My ex boyfriend/best friend of 3 years recently told me that he has feelings for someone else and wants to explore these feelings. He says he doesn’t know if we are going to get back together, but hes not saying that we wont. I am heart broken and devistated I do not know what to do. I know that I need to give him that space, but I get weak and it gets hard. Is it possible for him to fall back into love with me? What can I do in the meantime, wait or date others as well, right now I don’t want to date others, but how can I not be so weak. Help and please be sincere and not mean, this is a hard subject for me.
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We were dating for a year, I ended it and hurt him really bad. He says he still wants me but also has feelings for someone else and doesn’t want me to just move on and let him go. How do I get him back?
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Ok so i love this girlk here is the storyu it long so skip if you want to
My friend introduced us at the time I was just like eh she is nice. But since then she has become a good friend and the friend who introduced us has had a crush on her for awhile and until the last month or so I had been trying to get him to ask her out. But recently I realized that I liked her too and he still doesn’t know. This is the first time I have ever had feelings for someone so if I told him I think he would understand and he might even help me out along with all my other friends. The problem is I have never had anything I have not told my friends before and it’s the last thing they expect to be on my mind. Not only that but even though I have told them I need them to help they just cant figure it out and I cant work up the courage to tell them. Now back to her I realized that since I took me more than 15 years to have feelings for somebody that it was pretty serious. Until now I just thought I was going to live alone and I did not care but now all I think about is how to make sure she likes me. So I thought about it and realized that I love her when she smiles I feel happy and when she is sad I want to fix her problems when she laughs I laugh even if I don’t know why when I am near her I feel calm and warm and when she isn’t their I feel like my eyelids are made of lead and my chest aches with pain when I drive away from school I wish my dad would be late so I could be with her more and weekends drag on forever and I find myself wishing that summer would not come because it means I wont see her as often. So I know I need to tell her or it will eat away at me but I am clueless I have no idea what to say when to say it how to say it do I just say I love you or do I take it slow I have no experience and on top of that I cant tell if she likes me back at all I cant tell the difference between how she would react to friend and someone she liked I and I know she usually turns people down
and I am afraid that she would turn me down and I also know that she is probably going to be the only person I will ever really like this much and I cant stand the idea of losing her. If my friends could help it might be easier but nobody knows so if feel very alone. And on top of this I even a starting to think another one of my friends likes her making it almost necessary that I either tell her or him. Soon because either way it would resolve it I know that most friends would be obstacles but my friends would all help because this is the only time I have ever really needed it but I don’t even no what to say to them. I really feel defeated I have always been a straightforward guy I always have told them everything I haven’t cried since I was 11 and I haven’t felt this how do I say this I always imagined that romance was just for sex and stuff like that but I want is to be around her I feel like my life has always been separated into three
different categories pleasure, work and life functions and now a fourth section of my brain has taken over and my thoughts are consumed by my feelings I cant sleep well which is weird cause I have always been able to sleep at anytime of day under any circumstances my appetite is worse and every second is longer than usual and I feel confused and lost like a bird that woke up with gills and no wings
how long till i lose all chances of getting her to like me
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READ THIS AND TELL ME IF I CAN POSSIBLY MAKE THIS INTO A LETTER TO GIVE TO MY EX. TO GET HIM BACK POSSIBLY
(I blanked out his middle and last name cuz i dont want ppl to contact him.)
