months. I met him on a dating site and I’m back on there again and I see his profile on there all the time but I am afraid to DEATH to e-mail him b/c he’ll think i couldn’t find anyone better….idk what to do

on one hand I know that he really liked me but on the other hand, he’s had dozens of girlfriends before so I’m afraid that he forgot about me…but I still see him on the dating website almost every day so I know he’s still single! I’m afraid I might have hurt him too much and he doesn’t want to give it a chance again

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So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, "he was close to her, No really close to her". I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, "we’re just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years." I still didn’t feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly – not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent…..I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swearer’s he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swearer’s most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swearer’s I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time…..He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i’d be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.

He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don’t trust him. He just doesn’t get what he has destroyed. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don’t know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women "IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFE’S SO MUCH" I JUST DON’T KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is Truly sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love’s me. I cry often, but he doesn’t know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It’s a feeling I wish I could get back.

I haven’t told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don’t want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrassing for me and I don’t want anyone to think badly of him. I know that’s sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don’t want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We’ve had enough pain, so involving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn’t want to loose "US" when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. He is constantly tell me that he love’s me and never has Cheated since Italy with the Kiss. He tells me he didn’t realize the things he was doing recently was going to hurt me or that I would call it cheating. But I am so confused & not sure if I can trust him. Guys what are some signs that a guy is really sorry. HELP!!!!!!!

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How do I get my ex boyfriend back?

I’m a Scorpio……..

I know that I really hurt him but, dammit, I want him back. I even apologized for what I did. I was so sincere in my apology.

I just want to be able to talk to him again. I felt such a connection with him and I pretty sure he felt the same way. How can I get him back? Oh and by the way, the only way I have to contact him is through e-mail. How do I get him back?

I don’t know if it makes a difference but actually he really hurt me too. But even with that said, I’ve already forgiven him and I just want him to AT LEAST be my friend, of course I would like it to be more, but I’m not trying to go there. I just want my friend back.

The last time I sent him an e-mail was like in the beginning of August. I was really sincere, cause after everything went down, I felt bad. I really do wish there was something that I could do.

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Ok! I always felt in my heart that my husband was cheating on me…he was acting weird, he’s crazy busy all the time, he never made time for me, never calls me or text me. My husband is a Bounty Hunter and a Private Investigator therefore for me to follow him or hire someone to catch him was almost impossible. #1 because of the kind of job my husband has he is always on the phone! Every time the phone rings he goes downstairs and runs his mouth on the phone! My husband is always on the phone!
#2 My husband always keep his phone on him, at night when he is sleeping the phone is always near him, under his pillow I mean he never leave the phone out of his site!
He locks his phone! he wont give me his voice mail password! He wont give me his e-mail password! These are the reason why I had these guts feeling about my husband cheating on me! I am a open book I have no secrets with my husband and he was never so secretive when we got married. But why can’t I believe that my husband could ever sleep with another women! I just can’t believe he is capable of doing something like this.
I asked God please i’m going crazy if my husband is cheating on me please send me a sign I need to know!
My sister was driving her truck, I was on the passenger side and my husband in the back and I saw him texting someone and when i turned my head again I saw the picture of a beautiful girl on his phone!
I was like who is that? he said no one! he denied knowing who she was. Later on he confessed to me and said that he met the girl when he was working as a security person at a club! He gave her his business card and she texted him and he said he just love the attention. He said nothing happened between them and that was the 1st time and only time he ever texted a girl! Please you guys what should I do…gosh this man wont tell me the truth! Oh and the worst thing is when we were talking about the situation I asked him to see his phone and check his messages but he didn’t want me to touch his phone!
What should I do I want to save my marriage!

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we broke up 3 months ago because i broke up with him because of my mother and then we kind of gotten back together but then he decided he liked this other girl more than me they’ve been together twice in the 3 months shes also gone out with his best friend i dont know if hes ok with that or not but ive sent him an e-mail saying i want to be friends wich is what he wanted when we first broke up but i said no but now i secretly want to go out with him again even though i told him just friends this afternoon i told him to check his mail and call me but he hasnt called and i dont know if hes even read it or now but i just saw him on his bike after i got my hair cut and he stared at me but i dont know if he really reconized me i do look diffrent but from the look he gave me i couldnt tell if had read it or what he thought of it now im nervous and what would happen if he told his girlfriend i still had contact with him. idont know im so confused HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hello, I wish somebody can help me out… I met a girl at work and we were talking for two days and then she showed me her picture and showed interest, then I asked her for her number and we spent lots of the time talking in the phone (around 3-4 hours) daily. One day she her land line rings and she told me that it was her friend so I suggested she answer the phone and she told me I’ll get back to you when I get done. I waited for an hour and she didn’t call I called her and she didn’t answer…then I called again and the phone was busy. That kinda get me upset because I was waiting for her to call me back…after another hour or so she sent me a message saying that she feels sleepy and good night… I called her and told that I was waiting and ended the call. She called me to apologize and I told her that I’m not mad but I’m upset about it and let it go. The following day I texted her and explain why I was upset and she didn’t comment. After work that day I called her and she didn’t answer, I kept calling her, then she answered me saying this is annoying I’m trying to take a nap, I’ll call you when I wake up. I waited for 4 hours then I called her twice and she didn’t answer. The next morning I went to her office and gave her a note that I wrote "How could you do this to me?” She didn’t comment/ no message/ no e-mail. I went to her office again and asked her is there anything wrong, why you are not talking to me? She said I don’t want you to get upset but you’re annoying. I then sent her a message to apologize and explained that I was trying to call her cuz I missed her. After lunch time in the same day I went to her office and she were smiling and I asked her if everything is okay and she said yes. At the end of the day I asked her if I can call her she said yes…I then asked after 20 min? She said yes. I called her after 20min, 30 min and at night she didn’t answer any of my calls. This was last Wednesday and she didn’t get back to me yet. She were saying that I’m very attractive to her and that she likes me and like how I look and how I dress she even said that she likes the way I look at her and that my eyes is killing her. Can you please explain to me what is going on?

Thanks
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I Asked the above question earilier and some of you guys answered me and i’m very thankful to those of you who answered. The answers were; give the girl some time and space….ignore her for a while and maybe she’ll call…..some also said that she is palying…not intersted…change her mind…..

What is important to me now …. What is the best i can do to get her back (if possible)? Knowing that she works in th same company she is in fornt of my unit but i’m usually out so i can see her and i can disapper.

Please let me know what you think ….. i gald i can get your help

Thank you all

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I know that you are having an affair with my wife XXXXX. I love her very much and I want to save my marriage and keep my family together. Your relationship with XXXXX is NOT okay. This affair is coming in between us and making it impossible to heal our marriage. Please respect our marriage and end all contact with XXXXX immediately and forever.

If you so much as make any contact with XXXXX, either directly or indirectly, or if XXXXX even finds out about this e-mail, I will not only get LOUD about the affair, I will take LEGAL ACTION against you for alienation of affection. By-the-by (Note: by-the-by is a jab at "the other guy", who uses this phrase all the time) XXXXX does talk to me about everything, no matter how private the information, or how secretive you would ask her to be. Even if she tries to hide something, I can read her like a book. I’ve only been with her every day for almost 10 years.

If you contact her, I will know about it. Period. I already know stuff that you spoke with her about, as well as many of the things that you had discussed with her or did with her when she was at your house last Wednesday. I’m also aware of your dinner at XXXXXXX XXXXXX, and many details of your e-mail exchanges that she forwarded to me. I know of the secrets you shared with her about your mental condition, and XXXXX came to me crying when she told me about your time with her last Wednesday, and she has many times since said she is having doubts about our separation. For such a smart guy with a heart that is so susceptible and vulnerable to prolonged periods of agonizing darkness, you sure didn’t think.

If you now think you can pass a note to her under the table and expect her to keep a secret & not tell me, go ahead and throw the dice. It’s not just the XXXXXX XXXXXX XXXXXXX I can contact. I can also contact the director of the XXXXXXXXX XXXXXX XXXXXXX (his father), her family, your co-workers, etc… I’ll put a big huge spotlight on it, and my family & hers will treat it like a regular intervention.

If she decides to quit her job in order to avoid humiliation, that will be on your head, along with everything else.

If I go public, my claims and evidence will validate an already-existing rumor mill, and it will make things very uncomfortable for you both.

