ok i just Finale moved on from a 4yr Relationship & im 19 so i been dating her since i was 15 & its been on a off & on & we broke up in 2008…& a couple days ago my dudes girl friend Hooked me up with Her Friend….& so we met face to face & i made her laugh..& then after all the questions were done it just got plain & stale & quite & im looking around & you know how it is when your watching a Dating show on VH1 take For the Love of Ray J & you know how he trys to make conversation & the girls just sit there that’s How it was & they may say a Few Words.. that’s how it was after a while & my boy & his girl was like Why y’all so quite & i just looked at her…& it seems like there No Connection with me & this new chick now i kinda wanna make this Thing work

& last Night i dreamed about My Ex Girl Friend & im wondering do i still Have Feelings for her

& I Havent talked to my ex since The Day After Thanks Giving, & havent seen her since septemeber since her & her family moved & i havent Texted her Since last month on December 3rd

& on Sum days I’ll Play Chris Brown’s Graffiti Cd & listen to So Cold or I Need this or Crawl

I Need this is About him needing his Space its a Real gud Song

Damn,I want my baby back
It’s so cold without her
Cold without her
She’s gone
Now I’m alone, no one to hold on
Cause she was the only one
And I know I was dead wrong
But if you u u
If you u u
See her sooonn
Ask her will she forgive me

If you ever see her
If you ever meet her
If you ever get a chance to sit down and talk to her
Then tell her it’s so cold
It’s so cold, it’s so cold
Here without her
And tell her I miss her
Tell her I need her
Tell her I want her
I really want her to come back home, back to keep me warm
Tell her I’m sorry, I’m really sorry
Can you forgive me?
Please forgive me
And come back home, keep me safe and warm

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I was and still am in love with this girl, she is my best friend. I went four straight months thinking of nothing but her, spending all my time with her and dedicating my whole life to her. She has a boyfriend though of 3 years so i could never make a move. I mean i was IN LOVE! Then over christmas break i hardly talked to her, also her boyfriend was home. But i started talking to this other girl ALL the time, i kinda had feelings for her but not love like my best friend. Well i finally thought that i was over my best friend in the way that it wasnt all i thought about anymore and that i didnt get jelous. But school has started back up i see her everyday and we are about to start spending a lot of time together again because of school activities. I cant fall for her again but i love her so much, What should i do????

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funny part is i don’t feel like this lol.
and its kinda long. but critique please?

Your world has crumbled the pieces now lost
The trust that you had has all been destroyed
You pick your self up off the ground but at what cost?
The one you once loved is the one you avoid
Your trust in anything has faded out
Like when summer fades to fall
Feelings fade too and now fill you with doubt
The happiness you used to feel is so hard now to recall
At one point you gave him your heart
Now to have feelings of nothing but regret
As the rest of the world rips you apart
A life changing event you will surely never forget.
You realize trust is the strongest bond
When broken you feel like nothing will ever be the same
Leaving you no chance to respond
And all you can ask is who is to blame?
Why trust again and risk the pain
When it’s not even worth your sorrow
And you think to yourself will feelings remain?
Or will things change as you question tomorrow.
You ask your self if you should forgive
But you know deep down how much your heart was broken
You look at yourself and ask if this is how you want to live
You look at him now and the words that have been spoken
Its hard to forgive and give a second chance
When that’s already been give so many times before
You have to decide if this is for real or if it was some silly romance
Or If after everything it was worth getting your heart ripped out onto the floor
And if my feelings for him really are stronger then even words can explain
You wonder if he can be the one on which you depend
If you can ever learn to trust him them again
Or if this is just perhaps the end….

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My ex-girlfriend, who before I asked her out, we would have on and off relationships since 9th grade and I have had a crush on her since 7th grade.

Well she’s a sophmore in college and I’m a freshman we were going out since September and broke up in December and it was really stupid, because I can’t remember the reason, but it wasn’t serious like cheating, deception, abuse or anything.

Well now I haven’t seen her since January because we exchanged our gifts and now I have a class with her twice a week at college but it is HUGE like 150 people big lecture hall, how can I approach her easily because it’s a mad bum rush to get a seat.

