My wife and I were together for 5 years (married for 4 years). This summer she went to visit her family for summer vacation (she is a teacher, we lived in Florida and her family lives in Illinois). During the summer she would not answer my calls as frequently, and her behavior was suspicious. I confronted her over the phone and she said that she has been sleeping and seeing this other guy the whole summer. She has met his entire family and he has met her entire family as well. She even told me that she has been playing house with this guy the entire time. She came back after a month and a half to get her stuff and left. When she came back to get her stuff she slept with me once again. I will not accept her even if she wants to come back. However, I would like to know if she would come ever back again? We both loved each other very much. But I guess she was not in love with me anymore. We 2 were both educated successful couple. Now she is with this dude who is 4 years younger than her (we both are 29 years old). He is 25. The guy has no career or future and barely surviving. My wife, however, can get a nice job eventually may be 6-10 months down the road or may be sooner. I provided a great deal of emotional support for her and never let any problems come up to her at all. The whole thing happened because our passion died out. She is very impatient with everything and never even tried to work out anything with me. Do you still think she would try to come back to me? If she wants to come back how long will it be? If she wanted me back then should I trust her again? I need some answers from women who has been through similar situation. Please help!
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My ex broke up with me, and since then I have been working hard to fix the issues that we were having. I am bubbly, positive and now try extra my best to look my best.
We are still very close friends and hang out about 1 -2 x a week (having dinner, city trips etc..) I listen and support him where ever necessarily.
I can see in his eyes that he has noticed I have changed and he is probably considering getting back to me but still has our ‘bad’ times fresh in his mind.
Just wondering if this tactic works, I mean while we were going out due to uncontrollable circumstances I was not able to be myself (illness , work stress etc…)and now that I had started to revert back to my old self he ended it because it had been too much for him to take.
I know I will probably have to give it more time, but just would hate to not see any results.
He is not dating yet and has said no when someone asked him out on a date.
Could it be that he is not over me yet?
Has anyone got any experience at this working.
The reason I want him back badly is because I do feel he did not give me a fair chance and hated myself and the way I was with him because it wasn’t me. I have tried talking to him about it and nothing worked and he said that we should focus on just being friends for now and not focus or rush into things. We still do talk together as if we have a future together, and we are a great emotional support for each other.
I guess I am afraid that he will now never see me as more than friends?
Please give me positive feedback?
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My husband and I have been married for 7 years we have a little boy together. We were separated for 9 months and he came back to visit me and my son recently so we could work on our family.
My husband has this female best friend that he’s known for 20+ years he knew her since school. He said he and her never dated or had a relationship besides being friends. This woman told my husband that I cut her off from him back in the day when I never said that. Since my husband never introduced me and her together I introduced myself to her via email (he was there when I sent the email and he knew every word I wrote) and she twisted my words around making me look like a bad person and my husband felt the same way saying I cut him off from her and he also resents me for it!!! I told my husband I am your wife you knew everything I said to her via email I never cut y’all off and that you always had her contact info the least you could do is defend me. He said he didn’t defend me cuz he didn’t wanna be with me anymore I told him you were still with me at that time and you are still with me now! He said I’m controlling and jealous and that I have trust issues and if our marriage is going to survive I have to trust him!
When he came back to visit us, I found a couple of emails he wrote to another woman (I was using his laptop one day). I did some research and it turns out this woman is an internet webcam stripper from iFriends whom he befriended. He spent lots of money on her. He is a guillable man and believes everything the stripper tells him. I told him that he needs to quit talking to this webcam stripper because it’s harming our marriage and he told me to leave her out of it and that he had already spent alot of money on her around 00 for her private shows. He still emailed her wishing her a Happy New Year. He said he only considers her as a friend and isn’t interested seeing her naked anymore and he said that she is a good person and she gave him the emotional support he needed when we were separated and he told me he doesn’t like when I refer this woman as a webcam stripper. And then he said he doesn’t want to lose her as a friend and if I tell him to quit contact with her he will just become more distant to me. I asked him "Why should befriend a stripper what do I have in common with her besides you saw us both naked??!"
I do not know what to do anymore I am trying to save my marriage and stop my divorce but I feel I can’t do it without his help. I had already filed for divorced and he also filed when he was served divorce papers. We both told our divorce lawyers to hold on to our papers so we can try to salvage our marriage but I feel like I am the only one who’s trying on my own.
I went to counseling. I read lots of relationship and marriage books. I try to be the best wife he says I’m beautiful and sexy but apparently I am not good enough for him.
I need advice help!
i do not plan on dating when i am still married even when I’m separated i don’t want to committ adultery.
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