I’m going freakin crazy with this situation. I don’t know what to do. I feel so numb right now. Please help. This will be long most likely. I just…full detailed on what’s going on. I’ll try and keep it to the point. Just…I need help. Anything.

Me and my ex have been together for about a year. It would have been a year and a month today. I do love him. I do. It’s just…it’s been different for the last month or two of our relationship. We haven’t been connecting as much and he’s been just such an angry person. And he’s not one to show emotions..until…the past month or two. We broke up two weeks ago. Because we were talking and at first we were both fine with breaking up and think it would be best because things didn’t feel right anymore.

But suddenly he turned around and was like "No, I’m not letting you leave me." But the thing is..for the past month or two he told me he was thinking about breaking up with me. Because he said he was loosing feelings for me. Well it turns out he was just saying that because he was mad that I wanted to know what was wrong with our relationship.

This was of coarse before we broke up. Well anyways, two days later he confirmed we should breakup because he figured I would be happier. but he didn’t tell me the last part. Well we started talking that day and I was just like saying I felt like we weren’t right for each other right now and I think he should figure things out first. He doesn’t have a job. Which he thinks is the main problem. But I told him the economy is horrible and I understood.Which I really do. But he might be giving up in college because he thinks he can’t do it anymore. He hasn’t been doign so well because of his sleeping disorder and then he thinks there’s no point in finishing the class or whatever so he ends up failing.

Anyways, yesterday we were hanging out. ((Again I should add only 35% of the time he said he loved me without something being wrong. Anytime else he only said it when something was wrong. and he was sometimes a jerk but I still…loved him.)) I…told him I was dating someone right now. Just to see. He was my first boyfriend and we always told he each other if there was a chance of a second chance we would do it just to test things out. But no guarantees. I share more stuff in common with him. I do only like him.But I can see myself with someone like him. He shares the same values and goals I do and what not. He’s like one of my best friends. I was starting to date him two days ago. he flipped out. And he scared me a bit a to be honest. He was so mad. ((I introduced them to each other a few months ago and they became friends. they hung out about three or four times with me.)) But my ex..freaked out and I actually got scared. He was so angry. Stormed out of the car and was yelling at me and how I should burn in hell with his dad. and…how he should kill my current boyfriend right now. And then he was laughing a bit and said "Your lucky I don’t have my knife on you. for a few seconds there I felt like slitting your throat." and then…he broke down and cried a bit.

And then like after all the yelling and anger and what not we talked more and he kept on saying I was only the icing to his problems and basically destroyed him now. And he was back to the guy I fell in love with. I drove him home that night. and he really wanted me to get back with him and wanted me happy. He said he only said those things because he was angry. and did not really mean them…..and that I should understand that he was just angry at me and my current boyfriend now.
He has never really threatened me like that before.

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Usually I am fairly good at figuring women out, but this one has got me stumped!

I began dating my now ex-girlfriend in December of 2007. In June of 2008 we decided to move her in with me because we were very much in love and we were driving 40 miles 2 or 3 times a week to see one another. She was having a hard time finding a job here in her field and my business was slowing down because of our terrible economy. I decided it was best if we both moved back in with our folks for a couple of months while we both got back on our feet financially, and sometime this spring I was going to buy, or build us a home and she was going to move back here.

I moved her home on the 15th of November 2008. After she moved back home she seemed to slowly distance herself from me. We stayed together through the holidays, my birthday was New Years Eve which we spent together with friends and my family and after that she started acting strange. On the 10th of January she split up with me saying she needed to focus on her daughter, going back to school to become an RN and that I needed to focus on my daughter and my business, and maybe in a few months we could try it again. She also begged me to stay friends with her saying I was her best friend and she didn’t want to lose that.

I read ”the magic of making up” a highly rated book on getting back together, immediately after we split and it basically said to leave her be and she will come back if I don’t pressure her.

The first 4 or 5 weeks we would communicate a few days and then I wouldn’t hear from her, and this went on repeatedly. Finally I decided I couldn’t keep putting my heart through this, so I wrote her a long letter basically telling her I had to stop talking to her because the on again off again communication was killing me inside. I told her how much I cared but I had to walk away and when she wanted me in her life she could get a hold of me.