Just stop. Cold turkey. There is no reason for this to get any uglier for either of you. I care about Sarah, and she has a lot to lose, but I have a lot to gain and little to lose if this doesn’t end right here, right now, and forever.

I gave ten years of my young adult life to this marriage; I will make it my life’s mission to save it.
As to why I would want to be with my wife still:
Because she is the mother of my son, I love her, and even if she isn’t committed, I am. I DO have my limits, but they have not been reached yet. I am a very patient and forgiving person.
I am aware of the law in my state, and have read the compiled statutes. This is not blackmail, intimidation, or harassment. I do speak with my wife about it. She is in the fog of a new/exciting relationship and won’t end it herself. She also doesn’t think I will go as far as I will to make it end, and I’m not going to tell her if I don’t have to. My best course of action is to untangle them inconspicuously.

I’ve done much research before deciding this course of action. I just need to know if the letter is ok. Please and thank you.
Please… enough with the middle-brow advice and the suggestions that I divorce my wife. I AM being a MAN; a MAN doesn’t pack up and leave when stuff goes south. I’m not a coward; I’m not afraid that this will happen again. I am aware of the problems in my marriage, I am working toward making improvements in my life and in our relationship… I don’t need advice in that category, thank you.
Confronting the OTHER man face-to-face will not make me any more of a man than will sending him a letter. I feel my words are strong enough; meeting him face-to-face will only be seen as a threat and may end up with me being arrested. I have thought, researched, pondered, meditated, and considered WHAT I REALLY WANT, and HOW TO GO ABOUT GETTING IT. Once again, I am just asking for feedback on the letter.
Actually, she HAS forwarded me emails from him.
Here is some information for those curious about why I’m even bothering doing what I plan on doing:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Is-Your-Spouse-Caught-Up-in-an-Affair?–Stop-it-Now!&id=1869007

http://www.saveyourmarriagecentral.com/getinformed/articles/endingaffair.html
I don’t live in California. I live in Illinois.

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She is using my weak spot, Nicky my guinea pig. She has vegetables for him. She’s never visited before and now that I am breaking free, she wants to come over. I wrote her thank you, but we have veggies here. I won’t call her because she is soooo very good and sweet and caring when her husband is there and can hear her and I come off looking like the bad guy.
She doesn’t like e-mail because if she goes off, there’s proof in black and white. She ignored me while I was in a crisis and she knew it. Grew cold and contemptuous to me. Upon reading N literature, I had a refresher course. Why did I not see all the red flags? But once I realized she was an N, I had flashbacks of stuff she did or said that was like an N slide show. I actually lied, told her my husband was on his way back from another state, so she wouldn’t come over here. Now I feel guilty about that and how I’m down on her level. Don’t want to get her angry, just don’t want contact any more.
Advice please! – Bunny

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My wife and I have been separated for about 2 months. I recently asked to have a No contact time and she agreed.
she wants to only have contact via e-mail. Should I respond to the e-mails since she is the one who asked for the space in the first place?

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I’ve dated a few people in my life but never really been with someone more than 3 weeks. My ex was the only one I stayed with for over a year.
We broke up nearly a year ago and stopped talking, apart from his 1 or two texts I received which I never replied to. Then one day I decided to text him and he added me back on to myspace.

Either way, we were fine for two days until he saw some of my photos of me and my friends and started making rude remarks.

The thing is, I’ve never technically been ‘friends’ with him. We saw eachother 3 times and became a couple then fell in love. He treat his friends different towards his girlfriend. I meant a lot to him and he was basically an ass to his friends alot. I’m still in love and I cry a lot but I feel like I’m in love with someone who died/someone who doesn’t exists anymore.

I also feel like that I never want to be with another person again. I’m afraid I will be single forever because I just can’t help but think what is possibly if I’m able to love someone else.

Me and him haven’t spoken anymore since he made that stupid remark on my photos. Man I don’t know… I want to tell him how I feel but he never even replied to my nice e-mail I wrote.

Yes many will say, ‘time heals’, ‘just move on’. I try to move on and tried to let time heal but the feelings got stronger. Is it possible this love is true but I’m in it myself? I don’t believe in more than ‘one true love’.
Sorry, i meant "What is possibly real love if one is able to love another person’.
umm marc, is brother is 2months old..

