I was and still am in love with this girl, she is my best friend. I went four straight months thinking of nothing but her, spending all my time with her and dedicating my whole life to her. She has a boyfriend though of 3 years so i could never make a move. I mean i was IN LOVE! Then over christmas break i hardly talked to her, also her boyfriend was home. But i started talking to this other girl ALL the time, i kinda had feelings for her but not love like my best friend. Well i finally thought that i was over my best friend in the way that it wasnt all i thought about anymore and that i didnt get jelous. But school has started back up i see her everyday and we are about to start spending a lot of time together again because of school activities. I cant fall for her again but i love her so much, What should i do????
this guy…soooooooo chweet was my bf…we loved eachother SO MUCH….he couldnt live without me for even a day..it was a long dstnce relationship…we swore to love eachother always….in december when he returned..we met for the first time..n kiss 
later in feb he broke up giving contradicting reasons…i asked many questions..his reply was ‘i dont know’…
he broke up…we kept emailing eachother after that..i was v rude to him..n so was he..any way, he finally go SO annoyed that he put me in his ignore list..then surprisingly later on removed me..i havnt spoken to him since then..
he promised to love me till eternity…he was sooooo intoxicating when we met..so gentle….so hypnotising.,..
i cant believe the guy i loved so much has turned so rude…i am v emotional…i trust people ONLY when i knw they wont break it..
i trusted him too…after he broke me…i hv lost interest in life…in everything…mom is worried too…so r my pals..unlike my frnds..i still havnt started crushing on other guys after the breakup…
i fear trusting poeple….i fear to fall in love again….coz if all this repeats i ll die…seriously…i dont want to get married ever….mom knows everything. she is v supportive…i hv my frnds…i hv my family…yet d sense of loss of losing him is still there…i cant get him out of my heart…i hgave so many reasons to hate him..yet i cant…i know things r over yet i pretend he’s still with me…i dont know why…i feel like hugging him soooo tight..and crying…n not letting him go any where…
i dont want to be like this forver…this is amperin my performnce in school…and my disposition…
i chat a LOT…u ll want to zip my mouth!!! bt thats no longer there…mom says…i stay alone all the time…lost in his thoughts…
i really want to have him right next to me…i love him…BUT i want to forget him…what should i do?! will i re,main like this forver??! will i ever love someone again?!? what will i do when he comes to indis this november?!? (he’s abroad fer studies) v r 16..
its 6 months now…
i dont seem to like any guy…not that there rnt good 1z..derz this popular guy in my skool whom grls r head over heels for..2 b honest..he looks way better than my ex..BUT…i dont find hm AS good as my ex was..:(
not only him bt all guys!! X(
Ok So around 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me…I love her… We dated for around a year and 2 weeks. Now the reason that she told me was that she didnt have those feelings for me anymore..Now I believe that those feelings just dont dissappear considered that within 20 days she went from I love you =D to I dont think we can be together anymore after a year relationship. One of my friends talked to her about it and she said that at first She broke up with me and I was sad, which I was, and then she said that I became a bit obsessive and I wouldnt back off and I guess thats is prob. true…but when you love someone, you go crazy! Now we are at the point of me needing to figure out how to get her to fall in love with me again…but after last night i believe it will need some recovery time, over this past weekend I guess I scared her a bit and I tried telling her how I felt n stuff and she was like if you dont stop ill get a restraining order…now I know she doesnt mean it but that does tie into play somewhat because Im sure she needs some space now…I thought about not talking to her for a week and saying "Hey " text obviously, and if I get a response good, if not boo…one friend said wait until she text me, but thats only if she does… Anyway.. I have come to the yahoo community for some advice!
1. What should I do about giving her her space…wait until she text me? Try and text her? what do I do?
2. Whats the best way to try and have her fall in love with me again…someone said invite her on just a little date..someone said have an event that you know she likes, for example a party or something
3. Once we get talking again, do I take it slow? treat her like a gf or just try to leave it at friends, I dont really know how to treat her like a friend because we were only friends for a week before we started dating.
Anyway all please help and post your advice!
No negative stuff please!
Im thirteen. I know it might seem like young love, but I love this girl more than anything in the world. Me and her have been best friends for about two years. She tells me that she loves me, wants to be with me, and that I’m different than all the other guys. But she keeps going out with other guys. I’ve already asked her out, and she said no, because we were different than we used to be. How do I get things back to how they used to be, and how do I make her fall in love again?
