I tried to explain that biology exacerbates psychology and if a person is severely traumatized and abused from a very young age, psychology BECOMES biology, which is why Psychiatric Medications work.

If, say, depression is all "In your head" and can be controlled through sheer force of will, why would antidepressant medications work?

I have Borderline Personality Disorder, depression, anxiety, and PTDS. These things have been diagnosed by a Psychiatrist and I am trying my best to "maintain" through the use of multiple reuptake inhibitors and, ironically enough, sheer force of will but it feels like a losing batter.

I told my father a few days ago that I was just having "A really bad day" because I was depressed to the point of crying that day and had spent the whole night waking up unable to breath because of the panic attacks… I had done all I could that day just to not cut myself but didn’t succeed totally and had clawed at my arms and exacerbated a number of small wounds I had picked in myself over the last few days…

He asked me flat out what, specifically, was causing this and I responded with "I have no idea… If I knew what triggered all of this, I would be able to prevent it!"

He demanded to know if what I was dealing with was Psychological or Biological… Because if it is "Just Psychological" to DEAL with it and stop making myself miserable.

At this point, the Borderline Personality Disorder’s tendency to flip the hell out in anger took hold and I had to leave the room before I threw something at him.

As if I were doing this for attention!?!?!?

As if I were doing this "To Myself" for what? WHAT?

Why on earth would I WANT to be unable to have close relationships with anyone?

Why on earth would I WANT to never be able to sleep because I keep having nightmares and panic attacks in the middle of the nigh?

Why on earth would I WANT to swing back and forth from depressed to outright hostile ALL THE TIME?

Why on earth would I WANT to be pissed off at the whole of the world?

Sometimes I’m barely able to dress myself, let alone get EVERYTHING I need to do done day in and day out… I’m just trying to stop thinking about killing myself long enough to get the invoices processed… I’m on medication… I’ve sought all kinds of therapy but don’t have money for it… Therapists just RAPE their patients with 0.00 an hour bills and then try to sell you a .00 bottle of "Noni Juice" that CURES depression AND causes you to lose weight without exercise! *MAGIC!*

I’m TRYING to cope with this… I really am… But what else can I do?

I have my family telling me I’m doing all of this "For Attention" or that I can just "Think Happy Thoughts"…

How on earth can I explain how severe childhood abuse… having your own mom put a gun to your head… Telling you she can kill you any time she likes… Having her beat the crap out of you because you poured her vodka down the drain… Watching the same mom put a bullet in her own brain when I was 16… Having an abusive relationship that just mind-raped me… And now trying to cope with just being ALIVE, let alone being productive…

How on earth do you explain all of this to people that tell you to just think happy thoughts or walk it off?

Technorati Tags: age psychology, anger, Antidepressant Medications, bad day, biology, borderline personality disorder, close relationships, depression anxiety, earth, few days, hell, nightmares, panic attacks, psychiatrist, quot, reuptake inhibitors, sheer force, sleep, Tendency, Work Depression, wounds

We’ve had a pretty roller coaster relationship for about 5 years. I’d even call it emotionally abusive in the sense that he was withholding, jealous, and controlling. During our long distance phase he refused to visit me at all (he’s visited me once in all of our 5 years together) and often yelled at me if i accidentally called him at a bad time or would act annoyed that he had to call me.

At the time I thought that was about as good as it could get for me, so I stayed with him, though we’d break up and get back together constantly.

I broke up with him about 6 months ago because I couldn’t take his crappy treatment anymore. I’m currently dating someone else.

The thing is, my ex and I talked a LOT since we broke up, nearly every day (he’d call me). It wasn’t until I started dating this guy that I kind of stopped picking up his calls or calling him back. Usually my ex wouldn’t care but apparently he suddenly decided he wanted me back (again) and started doing his whole guilt tripping emo thing by telling me he wasn’t going to call me anymore so if i wanted to talk to him i had to call him.

I’d call him periodically every few days but he ended up getting super pissed a week later off about this lack of calling and threw a hissy fit, txting me things like “you aren’t worth my time” and “i’m done with people like you”. I’m not sure what his emotional status is right now but he drove down with some friends to where I’m going to school right now and wanted to “spend the night” at my place, to which i told him to gtfo.