I still have feelings for her but I kind of played the dick and said “That’s fine” when she called before we broke up saying if I dont respect her and I dont seem like I care about her feelings then she’ll leave me, soooo wanna help

How Do I Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back?

Ways to get her back and don’t give me the “get over her” answer because I have had other relationships with girls my junior and senior years but there’s just a great understanding I feel with this girl..

Thanks

Oh yea it’s hard to get a seat next to her because it’s a mad bum rush to get a seat in the class, exactley like the begginings of Enemy at the Gates and Saving Private Ryan
Good insight Bob S

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A friend of mine began dating my ex a few years back, they lasted nearly three years and have now broken up. I couldn’t help but notice that the week prior to their breakup we were all partying, she was bringing up old times between me and her, deep ones of romance and the important things that happened between us. She also kept looking my way, but looking at me the same way she used to.

Then, a week later and they’re over.

Now I’ve noticed she’s always flirting with me and talking to me whenever she sees the chance. She’s wanting me to hang around with her, party with her, stuff like this.

The thing of it all is that I havn’t lost the same feelings I’ve had for her at all. I still have very strong feelings for her.
However she just ended it with a guy who’s literally like a brother to me. Yet he had no problem dating her when we split, so if I acted on the flirting, the feelings, everything, are my actions justified? Or would it be considered “wrong” of me to do that?

I’ve never stopped loving her, and have always secretly wished for a second chance. But he’s a best friend of mine.

OPINIONS?!
An additional note is te original reason we split is pretty much my problems with alcohol a few years back. I was drunk everyday and was never around her sober or without a bottle in my hand.

I could of had her back but made the stupid mistake of rejecting her to go after an … “Easier” girl who would get drunk all the time for me.

Changed now, see my mistakes.

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How can I help my wife fall back in love?

She says she still deeply loves me. She still Holds my Hand and Kisses me without me doing it first. She says she loves me very very much. She still wants sex from time to time even, and says I turn her on.

We have 2 boys 7 and 12 yrs old. We got married when she was 18 and I was 22. She is now 34 and I 38. She is a CRNA Nurse Anesthesia Resident and is in school or working about 65 hrs a week. I put her through school working as hard as could over the years to help her get her RN and BSN.

We have been married for 14 years and I have not always been easy to talk to, I would always end up blowing up with a temper when she asked me to help clean house or something by saying she was nagging. She got to the point where she bottled feelings (because she felt we couldn’t talk, and I don’t blame her) and let build up to the point where we are where we are at now.

She says it started with her just over year ago. It started about a 2-3 weeks ago when I came home to a letter saying she was at her Moms and we need to separate. We text-ed all day and eventually talked and I talked her into coming back home so we could talk. I thought I was listening but I was still only hearing her, when she told me she needed help around the house.

The next time and last time we fought (which was last Thurs. night) I got mad and threw my clothes in my truck and left for the night. This was a bad move. I called her and told her I loved her very much and I was coming home, that leaving was very wrong and I am going to make this work. She said she loved me too. I came home and we talked for hours and from then on I have been doing all the laundry, washing dishes. making the kids school lunches just what ever I can to help.

We spent last weekend together shopping and tried a new Church on Sunday, holding hands and again assuring her I loved her. We hadn’t been to church in many years. We had sex 3 times over the weekend she even played dress up on Saturday night, She said she enjoyed the weekend. I now stay calm when she has a concern, assuring her she can talk to me.

That’s how I found I was a little late with my change and she is no longer “in love with me”. I CALMLY told her that it was ok and I don’t blame her. I assured her that I am a new man, and I love her, and I will not give up. She said she loves me very much too, and it’s just something she needs to work on. We are trying to get into a counselor. I tell all the time I love her, even texting her at work and saying it. (maybe too much?), I told her she was the best thing that ever happened to me and she is the best wife I could ever have and how beautiful she is.

She says she feels like she can move forward easier knowing I know how she feels and I love her. I am very scared and I pray I am not to late. She wants deeply to work it out as much as I do, I just hope she can. I have a company Christmas Party Sat. night that we are going to together. I called her and asked her out and asked her if she would like to go like I would a “girlfriend”. She said she thought that was cute! I hope I can rekindle something on this night (God I hope).