I wrote a question earlier about if my wife was interseted in me, well later that week my wife told me that she is not in love with me anymore, I feel a divorce is last resort and the thing that make us lose everything. wy wife said that she loves me but not romanticly. I we still live in same house and do everthing like normal married couple. i know that this is short discription for long discussions, but i would like to know if you fell out of love with someone is there a chance of reviving that love. like take your ex for and example if you were to fall back in love with that person what would that person have to do to get you to fall back in love.
ok i have seen some answers and let me elaborate, we don’t hold hands anymore, she will not let me kiss her, she does let me scratch her back or rub her feet and so forth, but as far as dating to try and rekindle or find that lost love she is not sure what she wants she tells me that she does not know if she can go back.
I guess i have to add more info, i showed my wife lots of love i would caress her while in bed, on the couch, i would be the one to want to hug her when we got home from work, i was very attentive, i am not saying i was perfect, I have had an anger issue and would be verbally abusive not call her names or things but just i guess mean stuff would come out when i felt threatened or hurt, a lot of it i felt came from how it was contant rejection i would have beg for kisses and when we hugged i would have to say things like can’t you hug me with some love into it. i felt that she always thought that every kiss and hig would have to lead to sex and thats why she did not want to do anything. i did not bring flowers near enough, i did not clean the house at all , i am just not sure how to tell how she really feels and if there is a chance for us to fix this marriage, i love her so much and she says that she feels so bad because she knows how much i love her.
i know what i need to do per his advice (not wear slutty clothes, not be jealous of other women, enjoy sex, all the sh8t)….but what else do i truly need to do to get this guy to fall head over heels in love with me again. weve been married 2 1/2 years, have a 2 year old daughter, weve had a rough past and he doesnt want to work on his end of things, but im trying to work on mine…he doesnt find me attractive, doesnt want to do things with me like spend time with me, he ignores me most of the time unless we need to discuss groceries or something. when he talks its usually a note about a tv show or music and i dont feel like its meant for me, i feel like he is just saying it to say it so sometimes i dont respond.
what as a wife can i say or do, or not do to get through this. i want him madly in love with me again, and im terrified that even if i do the things he asks, he wont be.
I live in houston, tx. We’ve been arguing a lot lately but I want to make it up to her and show her how much I actually love her. So please help!
if you’d like to help me plan something please email me at anthony6dup@yahoo.com. thanks
How can you fall in love with each other again?
We’ve been married almost 4 years, and have two beautiful kids. Things have been rough lately, and we’re growing apart. I don’t want to lose my husband, but the romance is completely gone from our relationship. I have seriously thought about moving on, but I still love my husband and don’t want to put my kids through a divorce. He feels the same way.
Is there a way to save our marriage, or is it time to call it quits?
It’s a tough one you’ve been asking yourself for a while now. . . “How Do I Make My Wife Fall In Love With Me Again?”
There are many avenues that need to be explored when coming up with an answer to your question and of course the answers depend on your specific situation and circumstances. But there are some basic strategies that any man can apply towards gaining his wife’s love back.
First, you need to figure out why your wife has stopped loving you (or why she says that she doesn’t love you anymore, even if that may not be true).
What are some common reasons for this?
Reason Number 1: I’ve lost my wife’s love because I had an affair and she found out.
Reason Number 2: My wife found someone new that she feels is better than me.
Reason Number 3: I haven’t stuck to my promises and agreements. I promised her that I would change my attitude or some of the things that annoy her but I haven’t done so. This has lead to disappointment and loss of hope on her part.
Reason Number 4: I neglected my wife in her eyes. I didn’t give her the love and attention she needed.
Reason Number 5: I tried to control everything she did. I didn’t allow my wife enough freedom and space to do what she wanted.
Once you’ve identified the reason or combination of reasons, you can start to go to work on the problem. Many marriages that fail do so because the real problems aren’t really understood. Communication is a huge part of making the marriage work – and men think differently than women so even if you think you know how your wife feels about something (because that’s the way you feel), chances are you probably don’t. So talk to her.
Without the right communication, it’s really hard to resolve and kind of conflict, big or small. The right kind of communication will allow your damaged relationship to start recuperating and later to thrive if you give your wife the opportunity to share her dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with you.
If your wife has conceded to trying in the marriage again, don’t just go back to what wasn’t working. Keep things interesting, do little things to show your wife how much you love and appreciate her or do something pleasantly surprising.
Keeping your promises is another important part of the equation. If you haven’t kept your promises in the past, start doing so now. Your past broken promises have no doubt ruined the trust in your relationship but you can start repairing that now.
Finally, give your wife the space and time she needs. Let her know that you are there for her but don’t smother her.
Hopefully the above information is enough to get you started working on your solving your big concern of how to get her to love you again.
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My boyfriend and I of four years just broke up today. It was kind of a nasty break up – we had a huge fight about a lot of stuff and then we just ended the relationship. He was my best friend and we did everything together and we shared all the same dreams and we just clicked so well but then in the last year he just started to have problems in our relationship and we would break up then get back together and try to work on them but then we would break up again and this is the fifth time we break up but we had such a huge fight and now its the best thing for both of us.