Two days later I shut off her cell phone because I wasn’t going to keep paying the bill if we were no longer together (I informed her first). She shipped the phone back to me with nothing inside except the phone and charger and I didn’t hear from ehr after that. Two weeks ago she deleted me from her MySpace account but left a few pictures up of us. I didn’t react to it.

I then called her best friends husband a few days later because he is a client of mine and I needed to update some things on his insurance policy. I didn’t mention her name once, I said I was doing well and in one month made a quarter of the income I did in all of last year. I made it sound as if life was wonderful.

The next day she called and I didn’t answer because I didn’t know her new number. She left a very polite message asking if she could meet with me sometime next week to pick up the rest of her things, which is a few kitchen things I know she doesn’t need right away because she lives with her folks, and a massage table that she never even uses. I didn’t call her back. That after noon she texted me, asking if I had recieved her message. I didn’t reply. That night she called again while I was asleep. I waited it out and texted her the following evening and told her I was extremely busy with my new business endeavors and that she would have to get a hold of me in a couple of weeks. I didn’t want her to think I was anxious to see her, and wanted to polietly blow her off like she had previously done me since we split up.

She texted me back and said ”fine. btw, didn’t know I needed to find myself. hey, got my license back today.” I congratulated her and she texted back again trying to make small talk and I responded politely saying ” I am happy for you.” And then we quit texting.

My question is this…..I know she doesn’t need her stuff immediately because it is of no use to her right now, and if it was that important to have right away then she would have made more attempts to get with me right away to accomplish this and probably would have made a big ”to do” about it. And she didn’t.

So since she got a new phone number and I made no attempt to contact her and find out this new number, I often think that may be one reason for deleting me from MySpace, trying to get a reaction out of me. And since I didn’t react to that she had to think of something else, which a good ”excuse” to get in touch with me would be to pick up her things. I also wonder if she would have called had I not talked to her best friends husband and told him how well life was going for me now. I really don’t know what to think.

I wonder if I should start initiating contact with her, or leave it be, and let her contact me again in a week or two for her stuff. And from that point I wonder if I should maybe ask her to lunch and see if I can slowly try to rekindle things, or wait for her to let me know she is missing me still. What are your opinions? And thank you for taking the time to read this. I am lost without her, but want to make sure I take the r

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Ayn Rand seemed to think that making money was tantamount to magic, but is it white magic or black? In short does money ultimately profit or tax commerce? Without money, Wall Street and the Fed would collapse and disappear, for example, but would this be good or bad in the long run? It’s hard to imagine any alternative to money besides barter, but it seems like profit drives inflation, among other things. Indeed, why are Muslims who observe Sharia law so opposed to interest on loans?

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bring back jobs. bring back money flow into the economy. and a sense of hope.

why not go back to the years of america made products, used by americans? outsourcing is nothing but betraying one’s country, by giving jobs away. (besides im sick of having to deal with "customer support" from a country, i cant even half understand!)

why doesnt the gov’t do something about it?
so many jobs that can be done by an american, taken away to another country!

if we could bring back those jobs, we can get stricter with welfare and try and help the homeless and get them working again too.
i have heard all the excuses in the book. there is no excuse in betraying your country.

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We still lived together. We can’t afford to live apart. He surprised me with a divorce for 2 reasons. Our child got very, very ill. I was emotionally devastated, and a real needy mess. He is still recovering. Second, my husband took out plenty of student loans for graduate school, and after 3 years of school, he couldn’t get a better job after graduation. I think it’s partially the economy, and partly HIM. Because of our son being ill, I sort of lost it and pressured him daily because it felt like our whole world was falling into a black hole.

Here’s the scoop. He loves me, he likes me. There is no one else. He thinks I’m needy. He’s super nice to me one day, then he’s snippy and secretive the next, reminding me that we ARE divorced. I felt so blindsided by the divorce that I keep making things worse by asking him over and over how he could betray me, and I get so weepy.

I feel like I’ve painted myself in a corner because we have children and I only work part time. He has most of the money, and now I feel ALL of the power. Everything I read says to get him back I need to act confident, NOT needy, and a little hard to get.