My Questions: How can I help her? Am I trying “too hard”? To the point I could be doing more harm than good by smothering her? I love her so much and I know she loves me. I just want her to be ‘in-love” with me again. What can I do?

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okay so me and my bf just broke up and we datig for 4mths and i really love him, but he is having trouble with his parents and life and school is getting to stressful, so his friends and him have been partying a lil more the usual and well i dont drink. but theres this girl in his grade drinks and parties and well she more relates to his life right now because he wants the girl he is with to beable to be at his side for those type of things, i want him back really bad but he said his feelings changed because he thought i wouldnt fit in with his friends because his last gf didnt party and didnt work out i guess, so he never gave me the chance to prove myself, he likes this girl that parties and that girl i guess likes him but people said shes gttn with him to have sex with him., i still want to get back toghr but he said hes not sure if he still has engh feelings for me to try again, what should i do to get him to get the felings he had for me be4 back? i will do anything to get him bak

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I broke up with my one and only boyfriend 5 months ago and now I want him back. I think I realized that I broke up with him for stupid reasons and since he’s the only guy I ever dated, I couldn’t compare him to anyone else…now that I dated a few other guys and they are idiots, I want him back more and more….but it’s been five months! I hurt his feelings when I broke up with him but I don’t know what to do now. I met him on a dating website and I see him on there everyday so I know he’s single. I wanted to e-mail him but I don’t want to sound desperate. I don’t know if I should just ask him how things have been going and see how he responds….

I feel so stupid for breaking up with him now. Sure he had problems but they were so minor that now I really wouldn’t care about that stuff. How do you start communicating with someone after 5 months of not talking???
I’m 21 btw
I dated him for 4 months and got my first kiss from him so I don’t know if it’s because I don’t have experiance with relationships but I still miss him

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My best friend needs my help dealing with a break up he initiated with his ex girl friend. He knows he does not want to get back with her. He has been interested in me for years now and I finally showed him my feelings back. He is now confused and I don’t want to get hurt. What is the best way to be there for him but to not allow my self to get hurt and why would he be confused now when he knows he doesn’t want to get back with his ex?

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So, I don’t want you to think I’m making excuses but I do KNOW that my husband’s mother raised him to be a slob. She never held him accountable or made him clean his room. She tells me stories about how bad it used to be and laughs and says "good luck!" I have tried pretty much everything I can think of. I just let it get so terrible sometimes because I’m the only one who will ever do anything about it. I spend my time cleaning it and then he just makes a big mess again. I mean…leaving his clothes on the floor. Piles of soda cans on his desk and then when that’s full it goes to the floor. Stains on the carpet because if he spills he doesn’t clean it up, stains on the couch, pieces of food on the floor if he drops some. I mean…I love him and he’s not a fat slob he’s actually very good looking lol but he is SO messy and lazy. What in God’s name do I do?! I’ve told him it depresses me to see the house like this…that is hurts my feelings he doesn’t help me…and he says he’ll help and does it once and then goes back to his old ways. Don’t tell me to hold out on sex. That’s stupid and I won’t. Give me some other help than that please. Thank you.

Oh and his excuse is that he works all week and I just go to school so I have more time than him but it’s bull shit. That’s the number one reason. He thinks I don’t do as much because school isn’t a job and I can’t convince him that it takes up just as much time as a full time job PLUS I work 2 days a week.

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fighting too much, trying to make up of solve the problem, confused feelings, possibility of cheating occurring

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I might already know this answer and I shouldn’t be asking but I want to make sure I’m right….I’ve been scarred by many of my relationships and because of it, I’ve sworn off males, I don’t want to date them, I don’t want to see them, nothing pertaining to them. So my ex IM’s me the other day and I feel like we’re back at square one as to when we first started talking again after we split up. We flirted, he started developing feelings, and I just wanted to wrap him around my finger. I’m at that point again where I’m flirting hard core to where he’ll get wrapped around my finger annoy me and we’ll get mad and stop talking to each other…..Why can’t I just leave well enough alone? I like just being friends with him and not developing feelings, not trying to have anyone wrapped around my finger. Why do I do it ??
No we’ve told each other we’re better off as friends….And I told him we’d be flirting and everything in 2 weeks like we were before and he didn’t agree or disagree. I don’t know, I don’t know what to do, I want the attention, I rather him stay away but I feel bad because I know he has no one else to talk or lean onto.
Also he doesn’t really do anything for me but I think I like playing the game…Knowing if I really wanted to, I could control the situation and I’d be happy. How sad am I ?? *LoL*

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Okay so my ex told me he still has feelings for me, we broke up because i just didnt feel ready to start dating quite yet and he said he understands but he also said he wont wait for me.

Now-months later- he says he still likes me and i told him i really care about him but was to uncomfortable to date yet still.

3-4 months after this hes still being his flirty self with me. We really connect well i thought, i can tell him everything without it turning into a rumor or him holding it against me, we are both pretty open with eachother. I told him i felt ready to start dating, and that if he still wanted to be with me i wanted to be with him……nope he said he got tired of waiting around and he found someone else…
I felt like a made a HUGE mistake cuz he is such a NICE guy!!!! I thought he didnt feel for me anymore.

We went out to a movie with a few friends of ours,we ended up sitting next to each other and thats when it all started, i thought he didnt like me so i leaned away and just stared at the movie,then he pulled the arm rest back(so theatres do this where you dont have to have the arm rests down they push up into the chairs) anyway he pushed it up so there was nothing seperating us and he leaned over really close to grab popcorn from my box in my lap, he lean really close to my face, more focused on my shocked eyes than his hand in the box.

my heart was pounding really fast, he asked me to sit alittle closer so he didnt have to reach so far for the popcorn….after a while he took the box from my hands and set it on the floor and leaned in close to me, pullin me into his arms in a cuddle. i was getting so nervous and my heart was beating so loud i thought the whole theatre could hear it……
after about ten minutes of cuddling and him stroking the back of my hands, he brushed my hair behind my ear and got really close and whispered something i couldnt comprhend, but i didnt really care because he started to lightly kiss under my ear and on my cheek, slowly working his way to my lips…

just as i was turning to meet his lips with mine he pulled away and looked me deep in the eyes for what felt like forever, i wanted to just push myself forward to his lips but the look in his eyes made me feel guilty but for what i dont know….

i was texting him later on that night about what went on in the movie and if he likes me??

He said he was just in a really flirty mood and doesnt like me!!!!! W T F!!!!!

I was so angry!!! But now we are gonna hang out with friends again, i want some tips on how to be eally flirty but not sluty, just make him mad!!!!! I wanna show him what its like to have the bone in front of my face pulled away!!! how would i do that!!!!??! and does he like me??

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This one is complicated I’ll try and clarify the best I can.

I was dating this guy (Jake) and things were going great. Then my ex (Sam) started calling and begging me back and of course like most naive young girls I took him back. Naturally about a month later I found out I was pregnant. Go figure.
The doctor determined a certain due date and according to that due date it would mean paternity was in favor of Sam. Then I had a bad episode and had to go to the hospital about a week and a half ago and it’s looking more and more like I am about a month farther along than previously estimated which coincidentally matches my last period. This would mean paternity was in favor of Jake. I had a feeling from the get go that it probably is Jake’s. Sam and I slept together unprotected for 3 1/2 years and I never got pregnant.

Jake is back with his ex (who he left right before me). When I left him he was devastated and badly wanted me to come back. He talked many times (before our breakup) of having a family in the future and how bad he someday wanted a son (and of course the baby is a boy). I’ve had many people tell me he is unhappy with her. There is now a really good chance this baby is his. This is my question. By the latest ultrasound I had I’m about 37 weeks meaning baby could come at any time. Even though it is this late I did just find this out and I feel the right thing to do is to tell him. I know how much family means to him especially a son. But I don’t want to tell him and be wrong. However chances are looking far more in his favor (like 75%) and I wouldn’t want him to be angry or hurt that I didn’t tell him. The only problem is I don’t want to cause problems with him and his girlfriend because I know they’re not real steady and have problems. I do still have those strong lingering feelings especially now that it looks like he is the father BUT I do want him to be happy. I know that most men would want to know even if it’s just a chance and I think he has that right. What would you do?

I am getting a paternity test done anyway but I wouldn’t want him upset that I didn’t share this with him before hand. I know he’s the kind of guy who would step up to the plate but as I said I’d just rather him be happy. What do you think is the right thing to do?