I just feel as though I will never find someone who loved me as much as him or someone I will love as much as I loved him and it feels so bad. All the things in my room remind me of him – the stuffed animals he gave me, cds, even some of his clothes I have. All the songs on the radio about breaking up – I can totally relate too now and its like no matter how hard I try not to think of him something always reminds me of him. Ah, it just hurts so bad not to have him in my life and I feel like I will never get over him.
He was my first love too. Can anyone relate and is it possible to fall in love again or find someone new? Any suggestions on how to get over him faster or just make the pain less? Any ideas are welcome.
We live together. At the begginnings I gave my best but she was too defensive and she didn’t gave herself to the relationship. Now things have switched, but we agree that something is missing…can we retake our relationship? Sex has been lousy lately and communication is bad…But I still thing she could make it…is it real?
I’ve lost the love of my life two months ago…
None of us wanted it to end…
But we had no choice…
I think that I’m over her now… (That is what I keep telling myself)
But the problem is…no matter how hard I tried; I can’t ask a girl out…
There are opportunities for me…some girls have given me green light to ask them out…
Two of them have even asked me out their selves…
But…I just can’t do it, I’m afraid of loving again…
I feel like all the girls just care about how I look that is why they are interested…I hate that, I wanna find someone who will love me even when I become 50 years old and not handsome anymore…that is why I’ve thought about online dating because the girl will talk to me first and then will know how I look…
I’m 19 with a broken heart…anyone interested.? Your age doesn’t matter for me just talk to me on my yahoo messenger id:woondedlover@yahoo.com
Thanks,bye
i was dating a girl for four months and after about 3 and a half i was unsure about the relationship. after a one day break SHE broke up with ME. I realized how much life sucked without her, and did everything i could and got her back. We were together for 2 weeks before i found out she had been talking to another guy behind my back. This was the second time she had been talking to him. i tried talking to her about it and she didnt want to hear it, so she called me after school and broke up with me. i was devastated. i tried a couple more times to rekindle the love by pouring my heart out to her. we were friends for a little while after this, but then i got into a fight with the guy she had been talking to. because of this she was not talking to me. i made up with her again and now we are on speaking terms. i guess the thing is that this girl is my first love, and i am still in love with her. although i know she likes someone else, i am in love with her. what can i do?
My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me a while ago, I loved her with all my heart and soul, I’m 100% over her now, and I’ve tried going on a few dates here and there but I’m too afraid to fall in love again. It has been so long since my ex broke up with me, how do I fall in love again?
I have just recently become single, because my husband of 9 years walked out on me and our four kids. He did this a week before Christmas. Although he just left we have had no kind of relationship at all for about a year now. With the exception that he still lived with us. For a whole year now I have been going crazy being without a lover. I have stayed faithfull even though it was very hard. Now just recently I have met this guy that takes my breath away. He treats me like I have never been treated before, and I really fill he is sincere. I am torn because I want this so bad but worry it’s too soon. My kids really like him, and he is good for them because their real dad doesn’t have much to do with them. My sister says go for it that I deserve to be happy. What would you do if this was happening to you??
we have been married for 11 yrs and the signs were there. I never grew up, never paid as much attention to my wife as i should have. I always loved her. More than anyone could know. Just now that i think i let her slip too far away…..and shes found someone who will listen and care for her. I want to stop it before anything happens and i have confronted her about. She says it will stop, but i know its not that easy. It breaks my heart thinking about the whole situation. This is new news to me, i ha vent eaten in 3 days, im missing work, im a total wreck. I love her more than anything in the world,,,do you think its too late for me? i know i should have been the best husband all along, not only when something like this happens. I really need some answers and someone to talk to, im all alone here..
I heard this song in Jcrew the other day and i don’t remember any of the other words. It is not Jason Castro’s song "Lets just fall in love again". Thanks!
My girlfriend (future wife) tells me she loves me..and calls me names like babes, and honey..and i get that feeling in my stomach…and i have that tingly sensation that moves down my body…i love her..shes amazing.
I want to plan a surprise weekend gift for my sister and her husband who have been together for 14 years. Because of past arguments and their hectic schedules, they both admit that they don’t feel in love with each other anymore and that they usually run out of things to say to each other when left alone.
They planned to go to San Diego to watch a sport event the 1st weekend of May but there was a problem with the arrangements. I’m helping them think of where else to go and what to do on that weekend instead.
My brother in law likes sports, video games, nature adventures. My sister likes chocolate, music, funny things. They both like to read, watch movies, eat, and be silly. They love their children. I just wish thaty this weekend can help them love each other more.
Any ideas on where they could go and what they can do?
