To expound: We all have people we know that get under our skin, particularly if the person is of our own race,gender,age,sexuality that act in a stereotypical way that when you yourself don’t behave in such a way that it makes you want to vomit through your eyeballs when these schmucks do.
Example number one: Say your a Latino who doesn’t speak Spanish, who is well read & has gone to college,has a high paying job but catches a lot of crap from a few other Latinos who speak broken English,who constantly yell at you in Spanish (even though both of you know you don’t speak it). And go behind your back and complain about not "keeping it real" or "acting like a white person".
Or saying how you forgot your roots.
The same goes with black people. You have a wide vocabulary,you like reading,you may like listening to Rock,Pop over rap or like both & want to go to college and enter a carer, marry a white person or someone from another race, which a couple of other black people accuse you of being a "sellout".
Saying: "why are you acting like a white girl/boy fo’ ?" "Look at him/her runnin’ around with that white gir/boy…) And they seem to be under the impression that just because you don’t go around using Ebonics every two nano seconds & starting/ending every of word or phrase with Yo that you aren’t "black enough"
(As an African American woman I have had more then my fair share of this crap happen to me but I digress.)
Or say your a young women who isn’t a neurotic,man crazy,rambling mess who can’t keep her emotions in check but who is more rational,practical,who might not be a social butterfly but is able to to do a job & do it very well.
And you might be the type to not have an interest in dating because it just might be a pain in the ass, and wouldn’t want to get married, have kids or be stuck with a guy just for the simple fact that you like your privacy. Then a few other women might start talking about you behind your back mentioning how "odd" you are & insert snide, comments and what not.
Not every woman mind you but a few of them. I’m sure you know the type.
Or if your a man who is more interested in being a nurse,a hair dresser and while not a spineless wuss you don’t feel the need to put on a front of being overly masculine and are more empathic then most people other guy might (and will) give you a hard time over it.
Or if your Gay and your not effeminate nor macho but, fall some where in the middle or a whole class of your own & you get bitched at by either side who act like very negative stereotypes of what it means to be gay or if you might be in the closet and don’t want to come out for your own reasons and other gay people give you a hard time over it and make you feel like you have to come out even though your not ready.
Well,my point with this is: Does this sort of stuff I’ve listed ever piss you off,even a little?
That sometime the most grief we get can be by the ones who might be people of our own race,religion,sexuality, or age group who do or say stupid shit without stopping to think about what their doing?
I’ve been mulling it over in my head and while I’ve got a lot of things that I strongly dislike about not only the black community & a lot of women I often wondered if others feel like me about their own races,age groups, genders…?
If what I’m say makes any sense feel free to give me your thoughts and express how you feel?
Because I sometime wonder if I might be alone in thinking like this.
Is this sort of feel normal and how do you deal with it if you have ever experienced some of the few examples I’ve listed ??
