Do my taste in women indicate control issues, and how can I fix them?

21 In college, studying finance.

I have been told that my taste in women are holding me back and that I only have them because of Issues I have with control, It would be nice to learn how to fix some of these issues if it would make the pool of women I find attractive bigger

I have never had a girlfriend in my life, Its hard for me to meet girls because its hard for me to find girls that are what I like, and when I do I get so nervous that I blow it.

here goes…

5’5 or shorter
(I’m 5’7, short for a guy, Ive always been shorter then everyone I know and I cant stand it, I say 5’5 so she can still wear heels)

Younger then me, even if its by one day, I HAVE to be older.
(birth was right at the edge of cut off day for starting kindergarten, I have been the youngest person in a group all my life.)

NOT Bisexual
(HUGE, I have asked out Bi’s before and it always ends in disaster, no offense to them but I just don’t believe that they are capable of what I want, a real monogamous relationship.)

Not into "Masculine" things
I don’t like it when girls are into stuff like sports and cars and other stereotypical "guy" stuff

NO PIERCINGS/TATTOOS
no tongue studs, tramp stamps, noise rings, anklet tats, or belly rings, I HATE THEM (but Ear Piercings are fine of course)

lastly…I know its impossible…but Id really really like her to be a virgin (I’m a virgin too) but I live in the real world and I know that train left the station after jr.high, but it be so great.

I think that it all stems from me wanting to be the man in the relationship, I don’t like tattoos or piercings because I don’t want a girl to be strong enough to get those. I want to be older and taller because Im sick of being the lesser, all my life ive been smaller, the inexperienced, the one that others showed the world too, I want to be the person that other people need help from, I want to lead for once in my life.

I know that all this mess in my head is killing any chance I have at love, but I just don’t know how to cure it!!

Please help


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