Thanks!
he was my 1st love. weve been together 6 years. Now its over. I used to foresee the rest of my life with him & now that he s not in da picture anymore, its just so hard for me to carry on. suicide have come to my mind more than once. but a sane part of me do not want to end my own life. but i keep asking myslf, what if i never fall in love again? how will i go on?
Okay so I’ll try to make this quick.
She and I went out for 1.5 years, and after the first 2 months she told me she loved me.
With previous girlfriends, when they dropped the "L" bomb and I didn’t feel it toward them, I broke up with them within a month or less.
This was different though, I told her I didn’t know if I was ready to say it, but that I still really wanted to be with her.
So she continued to tell me she loved me throughout the next year plus.
Jumping forward… After this most recent spring break (2 or so weeks after) we were headed to the store to pick some stuff up.
I had been really debating for the past few days before that about telling her (FINALLY) that I love her. I thought to myself that I might as well make fully sure before I go through with this (because I had never ever said it to anyone else before).
So, being somewhat sneaky and untrusting, when she went in to the store I checked her old text messages on her phone. The text message at the very bottom had a little Lock on it, meaning it was saved… It said "Te Amo"… and it was from one of her best friends in Mexico. For those of you that don’t know…(she is Mexican, was born in Mexico, but lives up here now, speaks fluent Spanish, and went to spring break in Mexico to visit her dad)…. Anyway, Te Amo is VERY serious and it is essentially like professing your undying love to someone. Like the next step is a SERIOUS relationship.
So, I quickly put the phone down after seeing it, and when we got back to her apartment, I brought it up and asked her what it was. I said that I couldn’t trust her, that she was cheating on me, and all this other crap. She assured me that she wasn’t, and was BAWLING, like eyeballs about to pop out of her head she was so distraught because she thought I was going to break up with her.
She told me that the reason she kept the text message was to A: pretend it was from me, and B: it was nice knowing that someone could actually love her.
I didn’t buy it at the time, but I believe that now I do. So after the whole argument and explanation she gave, I told her that if we were to stay together, she’d have to go through a lot of pain at my hand because I was essentially going to treat her like shit.
She agreed and said whatever it took for me to regain her trust.
Well, about a month down the road, I sent her a text before she got out of class (we’re both in college) and it said something like, "I don’t know if I can ever trust you again." … I sent the text message because I was thinking about the "Te Amo" text and I was just frustrated.
She came over later that day and we sat down and talked, and essentially she wanted to break up with me because of how I had been treating her.
We broke up, and a day or two after we broke up, with ALOT of thinking, I realized that I loved her and I needed to tell her. It took me 2 hours of sitting in her bed and making small talk to finally bring it up and tell her. She said "I love you too" back to me or whatever, and then she said that we should give this relationship a second chance, but it’s going to take work, etc…
Well, now we’re broken up and she has fallen out of love with me, she still loves me, she told me… But I can tell she doesn’t feel the same burning love that she felt before, and she admitted that.
So I want to know… How can I prove myself to her and have her fall in love with me again? I really want to make her happy and I want to be with her, she is my life and I want so much to just prove myself to her.
Oh, and she’s down in Mexico right now for 2 weeks visiting family/friends, so I can’t really do anything immediately (kind of out of contact due to distance, cell phone charges etc) so any advice would be great!!
Thanks so much for reading this… I know I said it’d be short… But I have WAY too many emotions going on right now to keep things short.
Oh and sorry I forgot to add.. this is the order of things…
We broke up, I told her that I loved her… and thats it, we’ve never gotten back together, its still kind of like a "trial" period i guess.
My 4month old son would try to latch onto my chin and then raise his head so i could kiss his chin. I was the sweetest thing!
Today at the grocery, a lady was admiring my son asleep in his carrier when my 2 year old daughter walked up to her and said "thats my brother, hes sleeping i love him" That made tears come to my eyes, i couldnt help picking her up and give her kisses!
Life would be so boring without my kids!
Yes he cheated on me. Yes he dumped me. Yes he made me lost all of my confident. He treated me like a piece of shit while he had an affair.
17th of may 09 I caught him via email. He was in love with his colleague in another state.
I forgive him straight away and want him to work out for our married.
Took him for long time to stop the game.
Now we are back together. and he said sorry . he made a mistake and he tried to be a good dad and husband.
In fact I don;t love him any more but I stay with him because of kids. ( 4 and 6)
Everyday I live by day. I don;t know when my heart is expired.
I can not trust any men in this world except my father and my son.
And I think I keep him, better give him to someone else. He is still my father of my kids and still pay the bill.
However I believe. " Love never say sorry"
pls give me some advice how can I move on . forget all the past…….
How can I trust him again? How can I love him again??
my husband and I have had some problems. he wants to work things out, i’m not sure what i what we are planning to get counseling but what steps should i take to fall in love with him again
