Well to start my ex girlfriend and I broke up at the end of October. I did not see or talk to her for two months when I e-mailed her about getting a cup of coffee she said that would be nice. She picked the time and the place.
When we met for coffee she said that it was good that we reconnect. She laughed at my jokes, and we talked for an hour, but I cut it off. I think that we could have talked for longer.
The following evening we went with our group of friends to celebrate a friends birthday. When she ordered her drink I said what she was going to order before she ordered it. She said that I scored some points.
During the night she told me about her New Years Eve and about some guy trying to get in her pants. (I think she was trying to make me jealous) She then went on to say that she was repulsed by this guy, and walk away from him.
During the course of the evening we had some flirty conversations.
Now am I just reading too much into things? Or are these signs that my ex want me back?
My boyfriend of a yr & a half broke up with me this past week & the week before. the week before he decided he wanted to work on things.
I’ve been trying to not contact him but i failed & called him the other day & he asked how have you been doing babe & talking to me. I went to see him at his work yesterday & asked if he would get back together w/ me & we could do things slowly.
He still loves me but we were fighting alot. I am likely to see him at a mutual friends birthday tonight. I wrote him a letter but don’t know if i should give it to him, since I cried my eyes out in front of him at his work.
He said hes just been focusing on himself for now…hes not interested in being with anyone else & hopes I don’t do the same. I told him i can’t wait forever & put my life on hold. Our relationship was good when we didn’t fight.
I love him so much still.
I want us to get back together before Valentines day. I want this badly because last year this time, we weren’t together. He had broken up w/ me after 2 months, but since then we’ve been back together since last march 08.
What should I do to make this happen? I’m just so heartbroken.
My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.
Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.
The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to "Date" each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.
My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha
Thanks for all the replies. I am quite surprised that so many of you think that my marriage is actually "Dead". Yes i do my fair share around the house. I set off to work at 6.30 am and dont arrive home till 5.30 tea time where fair play dinner is always on the table waiting for me. From then on it is me that takes over the clearing up, wash the kids, put them to bed and read them a story, while the wife has a bath, relaxes and watches Emer, Corrie & East. Talk i cannot as this is Sh, sh, sh time. She does not look after 2 kids all day. One is at school, the other is in creche. I have changed my working pattern at work, hence my long hours at work to have the Friday off to look after the youngest to save on creche fees. Tell me now who should be tired and emotionally drained???? Ha, ha, ha. Its not all bad though, dont get me wrong. As a marriege its ok, we hardly ever argue, i’m not hen pecked. I go out on the odd occassion. were always having wknds away Its just passionless, thats al
Thats the big problem. When we go shopping, and i suggest a nice bra/panties for fun in say M&S, she says what for!!!!
Thanks Emma!
Naturell. I’ll tell u a little story. We were at a friends birthday bash a few weeks ago. Last dance came on. All went to dance. I asked if shed like to dance, she refused point blank. We were sat there like lemons!!!!
Red Devil. No there was loads of passion. She always came on to me. in fact she was quite wild. It has started to go pear shaped between the birth ofthe two boys. The sex doesnt really bother me , its the Hugs, snogs and hold hands that i miss.
Hi Yummy Mummy. Im a Boy not a Girl, hi, hi,hi
Thanks Red Devil. Thats the type of answer ive been looking for. that sounds good!