ANYWAYS TLDR:

I’m so sick of this vicious cycle. What’s the best way to tell your ex that you just want to be friends without him going apeshlt? I’d prefer not to tell him about this current guy right now in his current state because a) he’ll be horrible about it and b) i don’t even feel like i have an obligation to tell him because he’s never been honest to me about other girls.

Technorati Tags: bad time, current state, Dating, emotional status, few days, girls, guilt, hissy fit, long distance, obligation, quot, relationship, roller coaster, Vicious Cycle

Okay well i’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months now, we lost our virginity to eachother and i REALLY love him like you have no idea how much i do. And he REALLY loves me. But recently, i moved 3 hours away from him cause of family issues and now i barely see him so i’m scared he might cheat on me but before i moved he gave me a ring and the ring meant i would always love him and never cheat on him, i never take off that ring and he said he will never ever cheat on me. I believed him. But then, ever since i moved, we kept arguing (jealousy problems, me and him are really jealous people), and he never really tells me what’s going on anymore so i always find out things from his friends or even people I DON’T KNOW! Which is aggravating. Then i found out a rumor that he madeout with this girl at the mall? I told him that rumor and said he never even went to the malll with her and he swore on his life, so i believed him. Then i month later i kept hearing people saying what he told you was a lie so i asked again and he said he DID went to the mall with her and his friends but never did anything and he SWORE on his life… i believed him again. Then i broke up with him cause i found out he lied to me alot of times but he begged me for one more chance so i gave him the chance. But a few days later he lied to me and said he did madeout with her which made me want to kill myself. He hurt me so much, especially that i had to wait that long to find out the truth which was 3 months later after that happened. So i broke up with him then he tried to kill himself cause he said it was on accident and he hated himself for doing that and ect. So i took him back… but i don’t know if that was the right thing to do… was it? Please give me your opinion. I really don’t wanna stay with the wrong guy.

Technorati Tags: few days, jealousy, love, People, right decision, truth, virginity, wrong guy

OK. This is a REPOST of a question I asked today, because I put it in the wrong category, so I’m reposting it in the correct one.
====
I’ve known this person since June 2008, and we started to date around November 2008.

Wait, I’ll call this person " Larry " because me and my friend deemed this person as " Little Larry Lies A Lot"

I used to think that Larry was funny, cute, and well, just really nice. We had a lot of good times and we have had a lot of inside jokes and whatnot. But, then, over time I started to lose some interest in Larry. At least, we were your typical couple, but, then, I think I lost most interest in Larry when he started to lie. He was literally saying lies like there was no tomorrow. [ NOTE/ I didn't see Larry too often, because he/she/it didn't live that close to me, so... ] It started off when they claimed to be in the hospital, and I believed that, since I’m slightly gullible. But, I started to HIGHLY doubt it, when Larry started to say that he was basically living in the hospital [ because apparently he broke his legs. ] for like. 75874375435878 months. And, so to make this story a bit shorter, here is a list of lies that Larry has fed to me [ and this list is not full ]

1. He told my friend, Roxas, that he graduated high school in Junior year, but when I met him he was going to Senior year. [ From what me told me. ]
2. Now, I later on figured out that he is apparently in college, and is getting a scholarship in NYC to become an author, when he can’t write very literately. [ I mean, the guy can't even spell " naked " ]

Well, I won’t write any more in case Larry happens to find this question.

Before I continue on, I’d just like to say that Larry and I have broken up AT LEAST nine times since December, just to make that clear.

Last week or so, Larry introduced me to Roxas, and I later found out that Roxas never liked Larry, she just wanted to sort of be nice, and not say anything.

A few days after I met Roxas, I almost felt like Larry was avoiding me, because he had been all day, and then apparently he was in a "black out" yet, his computer was still on, and I know for a fact that he does NOT own a laptop, so, I IMed him, and said something along the lines of : " You know what? You don’t have to lie if you don’t want to talk to me. Just tell me." And Larry responded with : " IF YOU CAN’T RESPECT THAT I’M BUSY 24/7 WE’RE GONNA BE HISTORY. BLAHBLAHBLAHBLAH " So, then I broke up with the jerk, because, I knew that if I were to stay any longer, I’d end up with a broken heart.

Well, on Sunday (or Saturday) [ yesterday or the day before last ] Larry gave my screen name to two strangers, both telling me to "Lay off". One of them is now my friends, and I figured out that the other one was not who she claimed to be [ which was Larry's new girlfriend, apparently to get me jealous, and it didn't work. ], but she’s still pretty cool.