Additional Details
Silly me forgot to mention. Both Sam and Jake know that I’m pregnant. From the time I found out I was pregnant until I was 4 months I was still with Sam and now am single focusing on the baby. Up until I went to the hospital paternity was thought to be Sam’s. Now it looks like paternity lies with Jake. Help please. Guys especially. Should I tell Jake now that there is even a chance paternity is his?

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A guy had been pursuing me heavily on a chat forum. He wanted to date me etc etc. I like him as a person, but was not sure online dating was a smart move since we didn’t live close by. To put him out of his misery, i went on cam and we saw each other. The next day he acts distant on instant messenger. Then when I avoid him in the chat forum he accuses me of being distant. Then he tells me he has many flirting friends and is swooning after a girl. So, I congratulate him and generally avoid him again in the forum. He then private messages me saying I am avoiding him again. I remind him politely, without giving away my feelings, that he likes someone else. He tells me she is not his gf. I’m at a loss. Anyways, I lost my faith in him. Not really into the player sort, So, I flirted with other people to make him know Im over him. He writes back that I should write him tomorrow. Is this guy an ass or having second thoughts about telling me he’s a flirt and wants a second chance?

Any thoughts?

I was seriously against online dating nonsense, but he seemed very honorable at first. Now i think he’s a waste of time. Am I wrong?

I’m divorced and so, I put this in the divorced section, because I don’t want replies from young people.

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a few months ago i broke up with my boyfriend because we were not seeing eachother that much cause i had my plans he had his.but now i relize i still have feelings for him.but the thing is we are moving a way next week and when ever i call to eaither tell him we are moving or to get him back he hangs up instantly.

help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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So here is my story. I had known this girl for past one year "intermittently" . She is Korean. First time we broke up with no reason. She just stopped calling! 3 months later she calls me and says that she was going through some bad time as she had to take care of her studies and other personal things. I gave her a second chance. We went out for nearly two months. And during that time we "did it" only twice – Now that was not the issue mmm.. perhaps it was to an extent but not entirely. I did tell her that I like her and she knew that but never expressed her feelings towards me or avoided the topic. I really did romance her a lot but I always felt she was not giving in as much to the relationship as I was. Well a point comes when you feel that you have tried enough..and so I stopped calling her. She did try once to reach me but I did not return the call. We did not connect for two months. She calls me last week again. Shall I give her a third chance?
Some one asked what is the point of me saying "she is korean". I am not sure. I always felt that she has some sort of weird fascination towards "white guys". Btw I am not white. I got from her comments that they dig white guys back in Korea or atleast all girls want to date one. But she never expressed this openly. But one could tell..
One more thing – I must confess I was attracted to her and still am. Although I do not have burning "feelings" for her or anything. Someone said – that I should give her a third chance if I like her. But I do not want to give her another chance because "only" I like her. I want to make sure she carries the same interest.

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Ok So its been a while since the break up between me and my ex whom I was dating for a year and a few months. He dumped me at the end of Summer over some stupid reason. I am Soo Heartbroken and I still love him He was my first in alot of things,but If it wasnt for my best friend I dont know how I would have gotten over it..She know everything about us. She was there for me right..

WRONG..

At first she was only talking to him,and I tryed to not let that bug me..As much.
But for the next few weeks theyve been talking and stuff and like then next thing I know She lies to me and is
DATING MY EX BOYFRIEND?!! She went behind my back saying she was doing school stuff when really she was flirting with HIM?!

And dont get me wrong I have tryed to date but I just get rejected every single time and I still love him so much!

And now my friend isnt talking to me anymore. When I found out the rumores where true. SHe stopped talking to me..

And I never thought she would do such a thing..

I feel so betrayed, heartbroken, mad, and even sick. I hate seeing them at school together I have every class with them, And it hurts So Much I cant stop crying like every day!

There planning double dates infront of me and flirt infront of me, it hurts to feel so invisible and alone..I dont know what to do?

I still have feelings for him, But my so called friend lied to me and is now dating him and it PISSES ME OFF!!!

What do I do?