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A few weeks ago my wife had an affair on me and told me about it. I was devastated and crushed. Well after talking about it with her I decided that I loved her to much to get a divorce. She ended all ties with him( changed phone numbers, e-mail, even her job) and we are getting past this just fine.
One thing that surfaced was how I haven’t been there for her and how alone she has been for the past year. I have been spending to much time with my friends and drinking. I feel horrible that I have let our marriage get to this point, but now vow to change.

My question is: After all that I have been through with this, is it odd that I love her more now than I ever in my life have. Even after what she did (which I forgive her for)?

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Earlier this year my bf found out that I had texted my ex and was talking to him and he got mad but didnt break up with me and then a couple days ago he found out my ex e-mailed me and I e-mailed back and in the e-mail my ex said he loved me n i said me too but i dont love him i dont know why I wrote that and now my bf ( i guess not my bf anymore) broke up with me
and i might be pregnant n he knows it but he doesnt want to be with me i want him back i do love him n i know he loves me I dont know what to do what can I do to get him back?
nobody can help ??
thank you.
thank you.

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My husband and I are both middle aged and set in our ways. He was used to a lot of freedom, which he uses for political activism and taking care of his parents. I believe marriage should include togetherness and doing things as a couple not leading separate lives under one roof. We fought a lot about this and counseling made it worse because we’ds patch things up only to rehash the issues in counseling and start fighting again. My husband moved out. Last week, I threatened divorce and he showed up crying at my doorstep, so we agreed to live separate for a year and spend overnights at our house on the weekends to give time for him to get used to spending more time at home and assume the responsibilities of marriage. He had not come home yet because he had been working on some activism thing(of which he forwarded me every e-mail, scheduled meeting, etc.) and I thought that was it until yesterday at lunch. I went by his ex-girlfriend’s house and his car was parked the next street over. I left a note on his windshield that that explained so much then got back to the offfice and e-mailed him he was busted. He e-mailed back he went to pick up his clothes at her place, she wants nothing to do with him because he married me, and that she has a boyfriend in Europe and is moving there. He said he was taking time to think and finish doing his activism thing. I e-mailed his behavior has been most suspicious and I want to see the clothes because if that’s what he went there for he should have them and gave him an ultimatum. I said no more part time husband, you are moving back in full time this weekend so I know where you are nights at least and you are working to save this marriage with me because I am not giving you a divorce and if we end up having to get divorced it will be as nasty and expensive as a divorce can be because you betrayed my trust and put me through hell for the past month and you deserve to feel a bit of what I have. I said also we would not have sex until he gets tested and gets results for STDs and that I want no further communication from him except when he shows up with his belongings to move back in because I’ve heard enough excuses and rationalizations and I am not listening to more. I want to save this marriage for both noble and petty reasons: I love him(Noble) and (Petty) I am not giving him to the ex-gf and granting his mother’s wishes after all the interference she created in my marriage because I am Hispanic and she did not want him to marry a "spic". Was this a good way to handle things, why or why not? Abusive and insulting answers using name calling, or focusing on grammar rather than answering the question, violate yahoo answers guidelines and will be reported.

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My husband had an affair with my best friend…What should I do?
I just found out through a saved e-mail on my husbands phone that he had a 4 month affair with my best friend whom I’ve known since grade school. I would never in a million years suspected that this happened.

My husband is nice guy,charming, good looking, he absolutely adores our 3 year old daughter, volunteers as a YMCA coach, has an amazing job. He’s like the poster man for perfect husband. Maybe this is why I’m so shocked.

The weird thing about this is that my friend was the one who introduced my husband and I. They were good friends in college, studied abroad together, interned together, I think his mom to this day still likes her better than me. She said they were just friends so I made a move on him. We hit it off…fast-forward 6 years and we’re married with a 3 year old daughter.

The worst part of the story is their e-mails. It wasn’t just a fling, hes in love with her. Apparently she ended things and he all but begged her not to.