And, yesterday, I found out that Larry posted a thread on Gaia online, with his conversation with Roxas posted in the first post. I found out about it, and gave the link to Roxas, and we both said that it was immature etc etc etc [ and some one else joined in, it was sweet. ]
But, then, some where in this topical rant, Larry said, "do not hate you, I do not love you like I did before because I have plenty of things to say to you that is left best said on AIM. If you really like to solve this issue between us, I can certainly talk to you over AIM, solve it, and be done with this thread..unless if I have others opinions that needed to be replied to. Other than that, I will just wait and chat with you for five minutes or so on AIM. If you don’t like to, then private messages. If you don’t like to again, suggest a place. Because this is a private area that even you would like best to be…not knowned right..? Anyways, again unblock me then we’ll talk. "

And, then someone else said, " WAIT! HOLD UP A SECOND! WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT!
I just read your response to uhm, -i’lldeletemynamebecausewe’reonyahoopeop… who I’m going to guess is [insertmygaiausernamehere]! You have no problem with taking ‘private’ discussions to public forums with everyone else, but for her you’ll be more then happy to speak over a private place? DUDE WTF" [ In case you didn't get it, Larry posted a PRIVATE conversation in a PUBLIC place. ] So, then, I told Larry, [ while he was begging for me to talk to him, we had this conversation over Gaia ] " Now that caps lock is well enough for you, I’m friggin’ done with you. You know why? Because you’re just too clever for me. If you ever want me to forgive you, I wanna see you on your knees, you’re going to have to beg."

I know that was somewhat harsh, but, if Larry thinks that he has to lie to me to try to impress me, I’d rather be harsh rather than nice. I’ve put up with all the heartbreaks, and I want to break the key [ that he has] to my heart.

So, do you think that it’s good that I dumped him [ even though it

Technorati Tags: few days, good times, jokes, legs, nine times, repost, scholarship, senior year, whatnot

So my girlfriend and I was together for one year when she move away to go to medical school. I really love her. But my last long distant relationship ended up so badly. That I was kindda scared. So when she first left. I really feel like she might not come back. So I went to bars and got some numbers. I And I cheated on her. But than my girlfreind come to see me a month later. And she has been coming to see me everyone 2 months. Which made me realize that she is serious . So I stop the cheating. I didnt tell her cause i figure if i just stop everything would be fine. Well that was like a year since i stop. She was just here last week visiting me. And she found my old phone. And found out everything. I beg and pleaded and told her i dont do it anymore. She finally forgive me and took me back for a few days. Now all of a sudden she is ignoring me. I love her so much. I really need her. What should I do?

Technorati Tags: Distant Relationship, few days, girlfreind, girlfriend, long distant relationship, love, medical school

So my ex and i broke up a few months ago. We did the off and on thing for a while, but we hadnt talked for a while until a few days ago. She called me yesterday to invite me to her birthday, and i politely accepted her invitation. But i am reluctant to even show up, because i am not sure how i should act. I guess i still have feelings for her (seeing as how i am all of a sudden flustered) and i wouldnt mind having her back in my life. But i am not sure how i would even go about doing this.

GIRLS: if it were your ex you had called to invite to your b-day party, how would you invision him acting to sweep you off your feet? What would you suggest i do? What has worked in the past? What hasnt? What drives you crazy?

GUYS: What have you done in the past, or how have you acted to get an ex girlfriend back? what worked? what didnt?

I need ALL the help i can get, so all of you relationship experts PLEASE give me as MUCH advice as possible. I need major details. Thanks

Technorati Tags: Act, back in my life, ex girlfriend, feelings, few days, girls, Guess, invitation, relationship experts

i dated this guy, lets call him Frank, we dated fer a few days over a month,i was 16 and he was 18. im currently 17 and he is still 18. he was my first everything, from hand holding to kissing to sex. then he randomly became mean so i couldn’t take it and broke up with him. its been about 8 months since our breakup and i have a new amazing boyfriend who treats me like gold. but all the time i randomly start thinking about my ex and i talk about him a lot, even to my boyfriend. me and ‘frank" never talk. and if we do, he is saying something mean (like im ugly and he never loved me) but he used to always say i was beautiful and stuff. he has a girlfriend now. and ive seen him once these past 8 months, and when i saw him he kept looking at me. my friends say he probably still loves me and wants me back. but it doesn’t show because he hasn’t said one nice word to me since the breakup. another bad thing is that about a month after me and him broke up, i dated his brother to get him jealous, and frank forced him to break up with me! i wanna know either, how to get him back, how to figure out why he hates me, if he still loves me.
its been 8 months. im dying here.
i need answers!