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ok.. so I broke up with the love of my life last week.. bc he wanted to date his ex but he didn’t want to brake up with me bc I made him happy and didn’t do anything wrong! So I broke up with him and made him promise that this would be her last chance.. and he understands that if it doesn’t work now.. it’s just not going to work! And he said if and when they brake up he will come right back to me! I love him.. and I don’t want to use munipulative tactics to get him back.. she did and she got him back.. but I’ve always been honest w/ him and I would like to keep it that way.. I just want him back faster.. I have no doubt that they will end but I miss him.. he is the only guy I have ever found that I like everything about.. and he likes everything about me.. I never fought with him and he loved me for me.. and I don’t know whether to show my feelings or pretend I’m over him? can I have some addvise from people who have been through this and guy.. what you would go for? I know I can not explain this guy online but trust me.. he is absolutly perfect and I will figure out how to get him back.. but I would like to get him back sooner rather than later.

And everytime he sees me he tells me he loves me.. cuddles and kisses me and we would be having sex but I would just feel to bad.. and he feels bad bc he knows he’s cheating on his gf but he loves me and her and he is really confused. And I feel bad bc I love him and I’m not the normal chick someone would cheat on his gf with.. but I just want to make it clear.. I am getting him back.. I just want some advise on what is the best way to do it? Please..

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Would you give love a second chance?

Once bitten twice shy they say. With the supposed demise of romance, more people are shying away from love.

When someone dumps you for someone else – especially after having gone extra miles for them – it wont be easy to gamble with your heart and feelings again. Some people go into depression that makes them lose their friends or their jobs. Some end up loathing members of the opposite sex and taking their anger and frustrations out on them. Some take a break from love and focus on other things.

The fear of having to go through the same heartache, the fear of having your now-delicate heart broken again makes people build those emotional walls. However, not all people who suffer from heartbreak react this way. Some bounce back like nothing happened.

What makes people be afraid to love again? When someone you thought cared about you rejects you, most people go into self pity. They start doubting whether they are even good enough to be loved. But is this even healthy?

People break up for various reasons and I don’t think there is a reason like not good enough for love. Cry if you have to. Get a hobby to take your mind off things. Socialize but not specialize; you need that break to figure things out. Accept that change is inevitable. But NEVER EVER give up on love.

“You just have to gamble if you ever hope to hit the jackpot! There are no two ways about it,” says one chick, Peninah. Her story is; her boyfriend hurt her so much it took her 4 years to heal. And she decided to live by the motto: one man’s meat is another man’s poison. She found love and is now happily married to a man who adores her and their daughter.

When you decide to give love a second chance, it may not be easy coz most people usually have issues of trust. But when you realize that the person you want to be with now isn’t the person who broke your heart, and stop lumping people together, you will be off to a good start.

No matter how devastating a break up was, don’t let a great chance pass you by, by refusing to open yourself to love. Don’t settle for too little when you deserve too much. Get out there…love again! But remember, you must heal first in order to love again.

Are you willing to find love the second time, like it’s spoken about in the Second Chance Romance System?

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ok.. so I broke up with the love of my life last week.. bc he wanted to date his ex but he didn’t want to brake up with me bc I made him happy and didn’t do anything wrong! So I broke up with him and made him promise that this would be her last chance.. and he understands that if it doesn’t work now.. it’s just not going to work! And he said if and when they brake up he will come right back to me! I love him.. and I don’t want to use munipulative tactics to get him back.. she did and she got him back.. but I’ve always been honest w/ him and I would like to keep it that way.. I just want him back faster.. I have no doubt that they will end but I miss him.. he is the only guy I have ever found that I like everything about.. and he likes everything about me.. I never fought with him and he loved me for me.. and I don’t know whether to show my feelings or pretend I’m over him? can I have some addvise from people who have been through this and guy.. what you would go for? I know I can not explain this guy online but trust me.. he is absolutly perfect and I will figure out how to get him back.. but I would like to get him back sooner rather than later.

And everytime he sees me he tells me he loves me.. cuddles and kisses me and we would be having sex but I would just feel to bad.. and he feels bad bc he knows he’s cheating on his gf but he loves me and her and he is really confused. And I feel bad bc I love him and I’m not the normal chick someone would cheat on his gf with.. but I just want to make it clear.. I am getting him back.. I just want some advise on what is the best way to do it? Please..

