Have you been looking for a “does my ex still love quiz”? If so, chances are you are still in love with your ex but you feel it is hopeless since they don’t love you back. How can you actually know this for sure? Maybe they regret the break up as much as you do.
Unfortunately, when two people split up, they can let things drift between them rather than trying to reconcile and rediscover their former passion. There are a number of reasons why. They may feel hurt particularly if they were the one who were dumped. They may feel that they will only make a fool of themselves if they try to get their ex back. There are even some people that believe all break ups happen for a reason and therefore the relationship is best left finished.
Well I am happy to say that most if not all of these beliefs are garbage. It is extremely unusual for two people in a long term relationship to break up and not have any feelings left for the other person. Yes it is natural to be hurt regardless of who was the “guilty” partner. It is also completely reasonable to be scared of making the first move to reconcile. But think about this? Would you rather sleep with your pride or your lover?
Letting someone you love out of your life forever because you cannot bear the thought of him or her rejecting your advances is silly. Life is difficult enough without standing in your own way of happiness. Sure they may knock you back but at least you will know that you gave it everything and not spend the rest of your life wondering what if. Imagine you don’t do anything now and you bump into your ex lover in twenty years time. On this future occasion he or she admits that they never stopped loving you and have wanted you back in their life all this time. Wouldn’t you just kick yourself? Yet this is exactly the scenario you are risking by not being prepared to make the first move, admit you think you were wrong to break up and that you want to give things another go.
Come on now, what do you stand to lose? Really when it comes down to it do you want to waste time thinking I am still in love with my ex or do you want to grab life with both hands, find your ex partner and tell them how you really feel. You have come to a crossroads in your life and the next move is up to you. You alone have to take 100% responsibility for your actions or lack of them and the results. Don’t listen to your family or your friends. Think about what you want and how your life will look if you never get your ex back. Now make a decision and go for it. Don’t live a life of regret due to misplaced pride or thinking you “know” the answer to how someone else feels.
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I’m talking hundreds of text messages starting from morning and going til night, for the past three months. He’s been acting distant for the past few months and we’ve been fighting more, and he blamed the fighting on leaving. But I think the reason I was fighting with him all the time is because he was acting distant and like he didn’t really want to be around.
On Christmas night he said he was ending the relationship and then for three weeks after stayed with his sister and said he had to "think about things" because he didn’t want to make a decision he regretted. Then he broke up with me last Sunday. He said he hoped we could be friends for our son and offered to continue to support me while I’m in school for nursing.
Then I get this bill. HUNDREDS of text messages back and forth between him and this 20 yr old coworker. He denies anything has happened and says it’s "work related". I’m both devastated and livid. Don’t know how I should handle this. Advice? What would you do?
We’ve been together for 10 years and have a 23 month old son together. I am so angry I want to humiliate him and make him regret ever leaving. But then I don’t want to make myself out to look like a fool and the bad one. What would be the best thing to do to get closure on this and leave him wishing he never left?
Shoul I contact one of his coworkers to let them know what they’ve been doing so that they’re both humiliated when they go to work or is that just being petty??
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NOTE: I posted this in a different forum a bit ago & while I appreciate the answers, I would really like to get responses from some middle aged folks if possible.
My ex doesn’t seem to want to talk to me much, but she has told to come over any time.
I am confused, does this mean she may not be done with me? She broke up with me a few weeks ago after 2.5 years. I’m getting mixed signals, when I see her we talk & get along great, but email & phone conversations are very terse & short, and she absolutely does not want to discuss the breakup. I tried to just cut all ties at least for the moment a few days ago & she got upset with me, said I was "cleansing" myself of her, & hinted that I was wanting to see someone else. (not true, I wasn’t) I wonder if she feels differently when I am around vs not? I don’t know. Can anyone give me advice?
She has 2 kids from her ex husband 13 & 16 years old, & she is very open to me taking them golfing, or whatever. I just don’t get it!
What do I do?
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Ok, so it sounds like I need run for the hills, here. I guess I’m just sad at the prospect of that. I really care for her, thought she was the absolute one for a couple years, the breakup was my fault, I put my job way ahead of her for to long, & it ultimately cost me dearly.
I was hoping that her telling me to come over any time was a sign that she was maybe open to something….I know I want this back so bad it hurts, but I’m not willing to be strung along & made a fool of, only to still be the one on the outside looking in.
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I understand that everything comes to an end or least to a compromise at some point. However, how does one get over an ex-girlfriend when she clearly betrayed you. Lets say, a girlfriend of yours used you, played you as a fool, cheated on you, and then left you for this guy that she cheated on you with you; how do you get over that and come out as the winner of the situation? Do you just not do anything, and let karma take it’s course? Obviously, you go through things that you never experienced or at least anticipated as learning experiences, but how can one get over the feeling of being burnt by someone? Yes, I’ve moved on into a new relationship, got a new job, and upgraded my education, but how can I feel completely whole again?
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I want some good idea’s on how to get revenge on my boyfriend. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. I recently found out that he’s been seeing his ex behind my back. I could write a story with the details but I wont. Basically his ex got all pally with me, i’m a nice person so when she added me on facebook i spoke to her.. She asked me meet up with her one day after work so I did as we both worked close.. I offered her advice when she was having a hard time with her family etc. And all the time she was having sex with my boyfriend behind my back! Now I know about it she’s very open with the details rubbing it in..
I know they’re both as bad as each other.. I’m still with him, he promised me he’d change but I’m not stupid, I know he won’t. He changed his number and she "somehow" got hold of it again, she clams she’s still seeing him, which wouldn’t supise me. I just don’t want to be the only one looking like a fool in all this..
I’m acting like the perfect girlfriend again now, listening to everything he says… But i’m doing this becase I want my revenge. If i just break up with him.. That will be it, I’ll feel like a total loser and would have probably sat around feeling sorry for myself. It’s been about 4 month since I found out and I really want my revenge now.
All idea’s welcome, but like I told my best friend, I want it to be something thats hurts him (not physically) yes, he drives a nice car so I could scratch it, throw paint on it.. But that’s hardly going to get them both back for what they’ve done, besides I dont think it would even bother him!
Any idea’s you have would be appreciated! I’m thinking of something where I’m all nice then BANG 
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