I dated my gf for about a year and we were supposed to get married this winter. However, I ended up cancelling the wedding for several some reasons that I thought would become big issues in the future: 1) she’s very close to her family and makes me feel like I will always be second best, 2) she’s vegetarian and expects me not eat meat at home if her parents/relatives are over – this means no BBQs, no family parties where I can have meat, etc., 3) she’s passive aggressive – keeps bringing up stuff even if we might have discussed them before to see if she’s get her way yet once more – this annoys the crap out of me, 4) she has a lot of beliefs about proper etiquette – when we were dating, she wanted me to pay for every dinner right from the beginning, which i did, but not once did she insist on picking up the whole check (my ex-GF couldn’t care less who paid for the dinner, but she does) …anyway, we cancelled our wedding.
I’m now feeling completely confused. I’m in my mid-30s and feel like I don’t have the energy to chase girls any more. Any girls I was ever "ga-ga" about didn’t want to go out with me, or gave me stupid mixed signals or were already taken. It’s now getting worse – I haven’t been going out in awhile and recently skipped a birthday party because some of my gf’s friends were attending (and I knew they’d ask about us). I’m just getting sick of the whole dating thing. Feel like I kinda blew my personal life. I should have started early and tried to grab a good looking, easy going, genuine, fun girl. It seems like a total long-shot now.
How do I shake this feeling? Did i over-react and cancel the wedding? Have people cancelled their wedding in their mid-30s and then come back and made it? There’s a big part of me that wants to reconcile, but I’m also very confused. Any idea what I should do – I know it’s ridiculous to ask a forum, but would love any words of advice. Thanks very much.
Related Information:
my ex gf and i broke up in feb, but we still were real good friends and freinds with benefits until the end of june when she got a job. At this job she met someone else and threw me away like i was nothing. I called the no contact on her and four months later she contacted me saying she missed me. the other guy dumped her. I really love her and she really loved me. i told her i cant be friends yet even after 5 months. she kept texting me so we finally got together and we told each other all our feelings and i realized the problems i had in our relationship and i want to fix them. she says she wants to be alone right now but still wants to be friends. In our previous relationship i loved her but i had a lot of problems showing it so she didnt think i cared. Now we have reestablished a freindship but she is sending very mixed signals. I am afraid i may get hurt again but i want to at least try to get her back so i can say i tried. I am not sure if i should talk to her a lot and show her i really do care since that would show her i changed or if i should play hard to get which is how most blogs and forums say to do it but i feel like my situation is different. I dont want to show desperation either. Any suggestions? Her friends and my friends have all been best friends since freshman year of high school and now we are soph in college which makes it so hard because i want to hang out with everyone. We all hang out every weekend together and always have. i couldnt imagine not having them but i feel if my ex doesnt want to get back i cant be around her anymore because i still have so many feelings for her.
Related Information:
my ex gf and i broke up in feb, but we still were real good friends and freinds with benefits until the end of june when she got a job. At this job she met someone else and threw me away like i was nothing. I called the no contact on her and four months later she contacted me saying she missed me. the other guy dumped her. I really love her and she really loved me. i told her i cant be friends yet even after 5 months. she kept texting me so we finally got together and we told each other all our feelings and i realized the problems i had in our relationship and i want to fix them. she says she wants to be alone right now but still wants to be friends. In our previous relationship i loved her but i had a lot of problems showing it so she didnt think i cared. Now we have reestablished a freindship but she is sending very mixed signals. I am afraid i may get hurt again but i want to at least try to get her back so i can say i tried. I am not sure if i should talk to her a lot and show her i really do care since that would show her i changed or if i should play hard to get which is how most blogs and forums say to do it but i feel like my situation is different. I dont want to show desperation either. Any suggestions? Her friends and my friends have all been best friends since freshman year of high school and now we are soph in college which makes it so hard because i want to hang out with everyone. We all hang out every weekend together and always have. i couldnt imagine not having them but i feel if my ex doesnt want to get back i cant be around her anymore because i still have so many feelings for her.
Related Information:
My ex-girlfriend plays soccer for Appalachian State, I am a huge oklahoma sooners fan, my ex-gf told me never to talk to her again and she got a new boyfrind, so I hung out with 30 Oklahoma sorority girls, I went to App state and I posted pics of me and the sorority partying and having fun all over my Ex-girlfriend’s dorm room door, My friend told me that my ex-gf was crying that I did that and crying about all those girls in the photo partying with me, so was this a great way to get revenge?, why or why not?
here is her pic from App state
http://www.goasu.com/wsoccer/roster/6048…
Related Information:
no matter how much i tried to 4get that he had sex with his ex-GF behind my bac its still hurting inside because i know that he did it. used to bring it up to him like everynight but know i hve settled down but i still havent got it outta my mind so i hope somebody can help me with this question. And plus i’m 2 yung to be going through all of this stress i’m only 15!!!!
Related Information:
