Your guide to getting your ex lover back into your arms
Can anyone give me some good tips on how to get my ex back?
I lost my girlfriend cos I did slot of stupit stuff, now I relize I love her even more after she broke up with me.
My plan was to send her flowers everyday to her work and home., try to see and say nice romantic things to her!
What do you guys think?
Any good ideas?
Please help me out I’m just trying to do my best to let her see I love her and we are ment to be together.
okay basically i wanna retype my whole story i posted earlier, but eh.. here it is in a nutshell:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah1VqVOEwA7ScfLHuScEY8Psy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090825134253AAYvd01
basically if you read that, then come back here, you’ll understand the story..
i begged for my ex back about 3 weeks ago, we hung out, i bought her a dress, bra, flowers cookies, card, everything, dinner and groceries, she is 17 im 19 keep in mind. i was the sweeetest guy to her, but she then changed her number and told me to move on after she led me on.
now she is tellin me to move on, she already has a new bf THIS SOON after our breakup. it hurts bad. but she gets mad when i mention me being with another girl, i asked her to help me out and she said "umm well i dont wanna see you get hurt so no"
are there any girls who regret not taking their ex back after he begged, and now he is giving the world to another girl and your sad you let him slip away?
My wife and I have been seperated for about 2 1/2 months now. I left because we lived with her mother and it was a constant battle and her mother was the head of the household and her not me. Anyway after I left (only about 36 hours later) I came back only to be told she wants to be apart and she is living with her mom and my kids and I am in my own apartment. I have left notes, sent flowers, sent text messages, left little gifts all to try to say sorry and it is not her and I still love her but I get nothing back, not even a thank you for the stuff I left for her. I still love her with all my heart but the hanging on kills me.
My wife and I have been married 4 years and she quit her job a year ago because we wanted to start a family and she got pregnant fairly quick. She did all of the housework and laundry in our home untill she got 5 months pregnant and then she just stoped cooking,cleaning, and would only wash my work clothing. I also noticed she started spending a lot of my money on stuff for the baby without telling me, so I took away her bank card and started giving her a 0 allowance which at the time seemed like a smart idea even though she resisted at first she accepted it. By 6 months our house had not improved so I asked my wife what was wrong and she said she was tired and her feet were swollen so I told her I was going to hire a maid twice a month and have it come out of her allowance. I ended up hiring a maid at that left her with only 0 and we both argued for a week about it and then on a friday I got home and my wife had packed her stuff and left. She left me a note telling me how much I hurt her by making what was supposed to be the most amazing time of her life into something she wanted to forget she also reminded me of how she took care of me after my accident and never took my bank card away or put me on an allowance. When I read that it really hit home and I drove to Georgia to bring her back home and she didn’t want to come back with me and then I really knew I messed up big time. My wife and I are still legally married but she said she wants a divorce once our son is born and that she doesn’t want to see me till after she has the baby, so I won’t even get to see my first son be born. I feel awful about how I treated her is ther any way I could try to save our marriage or Am I just hurting her by trying to save it? I already send her flowers daily and call her daily but her mom says she doesn’t want to speak with me. Her mom did tell me she cries a lot and says that she thinks my wife still loves me. What else can I do?
I wrote a question earlier about if my wife was interseted in me, well later that week my wife told me that she is not in love with me anymore, I feel a divorce is last resort and the thing that make us lose everything. wy wife said that she loves me but not romanticly. I we still live in same house and do everthing like normal married couple. i know that this is short discription for long discussions, but i would like to know if you fell out of love with someone is there a chance of reviving that love. like take your ex for and example if you were to fall back in love with that person what would that person have to do to get you to fall back in love.
ok i have seen some answers and let me elaborate, we don’t hold hands anymore, she will not let me kiss her, she does let me scratch her back or rub her feet and so forth, but as far as dating to try and rekindle or find that lost love she is not sure what she wants she tells me that she does not know if she can go back.
I guess i have to add more info, i showed my wife lots of love i would caress her while in bed, on the couch, i would be the one to want to hug her when we got home from work, i was very attentive, i am not saying i was perfect, I have had an anger issue and would be verbally abusive not call her names or things but just i guess mean stuff would come out when i felt threatened or hurt, a lot of it i felt came from how it was contant rejection i would have beg for kisses and when we hugged i would have to say things like can’t you hug me with some love into it. i felt that she always thought that every kiss and hig would have to lead to sex and thats why she did not want to do anything. i did not bring flowers near enough, i did not clean the house at all , i am just not sure how to tell how she really feels and if there is a chance for us to fix this marriage, i love her so much and she says that she feels so bad because she knows how much i love her.
I have been casually seeing someone for over a year and would like to take it to the next level. What is a good gift to get for a guy that doesn’t suggest I’m coming on too strong and isn’t corny. Men have it so easy, they can just buy flowers, chocolates etc. Us women really have to put some thought into it.
I don’t like the word winning but can’t think of a better term. But I am looking for ideas on how to gain back my ex’s trust and to have her fall in love with me again. I buy her flowers for her birthday and try to help her where I can. I know everyone says they are ex’s and move on but she is not in a relationship with anyone and I have a daughter with her and I really love her and miss her. We may be divorced but if she hasn’t moved on and we are still friends and get along great I still feel like fighting for her. What are some ways I can gain trust back with her and have her fall in love with me all over again. I am trying to have patience and give her some space. We have only been divorced a couple of months. Neither cheated on each other when we were married.
Divorced because of financial problems, trust issues, her wanting to be independant. It was 99 percent my fault and I have apologized a lot
I haven’t watched fireproof and she didn’t want to see it with or without me. She is the one who initiated the divorce and the trust issues were with her not with me. I wanted to do whatever it took to stay married even if it meant to stay seperated longer to get things straightened. We weren’t even seperated a year before the divorce. It was a very quick divorce and no lawyers
SO WHEN I WAS 13 A. ASKED ME IF I WANT TO BE HIS GF AND HE BUOGHT ME FLOWERS…BUT AT THAT TIME I DIDNT LIKE HIM SO I SAID NO..
BUT KNOW WE R AT HIGH SCHOOL…AND SOMETHING CHANGE..
NOW I LIKE HIM A LOT!!!
BUT WE DONT GO OUT TOGETHER (CAUSE WE HAVE DIFFEREN FRIENDS)
AND THE ONLY PLACE I SEE HIM IS THE CORRIDOR..
SO WHAT SHOULD I DO TO MAKES HIM NOTICE THAT I LIKE HIM??
AND HOW SHOULD I DO THAT??
CAN SOMEONE HELP ME??
(ITS IMPORTANT)
…THANKS….
Nine months ago my ex girlfriend and I broke up because she cheated and left me for another guy. We were together almost six months. I was more than your average boyfriend. I always bought her flowers, cooked her dinner, cleaned her apartment, helped her financially when needed, took her out to dinner, and did all of the little things that mattered. I was crazy about her. She broke my heart. She ended up leaving the other guy because I think she felt guilty. It’’s been almost a year since our breakup. She recently started dating a new guy and things already aren’t going over well. A few months ago I deleted her off of my facebook, just so I could get on with my life and get over her. She messaged me a few days ago and asked why I deleted her. I was still bitter and didn’t respond. She messaged me today and was upset over the fact that I didn’t respond. She told me she was sorry for what she had done. She told me she was going through it with her new boyfriend. She told me she still wanted me to be in her life, and wanted to be friends. She also stated that she worried about me a lot. I responded back and told her how I felt. I told her I loved her but she broke my heart and I wasn’t sure if I wanted her in my life. I asked her what she really wanted. She told me to keep her posted on things. She never answered my question. So I asked her again. She told me that she would give me time to think and to let her know when I was "ready". Still.. not really giving me a straight answer. She just broke up with her ex. Deep down, I still do love her. I would give her a second chance, but on strict standards. Does she want to be friends, or does she realize what she really lost and wants me back? If she just wants to be friends, why would she message me now when she’s having relationship problems? I really need some advice.. I do love her and I would give her a second chance.. but I don’t want to get hurt. Does she want me back?
My wife and I have been together for 8 1/2 years. The first couple years sex was great. We have 2 kids now and as time’s past, her interest in sex has vanished. For a while she would say that she just got tired early and asked me to help out with stuff around the house. Over the years, I’ve started taking on more and more to help around the house. I do laundry, grocery shop, manage the finances, cook great dinners, help with the kids, clean up around the house, do the dishes… I try to help with everything. Now that she doesn’t have such a huge workload at home, nothing has changed. She says she just doesn’t want it. She is a beautiful woman. I tell her all the time. I compliment her eyes, smile, hair, body, everything. I stay home so she can have girls nights out. I’m romantic. I buy her flowers and candy. I surprise her with little things with special meaning. I put a lot of thought into what I do for her to make it special, just because. I stay in great shape. I workout often an make sure I dress well for her and smell nice. Sometimes I even wait until she’s on her way home to shower just to make sure I smell a good as possible. I don’t get it. I don’t ask much of her. Not anymore. I help her with everything or just do it myself so she doesn’t have to. All I ask of her is love and affection and intimacy. I believe sex is a strong bond and is needed in a healthy marriage. I can’t just ask her to lay down and take it either. I can’t do it if she doesn’t want it. I feel bad. I want the moment to be shared. What can I do? I love my wife. I know I’m a good husband. I’m not going to look for it somewhere else. I would never cheat on my wife and "taking it into my own hands" doesn’t do it for me. It may help with the urge at the moment, but doesn’t hold me over long. I want to make love to my wife. We’ve had great times in bed. I try to make sure she enjoys it. Help please. I don’t know what to do. This has been my issue with our relationship for years. I’ve corrected a lot of the issues she’s had with me. Any suggestions/input?
We are both 27 years old. I still act like a man. I just added more to my daily list. I still have a man’s humor. Still watch sports all the time. Still have a strong testosterone. I still act like a man. I just have a sensative side and like to make the people around me happy. I don’t act like a woman. I just respect them and don’t pull the "that’s women’s work" card. Men should help out. She works late (until around 6:30, so I make dinner because the kids need to eat at a reasonable hour). I don’t come up "short" by any means. I know I’m above average in size.
I tried hinting for a little bit, and then eventually got to "It’d be nice to get flowers every once in a while…" To which I got: "I bought you 3 roses back in August."
Still no flowers yet.
How do you get your man to buy you flowers? Or is it just not possible?
me and this girl i met at college had a thing for two months. but then we started fighting so she said we wouldnt talk the rest of the semester. so, to get over her i had sex with another girl when i was really drunk one night. the following weekend she came to me and told me im the last thing she thinks about before she sleeps and that she really likes me. she also told me that she was coming down the week before to tell me she wanted to be with me but didnt bc she heard me in the room with the other girl, but after what i did she doesnt trust me. she spent that night with me but we didnt have sex and we never have bc she’s not that kind of girl in my eyes.
to make it up to her i sent her flowers for xmas. before this we were talking on the phone for 2-3 hrs each night before sleeping. but after i sent the flowers i didnt get a thank you or anything. i had to see what was up. two days ago i called her and asked her what the deal was. she said that she told we were just friends and i didnt have to do that for her and she feels nervous talking to me because if she does she feels like i get the wrong impression. then i told her how i thought before that she didnt want to be with me bc she didnt trust me and she agreed.
did she not say thank you because she feels that if she does it will go further and into a possible relationship but she’s afraid or did she lose feelings for me?
we both live in states 900 miles away so i cant see her in person. we are on break for college. I’ll see her next weekend though. She also told me that she was never expecting me to send flowers and she was shocked when she got them.
after not talking to her for two nights, i called her at 1am and she sent the call to voicemail after the second ring. she’s never done that before.
im 19 and she is 18. both freshman in college and we live in the same dorm, so i see her just about everyday.
Just to clarify. We both go to the same university however we are on Xmas break and I’ll see her next week when school starts again. For now, we are back home in states that are 900 miles away.
I started dating him when i was in my early 20"s.. I lost my virginity to this guy, it was my choice, i loved him and chose him. Well He ended up cheating, so i left, he started seeing one of the girls (there was a few) he was cheating on me with,, i wished him well and moved on, he kept trying to come back into my life and i refused, he then ended up marrying someone else he was cheating on my with, there marriage lasted 9 months, again he tried to come back , i refused, He thought i was oblivious to the fact that he was using me as his back up… Anyway, October of 2008 he started contacting me again because we had gotten into an argument and i cut off contact…. he wanted to apologize, so i excepted his apology, i had no intention on anything else.. he showed up at my house with flowers.. and charm.. so i started going out with him about 3 time’s a week.. we had Absolutely no sexual contact, for the first time he respected my wishes.. we were just friends…. well one day in january 2009… we ended up having sex after reminiscing about our past together…. after we were finished.. he rolled over and told me he was in a serious relationship with someone he was unhappy with…..at that moment,I felt so completely cheap and worthless you have no idea,
I got up,I put my clothes on and proceeded out the door, he ran after me and grabbed me by the arm and said "this is not the last time im going to see you… your mine, i was your first and I will be your last" (Nut Case) I just looked at him and walked to my car. when i got home I called my phone company to change my phone number…..
This still did not stop him.. he started contacting me through email,, so i changed my email… he started showing up and my work… do i call the cops? How far do I go? I knew he wanted me to have kids with him.. he had wanted this since we first started dating 7 years ago…..well,,, im not stupid.. he wants children with me to trap me…..so what better way to get rid of a man then to tell him I aborted his Child? When we were together the last time we had unprotected sex.. I did not tell him i was on the pill .. i was…. so a little over a month later…. i sent him an email… telling him he got me pregnant…and that i did not keep his child because he was a deadbeat dad to the children he has now, and that he would never be good enough to be the father of my child. ……….Harsh.. i know…. but hey… he put me in a really awkward position, and I am still having problems at 30 years old with relationships do to my trust issues.
I felt horrible after i did this…. but i knew it was the only way this man would stay out of my life…I desperately needed him to hate me…..and well.. it’s been almost a year.. and there is no sign of him =)
Spare me the Criticism… i had to do what i had to do… he treated me like a whore, when all i ever was to him was supportive. So screw him and who ever thinks Im a bitch for this!
I later find out he is Bipolar and on Anti-Depressants. so I needed to get away from him… this was the only way to make him hate me!
Men’s feedback please.
Fallenbose.. yes i do think extremely highly of my self…….and i will say it… he is not lucky enough to father my children…..and i will continue to find a man that is worthy of that…. as far as him playing with my head… i was 28 old… im not foolish.. i know when men are messing with my head… if i was as stupid as most women out there that are needy and immature enough to put up with a man like that… then i would not of went as far as i did to get him out of my life….. you seem know understand him, maybe you are guilty of the same immature, insecure action he is guilty of. So of course you will defend the behavior….. My opionion… People that Cheat.. are inserucre with who they are. and Are to needy and clingy to deal with the reality of there insecurities!
Curious………how is it i allowed him to treat me like a whore? just curious? for date someone for 3 months prior.. is’nt it proper to tell someone who you are "Just friends with " that you are ina relationship? and why was he spending so much time with me instead of this so called girlfirend? So i ask you… how did i allow him to treat me like a whore? Are you one of those christians that does not belive in sex before marriage? if so please spare me about what the bible say’s… open your eye’s please… and relise we are living in a time that is not of the stone ages!
as far as me stooping to his level/…. there’s so much you don’t know about this guy… if i wanted to type a novel i would..
LOL the men’s answer’s are great by the way… it looks like i hit a nerve.
That’s all I needed to know……. I did exactly the right thing….. he hate’s me… is discusted with me… and that is exaclty what i wanted! Mission Accomplished………….
And yes.. im online thinking about it a year later… Im not afraid to admit i loved him.. and it bothered me…. but i had to do what i had to do to get him away from me!
Job Well Done!
Hey, im really trying to win back my girlfriend of a year next week, we broke up over a really stupid fight and i was thinking i would get an enourmous stuffed annimal with a card and maybe flowers, is that a good way to get her back and if not what is the best way possible?
well.. how do I start? It seems that my wife and I had a complete break down in communication. I am going to our holiday gift exchanges as examples.. and I need your input.
Birthdays: For her birthday, I left work early to get her a pearl necklace, a birthday card, cook her dinner and bought her a cake. She got mad at me because I was too dumb to buy her a fake pearl necklace (which I relaced with a real one later). For my birthday, she got me a robe.
X-mas: I got her a digital photo frame (8") (0) and she got me pajamas and a book (total ).
Valentines day: I got her expensive flowers and cake. I got nothing in return.
Oh.. did I mention we have not had any romantic relationship for like 16 months…. ? I don’t know if there is any way we could save this relationship….. the major problem is our communication is just terrible. she constantly seems to be attacking me and when i voice my concerns, she tells me that I am whinning… i am kind of fed up….
we’ve been together for over 10 years. things are getting worse. all concerns that i have becomes whinning to her. the way i describe it sounds like i am keeping scores, but how else can i describe it? i can not talk to her for more then 2 sentences about anything of substance before i get attacked. when she misunderstood me, she latches on her interpretation and won’t allow me to explain. gifts? all i am asking for to exchange them and get what i want. i don’t think she would be happy with a toaster.. would you? so i avoid giving her a toaster and i don’t think it is too much to ask her to do the same for me. it is getting worse and truste me, i have tried many things. i sense that she has no love left for me and perhaps, that will be the way that this will end. i feel terrible, because the time and memory that we shared. but i also know that her heart is not in it…. i guess i already know the answer.
i am very sad about this because i really would like to love and take care of someone who i have shared memories with for the rest of our lives. but i am so drained emotionally and mentally and the lack of romance in our relationship is eating me alive (i have many opportunities to go outside our marriage, but did not). sometimes i look at her, i still remember the way she looked when we first met and thinking about what has been going on between us, makes me very sad. i think there is a genuine lack of respect in our relationship and i really do not know if that can ever be changed. she may be having an affair… but at this point, if she would just tell me I swear I would wish both of them well and get out of this relationship. i am just so tired from all of this… and i want to know WHY .. and that would be good enough for me.
Its been 8 months since we had sex. I’ve tried everyting, wooing her, flowers, going out on dates, compliments. I’m not bad looking and have had a few offers from other women but turned them down. I really love my wife. Any ideas?
I loved this guy once , madly , he was too good to be true. He was always there for me , respected me , wanted to comfort me and make me feel safe .. always use to text after nights out with my girlie friends to see if im getting home ok and if im safe. He use to tell me I was beautiful and that he loved me, Even asked if he could take me on a date on valentines day to anywere i wished to go and he would get a car to me to make sure i got there ok, sent flowers to my work and chocolates and even bought me a ring as he wanted to propose when i felt i was ready. Thing is there is a huge age gap and I felt maybe i wasnt really what he needed although he took to my personality, so i let him go and we havnt spoke since. Is it true when you let go of something as good as that its rare it will happen again? Will I ever be treated the way or feel the way I did again with maybe someone younger?
so we were dating for a while, everything was going soo great! finnaly she said Im in love with you. So i said it back to her n i ment it aswell a couple of weeks later, a lot was going on in my life with other problems, and i told her i wanted to wait longer to say im in love with you b/c i wanted to be absolutely sure about it. she was soo upset at me for taking it back, but even since i took it back ive always been in love with her. so after i took it back which was fucked up of me to do. she got weird around me n finally broke up with me saying that i hurt her to much for taking it back. all she wants to do is be friends now.
Im trying everything i can to get her back out with me i bought her flowers that were delivered to her n im going to continue doing that and pretty soon im going to stand outside her house with a poster saying i love you forgive me with our song in the back ground
It relle hurts just being friends with her, i dont think i can do that, and i dont think i can just stop talking to her b/c she was my best friend aswell.
we are still hanging out n i try to kiss her time to time it worked once when she kissed me back, n i also try n hold her hand but she gets upset i relle do love her and i want her back in a relationship
she said she just lost interest in me after i said that. but ive been so good to her ive never cheated on her or started a fight with her everything she wanted i would try my best to give her. so idk how you just lose interest in someone you have loved for so long
what do i do!!!!!!!!!!