What the hell do I do? This has been the WORST year of my life!

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I’m 27 and my boyfriend just asked to marry me and I want to say no- not because I don’t love him. but because after listening to all my guys friend and brothers deal with their marriage and relationship, I’m convinced that women get SCREWED IN MARRIAGE.

Let me just say I’m not a man basher- I love men- the world would be boring without them. I’m independent- though I like when a guy does something for me without expectation and thus show my appreciation. I have a good job, take personal development classes, keep in good shape, and love to travel and do it often. I’m just afraid if I GET MARRIED I WILL LOSE MYSELF.

As women we are taught to grow up, get educated,get a career, get married, and maybe have children. Men get mad if we make more than them. If we get married, we are constantly told we forced him to settle down despite the man is the one, more often then not, who proposed. We then have children, which takes a toll on our bodies making us less attractive. Now strapped with most of the child-rearing duties and a full time job outside the home (with the economy it is to me expected that both work so that the family can survive) we have no time to get back to pre baby status. And if we try to it costs money (nails, new clothes, hair, makeup) we are then called golddiggers. After making money, raising the couples children, doing most of the domestic chores, men then complain that the wife will not have sex due to tiredness and they wonder why? We can not ask for help because it would be nagging. They don’t listen if we did approach them with a problem anyway. We give them their guy time to get away from the house despite being saddled with most of the domestic obligations ourselves. They put their friends first and we put our families first. They constantly complain about THE WIFE and then expect their wives to stroke their egos Men then use that time to cheat claiming that we became boring, no sex, or bad sex. I’m sorry, but a women with children, chores, and a fulltime job does not have time to get away to maintain herself ie girls night, waxing,take a class, read a good book or anything to she used to do that made the women interesting to the man to begin with. In divorce men complain that they get half their stuff taken- YA SO DO WE. ( I have a substantial saving pot, no debtat all, and two incoming producing rentals that I do not want to lose.) They complain that they lose the children when it has been my experience most of my divorce female friends say that their ex expected them to take the children because they don’t want to hassle with raising them. Anybody with children know that matter how much child support they get it is never equal to half the cost of raising a child. Alimony- I do not believe in unless you can prove without a shadow of a double that the women had to give up her career for somebody to stay home and raise the child -daycare is equivalent to a months pay nowadays making it pointless to have someone else f-up your kids when you can do it the right way by staying home.- In the end the man can go and start a new family forgetting about his old one and a women is looked down upon in the dating world for having children.

What should I do?

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So I have come to a point where I just don’t know what else to do. I really want my marriage to work, but I think that my wife has finally given up. I know that I can’t change her, but I don’t want to just sit here and wait for the inevitable. So a little history.

I was in the military and just reenlisted when I met my wife. My wife was a virgin when we got married, I was not. My wife says that she thinks about all of the other women that I was with before her and I really am ashamed of the things that I did before I met her. It doesn’t matter how much I tell her that I love her, how beautiful she is, she still just thinks of these other women. Her parents are still married, my parents are divorced. We are not in debt and we have money in savings. I am not working and neither is she, but she just finished school and with the economy it has been hard for her to find a job, especially in her field. I am going to school right now using the GI bill and it is our only source of income. She just went on a 3 week trip because she said she felt trapped. I didn’t fight her going on the trip because I am tired of fighting with her. She just came back and things were ok for a couple of days and then they just went down hill again. She still says she loves me, but when I questioned her more she said she doesn’t love me like I am her husband, but a family member. This is why I don’t know what to do. I am not abusive, I do get angry quick but it is because I am tired of hearing the same thing come out of her mouth. She used to have so much hope and life, but she doesn’t anymore. We have lived near her family for about 4 years. I recently asked her to give our marriage one more chance and move with me near my family. Our families live in two different states.

It seems like when we get together all we talk about is divorce. I am so tired of talking about it, but it seems like that is all she wants to talk about. She has told me before that she wants to work things out, but lately it seems like she has given up all hope. I know that she is depressed I know that we should get some counseling, but she doesn’t want to do anything. I don’t know what to do. We are both Christians, and we understand that what is going on is not right, that we should be depending on Christ. We need help.

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