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I keep telling myself I’ll be ok and not to worry and that I’ll eventually get over him. BUT To be honest I know I’m just feeding myself lies and trying to cover up the truth. which is that I’m madly in love with Christopher.K .M He calls me a cling on but you know what thats my way of showing him I still love him and care so so so so much for him. I wish he could understand that. Yet he doesn’t. Yea, I know I fucked up, but everyone fucks up at least once or more times in their life. NO ONE IS PERFECT! I mean it’s not really fair to hold a grudge against anyone for something they did no matter how bad the situation was. You only live life once. People DO learn from their mistakes, it’s wether or not they choose to do it again. Me, pshh, I’m most definitely not perfect. Who ever thinks that is crazy! However I do learn from my mistakes and try to be a better person. For once in my life, this is the first time EVER for me to fall in love with a guy!.When I told him I loved him I truly meant it! I’ve never had such strong feelings for someone like, when they do crazy things and you get that jabbing pain in your heart telling you to warn them to be careful, or how when right after you see that person you already miss him. When he kisses you, it makes your head spin, and when he hugs you you feel like no one can love you more at that very moment than he can, or how he tends to show off to impress you, when you ask him he denies it, makes me giggle, it’s so cute. No guy has ever made me feel comfortable just being myself. I always used to act like a whole new girl when I would be with my ex’s. With Chris I could and still can be myself. I don’t care how my hair looks, (Curly or straight) what I’m wearing, (I have walked to him house in my pj’s) because I know he doesn’t really care he loves me for well, ME! Chris has his lazy moments like making me walk to his house every time I wanted to see him, but it was worth the walk every SINGLE time. Chris is an amazing guy! I truly mea that!! He has the most beautiful blue eyes, sexiest body(Don’t care what people think, I say It’s perfect!!) randomest personality, but cute at the same time. I have lost track now of how many times he has made me laugh so hard that my cheeks hurt and I looked like I was crying. Being with him made everyday fun and put a smile on my face every time I saw him. I remember the first day we met. I was babysitting Hannah and Justin was following me and we were walking to the alpaca farm just for fun and we bumped into Chris on his sisters dirt bike. Justin and Chris talked for ever about the bike, and just random stuff. Then a guy on a motorcycle came over…Logan and he asked Chris if he wanted to go bridge jumping he said nah. Then we decided to all just chill at Chris house and swim in his pool. I agreed. On the walk back to go change Justin was fighting me about it saying you like him don’t you. I denied it at first because i didn’t wanna start an argument with Justin. Justin said we should just not go but Hannah and I both were hot so I was not gonna stay home and sweat to death. Justin decided he was going to go but not go swimming. He quickly changed his mind, I was one of the last people to jump in the pool. But i did eventually get in. The guys were playing pass with random objects..ugh men..lol jk It started to get dark so we decided we would walk around and just chill. I changed at my house then went to meet everyone at the bump at the end of my street. We made prank calls to some people and hid on some guy wanting to hang with us. While making prank calls and just chilling chris and I acted like little kids throwing little tiny pebbles back and forth at each other. I told his sister that night when she came with me to ask my mom if I could stay out later, that I thought Chris was really hot. Her reaction was soo funny. REALLY? Just the way she said it was extremely funny. (Had to be their moment) That night was almost perfect…but the next day was better:P..I had the best summer this year and now look at how much it’s changed since winter.. I wish I could go back to When Chris and I first met and maybe taken things a bit slower because maybe if we did that we would possibly still be together and I’d have my baby back. Maybe not now but maybe some day…some day soon I’m hoping he will realize he still loves me and take me back.
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My husband was very cold and distant to me for years. When I met someone else that is very loving to me and we fell deeply in love, then my husband tried his best to make everything right. Except that he couldn’t work for stalking me and monitoring my every move. He even taped my phone conversations. I had to leave. I am back with my boyfriend and I have filed for divorce. I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me very much. But in the sight of God, I feel so guilty b/c I know it is God’s perfect will for my husband and I to resume our marriage but I can’t go back to the torture that I went through with him for 3 years trying to make it work. This is the worse pickle I have ever gotten myself into. How can you change your feelings for someone? I have tried and tried and I have hurt my boyfriend as well b/c of my struggle with this. Does anyone have answers? Thank You!
You are so blessed Aquanaschild. No, my husband was very selfish with me even in the beginning of our marriage. We were not one at all and he wanted it that way. He also has a very bitter and anger problem. He has had that ever since I have known him. I married him b/c he wasn’t the type to cheat (he has too much control-not very affectionate) I took care of all of my needs while he has stacks of money in the bank. No, it just seems that there is too much water under the bridge…he still has a hateful attitude when my children/grandchildren ever come over which is very very rare, nobody feels comfortable around him.
Sasha, you and Shasha have an excellent answer in combination certainly. Sasha sums it up. Are you both the same people?
God Bless HIS NAME!!!!!
I was trying to choose a best answer and it is difficult for 2 reasons. One, this site is acting as though I am another user instead of the asker. So…the other reason is that there are a lot of good answers here. I appreciate it very much.
But it is true that everyone has their own walk in this world to walk and really no one else can walk it for them. I never in a million years wanted anything to happen to my marriage. It was in very deep trouble from the beginning. My husband was so protective of his possessions. He kept telling me that he knew that I didn’t deserve it but I was going to have to suffer for the rest of my life b/c of what his first wife did to him. He made me sign a prenuptial agreement. We divided our groceries, he bought his, I bought mine. We even had separate cupboards. He use to tell me all the time that I was so lucky that I didn’t have to pay rent. I worked at jobs that deteriorated my health when he had plenty of money in the bank. He is not a warm person
at all. He has never made my children feel comfortable around him. My children like my boyfriend better than my husband. So, I guess that should give me a good clue. Thank you all for your efforts! God Bless You!!!
Shasha you summed it up.
Moving on, you had an excellent answer as well! It is amazing to see all the different perspectives that people have. In the multitude of counselors there is safety. (godly counselors)
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