Technorati Tags: brother, few days, Friends, girlfriend, Gold, hasn

My ex fiance and I ended badly, I fell in love with his best friend and now my ex will not let go. It’s run to the point he’s calling me every few days, watching where I go, stalking me, having people keep an eye on my comings and goings and he’s going to counseling. I wish him the best, I want him to let go and move on with his life but this has consumed him. As a practicing Wiccan, I want to gently offer him a reprieve but not give in to his demands that the only way he’ll heal is if we get back together. I have searched for a good spell for him to forget me and move on but it seems all I can find is healing spells for those that want to forget the ex that dumped them that they are still in love with or those that desperately want thier ex’s back. Does anyone have any spells that might help him forget his pain, forget me and move on to heal. I want that for him, as I do care for him and want him to heal from this. I am better with candle spells than anything, but would appreciate anything anyone has to offer. Thank you and Goddess Bless.

Technorati Tags: best friend, comings and goings, counseling, few days, fiance, Goddess, Healing Spells, love, People, reprieve, spells, Stalking, Wiccan

How to get my girl back?

I am from India, and around 8 months back I met a girl online. Her parents contaced me through a matrimonial website. They invited me to come over to their place. I just fell in Love at first sight with that girl, and I assumed that she also liked me.

After few days we start talking on phone, maybe 1-2 times in a week, and chatted online, and then she asked me to add her as a friend on Facebook. And there she saw me talking to other girls, and she just quit talking to me. Her mother told me, that she thinks that either I am a flirt or like other girls from whom I am talking to on Facebook.
She never talked to me again, never received any phone call, I tried few times, then I stopped bothering her, becauase I think Love should be mutual.

It has been 6 months now, but I still dream about that girl…I truely want to get her, but I dont know how?
Now, I live in a different city. Can you guys give me an idea, how to make a new start with her…or should I just forget her?

Please give me some clues, I dont want to call her, because it will show I am very desperate for her and she might ignore me, but any other tactic….
Please give me some advice on this….
Thanks in Advance….

Actually she thinks, I like one of the girl on Facebook that was my friend. Because that girl used to send me flirty messages, and I also use to do the same stuff. So, I think she is right in her way, it’s just she never gave me a chance to explain that I just love her..and everyone else on Facebook is just my friend.

Technorati Tags: different city, facebook, few days, girls, india, love, love at first sight, matrimonial website, Met, parents, phone call, tactic, thanks in advance

I could not afford psychiatric counselling But perhaps I don’t need one. I’m not a masochist, I think I’m just sentimental. I like bringing back old happy memories and it makes me cry. I broke up a few days ago with my fiance, and I could not describe the pain. He has been treating me bad, verbal abuse, sometimes physical, even in public. I always found ways to forgive him since I love him. I did hope that maybe he could change. But I realize that people don’t change. I’m not going to elaborate on how we broke up. The thing is that I finally found the courage to stand up for my dignity and "fight back". He sent me messages on the phone today that he got so used to me and felt good around me, that he misses me. I answered him sarcastically that he could use other girls, but not me. I added that I am no longer his doormat.

My problem is I try to get myself busy, see friends, but everything I do reminds me of him. We lived together and so I think this makes it even more painful since i spent a lot of time with him. I still love him and he knows that.

I noticed that most people get over relationships much faster than I do. My previous relationship it took me 4 years to recover. During that period I refused to see anyone (guys), not even for tea. I don’t want history to repeat. Please help. Any advice or suggestions are welcome. Only serious answers please.
We were supposed to get married next month. The announcement has been made to all friends, invitations sent, etc.

Technorati Tags: break, counselling, courage, dignity, doormat, few days, fiance, girls, happy memories, invitations, masochist, messages on the phone, relationship, relationships, tea, verbal abuse

Hi:
Some time ago, I had my computer reimaged and the guy put on a version of XP that he already had. He also put on MS office 2003. Well up to a few days ago, it was working pretty good but now, its freezing, I have to wait to put contacts in because each letter I type, freezes.

I downloaded something called "Magic Jelly Bean" which gives you serial numbers for most Microsoft programs and it says that the office txt is missing. I’m wondering if this could be the reason the program started acting crazy?

Does anyone have any suggestions to make it start working properly again?

PS: All other programs, excel, word, etc are working just fine.

Technorati Tags: few days, magic jelly bean, microsoft, Microsoft Outlook 2003, microsoft programs, ms office 2003, serial numbers

My boyfriend just broke up with me, we were best friends before and really loved each other but he just got so busy with after school activities… and he just stopped loving me… we had like really deep conversations while we were going out too… and i really want him back, he was really sweet… and handsome… and just overall perfect… how do i earn him back? how can i make him want me? answers pleeeaaasseee. and i’m not willing to stoop low as to dating his best friends or anything because his best friends is also my best friend… please help?
he still wants to be friends… but i don’t know if i can talk to him… and it was really sudden too… and all my friends think i can get him back but i really don’t know, i’ve been so miserable for the past few days that i haven’t even been able to eat anything… and i’ve been close to puking several times… like i’m literally sick to my stomach and the heart ache is unbearable… but he was still really happy after we broke up… like the day after i was holding back tears all day and he was just all happy. but he keeps looking at me… like he did when he was with his old girlfriend… back when he liked me… now he’ll peek over and see what i’m up too and if i look over and catch his glance, he turns his head really quickly and goes back to talking to his ‘other friends’ and i just invited him back into our old group… even though people are mad at him, i felt bad… because his best friend is also there… but idk how to deal or get over him…

Technorati Tags: best friend, best friends, conversations, ex boyfriend, few days, girlfriend, glance, heart ache, peek, several times, sick to my stomach, Stoop

Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps Thank you

P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need? I just dont want to act like im overdooing anything.

P.P.S- She came home yesterday and we talked for a tiny bit online which was really nice but i had to go and she pointed out a convo i had with this other girl on facebook in school, what should i do, and what does this all mean?

Technorati Tags: back in my arms, convo, ex girlfriend, few days, first love, friday afternoon, Guess, just friends, little bit, nicaragua, quot, relationship, tiny bit

Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps Thank you

P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need? I just dont want to act like im overdooing anything.

P.P.S- She comes home today, what should i do about that, like do i wait till she approaches me (i think i should do that) but are there any other suggestions please

Technorati Tags: back in my arms, ex girlfriend, few days, first love, friday afternoon, Guess, home today, just friends, little bit, nicaragua, quot, relationship

Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps Thank you

P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need? I just dont want to act like im overdooing anything.

P.P.S- We broke up because i was really clingy and never let her breathe. She comes home today, what should i do about that, like do i wait till she approaches me (i think i should do that) but are there any other suggestions please

Technorati Tags: back in my arms, ex girlfriend, few days, first love, friday afternoon, Guess, home today, just friends, little bit, nicaragua, quot, relationship

My boyfriend of over three years broke up with me in September. Although we had been very happy together for the most part, I became sort of the girlfriend from hell when college started and got strangely controlling. I demanded he transfer to my school and visit me in the city every weekend. I don’t know what I was thinking, but in the process of a few weeks, he lost every last feeling for me. He said he just couldn’t handle me anymore, despite everything we’d been through. Here is the weird part: We are best friends. But it’s obviously getting awkward because I still have strong feelings for him. In the beginning, he said that he thought we would probably get back together. But I made the mistake of pushing things… a lot. Constantly. You know the part where you are supposed to give your ex time and space? I didn’t. I’ve pushed him away so much by now, I’m afraid I’ve messed things up forever. I’ll call him and pick fights. I’ve been dwelling on the breakup for longer than I should. When we hang out, I still hang on him as if we were together. He clams up and looks away. For months, he said he wasn’t "sexually" attracted to me. But last week, for the first time since September, we hooked up. A few days later, he told me that it was selfish of him to do that, because he felt no emotional connection with me. I said I was alright with us just hooking up, but he said that would be wrong to lead me on. I guess he could be right about that… but still, all this time I thought he wasn’t attracted to me. I’ve tried everything, but I’ve gone too far. The calls, the persistent nagging. He’s sick of me giving him the "gah-gah" eyes. And these days, all I do is cry and sob when we hang out. I’m reminded of how much we loved each other. I know none of you people know me, but please believe me when I say we were that unique breed of couple that just… I can’t explain it. Sometimes, the bond is so deep, you just know it’s meant to be. I haven’t followed any of the steps to get my ex back. I believe that we will get back together, but I know that everything I’m doing is wrong. I know that if I could just act normal and not psychotic he would be able to see me as a girl worth dating. I need advice. Decent advice… and maybe a few prayers. I never wanted to become that kind of ex-girl… the one that never let go. The saddest part is, he still wants to be my best friend- but just my best friend- and according to him, never, ever my boyfriend again. Is there hope? What can I do???

