He wanted me to stop using credit cards and start paying them off. I stopped using them and have paid off some of them already. He wanted me to get my caps replaced and we agreed that I could save the money since I didn’t have dental insurance and didn’t want another monthly bill. I have saved money and am almost there. I have a 21 year old bipolar son. He has never gotten along with him and they have gotten into fights. He wanted me to get him on his feet. I told him that I would need time to do this because I would have to get my finances in control to be able to help my son out. The counselor told him that with the way my son is he would need financial help from me. My husband agreed. The counselor asked him how long I could have and he said 1 year. The counselor asked him what if it takes 2 years and he said that is okay I love her that much. The counselor said what if it never happens and he said that is okay I love her that much. He wants my son to get a drivers license. I have started letting him drive my car and will be getting him driving lessons. I wanted him to express his feelings to me more often. He is the kind of man that is always there for everyone else but he shuts me out. He came to me a month ago and said that he can’t live with my son and it was either him or my son. (We have 2 small children together.) I got rattled and thought here we go again he is going to leave. So I filed for a divorce to start financial protection for myself and our children. He changed his tune and I haven’t gone ahead with the divorce. Last night he comes to me and says that we are not compatible, we don’t have a marriage, we don’t know how to communicate to each other and nothing has changed. I’ve worked on everything that he wanted done and I still come last to him. I’m so lost. It sounds like he is asking for a divorce but when I come straight out and ask him he says how can I just walk away? Any insight?
I should add that my son does pay rent, has a job, buys his own medicine, pays for his nurses and doctors appointments. And he has psychofrenia affective disorder but I didn’t know how to spell it so I just put bipolar.

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