He says he’s "utterly in love with her", thinks he always has been, she says what they’re doing is wrong. He says, he loves the sound of her voice, the way she looks at him after they make love and the way they can talk for hours about anything. She says the feeling’s mutual, but reminds him that he’s married, he says it isn’t fair to stay married when he’s in love with someone else. She says he made vows, he says he already broke them, he feels horrible for what he’s doing to me, but he can’t help the way he feels, he says he’s never been unfaithful before, he wishes things were different, wishes he could change the way he feels. He says he wishes he could go back in time and do everything over again. (Pretty much saying he wishes he never married me). She says she feels awful too, but they can’t be together. She says regardless of what has happened she loves me, she says our lives and families are too intertwined, it could never work . She says she can’t be responsible for my broken marriage.. doesn’t want to lose me as a friend….it pretty much goes on like this for a while.

Sorry for the Essay, but I don’t really have anyone else to talk to about this. We all pretty much have the same circle of friends.

I don’t know what to do. Should I confront them? A part of me is tempted to send all of their e-mails out to everyone we know in one big massive e-mail, but I think I’ll regret that in the morning. Another part of me thinks that if they’re so damn in love with each other they should just be together. (Yes, i know that’s pathetic). If he leaves he’ll definitely want custody of our daughter. His dad’s a judge, he’s a lawyer he’ll have the upper hand there.

Maybe I should just pretend I never saw the e-mail. The affair has been over for about a month and 1/2 , my friend has been distant (now I know why), things with my husband are normal although he’s been a little distant as well, I though it was just his job ( he doesn’t know that I know about the affair). It makes me numb knowing that he’s in love with someone else. If it wasn’t for our daughter he probably would be begging her to run off into the sunset with him right now. I’m so confused. I want to hate them, but I still love my husband….is that weird. Do I tell him that I know, stay, leave? I don’t know what to do anymore.

Sorry again for the length.
Please don’t answer if you already did…I guess I just still don’t know what to do.
I already copied the e-mails. I guess I don’t really think he would take my daughter away from me, but It is better to be safe than sorry. We do have a prenuptial agreement, I’,m not worried about him divorcing me and leaving me in a cardboard box. I have a job as well.

If I sound calm it’s because I just recently saw the e-mails, I guess it hasn’t fully sunk in. The thing is the e-mails were saved to his phone, he doesn’t have a password on the phone. I’m starting to think that maybe he wanted me to find the e-mails. Shouldn’t they have been deleted. You don’t leave something incriminating like that on you cell phone. God, I don’t know. Thank you for you advice. I truly do appreciate it.

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Me and my boyfriend had been together for 10 months when he left for missouri with my best friend to go through AIT for the national guards. When he left we were perfectly happy, and everything was fine. We both agreed we would stay together for the 3 months he would be gone, and both we ok with a short long distance. Two weeks into him being gone i open my e-mail to find a naked picture spread eagle over a bowling alley tiolet of my best friend sent to me from my boyfriends cell phone. i talked to him the next day about it because he only got his phone on certain nights depending on his physical trainings. i asked him instantly about the picture, and he had no idea what i was talking about. aparently when they have personal time they have to use the buddy system and decided because it was legal to drink on base, because they are both 18, to get drunk together, then meet up with others at the bowling alley. he says he doesnt remember sending me them, and i called everything off. he continues to call me and talks to my family as if nothing happened (none of my family know what he did), and tries to make me feel guilty for calling things off. he wants to go on a date when he gets back (Oct. 31st). ive told him repetedly that i want nothing to do with him, and he isnt listening at all. i was wondering if i should give him another chance, ignore him, or try to get him to back off by getting revenge and making him see how messed up what he did was?
i did talk to my friedn, and she started crying and apologizing to me about what happeend. i flat out asked her what happened and she said we had sex but its not like that between them, it was a one time thing, and it would never happen again.

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Ok Ok Ok, I know that revenge is wrong and the best revenge is to move on, be successful and live my life,

Buuuuut I really want revenge;

I already broke up with him (less then a week ago)

I have his Home phone number,e-mail, home address etc,

I have his beach towel his hoodie and a t-shirt of his,

I was thinking something along the lines of making him a profile on a gay singles website, having a friend call him and tell him one of his past partners is HIV positive and he should get checked out, something along the lines of the hilary duff "So Yesterday" video with his clothes…Something like that nothing huge just something that will make me a little bit happy inside!

I really want to know any ideas you guys have! (Please don’t tell me I’m being immature, I know that already but the bastard cheated on me I think I deserve some immaturity)

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