Technorati Tags: best friends, clams, emotional connection, feelings, few days, gah gah, girlfriend, hell, mistake, time and space

Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps Thank you

P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need? I just dont want to act like im overdooing anything.

Technorati Tags: back in my arms, ex girlfriend, few days, first love, friday afternoon, Guess, just friends, little bit, nicaragua, quot, relationship

Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps Thank you

P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need?

Technorati Tags: back in my arms, ex girlfriend, few days, first love, friday afternoon, Guess, just friends, little bit, nicaragua, quot, relationship

Hi, i have been with my boyfriend a year and a half, we have broken up a few times before but the break up has only lasted a few days – a week.
We haved been arguing alot lately and i have been getting at him because he has been texting other girls when we argue. I realise now i was very harsh getting at him all the time.
He ended it yesturday and then rang me 3 hours later and asked me if i had his ex’s number.
i am passed myself, what can i do to get him back?
please help.. thank you x

Technorati Tags: ex boyfriend, few days, girls

How Can I Make My Ex Boyfriend Come Back To Me?

For the past few days, my ex has been wanting to break up with me. I kept asking for one more chance. He gave. But after that, he will be very very cold towards me. It hurts me a lot, then i will be hurt and cry. after hearing me cry, he will be irritated. then want to break up again.

Now he really broke up with me. He chased me out of the house and his mum asked me not to call him again and give him his breathing space.

My ex said that i was suffocating him by demanding a lot of attention and he has no time for his work and friends and family. He said im torturing him and he really wants to end the relationship badly. Please give me advice on how to make him come back to me.

I need him badly. He is like the love of my life. Will not disturbing him like calling or messaging him works?

Please help

Technorati Tags: breathing space, ex boyfriend, few days, friends and family, love, love of my life, relationship

My ex boyfriend and I managed to remain friends after we broke up over a year ago. I even have a key to his apartment. Well, the other night, he called me crying on the phone about how I needed to come over because he needed to talk to me. I went to see him because I was worried. I thought someone in his family died.

When I arrived, I discovered women’s clothing and stripper shoes and gear in his closet. When I questioned him about the gear, he said it belonged to his brother’s girlfriend. (????) Long story short, it ended up belonging to some woman who he said was living with him for a few days but said she was never coming back. He wouldn’t tell me many details, so I figured that’s why he was upset.

I sat on his bed and waited for him to fall asleep and I bunked on the couch b/c it was too late for me to drive home.

30 minutes after I drifted off, a woman came in and I darted over to the door because it frightened me. She pushed the door on my so hard that she ended up breaking my ring finger on my right hand.

She then began questioning me and yelling about why was I there with her fiance in her house. I was like WTF have I gotten myself into?

I grabbed my bag and got the hell out of there because someone was going to end up in the hospital or jail- and I wasn’t going to the hospital.

She called me as I was driving home and told me that she knows how I look and if she ever sees me again, she would bash my face in. I told her that she needed to take that up with her fiance because he asked me to come over.

Well, I’m suing both of them. I feel as if he placed me in a dangerous situation. I think he used me as bait to get her to come home and may have endangered my life. After all, he never told me he was engaged or that a woman had moved in with him. Had I known that, there’s no possible way I would’ve gone to his apartment.

I decided not to file criminal charges but my attorney is pushing for everything that he can. He said my ex is negligent and his fiancee has not only threatened my life but also broke my finger.

My ex has apologized and agreed to pay my medical bills.

I can’t work because I need both hands to type. Everything happened so quickly that I didn’t realize there was a problem with my finger until I got home..guess it was adrenaline.

I’m an educated woman and I will have my Engineer license within the next year. I’m highly accomplished and graduated at the top of my class. I am insulted by the fact that someone that I was associated with is desperate enough to "shack up" and marry a stripper.

When I asked him about this, he said it’s not true and they’re not engaged, but she even has a ring. He said the ring was given to her by her ex. Someone is lying!!!!

We were in a relationship for 4 years and I’m deeply hurt by the fact that he basically chose this stripper over our friendship by using me. It’s like he’s more concerned about protecting her privacy than he is about my broken finger.

This guy already has a lot of drama in his life. He’s in court every few months regarding a child support issue that he’s been avoiding and he has issues within his family that he needs to address.

Why on earth would he try to wife up a stripper? Can someone tell this fool that when his son’s mother finds out about this stripper he might as well give up his parental rights. Why would this guy bring more drama into his life by bringing in a woman like that?

What should I do? Should I continue with the law suit? Should I make his stripper fiancee write me a letter of apology? Should I take them both for everything they have or will have in the future?

My family is livid because they know what I’ve done for him over the years and they are pushing me hard to pursue this legally.

I’ve come here for the opinions of total strangers. What would you do?

Also, let me get one thing straight. We had our run and it didn’t work out for us, but I thought we at least had a great friendship. What bothers me is that he failed to tell me anything about this woman. I want him to be happy in life and if this stripper does that for him, then so be it, but I refuse to be humiliated, used as bait, threatened and assaulted without taking some kind of action.

Technorati Tags: 30 minutes, apartment, brother, couch, criminal charges, dangerous situation, few days, fiance, girlfriend, hell, ring finger, stripper shoes

i know that im young but i really think i fell in love- no i know that i have fallen in love with this girl. we broke up a few days ago after a relationship that lasted one year and four months and one day. we didn’t really have a reason, we never fought or had any major problems just a few petty things that are normal like politics and homosexuality…civil educated debates. but now that we have broken up the pair of us both feel like something is missing and i just would like to know how do i move on from this? what do i do now that i have loved and lost?

Technorati Tags: debates, few days, four months, love, relationship, year and four months

Usually I am fairly good at figuring women out, but this one has got me stumped!

I began dating my now ex-girlfriend in December of 2007. In June of 2008 we decided to move her in with me because we were very much in love and we were driving 40 miles 2 or 3 times a week to see one another. She was having a hard time finding a job here in her field and my business was slowing down because of our terrible economy. I decided it was best if we both moved back in with our folks for a couple of months while we both got back on our feet financially, and sometime this spring I was going to buy, or build us a home and she was going to move back here.

I moved her home on the 15th of November 2008. After she moved back home she seemed to slowly distance herself from me. We stayed together through the holidays, my birthday was New Years Eve which we spent together with friends and my family and after that she started acting strange. On the 10th of January she split up with me saying she needed to focus on her daughter, going back to school to become an RN and that I needed to focus on my daughter and my business, and maybe in a few months we could try it again. She also begged me to stay friends with her saying I was her best friend and she didn’t want to lose that.

I read ”the magic of making up” a highly rated book on getting back together, immediately after we split and it basically said to leave her be and she will come back if I don’t pressure her.

The first 4 or 5 weeks we would communicate a few days and then I wouldn’t hear from her, and this went on repeatedly. Finally I decided I couldn’t keep putting my heart through this, so I wrote her a long letter basically telling her I had to stop talking to her because the on again off again communication was killing me inside. I told her how much I cared but I had to walk away and when she wanted me in her life she could get a hold of me.

Two days later I shut off her cell phone because I wasn’t going to keep paying the bill if we were no longer together (I informed her first). She shipped the phone back to me with nothing inside except the phone and charger and I didn’t hear from ehr after that. Two weeks ago she deleted me from her MySpace account but left a few pictures up of us. I didn’t react to it.

I then called her best friends husband a few days later because he is a client of mine and I needed to update some things on his insurance policy. I didn’t mention her name once, I said I was doing well and in one month made a quarter of the income I did in all of last year. I made it sound as if life was wonderful.

The next day she called and I didn’t answer because I didn’t know her new number. She left a very polite message asking if she could meet with me sometime next week to pick up the rest of her things, which is a few kitchen things I know she doesn’t need right away because she lives with her folks, and a massage table that she never even uses. I didn’t call her back. That after noon she texted me, asking if I had recieved her message. I didn’t reply. That night she called again while I was asleep. I waited it out and texted her the following evening and told her I was extremely busy with my new business endeavors and that she would have to get a hold of me in a couple of weeks. I didn’t want her to think I was anxious to see her, and wanted to polietly blow her off like she had previously done me since we split up.

She texted me back and said ”fine. btw, didn’t know I needed to find myself. hey, got my license back today.” I congratulated her and she texted back again trying to make small talk and I responded politely saying ” I am happy for you.” And then we quit texting.

My question is this…..I know she doesn’t need her stuff immediately because it is of no use to her right now, and if it was that important to have right away then she would have made more attempts to get with me right away to accomplish this and probably would have made a big ”to do” about it. And she didn’t.

So since she got a new phone number and I made no attempt to contact her and find out this new number, I often think that may be one reason for deleting me from MySpace, trying to get a reaction out of me. And since I didn’t react to that she had to think of something else, which a good ”excuse” to get in touch with me would be to pick up her things. I also wonder if she would have called had I not talked to her best friends husband and told him how well life was going for me now. I really don’t know what to think.

I wonder if I should start initiating contact with her, or leave it be, and let her contact me again in a week or two for her stuff. And from that point I wonder if I should maybe ask her to lunch and see if I can slowly try to rekindle things, or wait for her to let me know she is missing me still. What are your opinions? And thank you for taking the time to read this. I am lost without her, but want to make sure I take the r

Technorati Tags: best friend, cell phone, Dating, economy, ex girlfriend, few days, finding a job, hard time, heart, holidays, job, love, magic, new years eve, rn

Last year I started to become friends with this guy and we started talking and texting all the time. He’s a year younger than me and we don’t see each other much this semester besides in the hallway sometimes. This november he told me that he liked me me as a lot more than a friend but I apologized, told him I didn’t really see him in that way, and told him that I didn’t want a relationship at the time which was the truth. he was a little disappointed at the time but he thanked me for being honest and it wasn’t even awkward at all after that. After that it seemed like we started to get to know each other even more. We’d talk almost every night and we offered each other advice on everything. He complimented me all the time and he’d out of the blue say "you looked nice today" which i thought was sweet. he was the guy i could go to with anything and i knew he’d have my back, so naturally i started to like him back. i didn’t tell him right away because i didn’t want it to be awkward. at the start of this semester i didn’t talk to him besides texting a little bit because we didn’t have any of the same classes, so we talked less than usual. a few days after the first day of the semester i told him about my feelings, and that i should have realized what a great guy he was back in november. he replied "i kinda have a thing with somebody now." and i was kind of sad but i got over it. i asked him how the chemistry test was the next day and he said "it was ok." which was wierd because we usually had actually meaningful conversations. we didn’t talk the rest of the week and he randomly texted me the next week . we talked for hours that night but the next day when i texted him he seemed bored talking to me. but when he started the converstion we talked forever, and he was back to his funny and sweet self. He told me that it didn’t work out with the other girl but that he didn’t know if he still liked me or not. i said "well a no is better than an ‘idk’ if that’s what you’re thinking" and he said "it’s not a no. it’s an idk." so like three weeks passed and he was either nice and flirty or really awkward whenever i talked to him. i figured he would have made up his mind by then so i asked him if he had, but all he said was "not yet. sorry." so i said "being friends is ten times better than having it awkward between us, i promise i won’t take it to heart if you decide you don’t anymore" and all he said was "yea i know" and we haven’t talked since then. he waved in the hall once but didn’t even say anything to me.
i’m so confused! i miss my friend that i could tell everything to. i don’t want to rush him but i really wish i knew what the answer was, and i feel like it shouldn’t take a month for him to decide. i still don’t want to be annoying and keep texting him but i’m so stressed out about it and i wish i knew if it was worth it to wait for him to decide. what should i do? :/

Technorati Tags: chemistry test, converstion, feelings, few days, hallway, idk, little bit, meaningful conversations, out of the blue, relationship, rest of the week, sweet self, truth

am in love with a girl …we r class mates n will be studying together for 5 yrs(1st year) we were really close for 1 month then suddenly she started ignoring me..for few days…i was in so love with her and told her that i was single and startd talking about her she said she have bf…i was freakd out ..she knew that i was desperate for few days she ingored me but then later when i ignored she became friendly again… we r still very close we share a lot of things… but i do know that she likes me… and i love her but she do have a bf…will she ever dump her bf ……will we be together …she now knows that i love her a lot …..why she acted like that

Technorati Tags: class mates, few days, Guys And Girls, love, Love Girls