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This one is complicated I’ll try and clarify the best I can.

I was dating this guy (Jake) and things were going great. Then my ex (Sam) started calling and begging me back and of course like most naive young girls I took him back. Naturally about a month later I found out I was pregnant. Go figure.
The doctor determined a certain due date and according to that due date it would have meant paternity was in favor of Sam. Then I had a bad episode and had to go to the hospital and it’s looking more and more like I am about a month farther along than previously estimated which coincidentally matches my last period. This would mean paternity was in favor of Jake.

Jake is back with his ex (who he left right before me). When I left him he was devastated and badly wanted me to come back. He talked many times before our breakup of having a family in the future and how bad he someday wanted a son (and of course the baby is a boy). I’ve had many people tell me he is unhappy with her. There is now a really good chance this baby is his. This is my question. By the latest ultrasound I had I’m about 36 almost 37 weeks meaning baby could come at any time. Even though it is this late I did just find this out and I feel the right thing to do is to tell him. I know how much family means to him especially a son. But I don’t want to tell him and be wrong. However chances are looking far more in his favor (like 75%) and I wouldn’t want him to be angry or hurt that I didn’t tell him. The only problem is I don’t want to cause problems with him and his girlfriend because I know it’s not that steady for them. I do still have those strong lingering feelings especially now that it looks like he is the father but I do want him to be happy. But I know that most men would want to know even if it’s just a chance and I think he has that right. What would you do?

I am getting a paternity test done anyway but I wouldn’t want him upset that I didn’t share this with him before hand. I know he’s the kind of guy who would step up to the plate but as I said I’d just rather him be happy. What do you think is the right thing to do?
Silly me forgot to mention. Both Sam and Jake know that I’m pregnant. From the time I found out I was pregnant until I was 4 months I was still with Sam and up until 1 week ago paternity was thought to be Sam’s. Now it looks like paternity lies with Jake.

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Ok So around 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me…I love her… We dated for around a year and 2 weeks. Now the reason that she told me was that she didnt have those feelings for me anymore..Now I believe that those feelings just dont dissappear considered that within 20 days she went from I love you =D to I dont think we can be together anymore after a year relationship. One of my friends talked to her about it and she said that at first She broke up with me and I was sad, which I was, and then she said that I became a bit obsessive and I wouldnt back off and I guess thats is prob. true…but when you love someone, you go crazy! Now we are at the point of me needing to figure out how to get her to fall in love with me again…but after last night i believe it will need some recovery time, over this past weekend I guess I scared her a bit and I tried telling her how I felt n stuff and she was like if you dont stop ill get a restraining order…now I know she doesnt mean it but that does tie into play somewhat because Im sure she needs some space now…I thought about not talking to her for a week and saying "Hey " text obviously, and if I get a response good, if not boo…one friend said wait until she text me, but thats only if she does… Anyway.. I have come to the yahoo community for some advice!
1. What should I do about giving her her space…wait until she text me? Try and text her? what do I do?
2. Whats the best way to try and have her fall in love with me again…someone said invite her on just a little date..someone said have an event that you know she likes, for example a party or something
3. Once we get talking again, do I take it slow? treat her like a gf or just try to leave it at friends, I dont really know how to treat her like a friend because we were only friends for a week before we started dating.
Anyway all please help and post your advice!
No negative stuff please!

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Will she ever come around again?

I’m heartbroken, my woman left me, and later got back with an ex. I feel awful. I know logically, I’m supposed to move on and be strong. However, I’m really emotionally torn right now. I want her back but it may be too late. She’s in a relationship now, I can’t intervene. Only thing I can think of us give it time for her to contact me. She turned completely cold on me as if I’m a stranger.

I hurt her but I was honestly sorry. No, I didn’t cheat. I hurt her feelings about something I said. I honestly didn’t mean to. She said ever since then she couldn’t help but NOT think about it. Is this new relationship going to last long for her or will she come back to me?

I don’t give a damn, if she’s not into me now. When you love someone you’ll be ready to come back regardless, but everyone is saying you’re too good for her. Let her go and move on. Ladies what can a man do to ease the pain of a woman being hurt. I sent her a dozen roses and she told me, thanks, but no thanks.

Time on my side?

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