My Ex GF broke my heart and left me almost 2 months ago.Since then we haven’t gone more than 10 hours without talking.We see eachother everyday,and sleeps with me in my bed almost every night.I have tried everything to get her to come home.Begging for forgivness,telling her I have changed all the issues we had(which I have).Being there for her when she needs me.Nothing has worked.I know she is seeing another guy now,but they aren’t very serious.She is with me more than she is with him.She also lies to him about staying with me,and being around me all the time.We had problems,but nothing I can’t change to resolve them.The only thing I haven’t really tried so far is ignoring her.Cutting her off.When I have tried in the past she freaks.Calls like 20 times and then just shows up at my house at like 5am. I’m really confused.She doesn’t want to be with me,but she won’t stay away?She says it’s not the right time for us to be together right now.I know she still loves me,she tells me all the time.Like I said I have tried to cut her off.Not because I don’t want to see her,but because I have tried everything else to bring her home,and nothing has worked.I know it is human nature to want what you can’t have,and I’m hoping to use that to my advantage.It’s just that she wants to be my best friend,because in our relationship,we got along with eachother better than anybody else,and we have a connection that we have never felt with anyone before.I’m just not sure what to do.Some tell me to stick it out,be her friend,and she will come around.Others say act like I don’t care about her,and cut her off,and then she will come back after she misses me.The latter sounds more effective,but I’m so afraid that by doing that,she will be gone forever.What I KNOW is that I am soooooo in love with her,and I would do anything to bring her home to me.I also KNOW that I could never be just her friend.I need more than that.I really believe she is the one,even if she doesn’t realize it right now.What should I do? Should I continue to be there for her when she needs me?We get along great when we are together,and she calls me before she sleeps if she isn’t there,and when she wakes up at 5am she calls if she didn’t stay with me.Or should I cut her off? I have read a couple ebooks on "how to get your ex back" but most of the ideas in it don’t seem to match my situation.Most tell me to stay away from her for like a month,then start seeing her again after she misses me.I would love to do it but it’s really hard to not see her when she wants to see me.And if I don’t answer the phone,or stop seeing her she crys,and that tears me apart.So should I keep my course,or cut her off?If I do cut her off,what do I say to do it.I don’t wanna be mean to her,but I don’t wanna come off as desperate cuz all the ebooks say that is a mistake.WHAT DO I DO???
I understand cutting her off is prolly the best and most effective way to do this,but what do I say to her without comming off as an asshole,or coming off as pathetic? I’m a mess lol.
