It’s not even for me, I’m just so out of my element that I don’t even know how to respond to this.
So, my friend just broke up with her boyfriend (of 4 months) last night for a number of good, legitimate reasons (he took advantage of her, made plans on his own time, didn’t take her into consideration, didn’t love her like she loved him, didn’t take things seriously, wasn’t able to communicate like a grown up, et…) It wasn’t just a rash decision, she seriously thought about everything (the above) and came to the conclusion that it’s just not going to work out.
So she called him last night (yeah I know thats kinda crappy, but they live 3 hours apart and she had tried at least 4 times for them to meet up, but he was never able to make it happen). So when she called to break up, she thought it was going to be the same, him acting like a child and such but he was actually really understanding about it, telling her shes such a good person and deserves better and such. Then after they hung up, later he texted her saying something along the same lines.
So, needless to say she called me after crying about how much she loves him. And yes, I get it of course she loves him and I know like he loved her (though he did a crap job showing it) I just don’t know what to tell her because really, breaking up with him was the right move.
She’s my best friend and I love her, I’d really like to be there for her but I live like 3 hours away too. So all I can do is repeat ‘It’s ok’ over he phone as she cries. I just don’t know what to say, I’m not really good at these things as I don’t like crying in front of people, showing that kind of emotion. But I’m fine if my friends want to come to me, I’m just a better listener than advice giver, but I do care.
What do I do?
Oh, almost missed the whole point I came on here. Yes, so she called and woke me up this morning crying still cause he texted her again telling her what an amazing soul she has and how no one will be good enough for her and she deserves so much better and that his heart is breaking, so on.
I mean, they JUST broke up. Why would you text them back???
Advice, please!