Married for 24 years, I lost "those loving feelings" for my husband three years ago. We grew apart over the years, and he took my affection for granted. He assumed that my love for him was neverending and he became a bit too comfortable in our marriage. We had always been a very affectionate couple up to that point.
When he realized that my feelings had changed, he worked hard to regain my love (romantic evenings, flowers and candlelight, etc.) but try as I might, the feelings have not returned. I would like nothing more than to fall back in love with him and to save our marriage. How I long to return his "I love you’s" but my heart will allow not the lie. I care for him; I still find him incredibly sexy, but the affection and devotion I once felt for him is gone.
I know it takes two to make a marriage work and I’m not placing all the blame on him – in fact, I know that it’s more me than him that keeps us apart emotionally. Maybe I no longer trust him with my heart?
Lucinda
I have been with my wife for over 20 years. We always got along well and had fun together but over the years we have drifted apart. she does not have any interest in me any more and I just seem to be a pest when I try to love her. I love more than anything in the world and would do anything to gain her love back. I think the more I try to love her the more she pushes me away. I have tried everything from flowers to letters. I do lots of work around the house for us.I tell her I love her . I clean her car for her etc. I just want her love back. She used to be the best women in the world to me in every way but not any more. What to do.
Married 8years.Everything was great in our marriage untill about 4 yrs ago when i cheated on her. Stayed together.(she says the only reason she stayed with me was because of our then 6 month old baby).I quit my job, sold my new vehicle, and did all of the things required to change my life.There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t feel guilty for what i did.I’m different now..everything I do is to preserve our family(cook, clean,active with our child). Also I do romantic things, flowers,etc..I’ve been starting a new business for the last year and money has been tight. She is bitter because we used up a small saving account to survive the last year. We are not in debt except for some money we borrowed from her mother and my father. My business is really taking off and I ‘ve told her she can quit her job and take the job she really wants! Now that things are getting better she tells me she doesn’t love me anymore and wants a divorce.We tried seperation and counseling???? Is there hope?
I really am a good man … I made a horribly mistake 4 years ago and I will do anything to preserve our family!! I would appreciated anyones constructive advise!
sorry about the spelling!
I guess one thing I need to add is that during and after counseling she said she loved me and wanted to work on marriage… then a few weeks later she stopped working on our marriage…when I asked her why …she just said I don’t love you anymore. I’m little concern she might have some degree of depression…due to the fact that her mood changes quickly…and she never seems to be able to look at most situations in a positive manner!! I do love her dearly and would do anything to make her and my daughter happy!
ugh im so confused, my ex gf and i have a wierd story….
i’ll start from a month ago.
she is 17 and i am 19. she broke up with me a little over a month and a half ago, after doing so, me and her hung out still, had sex, dates, etc.
but then she went to another guys house and lied to me about it. i found out and was heated, started being mean and everything, she didnt wanna get back with me she said, then about 2 weeks later, she wanted me back. we get back, but i break up with her a day afterwords cuz i was so disgusted still.
but i told her its cuz im still mad and need to think about if she is seriously committed to me.
anyway i end up wanting her back shortly, and she said she fell out of love with me etc, but we had sex, i ended up getting her a bra, dress, flowers, cookies, homemade card. then she ignores me the day after that and changed her number!!!
4 days later she calls me saying she misses me.
then she ignores me another day, and calls me last night saying she misses me!
i told her i want her back but she keeps ignoring that and doesnt want me?
does she want me back or what?
we broke up like 3 months ago because i was being an asshole to her.
ive been thinking about her ever since…
i wanna give her the moon & the stars 
we were together for 2 years.
& have so many great memories
so can anyone help me?
should i get her some flowers & go to her apartment or what?
any other ideas?
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