I have been married to my husband 10 years this past Aug. In Nov. of 2008 we were having troubles. Not talking or doing things together anymore. He spent more time away from home than with me because we really were just roommates. I felt unloved and not appreciated. He felt neglected and that I didn’t want to be with him anymore. A family member told me that he saw my husband out at dinner with another woman. ( I later found out this was made up and he never did cheat on me) I moved out a week before Thanksgiving. I moved in with a man I had been talking to for about 3 weeks. He told me how wonderful I was and how he worshiped the ground I walked on. We went for coffee and spent time talking and those things my husband stopped doing. I after moving in he told me to get a divorce after the holidays. He had big plans to go to Florida and live in a year or two and he said how wonderful I was and how he wanted to be with me and even that he loved me. After I moved in things quickly started to change, he told me I should stay home and not spend so much time with mother. I was not allowed to go to the store or off by myself. My cell phone call log and text was to be showed to him every night. All the sudden we were not going out every night. He got home at 4pm I got home at 6pm. I was to cook dinner and then clean up the house. Then was to be in bed by 9pm. We became intimate about 2 weeks after I moved in and while it was new and and a little exciting at first, his constant every night wanting it was not the affectionate loving man he said he was, now it was more of a chore. Luckily I stayed kind of sick for a while so that kept him away. I found out he was a heavy drinker too. This is not what he told me. He began working later and getting called in to work at odd times around middle of Jan. Found out later he was starting to hit on another woman. So in Feb. I came home one night and he was drunk and ended up shoving me.Told him my husband never laid a hand on me and he wasn’t going to start. I left the house and called my husband to pick me up a few blocks from the house. We talked things over and he took me back. He apologized and said we would need to see a councilor and work on us if I wanted to come back, which we did. It has been almost a year now and things are going wonderful. We are talking more, we open up easier and its like we are new friends again. But when we were separated I told him things, Like how I was having a great time over there, this new man was so fun and exciting and we had amazing sex every day 2 or 3 times a day. They were not true but I just wanted to hurt him at the time. In counseling he brought them up and I honestly forgot I really said so much, but he felt hurt. I told him it was not true but he said he still thinks about it. He has never asked me for DETAILS about what happened or what we did. I did tell him about the accident though. While over there one night the condom broke on us and I had to go get the morning after pill. ( I was not using anything because my husband had gotten a vasectomy the year before). I felt he had a right to know about that. And now I wonder if I should ask him if he wants me to disclose everything else that happened or not? I think it may bother him, but I didn’t want to hurt him and we have come so far already I would hate open up old wounds. But I dont want him to think I am hiding anything, which I am not. I know what I did was wrong. We should have gone for counseling before I left. I should not have assumed he had cheated on me. I should not have moved in with another man and had sex with while I was still married. But I wish I could help him know how bad I feel. He loves me more than he should and it scares me how much he cares for me. He never once said a bad word or did anything to me after I left. I just feel so much guilt and hope we finally move past this. Our life is wonderful now and we are both working hard, I just wonder if there is anything more I could do to help?
My husband appoligised for his part of our original problems. We always had communication problems both of us. And they eventually caught up with us. The last few months before I left we either didnt talk or when we did it was a fight. So he would come home, get on the computer or watch tv, or go out to his buddies house for 2 and 3 hours. Our not talking caused me to feel unloved, so when we did not make love he was getting more upset as well. It was a cycle of hurt that never ended. I did not intend to move in with the other man right away, he lived next to my brother and I was suppose to stay with him, but when I left my brother said to go ahead and stay next store. I did not have unprotected sex the condom broke. I could not risk having a baby because of my diabetes, thats why my husband had his vasectomy. I know I was wrong. My husband said everyone deserves a second chance, if they are truelly sorry. He is so wonderful and I just want to help him any way possible.
okay so almost a month and a half ago is when my boyfriend broke up with me. i was having problems with depression and had just lost a family member. he didn’t understand why i was so sad all the time and just gave up on trying to make me happy. he said that once i get it together we can be together. in this time, i’ve realized my problems and what i need to do to sort them out. but i cannot be fully happy again unless i’m with him. and he doesn’t want to be with me anymore :/ he says "i really want to, i mean i still like you, but we’re not good for eachother". what kinda bs is that? :/ how do i get him back! i already feel the depression coming back and ive been crying over this for days..
I will start by saying I never had an affair. What I have been into is gambling and yes lieing to her about it. So she caught me when I was talking to my sports book and told her I wasn’t since it was around Christmas she said she didn’t want to make any decisions before the holidays but she would let me know on January 19 which is when she started school again. So around December 7 we found out our daughter was being molested by a family member and our whole world was turned upside down, and we have been devastated everytime we think about this. So January 19 comes and goes On January 22 we are dealing with this mess and she flat out tells me that if this incident would not of happened she would of asked for a divorce. Now she don’t want to do anything till we have healed. I really am done with gambling of course the football season is over but hopefully by August I won’t want to gamble. Anyway I am hopeing we can put this back together as she claims (sometimes) she stills loves me but everytime she gets mad at me she tells me she wants to leave any tips will be helpful
I have two obsessed ex boyfriends. One of my exes will go to a family member and ask her a ton of questions about what is going on in my life and what is going on in my boyfriends life. Then he reports to the other one. After they talk I get called and harassed by both of them. It is really making me and my fiance mad. Any suggestions on how to get rid of the both of them?
So I have come to a point where I just don’t know what else to do. I really want my marriage to work, but I think that my wife has finally given up. I know that I can’t change her, but I don’t want to just sit here and wait for the inevitable. So a little history.
I was in the military and just reenlisted when I met my wife. My wife was a virgin when we got married, I was not. My wife says that she thinks about all of the other women that I was with before her and I really am ashamed of the things that I did before I met her. It doesn’t matter how much I tell her that I love her, how beautiful she is, she still just thinks of these other women. Her parents are still married, my parents are divorced. We are not in debt and we have money in savings. I am not working and neither is she, but she just finished school and with the economy it has been hard for her to find a job, especially in her field. I am going to school right now using the GI bill and it is our only source of income. She just went on a 3 week trip because she said she felt trapped. I didn’t fight her going on the trip because I am tired of fighting with her. She just came back and things were ok for a couple of days and then they just went down hill again. She still says she loves me, but when I questioned her more she said she doesn’t love me like I am her husband, but a family member. This is why I don’t know what to do. I am not abusive, I do get angry quick but it is because I am tired of hearing the same thing come out of her mouth. She used to have so much hope and life, but she doesn’t anymore. We have lived near her family for about 4 years. I recently asked her to give our marriage one more chance and move with me near my family. Our families live in two different states.
It seems like when we get together all we talk about is divorce. I am so tired of talking about it, but it seems like that is all she wants to talk about. She has told me before that she wants to work things out, but lately it seems like she has given up all hope. I know that she is depressed I know that we should get some counseling, but she doesn’t want to do anything. I don’t know what to do. We are both Christians, and we understand that what is going on is not right, that we should be depending on Christ. We need help.
